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about

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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I have a sore throat. And the hangy ball thing, haha i dont know what its called, is touching my right tonsil. This happens everytime i get a sore throat, but sometimes its the right tonsil and sometimes its the left. Whats wrong with me?

I agree. Sounds like it may be tonsillitis.
If this happens frequently, you may need to have them removed.
See your doctor.

so i was watching the OC and seth was listening to Boys 2 Men or something. is that a song or a band? I want to listen to it. any information will be helpful.

I'm not one for song remakes, but they did an excellent remake of The Beatles' "Yesterday" back in the day.

well i just started a job bagging at stop and shop. they didnt show me anythinggg, they just like told me to start. i have nooo idea if i am doing it right, i really don't know how. can anyone tell me like how to bag groceries? i know it sounds stupid but i really need the help. and i don't know anyone there, how to clock in, or anythinggg. im so uncomfortable there, and this is my summer job so i wanna like it. pleaseeee help !!!

I used to sack groceries back in the day.
Put cold and frozen items together. Produce together, but it is ok to put it in with refrigerated items.

I would sack meat only with meat. That is in case if it leaks blood, it won't leak on any other food.

Sack eggs and bread together- of course eggs on bottom. If they only get either eggs or bread, sack the item alone- these are fragile goods.

NEVER put chemicals of any sort in with food.

Put baking soda in sacks with dry goods and canned goods- it absorbs odor from that which surrounds it. They may want it for their fridge, but you don't want it to smell like onion or something in case they are buying it to brush their teeth.

Don't fill a sack with canned goods. Spread them about between dry goods. But if they don't have a lot of things, you can put them in the bottom of any sack, except I would advise against putting them with eggs, bread, and chemicals.

As for things such as clocking in, never be afraid to ask. It's better to feel foolish for having to ask than looking foolish because you didn't.

It doesn't sound stupid to ask how to do your job correctly.

As for wanting to like your job, get to know some of your co-workers and customers.
Always ask your customers how they are and tell them to have a nice day when they leave.
Once you get to know the people you work with and the frequent shoppers, it's easier to make your job fun. A fun job is less of a job.

when someone knocks on a bathroom door and your inside, what are you supposed to say? haha i know its a stupid question but i dont know what to say.

"Is there something I can help you with?"

can anyone tell me who she is?.. i was on you tube and found all this hate videos on her. and i cant find out who she is.. can anyone tell me why people hate her?.. please!!

http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070111213029AACiLZ6

Check out the answer given at this link. Hope it answers you question.

ok so me and my boyfriend had a deep talk today. he told me that he always notices that i give up on myself. what do you think he meant by this? and please dont tell me to ask him because i dont want to do that. thanks! help thanks in advance.:]

Well, in all honesty, none of us even know you. We don't know him, and have no clue what he is thinking. You don't give any information on why he would think that, so realistically we can't answer your question honestly.
Though you don't want to ask him, he is the only one who can give you the true answer.

ok my hair is kinda wavy and a little thick but more pooffy than anything is there anyting i can do to de-poof it?
and are there any hairstyles i can do without straightening my hair that will look ok and show my natural wave? My hair is a lil longer than my Shoulders.
i straighten my hair almost everyday cuz i dont have anything else to do with it plz help.

My hair is thick with wave. I agree with the mousse, suggestion. But also get something for frizz- it helps with the poofiness.
I use John Frieda Frizz-Ease Hair serum, extra strength formula.
The link following will show you what it looks like. It's kind of pricey, but you don't use very much at a time, and it works really well.
I think it is worth the price, because my hair is very thick, and goes half down my back, and this product actually lasts me quite a while. And it works very well with de-poofing your hair.

http://www.drugstore.com/qxp165330_334918_sespider/
john_frieda_frizz_ease/
hair_serum_extra_strength_formula.htm

what is cum?

"The noun cum has one meaning:

Meaning #1: the thick white fluid containing spermatozoa that is ejaculated by the male genital tract
Synonyms: semen, seed, seminal fluid, ejaculate"

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in the Curse of Curves by Cute is what we aim for, the lyric says " ive got the gift of one liners" what are one liners? thxx

"one-lin·er (wŭn'lī'nər)
n.

A short joke or witticism, usually expressed in a single sentence."

From Answers.com search of "one liner definition"

Does water make you gain weight? I know in the long run that it makes you lose weight, but if you drank a lot of water in one day & weighed yourself, would you weigh more? Thanks!

