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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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When I'm on my computer at night, all I do is msn and facebook. I've been getting quite bored with it. Is there anything else I can do? I've been playing solitaire and stuff like that, but that's about the only game I like. I like playing the sims though (hoping for the sims 3 any time soon!) So has anyone got any suggestions? :/

I don't know if you interested in mmorpg games but runescape is a fun game i use to play. Other then that i give advice on this website and on yahoo answers. Do you play the guitar or the piano? You can look up tabs or sheet music.

i'm 18 years old and i have a lisp, not the kind you usually hear but the kind when you talk and sh and ch sound different, and people always make fun of me. i've never had a boyfriend and i think that it's horrible, i always feel like i want to die because no guys like me. i don't think i'm ugly lots of people tell me i'm pretty some even say i'm beautiful and i do have some very good friends. but why don't guys like me?? i just don't know what is wrong with me besides my lisp.

Having a lisp shouldn't be a reason for guys not liking you. Just because guys don't come up to you doesn't mean they don't like you. And maybe your not the best at catching signs we give off? If there's a guy you like or are interested in then you should give him some signs. You shouldn't feel like dying you have good friends and you'll meet somebody

So me and my friend have been friends for over a year and we absolutely love each other, so this year there's this guy. Well call him skip so first my friend dates him, but only for a day because it was really awkward then they broke up a couple months later they start liking each other again and I'm really good friends with skip so we always talk and so my friend left for 2 weeks and in that time me and skip started liking each other so we were like w/e about my friend because she is known for Dating a lot of people and when she got back she was a little bad but bot bad because she met someone oN the trip she went on. Me and skip dated for a week and we were both really happy with each other buut idk what happened , I thin I found him too clingy or something really minor like that and I paniced and dumped him and a little whle after that I regretted doing it but he was reAlly hurt by it so I didn't tell any one. As time went on my friend forgot about that other guy and started liking skip again ( mean while I still regret dumping him but not telling anyon) and me and skip resovled things and are really good friends again. So skip asked my friend out and of course she said yes but while they were dating she cheated on him with one guy, which he found out about and after he found out she told me she would never do it again and I beliveed her but she did it twice MORE and he never did find out ( btw still regrtning dumping him stiiil) so this one guy that she cheated on skip with she started liking and a couple days ago she said she wants to dump skip and I was like are you sure ? And she said yea so I was like ok and she broke up with him yesterday and I texted him asking if he was ok and he said ya he doesn't care because she's different than he thought and we sorta talked about that then he asked me how my boy situation was going and I said not good and he's like why. And I'm like every guy I like doesn't like me and he's like that's not true ! I liked you and he listed people and I'm like ya I guess but I can never keep a relationship and he's like yA you can I liked you a lot but you just don't and I'm like ya that's the problem then I thought I HAVE TO tell him so I made him promise not to tell and he said that I'm his best fiend that is a girl so he would never tell so I told him and at first he didn't believe me and then when he did he said that it sucked when I broke up with him because he liked me quite bit and that it was unexpected ........... Was it right to tell him? And what if I like I'm now? I can't date him, my best friend just dated him for 3 months but what if I want to date him ? And in all what do I do about my whole situTion

If you want to date him then do it, your friend never cared about him. But before you do you might wanna think hard about what led you to breaking up with him, maybe even talk about it with him. You don't want that happening again. Good luck, hope everything works out

Since like third grade i have had pimples. I just wanna know how can you get rid of pimple scars?????

Moisturizer's help alot but here's a website with 3 way to get rid of scars, and some tips to prevent getting pimples and scars.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Scars-and-Cuts-Left-by-Acne

well iv'e been feeling that not many people like me recently.
i don't really see any signs.
but this guy that i would talk to forever online and at school asked me out. i said yes and broke up with him 5 days later because i do not want an online relationship.
he took it hard and hasnt talked to me since.
it makes me feel really bad about myself.
and that ill never ever find a guy.
cuz im too picky :/
ugh. please help in any way.
some advice.
thank you.

Breaking up with someone because you don't want a online relationship isn't really being picky, its understandable. But i don't really understand, didn't you say you would talk to him in school?
I don't know how picky you are when it comes to other things, but maybe you should put all the things you need to be happy on paper (No plus's things that you need). Mine would be nice, pretty, smart, honest, and no drug or alcohol use. If yours comes out to more then... 8 things then you should start crossing out some stuff. Send me your first and final list if you can. Gl

Okay so I'm a 15 year old girl and yeah, here's the thing. So there was this one guy I liked who I hung out with who seemed really sweet and we had been friends for like a year. Anyway, while we were chilling we started to make out. He started taking it too far and when I told him to stop, he didn't. I tried to get away from him, but I couldn't. I mean, I was physically not able to. He completely overpowered me and I got really scared! He wouldn't let go off me and he wouldn't listen when I told him to stop. Then I yelled. Of course, after he saw that I was serious he stopped and apologized. I don't think he meant to do anthing, but still, I was REALLY freaked out. I never want to feel that helpless and weak again, and it really makes me sad for girls who have been raped. Because if I'm feeling this bad from that, I can't even imagine what they're going through.

