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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

wicked awesome conversations

^my forum, liven it up a little?

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how do i change the fount on myspace to like strikeout or make it bigger or change the color?????????????

to change size:

strikeout:

bold:

italics:

underline:

center:

color:

How do i allow lime wire access to my internet?

Well, if you're using Windows Firewall, there's an "exceptions" tab. Make sure there's a check next to Limewire.

FYI, don't leave it like this. When you're done downloading, uncheck the box, and run a couple spyware/adware/virus scans.

Leaving your IP adress out in the open in cyberspace = bad news for your computer.

how do i make my own advice collem on the compyter so i can help people with there troubles.

well, the site you're on right now is pretty much amazing :] you can create a column for free, just sign up and start giving advice!

if you're good at giving advice, you'll become more popular around here and people will ask you more questions and such.

if you need help signing up, let me know and I'll do my best to help you :]

For my englihsh class we have to make 10 comparisons of celebrities.

An example: Will Ferrel is as tall as Vince Vaghun.

That basically means I need 20 celebrities, in pairs of what they have alike.

So far I have,

1. Marilyn Monroe is as talented as James Dean.
2. Jessica Simpson is as blonde as Christina Aguilera.
3. Jeff Corwin likes crocodiles as much as Steve Irwin.
4. Jim Carrey is as funny as Robin Williams.

Can anyone help me think of more pairs of celebrities that have things in common?? THANK YOU! :]

Paris Hilton is in the tabloids and much as Lindsay Lohan.

Billie Joe (Green Day) wears as much eyeliner as Jared Leto (30 Seconds to Mars).

Jim Morrison is believed to be alive just as much as Elvis Presley is. (I dont know exactly how to word that one, but you probably get what I'm trying to say)

Hilary Duff tries to sing just as much as Mollie Cyrus.

sorry, that's all I can think of right now.
if you still need more, feel free to IM me [lauraxomichelle] and I'll try to help you haha :]

A few kids in my school are holding a car wash and i'm working. i need tips of what to wear (sexy please) kind of warm maybe.. its october. also, the kid i like will be there and i want to impress him.

The only way i can think of to impress someone with a sexy outfit at a carwash is wearing a bikini and climbing on the car to wash it.

This sounds rather impractical because
1. It's cold out (espeicallly when youre drenched with water)

2. It's a school carwash (so any Jessica Simpson-esque actions will likely get you into trouble.

3. You won't be comfortable bending down to wash tires, pic up sponges, etc. if your clothes are tight and/or really expensive. Jeans and a sweatshirt is fine, ITS A CARWASH!!!

and

4. If this guy will only notice you if you're dressed in a revealing outfit at a carwash, he's probably not worth your time.

who sings the song "Roc Ya Body"?? I know you hate these questions but i cant find any results on google =)

Justin Timberlake.

Think wardrobe malfunction.

haha alright, i know the title makes this sound workse then it is, but i was bored.
anyways.
i've bought that maybelline mascara everyone seems to like, ( and i read in a magazine somewhere that it's one of the best kinds to get ) but everytime i apply it, it smudges all under my eyes after i blink!
my mother also has it, and she's sick of it as well.
do you guys have any recommendations for a new mascara to get?

Well I've always loved Maybelline, but that's obviously not working for you.

New Yourk Color has some really nice masacara as well. It's very inexpensive and dries quickly.

For some reason, my mom restarted our computer's settings. My log-in thing is now completely new (new background, etc.). But now on iTunes, NONE of the music that I bought is there. Most of the songs that I have bought are on my iPod right now, but some aren't.

How do I get the songs that I've bought back onto iTunes without buying them again?

YOu could always download them via Limewire, myspace, etc. But that;s illegal and could mess up your computer.

If you reinstall iTunes and hook up your iPod, there's a "transfer purchases" option under File. It worked pretty well for me when I used it last week.

Ask your mom why she got the computer erased. Ws it something SHE did, or did she need a clean hard drive? If it's something that you didn't purposely do, ask her for an iTunes card to replace the songs you lost. Hey, it's worth a try.

:] hope I helped.

i won an item on ebay last night and i wanted to pay for it by money order, the person lives in Hong Kong does it cost money to send an envelope there, and about how much?? Second of all, if it does cost money to send it there i would like to change my method of payment and do pay pal, how would i go about doing that?? Thanks in advanced!!

