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so, normally i hate these questions, but i need some flirting tips.

of course, this guy i like who's said he likes me but just wont really make a move. we flirt some already, but i want to be able to hook him like a fish and just keep him interested. =] any tips?

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/flirting-tips-for-girls-how-to-flirt-with-a-guy.html


http://www.links2love.com/teens_flirting.htm


Flirting tips for teens. Google does wonders.

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What do these phrases mean?

hella/hecka

rawr

you are the sex

Thanks for the help!

Hella:
"It is commonly used in place of "really" or "very" when describing something."


Rawr:
"A primitive sound used to represent a personal feeling. Due to the generic and modular nature of the word, the actual implied meaning varies from person to person."


The sex:
"The Sex is another way for saying hot, awesome, incredibly cool, and, well, sexy."


Next time, for all this scene kid lingo etc, go to www.urbandictionary.com

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i lost my virginity two months ago sice then ive had one period, well i dont know if it actually was a period cauz it happened a week after i had sex(i wasnt supposed to have a period till 3 weeks after not 1) it only lasted like two or three days not the usual 5 or 6! well since then i havnt bleed at ALL, NOT ONCE!! today after skool i felt awful it felt like the worst period cramps ive ever had times 50 then whwen i went to the bathroom i had this i dont know it was a weird gooy red thing commin out of my vagina, could i have had a miss carriage?

You failed to mention whether the sex you had was protected or not.
Anyway, it could have just been a period which happened to be different from your normal ones, or yes, possibly a miscarriage.
Noone here will know, but a doctor would.

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well.....im a dude. big surprise huh? i asked a question simalar to this one awhile back, but anyway. the girl i loved and still love with all my heart, broke up with me about a month ago, over her "parents". which i heard was complete bull. well i go to ozzfest (the one in st.louis) right after she breaks up with me. for about a week i forgot about her.( i had one hell of a hangover). then on bebo, (the thing like myspace) she puts a blog up saying shes glad she broke up with me, she's never felt better about herself etc.... well i read that, it pissed me off. so i played a few george jones songs, and felt alittle better about it. then...she has her best friend tell me that she has a new boyfriend, and that hes sooooo much better than me. now this is the part where i wanna shoot a dude. sooo... i know what i need to do. just let it go. but me and this girl had been goin out since like 8th grade and im in 10th now. so its kinda hard. so anyone got any ideas on what i should do about all this, or how to just let go?

-thanks

Of course it's hard. and bingo, you know exactly what you should be doing - forgetting about her.
She isn't worthy of your time any more.
You also shouldn't bother going on her Bebo profile. You need to cut her out of your life completely. Even if you see her around, don't bother giving her your time. Ignore her.
That's the first step of getting over a break up. By cutting them completely out of your life. Only when you're over it should you ever consider being friends if that is what both of you want. (when everything dies down of course).
She's playing a nasty trick. Fair enough if she has a new boyfriend, but bragging and making you feel low is just plain unnecessary.
She's obviously trying to make you jealous. and she is succeeding. She probably knows it's really getting to you.
Step number 2 is to not show you are annoyed and upset etc. Don't give her or her friends etc a reaction. When she sees you aren't fussed about her "great" new boyfriend, she'll probably get bored of putting you down.
Another thing you need to remember is time heals everything. Give it a few weeks/months and everyone who has been through this will guarantee you will feel better about it later on.
Try and see your friends as much as possible and do things to keep you occupied.
What you're going through at the moment is a really horrible feeling, but I promise it will get better.
Break ups happen for a reason.
You will do better than her - even if you don't think you will for the time being.
Good things come to those who wait.
Best of luck. and I hope you feel better about it soon.

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me and my boyfrend had sex and with no condom and it was only in onces like in out and i was wondering if i'm goin gto get pergent.

The only sure way to find out is if you wait until your next period.. or get a pregnancy test.
It doesn't matter if it was only one time. His penis entered you.. UNPROTECTED. Ever heard of pre cum?
Practice safe sex next time. Or don't bother at all.

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has anyone installed Zango when they try to watch a video on peekvid.com? is it harmful?

"This program may have legitimate uses", but describes it as a "potentially unwanted program", and an "adware downloader".


http://www.tv-links.co.uk/

Try that site.

