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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
15/f (16 in a month)
For years, I've dyed my hair, dressed nicely and worn make-up. I've always tried to be a nice person, but everyone knows not to mess with me.
Recently, my "best friends" and I got into a fight. Now it's three against one and they keep saying I'm fake. I don't think appearance makes a person fake, it's what's inside. I'm not an idiot either, I have a 4.0 GPA and I work hard for that.
I don't know what makes a person fake. When I'm around them they just laugh and pretend to be happy (quite fakely) and talk behind my back. I always say how I feel right to people's faces.
Is there anyway I can prove I'm not fake? What makes a person fake? Should I just ignore them? They are like.. harassing me with this though. They are also ganging up on my other best friend and they keep making her cry. I really want to stand up to them. I always say things right to their faces, should I continue this?
Thanks, all insight and advice is greatly appreciated! =)
No. You are not a fake. Yes. You are right in saying they are.
Being a fake is being someone you aren't.
Being a fake is wearing two faces.
You do not need to prove to these jerks that you aren't fake like they are.
Yes, you should ignore them.
They are harassing you because you get up in their face about it- they know it bothers you and they find that highly entertaining.
They gang up on your best friend because they know they can make her cry- they find this highly entertaining, also.
Both you and your friend need to try to just blow off the things they say. Try to keep in mind that they aren't worth wasting your time, breath, or tears, for that only gives them satisfaction.
is there a myspace backpage..
they blocked myspace from school.. and a bunch of my friends is wanting to no if there is anyway we can get on myspace through another website..
please help
Not a good idea.
If you get caught, it means big trouble for you.
um i screwed a boy 2 weeks ago.. and he pulled out.. but im scared i maybe preg. what is the chance i am.. if i am i dont no what to do.. because if i tell him he will deny it..
Yah. If the pull out method worked, I wouldn't have a baby sleeping in his cradle right now. But I'm a 29 year old married woman, so it wasn't an unwelcome pregnancy.
I can't tell you your chances; I can only tell you that it isn't a reliable birth control method by a far stretch. There is still sperm in his pre-cum, though not as much as what's swimming about in his semen.
I can't tell you what to do. However, I do think the boy has a right to know if you are pregnant. As well as both of your parents.
If he denies it, oh well for now. You have to accept it at this stage. Once the baby comes, he can be made to do a DNA test, of which there is NO denying it's results.
if you are assaulted by someone else first...then you kill the person b/c you're trying to protect yourself..would you go to jail?
You are talking about justifiable homicide.
I searched google: "justifiable homicide definition" and this came up at the top of the page, if you so care to look into it any further:
"Web definitions for Justifiable homicide
A non-criminal homicide, usually committed in self-defense or in defense of another, may be called justifiable homicide in some cases. A homicide may be considered justified if it is done to prevent a very serious crime, such as rape, armed robbery, or murder. The assailant's intent to commit a serious crime must be clear at the time. ...
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Justifiable_homicide"
If it is deemed justifiable homicide (which may be hard to prove), then no, you wouldn't go to jail.
You have the right to defend yourself, even in a "kill or be killed" situation.
14/f.
I know i'm young, but i love planning for the future. What are some of the best colleges in the Northeast? I want to be a court lawyer if that helps.
You should consider discussing this with your school guidance councilor. A part of their job is to help students find the information they seek regarding their higher education. They WANT you to continue your schooling.
They should give you a listing of schools that have law courses, and give you the information on the schools you are interested in attending. Also, they'll give you a list of what all classes you need to take in order to get your degree.
I know ours would even help you with grants or financial aide. I assume all do.
is it possible to have physical symptoms but not emotional?
because i have all symptoms for physical.
but absolutely N O N E for emotional.
is this depression or something else?
thank you :D
Just because you can't hear this enough- See your doctor.
We can only guess what may or may not be your problem, but your doctor can examine you and question you to diagnose what is wrong.
So, usually I'm used to answering these type of quetions. but, I guess I need your advice. because i'm not sure how to help myself.
[its not as long as it seems, i just skipped alot of lines, PLEASE i beg you, read]
14/f
You know how some people will say, 'there having a bad week' and they either tell you, how they got grounded, or got a F on a big test.
Well imagine this..
Imagine losing your whole group of friend, because they ditched you, for a huge graduation dance, when they were all going out to dinner together, and they didn't invite you, and you've been friends with all of them for atleast 4 or 5 years.
So, right now, your probably thinking.. that sucks. but its not the end of the world.
ok now imagine you just lost your best guy friend, who you were like madly inlove with, but a couple mistakes, mess up your friendship, and you were friends with him for 4 years. not friends actually, best friends. like the kinda guy you tell everything too.
now, your probably thinking, that sucks even more. but you can always make new friends.
