I'm Em.
I'm a 20 year old English/History student living in Sydney.
I dig art, music and books.
I'll take questions on relationships, friendships, high school, uni, or whatever else.
I try to give the best advice I can, usually drawing on my own personal experience. But I'm not perfect, and sometimes when I look back on some of my advice it's far from it (especially when I was 15 and writing LiKe THiS). It's just advice, though. It's not an answer or a solution, it's simply a potentially helpful perspective. And that's all I can offer you.
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so ill start from the beginning. i was at lunch upstairs with mii friends, because itsz pretty boring in the lunchroom. so i wrote on the board, just something random and true but still random and not pointed at any particular person. so then im dont and admiring mii graffiti. veronica comes up to me and asks me whos password i new...i told her the truth...i was dumb to. i told her i knew her password, thinking she trusts me enough not to hack into it and all, and i dont. so then shes like ok wat is it. i tell her and shes just pushing me into the wall but i didnt fight bak because it wouldnt do any good. she tried to make me tell her who told me, but the person who told me her password(dont mistake her, shes mii best friend, the bestest friend i ever had, which is a true friend)told me not to tell and i wouldnt have told anyways if she didnt tell me not to cuz i would get her into trouble. itsz mii fault that i told her the truth, and i dont want nobody else taking up all of it 4 me. so yea...i dont know what to do. please help! also tell me your opinion on what you think, do i deserve this? i know i didnt do the right thing, but i wouldnt lie. please tell me what to do! i rate high if u gimme good advice! well, the lowest would be a 3. (link)
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In everyones life, we do little stupid things that at the time seem insignificant, but after the implications, we realise how bad they were.
Writing something random on the board about knowing someones password seems like you were actually asking for this person to confront you and like you wanted them to know you knew.
Writing that on the board drew attention to you and Veronica acted in the way she did because of it.
Its not your fault she used some sort of physical force against you but causing trouble was created from you writing on the board in the first place.
its not the fact that you told your friend the truth, its that you somewhat provoked the situation.
It was just a rediculous thing to write something so stupid on the board, when it would most likely draw attention to the fact you knew someones password and that it wouldnt cause a problem, especially when your best friend swore you to secrecy.
Next time, i suggest you think about your actions before performing them.
I also suggest that you apologise to this Veronica girl.
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Its mainly the members of my family, its like I just dont want to be around any of them, and I am constantly annoyed at nearly everything they do. My mother and father are split up, and I spend the weekend with my dad, and the week with my mom. And occasionally I visit my grandparents. Its like im the secret keeper, each "branch" (my mother/step-dad, father/step-mother, grandparents) of my family tell me negative things about one another, and tell me not to tell them. And I cant talk to anyone in my family about it because im afraid Ill just spill everything ive been told and everyone will start fighting. I have my own problems without being a therapist to my entire family! (link)
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I come from a divorced family and my parents do that alot to each other to me, in the way they tell me all the bad things about each other to me.
Being a teenager i have multiple things on my mind and i really dont need to deal with all of that.
Im telling you this because i kind of know where your coming from.
Alot of the time i cant stand my family either, and i used to spend most of my time in my room or out with friends to stay away from them.
The fact is, is that your being brought into the middle of everything because your family doesn't have anyone else that will listen to them. Its not that they want this burden on you and they want to annoy u or put pressure on you, its simply because they just want someone to listen to them.
If its troubling you too much, then tell them.
Tell them that they shouldnt be telling you all of these negative things because the people they're talking about are your family and your loved ones, just like if they were saying bad things about your other family members that you wouldnt want to hear it. Tell your family how you feel, and dont worry about their quarrels, as long as your left out of it.
If your family need someone to talk to, tell them they should atleast be adults and try to talk to each other, or get therapy. I mean therapy in the most non offensive way possible.
Your family need to know the pressure they are putting on you before you explode.
Try to help them, but you can try to help yourself as well, dont feel guilty.
I think that advice was a bit all over the place but i hope it helped in some way.
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Lately, my girlfriend and I keep fighting. I get the distinct feeling that all her comments like I don't take anything seriously (which I only seem to because she takes everything seriously, and I thought that was something about our relationship balance, I'm mellow and she's rigid).