I'd just like to add that I'm in shape, and I'm strong and stuff, but I'm a fairly small girl, and I just can't change that. Also, I have taken self defesne classes which I thought would come in handy, but they didn't. At least not in this case. And the reason I take care of myself and took those classes is because I HATE that feeling I got when that boy did that to me. I hate feeling weak.

Anyway, the problem I'm having now is that I'm really scared around guys that are like bigger than me. I just look at them and I think 'He could do anything he wanted to me and I wouldn't be able to do anything about it'. I even think these things about my guy friends that I've known forever. It's almost like trust issues? But it's also this pissed off feeling I get when I think about all those guys who take advantage of girls like that one boy could have done with me. It really makes me angry. What goes through those guys's minds? Why do they do that? I mean, I know they just want pleasure, but they have to know that they are hurting those girls in ways that aren't just physical don't they? Like why would you do that to a girl? Aren't guys supposed to use their strength to protect us? If someone could answer those questions, that would be great, because at the moment I am just so mad.

Thanks!

I'm sorry that happened to you. You shouldn't be afraid of guys who are big. Before doing anything with a guy even kiss, you should be able to trust him and see what he's about. Yes I believe guys should protect women and there is no excuse for hitting a girl or cussing at them and especially not pushing or controling them to do something they aren't willing to do. That's the type of guys you should be looking for. And the next time a guy does something like that hit him where hurts, he'll be off of you in a second.

my boyfriend says hes been peeing blood but it happens like once a month, theres obviously something wrong but he wont get it checked because his drug addict mom is telling him its nothing, he drank like a glass of red koolaide and his mom said thats why his pee was red? but he said it was blood and she told him to get over it and it was nothing but just because you drink koolaid obviously its not going to turn your pee red thats like saying a drank blue koolaid and my piss turned blue.. how do i convince him something is wrong hes 20 years old .. and wont listen to me he thinks its nothing but i dont want him to have a little problem and then lead to something bigger if left untreated like kidney problems or something what do i do?

He has a urinary tract infection. He needs to go to a doctor, if untreated it will get to his kidneys. If he doesn't believe you then look it up with him on the Internet.

whats your favriote TV show?

I can't pick. I like that 70's show, house, and scrubs. Those are my favorites

firstly, I am 15/f.
I get alot of headaches. This is probably because I have to wear glasses, and when I forget to put them on or take them off for a sec my head starts to hurt. It could also be because I hit my head a couple weeks ago and it has been hurting sinse then (but thats kinda unlikely).

But it could also be because I have been feeling sad lately and its been making me feel physically down as well (this could be it, I'm not sure)

But either way I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions or techniques to make head aches go away. I am away from school today because my head is killing me and I don't like missing school so any suggestions would really help.

PS. I know some of u will say to talk about what is making me sad so that my pains will go away, but I am doing that already x]
and all I really need to know is remedies or techniques to make head pains and eye pains go away.

Thank you in advance and any suggestions are appreciated :)

Whens the last time you had your eyes checked? Your suppose to get a eye exam every year to see if your eye site has changed. If its changed significantly then this could be whats causing your headaches. If its not that then its probably just stress or the times you hit your head. Just take Tylenol, Motrin, or Advil when you get your headaches. They should go away soon. If you've had this headache for a week continually go see a doctor, you could have hurt your head worse then you think

at night its so hard to keep conversation go'n ....and i be so nervous because i dont want him to say imma call you back or "say somethingg!!"
i think about him all day , but as soon as we get on the phone, we would talk for 5 mins strong then its dead silence...... (he's 3 years older than me too)im 19 he's 22{that can smtimes be intimidating

Thats pretty normal for at first. It gets easy just think about things to talk about like how your day went. And that usually goes into something else. Gl

ok well im 16 and my boyfriend and i were both virgins when we decided to have sex. I knew that be fore me he had only gotten oral sex from other girls. i have been on birth control for a while now and we had had unprotected sex before and i have gotten a yeast in fection a while ago then a while after that cleared up we ahd sex again and i had discharge very similar to a yeast in fection but not itchy at all. That didnt clear up for a while but now just every once in a while i will get a white-ish looking discharge. I'm worried i might have an STD or something. what should i do?

White discharge is normal, you have nothing to worry about. What you should look out for if it's clumpy and smells bad, and yellow or green discharges.

ok i've had sex numerous times (with the same person who ive been datin for a mad long time) but the problem is i havent gotten my period this month and ive taken several pregnancy tests and they all came back neg. why havent i gotten it yet? i would talk someone but my mom would be so dissapointed because my sister had kids at an early age and i'm her "last hope" please tell me wats wrong

Well if you already know your not pregnant then you really don't have anything to worry about. Periods can change because of alot of things especially if your stressed out or worried.

To all guys...what atracts you the most to girls?....What turns you on the most about girls?....And what are some things a girl should have?
thanks

What first attracts me to a girl are eyes. And I like a nice smile. Turns me on? I'll just tell you some things I like. Physically: eyes, smile, long hair, not too short, not taller then me, not alot of make up. Not physically: talkative because I'm not, being shy at first is cute not a turn off, nice, a good self esteem not too high, funny, and different.

