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She says I'll leave her if she tells me
Apparently, my girlfriend did something that if she tells me what it was, I'll actually leave her.
I'm a very tolerant, and patient person. I'm very concerned about what she did, but I'm not going to push her to tell me. I am, however, pushing that we do couple counseling soon, so that we can be a better couple.
Point is, how would I tell if she cheated on me?
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Hopefully you've found out by now, but if you haven't then you should tell her to tell you. You have every right to know whether to continue the relationship. If she cheated then she really regrets it. Some people can just hold it in, i think that says alot that she could even half way let you know. We'll if she did then its your call on continuing or not. Gl
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Assuming things in a relationship and getting mad over them kind of leads to a downfall, a downfall that wasn't necessary! I suggest you sit her down one day and talk to her, tell her that you have been very patient and have waited for her to tell you, but she obviously hasn't that's why you're doing this right now. You can't force anything, just open the doors and be patient, something will come by. And if she says it is something that will make you leave her, ask her if it is something she is ashamed of, hear her answer, and then ask her if YOU should be the one that decides to leave or not. This is a relationship, obviously with two people, two people with equal rights, you deserve to know and she has to tell, it is just how a relationship works. First talk to her and TRY sort it out amongst yourselves, and then seek couple counseling, because to me, it'd just seem more personal and it could build your relationship with her, make it stronger, rather than bringing in a third party.
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Honestly, I agree with the person below me.
A relationship is supposed to be based on trust and communication. Neither of those two things are happening with yours right now.
Tell her that she needs to tell you and that you will be as patient and understanding as you can. And that you will try as hard as you can to work everything out.
But she really needs to tell you, because if it involves you, it's your right to know.
The signs that the person said below are pretty good indicators, but then again, it's never certain. Don't jump to conclusions until you know for sure what this secret is.
--Jack
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Ok well I don't think that there is a fool proof way to tell if she cheated. There are signs: her pulling away from you, not being where she is supposed to be, private phone calls, things like that. All of those things could mean something bad or could just be coincidence.
Obviously there are some communication issues in your relationship. Just because she has a secret doesn't mean that she is cheating or it has anything to do with your relationship.
I suggest that you tell its time to fess up, if she didn't want to tell you, she would have never mentioned it in the first place. Tell her that you wanna know and don't make any promises that you won't leave. You don't know how you feel about it. But if you all are gonna stay together you will need to be honest. The counseling is a good idea, I hope it works for you.
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