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Boys..
Ive been dating this guy for about 2 years and i feel like..idk that he doesn't care i mean he doesn't do anything cute (not like he ever did) hes been hanging out with his friends a lot more, it use to be me all the time everyday all day now its like me..for 10 min then me with his friends for the rest..i dont know if its me or if hes just freaking out alittle bit because hes about to go to college and none of his friends are gonna be around. Im still in highschool going to be a junior so i dont really understand his situation. I just want to know if you think its me or if it has to deal with college and if he still loves me..i just need someone to explain whats going on and why its not like all about me anymore.
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It seems to me that your boyfriend is ready to go to college and is realizing he won't be with you alot at all when he goes.You have to be real with him.Realization that he does has friends and sometimes doesn't want to be with you 24/7.Yall need to talk things out and find out what yall both want out of the relationship,If he truely wants to spend time with you or just be with you.I'm in the same situation.My boyfriend is going to college while I'm in highschool still and as well going to be a junior.He lives right across the highschool though so it's easier,But I know that I won't see him as much.That I have to deal it and see how things go.Theres not alot you can do though.Figure out what you and him want to do.Hope I helped.
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Ok, you said he still calls you, which is a good sign. He goes to the mall with, which is also good. Maybe he just brings a friend with because he dosen't feel comfortable alone, or something?
But anyways...
He could be either:
A. Losing interest.
B. Moving on from the "spend every minute together" phase.
C. He's freaking out, like you said.
Option A- Does he act differently with you? Does he avoid you? Does he make up excuses not to spend time with you? Do you feel like the relationship isn't really "going anywhere"? If so, maybe he's losing interest in the relationship. I hate to say it, but it could be true =/
Option B- I've found that in most relationships, you begin with the stage where you want to hang out every single second, and always be together.
Sometimes, eventually, this stage dies down. You hang out less and spend less time together. But this isn't a bad thing! I personally think it's healthy to not spend all your time with one person. So, if he still acts like he did when you first started dating, this could be the problem. It's nothing to worry about, though.
Option C- He really feels strongly for you, but it scares him. Therefore, he thinks spending less time with you will gradually decrease these feelings. If he's going away to college, maybe he's afraid of getting too attachted and leaving you behind. Or, afraid of finding somebody else and hurting you in the process.
I know I gave you 3 totally different situations, and your safest bet would be just to ask him what's up and tell him how you feel. This way, you can get a straight answer from him and see why he doesn't spend as much time with you.
Good Luck!
-Laura. (15-f)
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