|
Its like I cant stand anyone around me
Its mainly the members of my family, its like I just dont want to be around any of them, and I am constantly annoyed at nearly everything they do. My mother and father are split up, and I spend the weekend with my dad, and the week with my mom. And occasionally I visit my grandparents. Its like im the secret keeper, each "branch" (my mother/step-dad, father/step-mother, grandparents) of my family tell me negative things about one another, and tell me not to tell them. And I cant talk to anyone in my family about it because im afraid Ill just spill everything ive been told and everyone will start fighting. I have my own problems without being a therapist to my entire family!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Health & Fitness category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
Tell each one of them how you feel and how they have made you feel by telling you all of things they continue telling you. Let them know that you don't appreciate it and that it has to stop. Let them know that you have other things on your mind and don't have room for the things they are telling you and that you refuse to allow them to make you have a mental breakdown as each one of them seem to be having, and who knows it could be due to someone doing the same thing to them. A family counselor would also help and do wonders because there are some issues and concerns that need to be addressed within your family so that they can keep you out of it and let you enjoy your life!
FYI- Normally jacked up things that go on within families are generational curses, which mean that they have always gone on even before you were born and if someone doesn't break it now, it will continue to go on even after you are no longer here..
Good Luck! and I do commend your strength for dealing with this the way you have been now. It'll get better once you voice your true inner feelings!
]
I come from a divorced family and my parents do that alot to each other to me, in the way they tell me all the bad things about each other to me.
Being a teenager i have multiple things on my mind and i really dont need to deal with all of that.
Im telling you this because i kind of know where your coming from.
Alot of the time i cant stand my family either, and i used to spend most of my time in my room or out with friends to stay away from them.
The fact is, is that your being brought into the middle of everything because your family doesn't have anyone else that will listen to them. Its not that they want this burden on you and they want to annoy u or put pressure on you, its simply because they just want someone to listen to them.
If its troubling you too much, then tell them.
Tell them that they shouldnt be telling you all of these negative things because the people they're talking about are your family and your loved ones, just like if they were saying bad things about your other family members that you wouldnt want to hear it. Tell your family how you feel, and dont worry about their quarrels, as long as your left out of it.
If your family need someone to talk to, tell them they should atleast be adults and try to talk to each other, or get therapy. I mean therapy in the most non offensive way possible.
Your family need to know the pressure they are putting on you before you explode.
Try to help them, but you can try to help yourself as well, dont feel guilty.
I think that advice was a bit all over the place but i hope it helped in some way.
]
More Questions: |