We had a fight about names for kids (which I think shouldn't have been a fight since we haven't done to make children a factor in our lives). She thinks I never compromise anything while she has to give everything up.
Near as I can tell, I've compromised on more stuff like her. I freaking skipped out on a family member's birthday to help her find her wallet. I'm still making up for that in the eyes of my parents.
I'm a patient guy. I try to be understanding. But I need to know if all these stupid fights are a sign that she doesn't want to be with me anymore, even subconsciously.
Help? (link)
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You will never find out if she wants to leave you unless you ask her, but with that in mind, it's probably not the way to go about things.
This reminds me alot of my relationship with my boyfriend. I'm not a love guru but i am a bit like your girlfriend in the way i tend to make everything seem my boyfriends fault and im too stubborn to accept any of it is mine.
Mostly i say things to him that i dont really mean, alot of it because im a bit of an emotional person and he always seems to upset me at the wrong time.
It could be probable that she may be bothered by something that may not even be related to you.
Dont doubt your relationship though. If you keep thinking she may leave you, you might bring it into an argument and it might end your relationship.
Talk to her about how you feel and the things she says. Confront her. Tell her the things you do for her and how it's not just a one sided argument. You dont have to provoke the argument just stand up for yourself and dont let her walk all over you.
To girls like me, i need my boyfriend to confront me when im blaming him when im also at fault, and i realise what ive done and apologise.
I cant possibly tell you if she is leaving you or not, but if this is troubling you, sit down and have a calm talk to her.
Sorry i couldn't be of any more help, i hope it all works out.
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Okay So I have the messanger off of msn, and me n my crush (let's call him "Joe") chat on there about every other day or so. But the thing is I don't know what to say. I LOVE talking to him, but where i have this crush & all I tense up.
What do guys like to talk about. What should i Say? ( he goes 2 a different school so i can't talk about that)
WHAT WOULD YOU DO>......... HELP!
plz/thanks
-a.m.l (link)
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Okay first of all, Calm Down!
This guy can't see you when you talk to him and if you say something that makes the conversation awkward you can avoid seeing him quite easily, unless hes a friend of a friend or something.
Choose common conversation starters like, "how was your day?" "What did you do today?". You could even ask questions like "have you seen [common movie title here]?". starting with very general conversation, you can pick up on things and branch out. For example, "what did you do today?" "I saw a movie with my friends" "What movie?" "The lion king" "really? I want to see that. is it any good?" or talk about his friends "Cool, are you still friends with [insert a guy you think is his friend]?"
Find common interests like music, school subjects or talk about mutual friends and then branch out from there. Dont worry so much about what you'll say, just say whatever feels most comfortable and right.
Hope you have a nice long conversation with "Joe" =]
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I just broke up 3 months ago with my bf ,we had been dating for about 4 years .It was a chaos in our relationship because his parents always had something to say in our relationship and he allowed them to, ques he wasn't mature enough for me ,..so we broke up...(let's call him mr.kel)
6 years ago I had another boyfriend ,(lets's call him mr.right )
He was my first love ,my first everything ..I never really got over him and we never even broke up,..I had to move to another land and ques we lost contact and he even got kids ,We both kept moving forward with our lifes but. Last year (december)I went back to my island and we met again,and it was like love at first sight again ,(by that time I already broke up with mr.kell) we went out and it was fun and I loved every minute of it ,seems like my life made sence again .
Well than I had to come back and I left him there again ,..I was happy I saw him but at the same time I had like a weird feeling ,like I thought that this was not meant to be beacause he has his life and kids and stuff ,so I gave up every hope of me and him being back toghether and I came back with a broken heart...
Last month he called me and tell me that he didn't want to tell me the truth while I was over there because I was on vacation and he didn't want to ruin it .
He told me that he was unhappy and that his life is a living hell and that sometimes he even thinks in putting an end to his life(this I know for shure)
I was shocked,.....since then we talk to each other every single day and I'm convince that I meant or still mean something to him....
Last week he told me that he is giving everthing up to come and live with me ,....