No. Water is the best thing for you, considering your body is made mostly of water.
Drinking a lot of water not only cleanses your body, but prevents you from carrying excess water weight.
If you drink a lot of water in one day and weighed yourself, I doubt you would have any additional weight other than the weight of a full bladder. :)

My dad died in febuary and he was a drug addict but really trying to quit before he died, he never wanted me to turn to drugs but I did
And I did before he passed.

and one time I was about to do drugs and I was walking down the hall to the bathroom and my dads ghost appeared and started walking towards me and he gave me this face like kinda sad because he didn't want me to do those things.
I fell on the floor crying my eyes out and I feel so bad about everything and how I still didn't stop after that happened.
Maybe I just didn't know exactly what it meant at the time
Because me and my dad were so close some lady said if he would appear to anyone it would be me and he did.
I've been thinking about this a lot and I just really don't want to disappoint him.
I don't really know what to ask but what do you think of this?

I would say that he appeared to you and gave you the sad face, because he is sad to see you going down the same path he did, which he wanted you to avoid.

I don't know if he died as a result of using drugs, but you know that he never wanted you to to experience the misery of drug addiction as he did, no matter what his cause of death.

I don't really know that he is necessarily disappointed in you, but he is surely sad about your drug use. I do know, as do you, that he doesn't want you to lead the life that he led.

I think if you are still using drugs, you need to take whatever steps you need to take to stop. Then next time he appears to you, you can be glad to see him instead of falling to the floor in tears out of guilt of what you are doing.

i bought this hair dye. but on it i didnt read it fully but its says this: treats and protects your hair while delivering rich long-lasting colour for 100% grey coverage.

but im jsut using it to dye my hair. is it still ok? im not using it to color up my grey hair.. im only 20

As a person who has dyed her hair for over 15 years and doesn't have grays, I can tell you that basically every hair color on the market is made for gray coverage.
It is fine to use it. It's really no different than a box that doesn't say that, even though if you read on the boxes, most say 100% gray coverage.

ok first of all for 2 years now, people have been spreading rumors about me saying that i am bisexual and IM NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! today i got this really rude note from a girl named " hilary" ( i dont really think someone named hilary wrote it)

this is what is says:

Shelby,

you are a hore. some people even think that you are bisexual. i know thats what i belive. i know this because of last year. by the way, your ex boyfriend tyler said eww when he heard that you like other wemon.

Chow,

hilary

this is really making me mad and depressed. I DO NOT LIKE WEMON~!~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM STRAIGHTER THAN A BOARD!!!!!!!!! I HATE THIS!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Why should you let this person have the satisfaction of effecting you? Why should you care what they say or think?
Obviously this Hilary person isn't someone you even care about, so who cares if she thinks you are a whore or bisexual? You definitely shouldn't.

Next time you get a note like that, just wad it up and throw it in the trash. Don't let it get to you. Upsetting you is what they feed on. If they don't think they are bothering you anymore, they will eventually get bored and move on to some other poor soul.

I am interested in "adopting" a school in New Orleans that was destroyed in Hurricane Katrina. I would like to be able to rebuild it and to get donations to furnish it (with desks, chalkboards, computers etc.)

Does anyone know of a school like this...or of a website that i can find this information.

Any help you can give me would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much!!!

I would say your best bet is to contact the New Orleans City Hall.

New Orleans City Hall
1300 Perdido Street
New Orleans, LA 70112

City Hall Operator: (504) 658-4000

alright so i have became friends with this guy last school year and we were really close then i started to like him, anddd i still do, but that is the problem we already went out like two times and it didnt work out, and yet i still like him. i told him he would always be someone i liked in the back of my mind. after i said that he told me he liked me too again !

how do if i know he is for real?
and how can i tell?
and what should i do?
how could i test him?

guyss and girls

but perferablly guys

Ok... So what is it exactly you are wanting to test him on or know if he is for real about? Liking you again?
If that is the case, give it another shot. That is what I say you should do. This is how you will know he is for real.

My husband and I broke up twice before we got back together for good, and became happily married.
Sometimes you have to test the waters a few times before you know if they are just right or not. :)

P.S. As I'm sure you have figured out by now, I'm not a guy, but I hope I helped a little never the less.

how can i use this to track my visitors on myspace

How can you use what to track visitors?

