|
Does my boss like/want/care for me? Too many mixed signals!!!
One of my bosses at work keeps giving me mixed signals. First, he stares at me A LOT. I have a friend who works with me who says he checks me out a lot, sometimes when Im not paying attention. 2. He always talks to me or finds a reason to come around my area. Sometimes it feels like he follows me. Like today I was waiting at work for someone and he was quite a few feet away but all he did was stare and then when me and my friend go to leave the building he is right behind us and so close behind me that his feet accidentally kick mine. Then he asks me what I bought and stuff like that. The same thing happened yesterday also! One thing I should mention is that he is married! And him and his wife just adopted a baby! PlUS I have a bf who actually works with me and these 2 guys know each other! My boss is around his early-middle 30s and I just turned 21. He also mentioned to my boyfriend that he was upset that me and my bf werent having a baby right now cuz he wanted to adopt it. No idea what that means. Should also mention that my boss is known as the Jerk at work, so it is quite odd he is so nice to me. He jokes around with me a lot too, always making small talk. I dont know he just always seems to be the same place I am, always making small talk, staring, etc....what is his deal???
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships?
He's sick. It sounds like he has a real problem here mentally. A normal person would know that they can't comment on your relationships or make weird comments, follow you around and have an obsession that's borderline sexual with you.
It's very creepy and who knows what it could escalate into. He's more than a jerk and obviously of great concern to others who don't know what to do about him. I would go to human resources or those higher than him and let them know you feel uncomfortable, harassed etc. and what he says and does that is creepy or outlandish.
Document it all and file a complaint with them or have him charged with harassment (sexual, non-sexual). There must be tons of co-workers who will back you up. If you feel your concerns are being ignored it would make sense to get out of that environment all together so that you are secure. This guy has head problems and sounds like a ticking time bomb that they've mistakenly tolerated or ignored.
If I was the focus of this guy's constant obsession I would document what he says/does, never be alone with him, have others take you to your car and just get out of there. You can't scold these types or tell them that it's inappropriate as that just fuels what they are doing.
Try complaining to human resources or the people he takes orders from and if they do nothing move on and find a secure place to work. Make sure your co-workers, friends etc. know what this guy is doing so they can ensure he never bothers you outside of work either.
At one moment these individuals can be nice, joking around etc. and then at another exactly what you describe. If he scares you enough to write me than you need to make some noise about this and get another job elsewhere. It's a security issue not a money one. And you know it.
]
Sounds like he's flirting with you, rather clumsily.
What he's doing is inappropriate on several levels. He's married, so he shouldn't be flirting with other women. You're involved with someone else, so he should respect that involvement. He's your boss, so flirting with you is not appropriate. He could get into real trouble for it.
The next step is up to you. If you want him to stop, tell him to stop, and that you'll report him if he keeps doing it. If he keeps doing it, go to his boss or to Human resources at your work (if there is such a thing). What he's doing could be considered harassment, which could get him fired and the company sued.
Of course, if you're cool with it, then just let it keep going. It's your call.
Hope this helps.
]
It is obvious that he is jealous of you and your boyfriend. To be honest, not all married couples are faithful and if you say he is jerk, then he fits the criteria of a cheater. I wouldn't worry until he has physically tried something but you should tell your boyfriend to keep a close eye on him. I think he mentioned how he would want to adopt your baby so that you guys would be connected in some way. Kind of like Juno, when the husband thinks that they have a connection but turns out it was a misunderstanding.
]
More Questions: |