People help ,....it supose to make me happy but instead I'm really afraid that he might be using me ....what can I do to make shure he's not using me......I just got out of a tragic relationship I don't want to screw things up again,........But on the other side I really want to have him back .....
HELPPPPPPPPP
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This 'mr.kel' seems to be just a memory and i dont think anything else needs to be said about him.
Mr.right though, is different.
This guy, has had a family.
He made a decision to be with another woman instead of pursuing you and he has to deal with that commitment and not run away from it.
HE needs to deal with his past by himself and not bring you into his chaotic life.
In the end, it's basically up to you what to decide.
He is still a father and that means he has to care for his kids. And it makes you think, if you had children with you, would he just abandon them too?
The fact is he has a life that he can't run away from. Maybe if he negotiated with whatever woman he spawned children with that they visit him whenever.
He isn't the only fish in the ocean, he's just the one caught in your seaweed, once you untangle him, will he swim away or stay?
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Hi I am 14 years old. So here is the story.A few months ago we got new neighbors. One is 16 years old. A bunch of neighborhood kids hang out all the time. So one day I found out that he liked me and was going to ask me out. I said I just wanted to be friends. Then later on i kind of started to like him and I still do. He knows it too. But for some reason he doesn't like me back now. But he still flirts with me. So I lied and said that a guy asked me out and i said yes. I wanted to see if he would get jealous. I think he did a little but I am not sure. I want him to ask me out again . How do I know if he likes me that way? I am confuesed. And if he doesn't like me anymore how do for some reason how do I get him to like me again? (link)
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Ok lying is a mistake many people make when they are desperate to see if a guy likes them and all girls do it some time in their life time. You have to tell this guy that you lied and tell him you like him. You cant MAKE people like you its their feelings. The only way you can know if he likes you is to ask him. He might still like you, you never know, but if he doesnt you cant change that and ull have to move on.
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well first of, sorry if this is not in the correct category haha
ok
i am 1 1/2 weeks late in my period... i am normally not late... i have always been a very paranoid and stressed person when it comes to pregnancy...my stomach has been feeling sick lately and i have going pee an awful lots of times a day compared to how much i normally go.. now i dont know if me peeing a lot and being late are leading to the same thing(im pregnant) or do you think it is all in my head... i have been known to over think things.. such as for example .. sometimes i get so stressed and paranoid that i might be pregnant, my body gets stressed also and i amthe cause of me being late... im not sure if this is the same because it has been 1 1/2weeks and i think that is kind of a long time... do you think this is all in my mind? the peeing all the time, and my stomach hurting?? (link)
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Theres multiple reasons for what could be happening. It's very common for all girls to experience lat periods or even miss a period altogether. It's normal and usually happens to most girls in their lifetime. I've been up to about 2 - 2 1/2 weeks late for my period its totally normal. The stomach hurting could be just cramps because your about to get your period and the constant peeing could be if your drinking more liquids or if your being so stressed out your body is trying to relieve that stress by releasing your bladder.
If its bothering you so much visit your local chemist and ask for a pregnancy test. It is embarrassing but it's better to know just in case. Confide in an adult your trust about your issue and if your really embarrassed ask them to get it for you.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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i've been going out with my boyfriend for three months. My parents don't approve of his family though so if i wanted to go to his house i'd lie to my own parents about where i was going and then sneak over to his house. Last time i went there i felt so guilty i felt i was gonna be sick. And lately whenever i talk to him i get really irritated and grumpy. Does anyone know what's going on with me? (link)
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This happens to me sometimes when i talk to my boyfriend. Sometimes when i talk to him or i'm with him i just get frustrated and mad at him for no reason.
This is happening to you because your stressed out. Your feeling guilty for lying to your parents and your probably blaming part of that on your boyfriend but subconsiously dont want to admit it.
Also, it could be PMS.
Tell your boyfriend you just need afew days to yourself to relax. Spend those days doing things you like or just bummin' around the house sleeping and watching tv.
If you keep feeling guilty, the only way to cure that is to tell your parents. They aren't going to hate you. You will probably be grounded for a while and they might not trust you for a bit but in time they will trust you again.
