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rude note
ok first of all for 2 years now, people have been spreading rumors about me saying that i am bisexual and IM NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! today i got this really rude note from a girl named " hilary" ( i dont really think someone named hilary wrote it)
this is what is says:
Shelby,
you are a hore. some people even think that you are bisexual. i know thats what i belive. i know this because of last year. by the way, your ex boyfriend tyler said eww when he heard that you like other wemon.
Chow,
hilary
this is really making me mad and depressed. I DO NOT LIKE WEMON~!~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM STRAIGHTER THAN A BOARD!!!!!!!!! I HATE THIS!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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They spread rumors about you because you react to them.
Its immature.
When I was younger, my standard response to accusations and such was raised eyebrows. You dont have to say anything, just give them a look that says "Oh really?"
Sometimes no words are the best response possible.
If you dont get angry about it, and ignore it, they will get bored and harass someone else. Dont rise to the bait.
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Okay, if you know that you're not bisexaul, don't let these things bother you. People are going to talk WHETHER you LIKE IT or NOT. You can't stop it, it's life. Come to accept these things. Not everyone is going to like you -- not everyone is going to believe what you have to say & not everyone is going to care about your feelings.
Honestly, just deal with these things. Ignore them as best you can but DO NOT retaliate or act like you care because then they know that they're getting to you & they'll just do it more. If you're not a whore, & you're not bisexual, then that's that. You know the truth so never let anyone tell you who you are, what you are or how you are. =)
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ok listen to me and noone will call you a bisexual again...GO UP TO THAT HILARY gurl and say this to her face......hilary,you are a no good slut,if you have anything to say say it to my face not in a not BITCH and you slap her rite THERE!!!!!!ok she might hit u back but it aint gonna kill you.She will never mess with you again.And as long as you know your not bi then nothing matters!!
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if you know it isn`t true then act like you don`t care. letting people know that this makes you mad, makes them wanna do it more. just tell them all to fuck off. and if your ex boyfriend wants to say some shit like that, when he must know it`s true cuz you went out with him NOT A GIRL, then he don`t even deserve the title [x boyfriend]. as long as you have your friends by your side and they believe what you say. then i think you`ll be fine.
not so long ago people were asking me the same question, cuz some girl sed i was. but i didn`t even know her. so that comes to show you that people are childish && run thier mouth for attention or something to talk about. people that judge you before they know you are pretty low lifed. i would say. just don`t let that kind of stuff bother you. rumors are rumors && most of the time lies.
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Why should you let this person have the satisfaction of effecting you? Why should you care what they say or think?
Obviously this Hilary person isn't someone you even care about, so who cares if she thinks you are a whore or bisexual? You definitely shouldn't.
Next time you get a note like that, just wad it up and throw it in the trash. Don't let it get to you. Upsetting you is what they feed on. If they don't think they are bothering you anymore, they will eventually get bored and move on to some other poor soul.
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If I spread a rumor about you being an alien that turns purple in the dark would you get upset? You would probably laugh about it and not let it affect you. The rumor about you being bisexual is like the rumor about you being an alien that changes color.
It's not true, cannot affect you unless you react, and other people who genuinely know you or those who don't won't put much stock in it. You're reacting to nothing really but allowing a falsehood uttered by someone else affect you.
The person who wrote the note did it to see you react. The sooner you stop stewing over this and go about your business the better. The people who started the rumor did it to see you react or get angry as that's what bullies thrive on.
Don't react the rumor is BS and anyone with a brain in that school will know that and not care. They'll forget about it in hours or days easily as long as you never react. When you don't react the people who created the rumor will move on to someone else that is an easier target.
Bottom line don't show emotion, anger or anything in the face of a rumor. Also consider the source of the rumor. Do the truly know you? What's their beef? What's their credibility? If they're someone not to give a damn about than don't.
Other people will see for themselves who you really are but getting to know you. You shouldn't give a damn about what anyone who doesn't know you has to say. You need to develop a thick skin for this kind of thing as you'll deal with it less but not being a target or someone who reacts to it.
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well most guys or some at least like bi girls. besides if you know its not true then it doesnt matter what everyone else thinks. the same thing happened to a guy friend of mine. but he just ignores it or laughs about it. so dont worry becasue there will always be a jealous b**** that wants to start rumors. so forget them!!!
SAM
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dont let what people think get to you. i know you hear it alot, but thats because its true. what they think doesnt matter, its what you know about yourself.
some guys even like bisexuals, cause they can be involved in threesomes, so dont worry about it. youll be fine.
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