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OK I like this guy, and today at an assembly he asked me out and since I liked him, I said yes. Now, I dunno what to do. I like him but I'm nervous and I really don't want to ruin our friend relationship. Basically what I am saying is, should I go out w/ him? I'm just nervous. Thanks!
PS: I kinda have this "sad" feeling when I think about it. Also, since it's near Christmas, I don't want to feel like that.
You're prolly just nervous because you guys haven't hung out like you'll start to. You might just be nervous because you like him a lot! And that's not sad it's cute lol don't feel sad! Be happy that you have a great guy that you care a lot about.
me and my boyfriend want to have sex.. but we want to have it somewhere where there wont be any parents. we aren't old enough to rent a hotel room.. have our own car.. etc. any ideas?
HaHA! What the hell? If you're not old enough to have your own car then you're defiantly not old enough to have sex. Wait a couple years.. or hey just wait till you're married.
my best friend likes my ex-boyfriend and i still like him too.. but i was the one who broke up with him.. i told her i didnt still like him because she really likes him and he likes her back! but im pretty sure he still likes me because he still acts like it. i am fine with my best friend going out with him because she actually asked me before but i will just be so sad.. i dont know what to do!
First, you shouldn't have lied to your friend. She didn't want to hurt you and wanted to ask you first. There's nothing you can do anymore, sorry but you'll have to deal with it when or if they date. sorry! but good luck! Aw and i'm sorry that sounded really harsh
I apologize in advance for the potential length of this post.
Lately, I have been having trouble with my father. It seems like he's taking every opportunity to ruin every chance at happiness that I ever had. I normally wouldn't care, but he's really effecting my relationships with other people and my potential opportunity to get into a good college, which is really important to me.
Since I'm only fourteen, I have no way to move out without his complete consent, and I have considered moving in with my mother in San Francisco, but she is physically abusive toward me, so that really eliminates itself as an option.
He's making me feel worthless and like I'm a horrible human being and I don't know what to do. He's called me a slut, a liar, a failure, and a sociopath. Someone please help me.
Would you consider moving out of both their houses, and go to a relatives or something? Like with the help of a lawyer or something. You may want to talk to your counselor at school. Your father shouldn't be doing that, and your mom obviosly shouldn't either.
Ok me and my boyfriend have been having some trouble lately and we haven't been talking that much. Well the other day this boy pranked my friend and he got her number off our friend and they called me on 3 way and I started talkin to this boy. I talk to him like every day now and I am falling for him! He's so great. But i dont even know what he looks like but i don't think it would matter to me because he's just the greatest person in the world to talk to. But theres just one thing I HAVE A BOY FRIEND. I don't know what to do I like both of them so much! What should I do??
HELP
Have you ever met this 'boy'? He could be some 30-year old homeless guy. you never know. But if you're starting not to have feelings for your current boyfriend then stop wasting his time and break up with him. You're only hurting him by staying with him IF you don't love him anymore.
I think I might have paranoia. I have a wonderful gf. I love her todeath, but she talks to the one guy, who constantly flirts with her and it pisses me off. She says dont worry about it and that she loves me, but I still get worried. What if she will start to like him? I know nothing will happen. Were perfect for each other but I feel like bad things will always happen. Can anyone give me sties to read up on it or tell me what I can do to not be paranoid? I dont want to lose her over my problems. I want to be normal.
You really only have paranoia if you're like thinking about this all the time. And if you're like.. pacing back and forth forever about it.. if you know what I mean. I think you're fine, you're just jealous. And when she says not to worry she really means it! If she asks to see u all the time, like u say she does, then obviosly she loves spending time with you. But if you're still worried, go to the library and look up on some books about paranoia.
tomorrow me, my best friend, her boyfriend, and my fwb are going to spend the nite at a hotel as sorta a fun thing to do. im telling my parents that im sleeping over at my friends house but im scared shes actually gonna call my friends mom and find out we aren't there-she has a history of calling my friend's houses-is there anything i can tell her, or do to make sure she doesn't call??? do you think she'll even call guh need advice help fast
Just like tell her to call your cell phone-if youhave one. If you don't then there's nothing you really can do! Neways, if you have a cell phone tell ur mom that her dad is making business calls the whole night and doesn't want your best friend's friends holding up the line or something. good luck!