Love, xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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Alright, me and my boy have been together a year + a week or two. Like three days ago, i broke up with him. He was suppose to hangout with me, not, lets call her "tamms". Tamms is one of my bestfriends, as well as his. They didn't do anything together though. The reason was he was suppose to spend the day with me, not her. It's a stupid reason because this has happend before but this time I really got mad cause i cancelled plans for the boyfriend. I always get jealous when he talks to other girls, [we have alot of girls in our neighborhood, boyfriend lives three blocks away] I still love him, and i know he loves me. But if i cant contain my jealousy issue, i dont want to get back together with him. I've cheated on him once in the past and that was the worst mistake I ever made, but we got past that. Sorry it was long. Comments advice or opinons would be appreciated. (link)
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Every girl now and again gets jelous when their man talks to other girls, even bestfriends. The fact was, he should have spent the day with you like you 2 had planned. If you really loved him then you should have given him another chance or talked to him about it asking him why he didn't show up and spent the day with another girl. It's suspicious that he would want to spend the day with her if he's already made plans with you.
If you still love this guy, then go after him. Tell him how you feel, about your jelousy, and he could take you back. Or, and as hard as it is, you can move on. This guy might still want to be with you and he might not. Give it a shot and if it doesn't work out, atleast you tried.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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ok..so if you straighten your hair like evreyday..or almost everyday..will your hair be like gross and damaged? and if it does happen how long does it take? because i straightened my hair for a whole semester like everday! and this week i straightened it everyday! so what happens? (link)
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straightening your hair everyday over a long period of time does leave you with split and dry ends. I straighten my hair alot and it's not that bad i've been straightening it regularly over about 2 years and it does get damaged unless you give your hair a break now and then and use proper hair products such as good quality shampoo and conditioner. I got blonde streaks in my hair and because the bleach dried it up and i was straightening my hair the ends were really dry and horrible but i got a trim and my hair was back to normal. If your using a good quality hair straightener and using leave-in conditioner before or after u use it, your hair won't be that bad. It can also get frizzy so try to evenly spread out your days so you could straighten your hair for 3 days and maybe leave it for like 3 or 5 days.
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Please only answer this is you CURRENTLY HAVE OR HAVE HAD a wolf hybrid. I've done my reading any everything, but how are their temperments? Do they make good pets? Do they still act like a wolf? Any info. on them would help if you currently have or have had a wolf hybrid, thanks! (link)
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My grandparents had a red kelpie cross wolf and it was the sweetest dog ever and kind of stupid lol. He was a wildish dog and does need alot of area to run around in and taken on walks and to run around in parks regularly. Sometimes when me and my brother would play ball games with him like fetch he does get a little over excited and bite your hands trying to get the ball but it wasn't that serious. Unless provoked or getting over excited wolf hybrid breeds don't get to out of control.
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okay ive been dating this guy for a while and i love him more than anything in this world but for some reason i start fights with him over the stupidest things like his driving and stuff...its dumb but i want to know how to solve my fighting obbsession (link)
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Omg i do that with my boyfriend ALL THE TIME. We always have fights then end up cuddling each other and kissing and saying sorry.
Before you start arguing or fighting, stop and think to yourself. Think "is it really worth fighting over?". Sometimes you just need to keep silent and soon you'll forget about it. It's just about self control. You need to control yourself when your saying things. Say the things your going to in your head first before you say them and think how he will feel if you said it to him. Put yourself in his shoes.
Theres no medication or therapy for these things, you just need to control what you say and how you act.