Sending envelope to Hong Kong: $0.84
Source- http://postcalc.usps.gov/intl_speed.asp?CID=10189&MailType=envelope&Pounds=0&Ounces=1

(if that link doesnt work, just go to http://postcalc.usps.gov/ and re-enter the destination, weight, type, etc.)

Since airmal is only eighty-four cents, I don't think it's worth the effort to switch it to PayPal.

I am directing freshman in highschool in a play. In one part the prince is supposed to say "i want to see how light you are:" & pick up the princess and hold her for a number of lines. i guess some of the other boys were making fun of the princess while we were discussing this because in relaity the princess may be a little heavier then the prince (she is NOT fat, the prince just happens to be tall & lanky and not as big as her). i then recieved an e-mail from the girls mom that she came home from rehersal visably upset. she said her daughter did not know she was e-mailing me & that she doesn't want me to tlak to the boy individually, but she wants me to monitor the behavior. she said i could call her at any time if i needed to. first off, how should i go about having the prince hold the princess, how should i shut the boys up who are being mean without embassing the princess even more, and do you think it's appropriate that i call the mom (and what should i say to her if i do?) she left me her house phone # but i am afraid that the girl who is my princess would pick up the phone & know it's me from caller ID, & the mom doesn't want me to know she contacted me. what should i do about all this?

If this boy is "tall and lanky" he shouldn't have a problem holding this girl.

As for the teasing, you're working with freshman. I'm one myself, and I know how much people are made fun of. It's going to happen. People probably would have said this even if she was all skin and bones. The boys are just being their immature selves, and you shouldn't worry about it that much, and neither should this girl. She's cofident enough to be onstage as one of the stars and should be able to take some teasing form her peers without permament emotional damage.

If you want to talk to her mother, call when you know this girl is at school. Maybe as rehearsal is starting, or during a break. Or, if you call and the daughter answers instead of her mother, say that you were calling about asking her mother to volunteer for the play or something.

hope I helped, and best of luck with the production!

After I straighten my hair it goes wavy after like 10min. Then I straighten it again, and it gets better. Still I want it straight the first time, does anybody now any tips I could use?

*Thanks

Use a smoothing/straightening creme before you straighten your hair. The best ones I ever used were Herbal Essences Smoothing Creme (it comes in a green squeeze tube, but think it was discontinued. Which stinks because it was seriously the best) A close second is L'Oreal Paris HOT Straight Straightening Cream (comes in a pink squeeze bottle and works almost as well as the Herbal Esscences one)

Also, I use Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Serum (it's $17 a bottle, but lasts for ages) to get the wave and "poofiness" out before I start.

Finish your hair with hairspray and/or finishing spray (whatever works better for your hair type) Three that I love are Bed Head (splurge), Herbal Essences (budget), and GOT2b freeze spray or something (somewhere in the middle, price-wise)

Also, when youre straightening, straighten the entire length of your hair. Like, if the bottom half of your head is REALLY curly, don't just straighten that part because you may end up woth a bump of some sort, which may be causing your hair to go wavy.

And lastly, make sure you're using a half-decent straightener. You definitely dont need a $120 CHI, but don't use a 4.99 CVS one either you know?

hope I helped you :]
If you need any more suggestions don't hesitate to ask me, I've probably tried every possible hair product by now :D

ohkay well ive posted this a couple times but no one seems to answer it right....
im 13/f 140 pounds and i want to loose 25 pounds. im going on the 20 carbs a day diet. so i need to no what foods to eat all day. please help me i need it

ps. im going to workout also =)

As long as this isn't a long-term thing, this diet will be fine-if you still eat healthy of course.

Eat what you normally (should) eat- lean hamburger, fruits and vegetables (eat both, even though fruits have more carbs; they have a lot of nutrients), salads, pretty much everything but an excessive amount of carbs.

Meals could be a garden salad with grilled or baked chicken and low-fat dressing, low-carb cereal (if oyu can stand the taste), stuff like that.

Like I said already, this kind of diet isn't healthy long-term, because you need carbs for energy. Focus instead on "good" carbs, like unrefined flours (so white bread shouldn't be a staple) brown rice, potatoes, fruits, etc.