OK. now imagine, your dog, your dog, not the family dog, your dog, dies. and gets hit by a car, early in the moring before you going to school.
now, i bet your saying wow now this really does suck for her.
BUT. wait theres more. now imagine, before ALL this happened, you talked about switching schools, just to one person, but they told everyone. So, now that the whole school knows, you decide you gotta go and switch. because if you don't, it will most likely just get worse at your school and people will call you a liar.
So, now your out of your comfort zone, your in a place, where things are way different.
this didnt all happen over a long period of time, it happened to me in a week. 1 week. how would you deal with it?
I'm asking for your advice. In the beginning of all this when it all happened, I covered up my sadness, I smiled and laughed, like I always normaly would. But, its starting to hit me now, hard. I'm not smiling too much, and i find myself losing track of my grades. I'm no longer focusing, and starting not to want to do normal activities. Since I took a class in depression, I know these are early signs of depression. I want to stop it before I get worse.
But, I do not, do not want to see a therapist. My mom would freak. And it would make me feel uncomfortable around my family. So, thats a total noway. I'm strong when it comes to things like this. I can make it, if I just know how to. But, as of right now I don't. I'm normaly a A and 2 Bs [rarely] student. My grades have dropped tremendosly.
I need your help. Your advice will mean a great deal to me. Please help me in any way possible.
thank you very much.
I'd say! If I've ever heard of a bad week, this would be it...
First off, don't go switching schools because you think you need to out of fear everyone will think you are a liar.
Think of it this way- the kids who spread all about the word that you ARE switching schools are the liars. You said you were thinking to. Big difference.
Don't let them run you off.
Now, as for your other issues, I strongly advise you talk to your mom. You have to remember, that adults (including our moms and dads) were teenagers once in their lives, too. There are a lot of situations that they have experienced and overcame. Someone like your mom may be of more help to you, and more understanding of these situations than you may realize.
I don't think you need therapy. I think you need to talk to your mom about these goings-on and your feelings on them. Don't worry that she will freak if you talk to her about your problems. EVER.
Mom's tend to be very welcoming of such discussions, because they WANT to help. Sadly, they just don't get asked very often, because teens tend to shut them out, when it comes to their problems.
Hope next week goes smoothly. :)
Alright, I found a tube of lip gloss on my desk at school today. well, it was victorias Secret, very expensive, it was a full tube, and it seemed like it was only used a few times!
well, what is the chance of me getting anything if i use it? is it even possible to catch anything, other than maybe being sick, but like disease or antyhing from it?
Don't use this mystery lip gloss found on your desk any more than you would use mystery lip gloss found on the floor behind the toilet in a busy restroom.
You never know where either have been. :)
Hello my name is Natalia. I am 15 years old and I have a boyfriend problem.Ok like yesturday my boyfriend Donathon and me were talking on the phone right and everything was gonna pretty good. Until he bought up my ex Eric and why I was still talking to him I said because we're still friends but I think in some way he's jealous that I'm talking to him so then I was like I don't wanna talk to Eric no more. So then we got into his friends and he said he's not gonna have no more friends. But the point that really got to me is that he said he thinks I'm testing his patience and he's right I just don't believe he loves me but then I do so now he's really mad at me but I don't like when he's mad but how can I say sorry and really mean it and do ya'll think I'm a bad girlfriend??
Why would you be a bad girlfriend? Because you remain friends with your ex? What's wrong with that?
Sounds like he is trying to throw a guilt trip your way with this "he's not gonna have no more friends" business. Guilting you into ditching your friends because of him means HE is being a bad boyfriend.
I don't think you have anything to be sorry for. He should be the one to apologize for thinking you should live your life the way he wants you to.
i think my boyfriend only likes me because he wants to hook up and get physical , etc.
i really dont want to stop being his gf because i really like him so much he is so important to me. but the thought of him only wanting to go out with me for a makeout buddy just makes me so sad. im really sad right now.
I would be sad too, if I didn't think highly enough of myself to kick this guy to the curb.
Why should you want to keep him as a boyfriend if he only wants to use you? If he's wanting to use you, he has no respect for you.
Go find yourself a guy that will respect you, then you will have no reason to be sad.
Okay i have a banquet to attend on thursday. It wll be catered but i am starting the 2468 diet tomorrow so i can only have 400 calories. how can i nicely say that i do not want to eat/
thanks
CODY
Since it is a banquet, and the purpose of a banquet is to eat, there isn't a nice way of saying you don't want to eat. Sorry.
You should really consider choosing a different diet fad. 400 calories a day is unhealthy, and skipping meals is even worse.
The diet you are on may help you lose weight, but when you go off of it, you will gain it all back and then some. This won't happen with a HEALTHY diet.
whats circumstantial evidence?
