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Sexually frustrated!!
Just as the title says. I'm sexually frustrated. Not in that I simply don't get enough sex. I just can't have an orgasm from having sex. I have had sex enough to where I should be pleasured enough to have an orgasm, but I haven't. I really only can have an orgasm if I touch myself, or if oral sex is being given. I'm frustrated because I can't seem to figure out why I can't have an orgasm during sex. I've had to fake it every time. Is this something I need to talk to an Gynecologist about? I would like some advice and input. Help!
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Do not fake it. The absolute worst thing you can do is involve lying in sex. If he finds out it can ruin his self confidence and ruin your sex.
Try different positions. Often times sex is simply not providing the correct stimulation. Some women can only come in one position, or from a specific type of stimulation.
If nothing else, consider getting yourself off during sex. Work with your partner and experiment a little to try different angles and such.
Also, dont be overly discouraged. Many women are non-orgasmic during sex. And the older a woman gets, the easier it is to orgasm (I cant remember my biology factoids on why its true, something about a woman's sexual maturation continuing until about 30)
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If you fake it, your partner will think that he/she is really pleasing you...and will therefore keep on doing what they are doing. This means that you are left always pretending to enjoy sex more than you really are.
Many women have difficulties having orgasms from penetrative sex. Most women can more easily have orgasms through oral sex or clitoral stimulation. So while your frustration is real, at least you know you are not abnormal or the only person with this problem.
Some of the techniques you use during masturbation might be helpful to teach to your partner - after all, the hope is that they would want to please you! Figure out what works for you and ask for it.
If your concerns continue, it might be helpful to have a chat with your gyno and share your concerns. Your doctor may be able to offer more practical advice, and has probably dealt with this question a lot.
I wish you the best!
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Well first off there's nothing wrong with you you're completely normal....not all females come off sex....maybe you're just not that into him...maybe you need a sexual maniac to please you in many different ways maybe who ever your wit is just to plain for you....maybe your a nympho who needs a nympho....maybe you need to do it in different positions and maybe he's not long enough for you....maybe your just to sexually mature for him...these are all possibiltys of what the problem maybe...or then agan maybe your just not that aroused by him....who knows but think about it...and I hornestly think seeing a gyn. Should be your last resort...thanks for reading my advice...I hoped I helped....jamie
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Not all women can orgasm through sex alone, sadly. The majority are clitoral. and you can probably climax yourself because you know how you like to be touched the best.
Experiment and try other positions to see if it has any effect on you.
Also, don't fake it in the future, or you may never be able to figure out if a position can work for you.. and don't put pressure on yourself to have an orgasm - because you won't!
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well i hate to say it but maybe your guy is not good enough at having sex to please you its not a gynecologist type of problem its just it doen't pleas you specialy if you can orgasm other ways
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