Make sure you take a multivitamin so that you get any nutrients going low-carb could deprive you of.

God luck with everything! :]

p.s. When you start to lose weight, dont get discouraged if you gain back a pound or two, it means you're gaining muscle. You probably already knew that, but if not, it's good to know!

I basically had no clue what to put this question under, but here it is.

I'm 14 years old & I've been drunk 3 times.
I'm not a bad drunk at all.
I'm a person who's wound up pretty tight & I use alchohol to do things I don't even think about doing unless I'm drunk. Not that it's bad I just don't have the guts to do anything.
I guess I'm asking if this is a bad thing.
I mean, am I like, sinning or anything?
I'm not that religious but I'm still nervous.
I only drink around family, I wouldn't think of doing it around anyone else.
And if it is bad... how can I stop?
I don't really even like alcohol, I like the effect.

Thank you.

You're probably drinking to de-stress and get away from it all. This is a bad habit to get into and I'd suggest trying to stop. An occassional glass won't do you much harm though, but you may want to find another way to relieve stress.

For example, a well-timed sugar-high is considerably less dangerous, has the same basic effect (at least for awhile) and has less of a hangover :]

However, since you only drink around family, I don't see this as a big deal, so long as it doesn't get out of hand or anything. You're obviously not hiding it from your parents so they know what's going on, and will be able to tell if it becomes a serious issue and you need help.. you know?

hope I helped!

Heyy. :]
how do I get a link to say something other than the web address.

like if I wanted to say "view comments" and have it blue and underlined as a link.

how does one going about doing that? :\

any help would be appreciated.

triciaXterror

view comments

That should work.
:]

omg, i seriously LOVE your layout! where did you get it from? thankss lol

Under my column settings, I used the approved public style "Your Space". Then I changed the font to black (color code #000000)

Then for a background, I search photobucket for random patterns and chage it all the time. But I like this one so I'm keeping it :]

Here's a link to my photobucket (i have a whole bunch of patterns and photography stuff from different sites)

http://s7.photobucket.com/albums/y253/xxpinkxbubblezxx/

♥

ok well my brother says he can get on my windows xp name without knowing my password. can he really do that? if so, how?

He can reset your password via "User Accounts" on the control panel. You just click on someone's account name, and remove their password. The upside to this is that your internet cookes are either disabled or erased (I don't remember which, sorry!) so they can't acces your email. Say, if you have "remmeber my password on this computer" enabled. Just don't have your AIM automatically save your password, and you're good. If you're worried about certain files, you can always password-protect them.

But now that YOU know how to do the same thing, you can threaten him with this as well :D

hey,thanks for opening this,i hope you girls can answer my question.

WHat is the most creative/romantic/unforgettable way to tell a girl you love her?
I mean i can go with the traditional telling her "i love you",but i want something different.

here are some of my suggestions
1)ask her is she believes in love at first sight,if she says yes then i will say i didin't believe it at first until i met you.
2)the sky is full of stars,the sea is full water,but my heart is full of you.
3)third question:do you girls think that sending a letter,speaking face to face,sending a message,sending an email,or just telling her through her friends will give the best impression? I mean,I think that messaging her is kind of sissy,and that sending her an eamil is also a pussy way of telling her,so would girls flip for a guy that sends her a letter or just tells her face to face about his feelings?or would you rather a guy tell you through the phone?

thanks a lot for reading,please answer my questions if the first two choices are good and what way you girls would prefer from the third question,and if you guys have any other creative suggestions please fell free to send it,i will rate good ones.

Telling her face-to-face would be best because it proves you really mean it. The first one is really sweet, second one is alright :] But that's just my personal opinion. Use whatever one seems to "fit" you better. If you know what I mean by that.

But if you're really nervous about it, a HANDWRITTEN note could be really sweet too. If you go that route, talk about how much you enjoy sepending time with her, inside jokes you two have, you feel yourself around her, et cetera.

hope I helped! & good luck :]

I need some places I can find some cute dresses for homecoming(semi formal) I'm plus size, size 18. pleaseeee help im desperate!

im ordering it online ..

Torrid and Deb's have really nice dresses, all different sizes.