I was on the on the phone again with my guy friend and he was suppose to sing song to me..He sung this song called I love you...AFter he sing it,,he say: "Now I can't get this i love you sonf out of my head..I dont know why"

Is he hinting sumehing?
..how is this important?

Im pretty sure he likes you, i wouldn't sing a song with an "I love you" to any girl. You said he's a guy friend? So i dont think that he's hinting that he loves you but i do think he likes you.

Okay so I have this guy friend that I've been friends with since like before kindergarden, no lie! We had the whole first kiss in first grade thing, and stayed extremely close! Then in middle school we drifted apart. We were in the same classes in 8th grade and sat next to eachother in every class. We have the same sense of cruel humor, and make fun of everyone, haha. Last week we met eachother at the rope swing by the river (I know that sounds really country haha) swam and did all that, and when the sun was sitting he sang the song Then by Brad Paisley. We've told eachother we have strong feelings for eachother, but can't decide whether or not to stay friends or become an item. Help?
14/f

I think you should go out on a couple of dates first. Then if that goes well which it should, then be a couple. I see a lot of pro's and no con's
1. He seems like a good guy
2. You've know him since forever
3. Same sense of humor
4. Have been friends for a long time (Gives the relationship a much better chance at working)
5. And it seems like you can already trust him which is awesome
GL

Ok so i'm 16 ive never had sex. one day my bf was like fingerin me. it started hurtin really bad later i went to the bathroom and i had blood in my pants. DId he pop my cherry or somethin??????

There's no such thing as a cherry, do you mean hymen? Yes he did

okay so when me and my boyfriend dry hump i orgasm really quickly, then its like i wanna stop, but i feel bad cause i get him hard, then he gets blue balls right? do guys get blue balls everytime when they get hard and you don't let them cum? so is it mean of me to dry hump and not give him a hj/bj after?

and yes i'm one of those lucky few girls who orgasm fast by pretty much doing nothing lol

It depends if he's already had sex or masturbated before, not if you dry humped. And i wouldn't say its mean of you, when your ready to go that far then talk about it. But don't go that far just because you feel bad for him

can i be pregnant from pregnant...what are the chances?... me and my bf did the pull out method..and iam afraid to do the preg test cause iam scared what results i will get

Yes its possible, just take the pregnancy test to make sure its worse not knowing. And the pull out method is not at all safe. If your going to have sex i think the least you or he can do is buy condoms. Its safer then birth control and you have a less chance of getting pregnant

Apparently, my girlfriend did something that if she tells me what it was, I'll actually leave her.

I'm a very tolerant, and patient person. I'm very concerned about what she did, but I'm not going to push her to tell me. I am, however, pushing that we do couple counseling soon, so that we can be a better couple.

Point is, how would I tell if she cheated on me?

Hopefully you've found out by now, but if you haven't then you should tell her to tell you. You have every right to know whether to continue the relationship. If she cheated then she really regrets it. Some people can just hold it in, i think that says alot that she could even half way let you know. We'll if she did then its your call on continuing or not. Gl

16F

Could anyone list any good reasons why a guy would completely ignore a girl out of nowhere? Like this guy has known I liked him for several months andwe barely talked about it but we texted each other a couple of times and he truly made it seem like we were still good friends and out of nowhere he started ignoring me..it's been two weeks now. And he told my friend that it's because I'm boring and annoying but it really doesn't add up because in the conversations we had he was holding up the conversation more than I was, and it's relatively easy to tell when someone is annoyed with you and he wasn't. I did nothing wrong and I'm trying to move on from him but it's hard to when I have no idea what his issue is and he won't speak (I only texted him the first day it's started, and twice two weeks later, which is like friday and today. what I'm trying to say is I know my limit, I'm not nagging him to answer me). Also he completely freaked at my friend for telling me some of the things she told me he said about me (long story how he found out), like he completely FREAKED, and hes still mad now but he still is actually responding to her when she speaks to him...so if I did nothing wrong, why is he ignoring me? We've been past the fact that he knows I like him for a couple months, and that we were just friends. And me being annoying, and I admit i can be at times, hasn't stopped anyone from talking to me? And he's talking to someone that he's even angrier with? I mean he does tend to deal with things by not talking about them at all, but this is just ridiculous. It's just a really confusing frustrating situation and it seems simple to just move on and get over it but when someone is completely ignoring you out of the blue like that and you can't understand why its just not easy to. We were good friends and he was TRULY acting like it in the conversations we had before he started ignoring me. Can I just get some reasons of why someone would do this? Postive or negative, hurtful or logical, anything, just list anything you think could make sense.

There really isn't an excuse for just completely ignoring you since you were still just friends. But you did say that you liked him, did he say he liked you back? If he did then maybe he found something that bothered him about you. Maybe you got into talking about past relationships or maybe he found out about yours from your friend. That could be a reason. Another could be he's talking to an ex or another girl he "likes" and didn't want to lead you on. There could be alot of reasons think about the last things you talked about. And gl

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