"Statements or information obtained indirectly or not based on first-hand experience by a person. Circumstantial evidence can include, in part, inferences about an event that was not seen. For example, if you walk outside and the ground is wet, and you didn't actually see it raining, you could infer that it had rained while you were inside. See also Direct evidence."
From: www.larrykinglaw.com/glossary.htm
My Name is Charley and i am 14. My dad and his fiance told me about 2 years ago that they would be planning on getting married in 2007. They promised me and my siblings that we could be bridesmaids etc. Since then i have found that i am infact not invited to the wedding. I found a letter which reveals that they are going it alone. I could've accepted this if had told us before. I could still accept this if they tell us before. The date is in July, i think they will go away and do it and then come back and say it 'just happened'. What should i do until then? Am i selfish for being upset about this? Please Write Back
No, I don't think you are selfish, but I don't think they are, either.
Maybe they don't have the money for a wedding? Even a dirt cheap wedding isn't dirt cheap. When I married, we chose to make it as small, simple, and cheap as possible, and it still cost through the nose.
Or, maybe if either or both have been previously married, they see no since in making a big to-do?
Plus, to go away and elope not only gives them their marriage, but their honeymoon at the same time.
To help you accept it, try to keep in mind that it is the marriage that is important, not the wedding day.
I'm sure that as your dearest friends marry in the future, you will have another chance to be a bridesmaid. :)
My parents think I have sleep apnea because I get in bad moods allot, and I fall asleep all the time, and snore. Does anyone on here have sleep apnea or know symptoms? I'm getting tested for it this summer but I just want to know if anyone on here knows anything about it.
If you snore at night, then you aren't getting adequate amounts of oxygen to get a sound night's rest.
When you go in for a test, then you are going in for a sleep study. You sleep, they monitor you. A lot of people stop breathing for short periods of time throughout the night, and they will see how often this happens, if at all, with you.
If you have sleep apnea, they will give you a machine to put on your nose at night that constantly blows air so you stop snoring and don't do without oxygen.
What do you do if you dont want to be friends with a person that you know likes you but thats not the reason why you want to be friends with them? You've tried to avoid all those thoughts about what they said but he still tries to be friends with you and tries tto talk to you?
If can't be friends with them because you can't, or don't feel comfortable with, maintaining a friendly relationship, then there is no point in it, now is there?
i just found out im pregnant. i have a job and a loving boyfriend who is here every step of the way but i need a way to make money quick. any suggestions?
The only thing I can tell you is to finish school try to get a better paying job. It would be a big plus if you seek higher education after the birth of your child.
I agree with the columnist who answered before me- abortion is really not the way to go. We have to be responsible enough to handle the consequences of our actions. My parents were still teens when my brother was born, and if they chose abortion, I wouldn't be here today.
For some time now I've been feeling as though my relationship is ending. We have been together for almost 2 years, and slowly we have started fighting all the time over the stupidest things. Most of the time when we are together we are either fighting or having an amazing time. We still have fun and talk and laugh and hug and kiss, its just some times i cant tell if we are dwindling. Please help
I can't tell you if your relationship is over or not, but I can give you a tip that works in mine:
Stop and think before you argue. If it's not worth fighting about, then let it go.
There is no sense in letting a good relationship go downhill over petty disagreements. Correct?
Don't know if it is any help to you, but hopefully you consider it and give it a try.
How much weight would I lose if I ate 1500 or slightly less calories a day and worked out in order to burn 1000 calories per day?
Nobody can really answer this question, because weight loss varies from person to person.
One person may lose 30 lbs in 6 weeks, the next may lose 20, and the next may only lose 10.
When i download animated avatars and try to use them on forums or for my msn display picture they don't animate. I save then a gif.
does anyone know where i'm going wrong?
thank you x
Maybe Windows Live Tech Support can help you.
Here is the link:
http://support.live.com/eform.aspx?productKey=wlmessenger&page=wlsupport_home_options_form_byemail&ct=eformts
what exactly is pcp..like drug wise
"PCP (phencyclidine) was developed in the 1950s as an intravenous anesthetic. Its use in humans was discontinued in 1965, because patients often became agitated, delusional, and irrational while recovering from its anesthetic effects. PCP is illegally manufactured in laboratories and is sold on the street by such names as angel dust, ozone, wack, and rocket fuel. Killer joints and crystal supergrass are names that refer to PCP combined with marijuana. The variety of street names for PCP reflects its bizarre and volatile effects.
PCP is a "dissociative drug," meaning that it distorts perceptions of sight and sound and produces feelings of detachment (dissociation) from the environment and self. Dissociative drugs act by altering distribution of the neurotransmitter glutamate throughout the brain. Glutamate is involved in a person's perception of pain, responses to the environment, and memory."
Quoted from this link:
http://www.nida.nih.gov/Infofacts/PCP.html