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Ok. I got fake nails a little while ago and I went tanning.. and used bronzing lotion.. now my nails are yellow is there anyway I can get them back the way they were? If so, how?

You have 2 options.
1.You can try this, but there's a slight chance it could make it worse or maybe make them loose because your nails aren't real:
Soak them for 3-5 minutes in lemon juice. It's commonly used for removing stains from natural nails.
My friend had fake nails and tried it. They came out looking like new, but they could be different from yours.
2. Get new ones.


So either way, you should try the lemon juice trick. Hope it works out!

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Well Im going to start my last year of secondary, year 11 and we'll have o levels. the thing is... school is just SO depressing and sad. i have to get up at 7am and im NOT a morning person...the initials of my school are actually S.A.D. Its an all girls school! And the uniform is grey =/. And the rules are SO strict..we cant even choose what color bobble to wear in our hair...has to be wine coloured or black =/. My problem is that i dont know how im going to handle this year without getting depressed again =[ can someone plese help? whats worse is o levels are harder than gcses and school is so boring no boys... and what if im not even in my friends class which is likely?

I hated school the same as you.
Now I've left, I realized school days were the best of my life, despite all the things I didn't like about it.
You go to school to learn. Not to dress up and not to mess around with your friends.
If you concentrate on your work, it will go very fast and since this is your last year, you will look forward to leaving and it will spur you on to try and make the most of it and get through it.


Not many people are morning people.. I'm definitely not.
You should get yourself into an early bed routine, or when you wake up in the morning, find a way to make you feel refreshed, eat a good breakfast and basically think positively. It will all help you and beat the dullness.


Yes, this year will be harder this year and more important. Which is why you need to concentrate and try your absolute best.
After that, you're free to do whatever you want. Just remember that.
Don't ruin your last year.


I'm only saying this because I don't want you to make the same mistakes as me. (I stayed on after GCSE's and basically didn't try because I hated it SO much. It was pretty much a massive waste and my grades weren't anything to be happy about).
Study hard and it will all pay off.


It's only a year. You can definitely do it.
Look forward to after the school day and the weekends.. and hanging out with your friends.



Best of luck

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hi i have windows live messenger
and i have two problems with it
1:this "block-checker" pops up EVERYTIME i open a window with someone
help how to get rid of it?
2:if i leave it running for more then 10 mins
it will literally freeze (won't let me talk to anyone, can't recieve messages)
it doesn't freeze other programs on my computer just itself
help please!
thanks so much
abby from uk

Ahh, the infamous pop up blocker.
Have you tried removing msn from your computer and downloading it again?
and run a virus scan if you haven't already, to make sure it hasn't affected your computer.
I haven't personally had one of these, but a friend has.. and after downloading it again and scanning etc, their MSN is fine.
Good luck

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16/f
for about two weeks i masturbated every night. i had just ended a friends with benefits relationship but now after those two weeks i have no sex drive. at all! well i think about having sex but i don't get horny. what's wrong?!

Don't worry. Just give yourself a break! You haven't damaged your sex drive or anything.
You should be back to normal in a while.
Perhaps you've been doing the same thing and you're bored. You could try new things..
But I reckon you should just lay off for a while. It'll make you want it more.

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When I feel annoyed or/and pissing I give out short answers to my friend and family when they ask a question, I snap at them, I will have a frown on my face and curse at anything under my breath. But Lara laughs and teases when I am annoyed and pissed. I don’t take it seriously because she said she loves doing that to me and I know she is joking and she always get hyper too but I want to know why does she giggle at me?


FROM:I need a 2nd opinion

Thankyou for your question.

I do this to friends sometimes - vice versa.
When we do it, it's a way of trying to cheer the person up.
She's probably doing the same to you.
Perhaps if she's laughing, it might make you laugh and forget whatever you were annoyed about.
I wouldn't read too deeply into it. :)

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Hey, how good does that Bio Oil stuff work, like does it make the skin look like there are no stretch marks? and does it work on the ones that are like really pinkish/red and stuff? HELP :D i have a boyfriend, and i don't really wanna gross him out by them, he's seen me naked but he comes back to visit me in 4 months and i wanna look extra good ;) and does it smell good or gross? xD i have that cocoa butter crap but it smells sooooooooooooooo bad!