Ok, in school I'm in the "popular group" and my friends are really nice and everything but sometimes they really annoy me. Here's why. Whenever a guy asks them out they'll like automaticlly say yes (even if they don't like them), and when a guy dumps them or they dump a guy they'll be going out with someone else within an hour. Anyway, for some reason this really bugs me. I don't really no why either. Now a guy asked me out and I said no because I don't like him and now they keep calling me too picky. What do I do?
There's nothing you really can do...You don't have to be exactly like eachother and you don't have to like everything about your friends. They're probably just joking with you when they call you too picky.
I have this one really good friend, and let's call her Jane. Jane and I met last year, when I came to her school for a gifted program. Jane and I became kinda friends, but I made a best friend that I'll call Kristen. It's a year later, and now were all good friends. But on the bus the other day, this girl I'll call Sam bad mouthed my friend. I asked Kristen if she liked Jane, and she said no not really. Jane is a really good friend of mine but I don't know what to do?
You can't be asked to choose between your two friends and you shouldn't! If Kristin asks you to, then obviosly she's not that great of a friend. But as of now, it seems like she is and still wants to be ur friend. It's ok if not everyone in your group really likes eachother. But don't talk about Jane behind her back because if she finds out.. well it just wouldn't be good.
m/16 Hi, ive been dating my girlfriend for 5 months and a few weeks and her parents are, sorry to say, PISSING ME THE **** OFF. They wont EVER let her see me but maybe 1 every two weeks or so, and it kills me cause i never get ANY alone time with her, and the time we do get to spend together is with friends cause her parents wont let her over to my house alone. Anyone know of anything I can do to get their parents to let her do somthing, or anything i can tell my girl to say? help please!
Talk to ur girlfriend bc she might be feeling the same way, or she might like the situation..which would be wierd but she might. If she doesn't like the way it's going then ask her if you two can talk to her parents. But if they won't budge and if she's 'worth it' then stick it out.
okay so im a 16 year old girl who likes a 14 year old boy, I honestly dont care what people think about it, but thats not myproblem. my problem is, i like him a lot, and hes a really friendly guy and i met him not too long ago so yeah but i cant tell if theres anything there yet, like, im friends with his sister, and ill call for his sister to talk to her, and the guy i like will pick up and talk to me too...and i asked his sister if he always does that, as in pick up the phone and talk to her friends at the same time she is, and she said, hes NEVER done that before, so i thought that was really cool, and so yeah, i went to a party at his house yesterday a christmas party and everyyyyone was there, which was a lot of fun, so we were hanging out, and i told his sister that i was gonna put my jacket in her room, so i ran upstairs and 10 girls followed me, and it was really crowded up stairs like REALLY crowded, and then adults came up too so i was like stuck, and my someone opens the guy that i likes door, and he kinda looks out and sees me and then the door closed, you hear him run and open the door and he goes "JENN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and i was like HEYYY! and then we chilled for the ENTIRE night, we were up in his room just laughing at everything possible he was shooting his air soft gun at kids that botherd him we were just being dumb lol, then we went up to his attic thing where he has this HUGE car racing thing set up and everyone was up there, and me and him were talking and he kept on looking at me, a lot, he was just looking at me and stuff, and yeah, so thats how it was the whole night, and then at the very end we were on his trampoline and i had to go so i jumped off cuz he was talking to everyone, and he goes "JENN!" and jumps off and hugs me and then he was like "ill probably see you in a year" and im like " DUDE...SLEEPOVER REMEMBER?!" and he was like OH YEAH! and so yeah, cuz were ALL having a sleep over like 30538304 of us together so itll be a lot of fun but what my question is, is do you think there is ANYTHING there?? because i mean i know you guys dont know him or me, but hes 14 and im 16. I really like him and all and hes just a REALLY nice guy, so i dontknow if hes just REALLY nice and always happy to see me and talk to me on the phone or if he has a lil sumthin for me....oh, and he broke up with his gf 2 weeks ago and he said that he found out that 20 girls like him at his school and i was like "well are you gonna ask one of em out" and he was like " I dont kno, theres this one that i might but i dont know what the concept of it is, like i dont get it* and im like * well...if you want her to be your GF then you ask her to be your gf...if you want her to just go out on a date with you, then you just go out on a date* and he was like * I dont know, they all want me to be their bf* and i was like * well do what you wanna do :) its up to you* and he was liek * yeahh* and so yeah, he still hasnt asked her out or anything so HELP ME PLEASEEE I dont know what i should do, i really like him
I know everyone was saying to ask him out.. but i think you should talk to ur friend first. My brother's 18 and my boyfriend is one of his friends-even tho he's 16. I'm just saying that it's going to be really wierd for her, i don't know how close you guys are but if you're best friends then she'll really appreciate it if you came to her first! If she's cool with it then go for it!
