about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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Ive been dating this guy for about 2 years and i feel like..idk that he doesn't care i mean he doesn't do anything cute (not like he ever did) hes been hanging out with his friends a lot more, it use to be me all the time everyday all day now its like me..for 10 min then me with his friends for the rest..i dont know if its me or if hes just freaking out alittle bit because hes about to go to college and none of his friends are gonna be around. Im still in highschool going to be a junior so i dont really understand his situation. I just want to know if you think its me or if it has to deal with college and if he still loves me..i just need someone to explain whats going on and why its not like all about me anymore.

Ok, you said he still calls you, which is a good sign. He goes to the mall with, which is also good. Maybe he just brings a friend with because he dosen't feel comfortable alone, or something?

But anyways...
He could be either:
A. Losing interest.
B. Moving on from the "spend every minute together" phase.
C. He's freaking out, like you said.

Option A- Does he act differently with you? Does he avoid you? Does he make up excuses not to spend time with you? Do you feel like the relationship isn't really "going anywhere"? If so, maybe he's losing interest in the relationship. I hate to say it, but it could be true =/
Option B- I've found that in most relationships, you begin with the stage where you want to hang out every single second, and always be together.
Sometimes, eventually, this stage dies down. You hang out less and spend less time together. But this isn't a bad thing! I personally think it's healthy to not spend all your time with one person. So, if he still acts like he did when you first started dating, this could be the problem. It's nothing to worry about, though.
Option C- He really feels strongly for you, but it scares him. Therefore, he thinks spending less time with you will gradually decrease these feelings. If he's going away to college, maybe he's afraid of getting too attachted and leaving you behind. Or, afraid of finding somebody else and hurting you in the process.
I know I gave you 3 totally different situations, and your safest bet would be just to ask him what's up and tell him how you feel. This way, you can get a straight answer from him and see why he doesn't spend as much time with you.
Good Luck!

-Laura. (15-f)

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Hi i was wonder..does anyone know any good hospital games for computer? (serious ones that you can work on the patients)
thanks :)

My mom has this game called Emergency Room. It's pretty sweet. Though, I don't play it, because I get grossed out by it sometimes. But I've seen my mom (whose a nurse, not a computer geek) play it.
We got it at Best Buy, I believe =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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Okay!!!
i'm sick of it!!
i mean... no offense BUT what's up with all these 14 and 15 year old girls thinking they are so old enough to have sex, like it's a casual thing.
I'm going to be 15 next week, and sex NEVER came in my mind to me, and I would never have it before i turned at least 20
yea... i know call me a holy person or crap... but seriously!! why are people doing it SO young...
They are still kids
I was reading all these questions about sex... and they are from like 14 and 15 year olds
THAT'S RIDICULOUS
i'm not trying to lecture or anything now here's my serious question....

I am getting to know guys now, and gonna be dating them....... now i'm kind of afraid that they'll all want sex and pressure me into it..
I'm not like that... i'm saving it
And the one thing i'm worried about is that if i don't give it... he'll take it from me

I mean, i don't care if i have to break up or lose them just bc they want sex... i just don't want to be taken advantaged of... y'know?

Help?

Thx for reading.... sorry it's sooo long

I agree. I'm 15, and sex is the farthest thing from my mind. Not to sound like a total geek, but I'm focusing on school =]
I personally, am saving myself, but the girls on here who are our ages and do choose to have sex, kind of just make me feel bad for them.
But it's their choice, their bodies, let them do what makes them happy, I guess?
As for the guys that pressure you, they aren't worth it. Honestly, the one that deserves you, is the one who respects you. Just wait it out, and find a guy who won't pressure you, it'll be soo worth it ion the end!
And Kudos to you for being like me! I'm glad to know there are some pure girls like myself out there =D

-Laura. (15-f)

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Okay.. Im not having a baby and im not planning on having one im just wondering who belives in abortion. I've asked and people have said it *depend* well then what makes it right and what makes it murder? Like if you were raped.. or something in general **forced** in my opinion makes abortion look like a way out which should be tooken. But if the girl runs around fucking anything and just doesn't want a baby that makes it wrongg...
So im just wondering what your opinion is on it.

My opinion on abortion will never change. I feel, it is wrong. Very wrong. It's taking away an innocent life before it even gets the chance. You never know, that baby could've changed the world.
That baby could've made an impact, it could've done something. But no, it's life is cut short, because somebody thinks they made a mistake. Because somebody thinks it's the easy way out, when it's really anything but. It's the coward's way out. It's the mother killing their own child's way out.
The ONLY exception, is if you got raped. I mean, if you're 14 and get raped by a neighbor or at a party, that wasn't your choice, it wasn't your fault. Though I still think it's wrong, it's the only way that I would'nt despise the person who decides to abort their baby.
But if you sleep around and get pregnant on accident, that's your fault. It was your choice to sleep with the person/people you did. You made your bed, now lay in it.
All in all, I'm basically against it, with very few exceptions. There are other options, adoption, for instance, ya know? =]
I hope I didn't offend you or anybody on this site. *Sorry if I did.

-Laura. (15-f)

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What is that song in the Kohl's commercial? Who sings it and what's the name of that song? Some of the lyrics are like "cause I'm awesome, that's right!", it does that at the end.

"Because I'm Awesome" by The Dollyrots.

-Laura. (15-f)

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Yesterday I started breaking out in hives... or something. I have red bumps on my back and along my right arm and they itch.
Thing is that i havent eaten anything out of the ordinary.. and as far as ive known, ive never been allergic to anything.
We checked my bed for bed bugs, but still nothing.
I had chickn pox when i was young..
Any ideas as to what it could be?

only search advicenators.com


It could be a reaction from something you physically sat or laid down in, also.
Allergic reaction to a medicine, maybe?
Hope it helps.