Believe me, there is so many stupid fights i could have with my boyfriend but if i just stop and think to myself 'is it worth it?' i just think 'no' and stop myself and 10 minutes later i've forgotten all about it.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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About 5 years ago my brother Barry brought home a kid named Cory. Barry brought him home so he could work on the ranch with my family. He was just staying for 2 weeks but then ended up staying for 5 years. In this time my cousin (Bailey) who was 14 and Cory 24 started dating. They kept it secret, but it went on all the time. All this time Cory had become my brother. My brother Barry died 2 years ago from a drunk driver. He was 24. Bailee was 16 and Cory was 26 My whole family and Cory watched him die. Before we were told that Barry would not make it, Cory and Bailey were hugging and I saw them. She was crying and Cory was crying too. I gave Cory a hug and my cousin and I kept telling him he had to stay. We both knew my brother wasn't going to make it. Cory promised me so many times that he would not leave me or the family. Well I was 13 at the time. So about three days later they turned off life support and my mother, 2 other brothers, and my dad watched him die. Now Bailey is 18 and Cory is 28. They finally told everyone about the dating situation. Well Bailey is going off to college and Cory is going back to college with her. I'm so jealous. I'm 15 now. He is like my brother and I hate that Bailey is taking away all I have left of Barry. Barry and Cory were really good friends and they were so much alike and Cory promised Barry on his death bed that he would take care of me and HE'S LEAVING!!!! He should stay with me. I love him sooo much(as a bro). I want him to stay i'm so jealous. And I think she is a stupid bitch for taking him from me. I don't know what to do. It's killing me. I'm so upset. Please any advice will help. (link)
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You need to let go. Cory will always be a brother to you and so special and your going to see him now and again but its not your choice what he does with his life.
You have to understand that Cory needs to move out and embrace the world with his love. I know it must hurt so much for you but he cannot possibly stay forever by your side.
Right now you need to stay strong and positive. He is and will always be your brother at heart and you can't blame your cousin from taking him away from you because they are just making their lives together now.
As a sister and cousin you need to be there for both of them. You need to accept they want to be together with each other.
Theres nothing really you can do to stop them and you can't stop them because its their decision. They are moving on in their lives as you will soon to.
Love xXxPunKi-PiXiExXx
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I'm a 17 year old female. I didn't have my first boyfriend until earlier this year...first kiss, first many things (still a virgin though). I was a late bloomer. There's nothing wrong with me, I was just very shy and wasn't LOOKING for a boyfriend. I'm now single again, and interested in finding someone else. I'm not NECESSARILY looking for a new relationship, though. I'm perfectly happy just hanging out and making out, basically. :] But whatever happens, happens.
I've been interested in this guy I work with, "David", for about a month and a half. He was obviously interested in me even before he met me because he asked people about me, trying to find out what he could, and talking about being interested in getting to know me. When I started working we flirted and hung out, nothing big. Then he told a friend of ours that he likes me, but he's not ready to be in a relationship right now. Well, I'm cool with just getting to know him, but he has a little trouble calling me back when he says he's going to. I don't know whether he's no longer interested or what his deal is, but it pisses me off and I'm done trying so hard so early. I'm putting too much of an effort and he's not even trying, so I'm not waiting around for him if he doesn't even care enough to make an effort to talk to me.
I've been on vacation for almost two weeks and have only talked to "David" a few times. He told me he was going to call me and never did TWICE. I'm not going to make a nuisance of myself, so I'm not going to call him again, but I will see him when I go back, considering I work with him.
Well while I've been gone, I've been talking to two other guys, "Sam" and "Ray", on the phone. I met them on MySpace but they live near me and I've been talking to them on the phone for a little while. They both want to hang out with me, and they both seem cool so I will. "Sam" works a lot, is very responsible and respectful but still knows how to have fun. We just talk about normal stuff on the phone and he seems really cool. The only thing is that he's a typical southern boy (rebel flags and all) and like I said, he's ALWAYS working. "Ray" is a typical guy and obviously thinks he's going to get to fool around with me. He asks me lots of personal questions and then says he doesn't want me to think he's "perverted". He's really funny and cute, but not boyfriend material at all.
I'm not looking for some serious commitment, so it's not like these guys have to be husband material or anything. I just want to hang out and have fun, so I'm going to hang out with both of them after I get home.
"David" gets jealous when other guys hit on me or are into me. It's like he's keeping me on hold until he's ready, which is not cool. I like him SO much, but the phone problems really make me second guess it all. He's the only one of the three that I could actually see myself dating, but it's just too much work. I guess I'm just asking for thoughts on all of this. Should I hide the whole "Sam"/"Ray" thing from him or put it out in the open to show him that I'm not going to wait around for him? Also, should I let him know I was pissed about him saying he was going to do something and then not doing it TWICE or should I act like nothing ever happened? Should I play hard to get or still try to hang out with him and be the only one trying at all?