TY

It reduces the visibility of the scars/stretch marks/uneven skin tone etc depending on how long you use it for.
By the time 4 months arrives, you'll probably see a lot of difference.
I'd still carry on using it after, too, to make sure your skin stays in top condition!
and it smells really nice - I like it. Rather sweet smelling and pleasant.
I definitely recommend!

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I have acne scars, i think.
they are red dots but they aren't bumps like acne is. and they won't go away! and they look like pimples so it's bad :[ i've gone to the dermatologist before but he never said anything about scars. my actual acne has cleared up but those dots are still there? what are some home remedies i could use to make them go away?
here is a pic: don't worry it's not disgusting lol
http://i17.tinypic.com/4qgxzb4.jpg

also right now i use proactiv, neutrogena oil free acne wash,and 2 creams that my dermatologist gave me for my acne. they will help actual pimples... but these red dots won't go away.

helpppp ..i want CLEAR skin!

I cannot stress enough how good Bio Oil is.
After a few weeks, you see improvements with scars, stretch marks and uneven skin tones.
It's sold most places.
You just massage it in and it even smells really nice.
Look out for it!

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I have my nose pierced. It's an 18 gauge piercing. (Standard size for nose piercings.) So obviously, a nose ring is thicker than an earring.

I have been looking for a nose hoop for a long time. I finally found an earring hoop that fits in my nose really well. The only problem is, that the hoop is not 18 gauge. (Meaning the hoop is thinner than the usual nose rings I wear.)

So I was wondering:
How fast does a nose piercing close up?
Would it be okay if I wore the thinner nose hoop for about 8 hours?
(After school, I will put in the regular, thicker nose ring.)
Do you think my piercing could close up a lot in 8 hours?

Thanks in advance, and please ONLY answer if you have your nose pierced and know what you're talking about. I don't care if your sister or your friend has theirs pierced, I only want to hear from you if you have your own nose pierced.

I've had it done 3 times.
Anyway, you didn't say how long you've had it done for.
For the 1st 6 months at least, yes, it can close up within a matter of hours. It's how I lost one of mine when it fell out whilst I was sleeping. It was completely closed when I tried to re pierce it.

Of course yours wouldn't close up totally, because you still have a thinner ring in.
but in all honesty, I do feel 8 hours is a little long.
Wear it for a few hours and switch every now and then. It's the best thing I can think of.. unless you find a better fitting 18 gauge.

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I became depressed and never liked myself because of who I am I want to run away from every one to keep them away from my depression. But I couldn’t hold it in, I told them what was wrong and they said I should tell Lara how I feel. I deny it for 7 years to not tell her but it got to the point that I was about to blow! So I told Lara that I am bi sexual and I am in love with her. Lara was in shocked but stayed there by my side to listen to me. She respected me and will try to help me as much as she can.

After I told Lara how I felt 10 months ago I went to a party and met this guy, nothing happen but I told Lara about it. She then got mad, she said she was not sure to be happy for me or pissed. I didn’t understand what she meant.

I told her that I am moving on and you are not making it easy on me. And she said she was jealous because she didn’t want to drift apart from our friendship and was afraid that we won’t be close anymore. She told me that she was jealous of my last two boyfriends in the year of high school. I told Lara that the reason why I went out with them is because I want to get over her and move on. And that’s why I want to move away to rethink my thoughts. She ask me why I liked her and I said i don’t know how it happened but it did. but i am attracted by smarts, mysterious and adventures personality and that’s what you are.
but i really can’t explain it, its hard to put into words.
I even ask her if she wanted a boyfriend and she said “no not really”.
I got mad at Lara because it sounded like she like me back and I didn’t want her to (even thou I do wish it)
Because I don’t think I can be good in a relationship because of me not believing in myself.
I told Lara that but she didn’t respond to it.