And even though you say you're buying online, I'd recommend trying it on at a store. Or at least, try on a dress at the store then order your correct size online. Otherwise, all the exchanges get rather messy :]

WARNING: this isn't really written like a question, more as a journal but I'd really like advice on some of the stuff on here.
Went to a football game [i'm in band] half time sucked. We lost the game. My Mom's bitching at me because my Grandma called me a bitch. [don't ask me for the rest of the story i've already told it to xenia, ashley, and a few other people and i don't feel like repeating it again] I'm starving. My Mom wouldn't take me to Applebee's where pretty much the whole entire band goes after games. She's like your Grandma was yelling about blah blah blah blah blah blah blah for the last thirty minutes. I shouldn't reward you blah blah blah. and you can't get a new phone. That pisses me off cause she PROMISED me that no matter what as soon as Verizon would allow me to get a new phone that I could. Then she keeps screaming. Guh I fucking hate my family. Grandma wants an apology for me throwing water on her after she called me a bitch. Uh no. If she apologizes for calling me a bitch fine she'll get an apology but until then I don't care she's not getting one. Plus she's not my blood relative anyway, yeah that's really mean but I really don't care she called me a bitch for no fucking reason and that really pisses me off. I've been really depressed for like the last year, and I don't know or understand why. I've also been very angry lately and emotional. Plus I haven't started my period for four months [and no i'm not pregnant i'm a virgin so stfu] I wanna punch someones face in but at the same time I just want to sit in a corner and cry. Guh I hate this. I really don't have very many friends at school because I don't know who I can and can't trust. Plus people at school are just way to immature. I think that's why alot of my friends on LJ are in their twenties. I get along better with slightly older people. They seem to understand me better. Other than family and stuff most adults seem to understand. But I don't know. I seriously think I'm having a slow mental breakdown. I'd try getting a therapist but I don't know what that will do. I feel like I'm slowly slipping away from God and my friends. I don't feel like myself anymore. I don't even know who I am. My Dad doesn't even care. If he did he'd move to Florida. I don't like my band teacher, yet I feel like I can trust her more than family. I feel as if no one likes me. and I can tell the people in band don't. I try so hard for people to like me but I'm not going to try to be just like them or be anyone else. I'd try to just be myself but I don't even know who I am anymore. If I could even be the person I was when I met Augustus I'd be happy. But partly through that relationship I changed. I became angry and depressed. That's partialy why he broke up with me. I wish I knew what happened and I wish I could change it. There's so much more I want to say but I doubt many of you will even read and/or care.

Short answer? You probably have depresson. Even if you're sometimes bubbling over with joy, you can still have manic depression. I'd recommend seeing a doctor about this and getting properly diagnosed, since teenage advice givers cannot diagnose mental illness, especially over the internet.

YOur grandmother is probably owed an apology. C'mon, shes your GRANDMA. She was wrong in calling you a bitch, but maybe she thought you deserved it. Talk it out.

Now that I've re-read your question a little, this seems to be the problem here. Not a lack of communication, but a lack of EFFECTIVE communication. Arguing gets nothing done and only makes problems bigger. Try REALLY hard to have a meaningful conversation with your mom and/or dad (it may be easier seperately) and you'll get a spurprisg amount of stuff worked out. YOu're probably thinking, Yeah right me talk to my parents, but it's easier than you might think. Walk into the room, focusing on nothign else than discussing (NOT ARGUING ABOUT!!) a current issue. Like, "Mom, I'd like to talk about why I can't upgrade my cell phone. Maybe we can compromise- if I apologize to Grandma and wait six weeks as "punishment", could we go get a new phone? You can set a price limit of [insert dollar amount you expect her to shell out for a new cell here] and I promise to pay you if I ever go over ____ minutes every month" (Obviously, let her talk in between!)

As for wanting to sit in the corner and cry, it's normal to feel like that once in awhile. Let it all out and you'll feel better, trust me.

hope I helped, and let me know how everything turns out!
♥ :]

Hey,

I'm getting my hair done and i wanna know what color to get..so im gonna ask whats hotter? blondes or brunetts?

I like guys with dark hair.
But the bleach blond surfer hair is pritty darn cute too.
Or flippy hair in any color under the sun.

It all depends on the guy :D

As for attracting the opposite sex, go with what color looks better with your features, skintone, et cetera.

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