I just want opinions on my situation and what YOU would do. (link)
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Kinda long there lol. I have a boyfriend currently, love him with all my heart and he loves me just as much, but he sometimes forgets to call me when he tells me he is. I know for a fact almost EVERY guy forgets things like that. Us girls will be saying "oh my god i cant believe him what a jerk" but it's just a guy thing. He could be nervous or shy to call you as well.
Don't get caught up in this guy if you don't think anythings going to happen to soon. If i really liked this guy and i didn't think it was going anywhere i'd either ask him straight out if he wants to go out with me or leave it. Even if he's said hes not ready for a relationship theres always a chance he'll say yes.
These guys seem a bit..fishy to me. Frankly, you can hang out with whoever you want but if your going to hang out with 2 guys you havent met in person before bring a friend along just incase and meet in a public area.
Who you hang around is YOUR buisness. If your talking to him and you want to tell him, then go ahead. You could be at work and just causally bring it up like "i'm meeting up with these guys on the weekend what are you doing?". You and him arent an item so you dont have to tell him everything about your personal life.
If you wanted to, you could invite him along when you meet these two guys.
i think you should just relax and enjoy yourself. If hes to much effort, then dont bother! If its meant to be, it will happen.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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there is this guy that i kinda rellay like...we went out a long time ago and then we stopped tlaking bc he kinda sorta cheated on me. like he asked me to go out with him but i knew that i wouldn't be able to hang out with him bc my mom is wayyy to overprtective and doesn't let me date and i pretty much skean out when i wanna do sumtin. so i said no, and told him that i had to get to noe him first. then when i came to school one day he told me that he found someone else...so i kinda gave up on that. but i still had feeling for him. then about a year later ((now)) i find out that he wants to hang out with me. and ofcourse i cant bc of my overprotective mom and i still like him. i have his number and he has mine and hes called me a few times. then we stopped talking again. i found out that i am moving and idk if i should still like him or just move on, bc i still like him, and he was kinda my first boyfriend. all my friends are like LET IT GOOO DAMMIT! so they didn't really help me. so pleaseeeee help. (link)
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Your first boyfriend is a huge deal, and he will always be a part of your heart, but i think it's about time you moved on. With my first boyfriend, even a year or so later i still considered my feelings for him but i knew those feelings were not the same as before, i just loved the time we spent together but now i have moved on to someone else.
This guy has cheated on you before and the fact that sometimes he talks to you and sometimes he doesn't hasn't really led you 2 to regain that trust again. The problem you currently have is that you could hardly see him and you moving will make that worse. It's time to let go of him and to move on to greater and better things.
You can remain friends with him but make sure you BOTH know its JUST friends.
It will take some time and sometimes you might think you still love him but the fact is you will always love him because he was your first boyfriend but now you need to let go of him. After time, you will begin to feel better. It might take a while but i promise you will.
My final advice to you for your future is to do what you want to do and what your intuition is telling you, wether that be in relationships or not. Only you can really tell if enough is enough and that it is time to move on, but if u try to ignore that fact that it is over, you will continue to be hurt and happiness will fade away.
Just go out there and meet new guys and have fun!
Enjoy yourself! Don't let your mind dwell on what once was, take life as it is.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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about 4 years ago all the guys i new at school hated me, and i cried just about everynight. slowly we became friends again, im frineds with them now. im confused aobut guys and trust, does that have anything to do with it? (link)
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Most girls when they're 10 don't worry about guys until later in life so it boggles me why you would get so upset over them but that doesn't matter.
As your friendships and relationships with males develop your ability to trust them will slowly and gradually increase. The male species is a mystery to every woman.
In other words, nothing wrong with you everyone gets confused about guys and you just need to relax and dont think so much about guys (as hard as that is). Just smile and be happy! Not fake happy but real happy! Your making friends and with the opposite sex (go you!) so just think positive about whatever situation your in.