I think that I'm going to Germany with my school, and we've paid like a payment already. But all we need is money for lunch for 10 days (we're not going to be going to a nice restaurant every single day), and spending money. What would be a good amount of money to bring, do you think, so I know how much to save up? Because I have absolutely no idea how much money I should bring. If you have experience with a school trip to a different country that'd be great! xo

Just as an FYI to maybe aid you in figuring out how much money to bring, German money is Euros.
1 Euro is currently = to $1.34 (U.S.).
For every $100 you take, it will convert to 134 Euro.
$500 = 670 Euro.

I got these figures by taking the amount of U.S. dollars multiplied by 1.34

Is there any way to remove moles or prevent a mole to even grow or be on a body?

The girls in my family tend to have a mole, a hairy one right under their chin in about their 30's and I'm scared of getting one..sometime's it itches me whether or not i should just pluck the hair out of my mom's!

Anyway..no offense but my mom's ugly and it was really unfortunate for her that way and I get my bad skin from her and I already have some freckles..I don't know if that's what you even call them because I'm asian so not really but they're jsut black dots on random places like a freckle or how the black dots grow on the bananas.

I'm really scared that one of them might grow into a mole! My mom can take it sometimes when people tease her about for me I'm super sensitive so if it happens I'll be locked inside my house for life!

They have stuff you can buy over the counter to freeze them off, I do believe.

However, if a mole is most likely to grow on your face, I would ask your doctor. I know I would trust a doctor to remove moles from my face rather than some over the counter product.

As for preventing them, I'm not sure about, but it wouldn't hurt to call your doctor's office and ask their nurse. They should surely be able to tell you the best way of going about it.
If there is a way to prevent them, that is.

I really need as much answers as possible.

To start off, I'm 16 Female and I have HIV. It got transmitted to me from my mom at birth, so it wasnt my fault what so ever!! So I've been dating this guy for a while now and I told him i have this HUGE secret, which i will tell him when im ready and in the beginning of our relationship, I tested the waters to see How he would handle the HIV situation. So I asked him, "what would you do if I had HIV?" and He replied "I'd still love you, and i would still have sex with you." So, I was SO relieved to hear that, I was happy that he would accept me and we'd still have a relationship without worry! And that was about 2 months ago!! Then last night I asked him Again what he'd do, and he replied "well, if we were getting married then yeah I would have sex with you, but if we werent getting married, then no i wouldnt have sex with you " SO i was SO upset! and said how low that was, because his answer was completetly different before, and i also told him that
"if he wouldnt accept me if i had HIV then he wouldnt accept my "secret" " because IT IS my Secret! but he doesnt know what my secret is. so then he said "well if it was some girl i didnt know and didnt love then no i wouldnt have sex with her but if it was you then I would." so I DONT KNOW WHAT I DO! should I tell him now and get it over with??!! Tell me answers!! HELP! and please dont say that i shouldnt have sex!! BECAUSE I DONT NEED THAT ANSWER!! I've made up my mind that i do want to have sex with him.

I really hope this makes sense!

Ok. So you have made up your mind that you really want to have sex with him. Now you need to give him the same respect to decide if he really wants to have sex with you.
Sure, it isn't your fault that you have HIV, but the fact still remains that you do have HIV, that can be passed on with a simple break of a condom. It is something you need to allow him to think long and hard about.

Your best bet in this life is to not beat around the bush about it. You surely already know that he, or any other serious guy in your life has the right to know.
And you need to respect their decisions on weather or not they are willing to have sex with you, because you know that having sex is a risk of passing it on. Meaning, if they realize the risk and don't want to chance it, don't be all hurt and mad.

I know you were sadly given a hard row to hoe from the beginning of your life, but you have to come to terms with the fact that a lot of guys will likely turn you away. It is sad, but it is true.
You are better off knowing how they will react and their feelings on it from the get-go rather than getting seriously involved and getting your heart broken.

well my boyfriend "antwan" for about 1 month and 3 weeks is faithful. i've never dated a faithful guy.i cheated on him last weekend for the 1st time. named terry. turns out they are related. i like terry alot and he likes me. BUT he found out about me and antwan and stopped calling, and texting me. i was planning on breaking up with antwan so i could be with terry anyway. WHAT SHOULD I DO BEFORE I LEAVE TOMARROW FOR GOOD!!??!!??

please help me> i need advice QUICK

Well, since they are related, you better get on the ball and tell Antwan what happened before he hears it from Terry. That would not be a good thing from him to hear such bad news from some one other than you. Then see where it goes from there.
As for Terry, let him go. If he has stopped calling, he isn't interested.

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