Everything is slowly getting together and right now I am letting things settle.
But I am wondering…

Did she like me back more than a friend or was she afraid of losing our friendship?
And
What does she mean “we won’t be close anymore”?
(The only thing of close I can think of is that she leans on me and holds me sometimes for no reason)
and
When she said she was jealous of my last two boyfriends did that mean she like me then in our high school year or she wanted a boyfriend?


and i got the chat room talk we had about it (2nd part) if you like to read it let me know. its long.

Thankyou for your question!


Okay, this is a rather weird situation, because noone can be 100%. Only Lara knows her true feelings, but I'll try to interpret the best I can.


Basically, I reckon yes, she's jealous. I'm sure many people have felt this type of jealousy before - when your friend/best friend gets a boyfriend/girlfriend.. You don't want to feel left out, or feel like a third wheel. You might be scared you will drift apart because your friend will be spending their time with their new partner etc etc - it happens alot - it's life.


Maybe she even liked the fact you were in love with her - it made her feel wanted.
You know that feeling when you know someone likes you.. even if you don't like them back? It feels good to be wanted, and now you've moved on, she's missing that.


I'm quite adamant she would have told you clearly if she felt the same way, because 10 months is a long time.


Tell her no matter what, you'll still be her friend and she will never lose you.
This is where she needs reassurance.
Of course it's not easy on you, but it's probably not on her either.



If any of this was confusing, to sum up:
**This is just my personal opinion**
- She liked knowing you were attracted her, for the reasons stated above.
- She is scared you'll find someone else and won't need her/be close to her like you are now.
- She probably didn't want a boyfriend, but that's not really important, because the fact remained she still didn't want to lose you.


I'm glad things are settling and I think you should move on.
Don't let her hold you back in future relationships.

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hi i have a hairy bum an little bit of pimples and stretch marks is it good to shave coz i dont want my girl friend seen it..an how do i make pimples an stretch marks go away its not that bad well its jus hairy down there would it look better if i shave..an im a 17 guy..thanx

You're a guy, so hair is to be expected! Unless it's a really large amount, then you can trim it.
Try it and see if you prefer it that way.
After all, it's what YOU want - not girls.
As for pimples, they should clear up. Just make sure you keep up with hygiene.
and if you don't like the look of your stretch marks, I use something called Bio Oil. (I used it on a scar - but it works for stretch marks and uneven skin tone) Give it a try. You can get it at most places.
I really wouldn't worry about either of them though to be perfectly honest. Your girlfriend should understand. Noone is perfect.

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Hi guys mi name is alysha and im looking for a long lost cousin Arielle which i want ta start contacting again, Her email is lolabunni10@aol.com and i saw her answering some questions on here if its arielle can u write bak?

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=27421945


Your cousin has MySpace if you can't find her on here!

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Just as the title says. I'm sexually frustrated. Not in that I simply don't get enough sex. I just can't have an orgasm from having sex. I have had sex enough to where I should be pleasured enough to have an orgasm, but I haven't. I really only can have an orgasm if I touch myself, or if oral sex is being given. I'm frustrated because I can't seem to figure out why I can't have an orgasm during sex. I've had to fake it every time. Is this something I need to talk to an Gynecologist about? I would like some advice and input. Help!

NO.
Not all women can orgasm through sex alone, sadly. The majority are clitoral. and you can probably climax yourself because you know how you like to be touched the best.
Experiment and try other positions to see if it has any effect on you.
Also, don't fake it in the future, or you may never be able to figure out if a position can work for you.. and don't put pressure on yourself to have an orgasm - because you won't!

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Why dont the homosexauls dont like men or women?
explan i like to know your anwsers?

FYI: f/15/Bi

I guess your question means why don't they like the opposite gender.
Short answer;
because they aren't attracted to them physically and mentally.

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17/f

i babysit a 6 year old girl and her 12 year old brother. the boy doesn't need much attention he pretty much stays to himself while i play with the 6 year old. one day i went to the boy's room and walked in and saw him masturbating. i was shocked and said sorry and he looked absolutly scared beyond belief but now whenever i'm babysitting i can hear him in his room doing it. i don't know if i should say something or try to ignore it.

Ignore it.
He's a 12 year old boy, so it's pretty normal.
Although it's not decent of him to do it when you're babysitting, it is his house - and at least you know he's okay.
Try your best not to hear him do it.
..and think of the money!

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