Im sorry if i didnt answer whatever your question was i didnt quite understand it.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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okay, so i REALLY want to crimp my hair, just put mouse in it or gel or something, but my hair over curls, so it ends up getting really big
is there any way to prevent this? (link)
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Before you go out for whatever occasion you planning on doing your hair for, see how long it takes to get it the way u want. Doing your hair a while before your going out will give it time to settle. During the time your out it will end up going down a bit and getting the way you want so don't worry. Take your curler off your hair a minute or two before you would normally take it off and if its not curly enough then just re do it. Using professional hairspray before and after you curl your hair when you know how to get it perfect will help you keep it that way longer.
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well don't take this the wrong way because im NOT slut at all...i'm 17 almost 18 and i've been with 2 guys..but i always ask myself this question... if you have a boyfriend and you have sex frequently not like ALL THE TIME but about once a week..sometimes less then that and then u guys break up and u don't have sex with anyone for a couple months does like the whole in your vagina get smaller and tighter again? i don't wanna sound nasty or anything but i was really just thinking about this question and i couldn't find the answer on the internet. (link)
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Well by reading the past advice obviously it doesn't tighten up but there are 'vaginal exercises' to help tighten it up. Usually after you've given birth or if your having sex regularly you do these exercises by contracting your vaginal muscles and after time they become tighter. Lol your not a slut for doing it with 2 guys and no one is going to judge you on this site so don't worry about saying that.
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I have this friend, lets call him Bob. Well now I'm on summer vacation and we dont talk. We used to talk in school all the time. After school and now all I do is think about Bob. I have no physical attraction toward Bob though. Bob just has a great personality. Bob could always make me laugh, and I was confused on wether I liked Bob for a bit, but I thought well I dont because I dont think he's physically attractive. And I base everything on looks. Bob gave me his number,but I dont call bob, bob dont call me. But what the heck, I CANT stop thinking about Bob. I dont want to like Bob though. I least I dont think I do. What should I do ? and do I like like him ? (link)
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Normally your basing wether you like someone or not on how they look which is shallow but anyways. You found this guy who has a great personality but might not be goodlooking and your confused because you dont know why your having feelings for him.
You like this guy. You like him because of who he is rather than what he looks like. Call him. Talk to him. Try to hang out with him.
Not everything is about looks and usually when you like someone on their personality their appearance grows on you and you end up loving it.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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I REALLY like this guy. [lets call him Frank] I've known him only for about a month or so but we talk alot [on myspace, rarely on the phone] and his friend told my friend that he liked me and my friend told his friend that I liked him too. [sry if that was confusing] So, I was happy and figured that if we both liked eachother that we would go out soon. That was about 2 weeks ago and then 'Frank' was talking to a different one of my friends on myspace and I don't know the whole convo but he told her that he didn't like anyone at the moment. I'm really confused, I really like this guy and I would have already asked him out or something but one of my biggest fears is rejection and i couldn't handle it if he said no. We've only hung out twice [he lives about 30 minutes away from where I do so its kind of hard to hang out] but a week ago I asked him if he wanted to hang out again sometime and he said yeah but not that upcoming weekend but maybe the next [whick would make that this weekend] we haven't really talked about it after that and tomorrows Friday. I'm just wondering, how do I ask him (again) if he wants to hang out without sounding desprate or something like that? Like, how would I word it?
thnx so much. (link)
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Honey, everyone goes through rejection during there lives and as hard as it is, you have to face it. One of my fears was being rejected and i do know it is hard to overcome and to accept but it is well worth it. I have been to scared to ask out guys before and just ends up me feeling sorry for myself and regreting never asking them.
Next time you talk to him ask him if he likes you. If he says no its not the end of the world i promise. But he could say he does like you then ask him out! he does live a bit far away but if he loves you it wont stop him seeing you. He might not have wanted to tell that other person he likes someone because he might be shy.
Just go in there and ask him! It is hard and i know to ask someone out in fear of rejection but if, IF, it does happen it is easier to get over because your not thinking "does he like me? did i lose my chance?" You just feel really sad for a while but i promise it will get better.
If you find it just way to hard to ask him out then say "Hey i was wondering if you wanted to go with me to the movies (or watever) this weekend." Just sound casual about it.
Once you have typed those words "Will you go out with me?" You will be like 'Omg im such an idiot why did i say that' but a part of you will be saying 'yes i finally did it'.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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