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Gender: Female
Location: Virginia
Occupation: stay at home mother/college student
Age: 29
Member Since: May 1, 2009
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Last Update: June 18, 2009
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21/f 5'5"
I have battled with my weight all my life. As a child, I was chubby and was bullied by my peers. In my early teen years, I suffered from an eating disorder, lost a lot of weight, and was very thin.
I started gaining weight at 16 and by the time I was 18, I was considered obese. At 19, I got down to 172 lbs (no longer obese, but still overweight) but then I gained it back. Now I'm just over 200 pounds, and I find that I am no longer able to lose weight.
I feel very bitter toward society, everyone who ever hurt me, and even myself. I feel like if I lose weight, I'm letting them win because "they" told me there was something wrong with me, so the only way to win is to love myself the way I am and say screw them. I feel like maybe I even sabotage my own attempts to lose weight.
I have suffered no health consequences due to my weight. I am in relatively good health. I wish I could say I wanted to lose weight for my health, but it isn't true. Under it all, my desire to lose weight is truly fueled by the same insecurity and self loathing that I had as a young teen.
How can I change this? What should I do? (link)
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Every person in the world has insecurities. Yours just happens to be your weight. Countless women have tried diets to no avail. I think that you need to concentrate on your depression and insecurities about your weight first. See your doc and tell him how you are feeling, have him run some thyroid tests also. Sometimes that can affect weight. I think that if you get your depression under control then you will feel better about yourself and be taking the first steps to healing yourself.
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Apparently, my girlfriend did something that if she tells me what it was, I'll actually leave her.
I'm a very tolerant, and patient person. I'm very concerned about what she did, but I'm not going to push her to tell me. I am, however, pushing that we do couple counseling soon, so that we can be a better couple.
Point is, how would I tell if she cheated on me? (link)
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Ok well I don't think that there is a fool proof way to tell if she cheated. There are signs: her pulling away from you, not being where she is supposed to be, private phone calls, things like that. All of those things could mean something bad or could just be coincidence.
Obviously there are some communication issues in your relationship. Just because she has a secret doesn't mean that she is cheating or it has anything to do with your relationship.
I suggest that you tell its time to fess up, if she didn't want to tell you, she would have never mentioned it in the first place. Tell her that you wanna know and don't make any promises that you won't leave. You don't know how you feel about it. But if you all are gonna stay together you will need to be honest. The counseling is a good idea, I hope it works for you.
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Okay so I been talking to this really cute guy, I'm really starting to like him. Like his really nice and we talk on the phone like all the time, but the problem is I guess you can say his been know to be a player and none of my friends want me to go out with him, but he I asked him if we were to date will he cheat on me or anything and he said "No, because I know how much im really starting to hurt girls who really like me when I do that." thats what he told me plus my parents know his parents pretty good so I don't know if he'll do anything like that, but now also I guess his the kind of guy that you have t watch out on him trying to make " the moves" on you, but I know how to handle my self. So do you think I should give this guy a chance and see how it goes? And if that's a yes, how do I tell my friend's that im going out with him? XOXO, someone [: (link)
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I think that if you do proceed with this relationship, then you should do so with your eyes wide open. You already know that he has a reputation and you already know that you will be getting flack from your friends. So there are the cons to this, but you need to be thinking about the pros also. I believe that people can change, now whether he can or not, I can't say. You sound like a smart girl that already knows all the bad about him and still like him. So yes, maybe give him the chance, but be totally prepared for heartache should it come to that. That is the only way to be involved in a relationship, even if you knew nothing about the guy before hand. Good luck to you.
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My period is late 9 days, should I be worrying?
When should I start worrying that I am pregnant? (link)
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Well, without knowing your situation as far as age and sex life, it will be hard to give a completely accurate answer to this. Assuming that you do have sex, or I don't think you would be asking about pregnancy, I will answer. There are a lot of reasons that your period can be late for example: stress, activities, age, etc. The most obvious would be pregnancy, if you are sexually active and have not used birth control, I would say to take the test. Even if you are not pregnant, ten dollars is a small price to pay for peace of mind. So get a test or go to your local pregnancy help center and find out for sure.
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