-Laura. (15-f)

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Its my first time putting in a tampon today and im 13 so i put it in and i know i put up far enough but it hurt and when i sat down it hurt even more!Whats wrong? i need help bad

Well, the person below me said something I strongly disgree with,
"push it up farther into your vagina. trust me. the string won't be "too short" & the tampon won't get "lost" in your body."

Yes, it can get lost in your body, I've seen it happen. Not to me, but to somebody I know personally. And it was not a good thing.
If it gets lost, you risk getting toxic shock symndrome. I don't mean to scare you, but you can die from TSS.

I suppose it could just hurt because it's your first time using one.
Since you're young, I'd just say to switch to pads. Much less painful.

-Laura (15-f)


EDIT:
Don't rate me a 2 and not give me a reason.

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how do you write objective for the position of cashier?

I did a project for school and I put,
"To gain cashier skills, be nice to customers, and have a positive influence on the store all around."
or something like that. Good Luck =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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what are your favorite songs by:
third eye blind
3 doors down
saosin
rise against

thanks

3 Doors Down- Oh dang. Drawing blank. The video has Jesse Mcalfe in it? "You love but you don't know who I am." I'm sorry I sound like an idiot. Hopefully you know which one I'm talking about.

Saosin- Voices. all the way. I love that song.

Rise Against- Swing Life Away. Always liked it.

=]

-Laura. (15-f)

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Im goin into 5th grade and im scared and i dont know who and what class im goin to be in what should i do??

5th grade is nothing. And you're too young to be on this site.

-Laura. (15-f)

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why is it bad to wash your face more than 2-3 times a day? when people say that do they mean not to wash your face with cleanser more than 2-3 times a day?


and is it okay to splash water on your face a lot throughout the day to get all the oils off?

It's bad because it can dry your skin out. It's ok to splash water on your face, but don't get all the oil off. Your face will dry out. You need some oil to act as a moisturizer for your face.

-Laura. (15-f)

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is it a phobia if whenever you walk in the dark or something, you always look behind you? I'm not sure why, but when i walk up the stairs when the lights are turned off, i keep looking behind me. I'm not afraid of the dark or anything. am I just being paranoid? thanks in advance!

I am the same way. I think it's a mixture of:
- a terrible fear of the dark. (if you are like me, you literally cry when in total darkness).
- paranoia. (we must watch toom any scary movies ;])
Basically, I think you're fine. Other people, like myself for example, are like this, too. so don't worry about it =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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Hey my problem is thats my best friend is going out with this really nice guy but when we went to the fair( I show a horse) she saw this guy that got kicked out of our school for sexual harassment and now she has been walking around holding hands with him but she hasnt even broken up with her boyfriend yet what should I say to her!

thx
kj

Is she aware of the fact he got kicked out for sexual harassment? I don't mean to rude in any way, but what would she want to do with a person like that?
Regardless, remind her she has a boyfriend she can hold hands with. A good, nice boyfriend who didn't get kicked out of school for sexual harassment. Explain to her that you think (I'm hoping you agree here) that her current boyfriend is much better for her.
Or, if you want her to dump her current boyfriend (hoping you don't), then just explain to her that it isn't fair to either of the guys that she's flirting with them both.
I hope this helps =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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Hey everybody...Im new here,,but i really wanna share a story...so anyways my friend and i went to camp....she has never started here period. When we were at camp she had a huge brownish/red stain on her butt...all the girls were laughing! I pulled her over to the side and she got mad at me! She went to the bathroom and soon said sorry...Here is the bad part, so this camp was on a lake and we sawm ALOT..and this was only our 2nd day there! and she had to get "stuff" but she didnt know how to use a tampon...and the lady nurse was out, there was only a guy! so she asked me...I swear on tampons but i really fell uncomfortable...even though she is my bf! She ended up use pads and went canoeing...he boat fliped and there was white diapery stuf on her bathing suit! All the girl joked about it! we were tottaly out kasts!

...I see no question.
And it's "I'm" not "Im", "her" not "here", "swam" not "sawm" and "outcast" not "out kast" just to name a few. I know you're new, but next time, please check your spelling and grammer, and clarify a question.
Have a nice day =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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14/f (9th grade)

I need a tote bag for school. It doesn't have to be big enough to carry a bajillion books (i still have arms and boys :] ), but I want it to be able to carry some books and stuff.

I like PacSun's bags (minus black and a lot of them aren't big enoguh :[ ) and I kind of don't want to pay $40 for one (coughAbercrombiecough).

So can you give me a link or a place to look at some cute totebags?

Thanks.
-Hater of akward backpacks


Target and Hot Topic are my two favorites =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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what is some awesome techno? i love basshunter and benny bennaassi. Any good ones? Preferably foreign!!
thanks

Toy Box.
Cascada.
Th Medic Droid.
I'd just go to myspace music, and click techno:
http://topartists.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=music.topBands&genreID=53


-Laura. (15-f)

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Is it cancelled? i know the season finale of the simple life goes to camp just got aired but like is there going to be more Simple life's?

I've heard there aren't going to be anymore seasons. Sorry =/

-Laura. (15-f)

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are energy drinks bad for you? Why?
can they give you brain tumors?

( im NOT talking about how much sugar they have in there i could careless)

They're not good for you, but they're not bad enough to give you brain tumors.
The amount of sugar is the only bad thing about them. They give you energy, but then you crash.

-Laura. (15-f)

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Has weird al made a parody of Party Like A Rockstar yet?

Not that I know of.

-Laura. (15-f)

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I want to create a Quote site, where I can post up quotes, But I want something else, other than Xanga.com.

Any ideas?
Thanks! :)

Blogspot =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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