ok so i like this guy jake and he liked my friend Ashley. I would talk to him and tell him what she said about him and all. And basically Ashley hates Jake now because he lied to her about not going out with this other girl Brittney. I know that Ashley doesn't hate but she does really dislike him. but see i like Jake. And i really want to go out with him and flirt with him too. but if i go out with Jake then ashley is going to get mad and tell other people. That would ruin my rep. and maybe our friendship. I really like him but should i go out with him and continue to flirt with him?
Talk to Ashley. Ask her if it would bother her and make sure she's telling the truth. I know you don't want to, but if he does ask you out you need to know you're not going to lose a friend over a guy.
My friend and i are both in theater arts, and she got the role i wanted, and i tried not to be jealous of her, but i am. i know she's really good, and deserves the part, but i get mad at her whenever she brings it up, because shes almost bragging. I just really wanted the part, and now she thinks im mad at her, and i guess i kinda am. wat can i do?
There's nothing really you can do. Don't tell her you're jealous because she didn't do anything wrong. If you're not worried about losing her you could ask her not to talk about it infront of you. And I'm sure she's not bragging! She doesn't know you're upset about it. So yeah, I'd just keep it on the downlow until the play or whatever has passed and you can move on from it.
this is mostly.. to people.. 18+ just because i believe yall may have more experience with things like this but all opinions are welcome.. okay i've been on birth control for about.. a month and a half.. and well me and my b/f recently started having sex.. with a condom as well.. we had sex tonight and the condom broke he had already ejaculated and was "pulling out".. and realized it was broken.. do u think i could possibly get preg... my BC pills say to use a back up method of birth control for the first 7 days but i've been on it like i said a month and a half.. so give me ur opinions.. should i be worried????
Even if you're on birth control and the guy uses a condom there's always a chance you could get preg. But I wouldn't stress over it until you experience some signs of it.
Does anyone know some type of food that would give me more calcium? I heard that the age i am (15) is one of the most important to get more of it. I HATE milk, and dont really like yogurt or cheese. I am afraid I might get osteoporosis when i get older. HELP!!
There's a buncha cereals out there that advertise 'more calcium!' so you could eat that dry and there's some orange juices that have more too! or you can take calcium pills but eh i wouldn't highly recomend it. Good luck!
lyds*
I have this one friend, but she gets really annoying sometimes. She'll talk on and on, and i never get a chance to say anything, and im not the quiet type. She always dominates the conversation, and is always being bossy. Most of my friends think she's annoying too, but i dont want her to have no friends, but also dont want to be her friend out of pitty. what can i do?
I don't know how easy it is to make a joke about someone for you guys but you could just joke about and be like "No wait! Me first!" or something like that! So she'll laugh about it but maybe get what you're saying.
Okay i had my winter dance tonight and this guy asked me to dance. I was speechless and i couldn't say anything. Then he goes "you know what fine, whatever" and i'm like "no come back! Okay i will dance with you i will i'm so sorry!" but, he just ignored me. I had my friends go and ask him to dance for me but he ignored them. I went over and said "Okay i am really sorry and i wish i could take it back but will you dance with me?" He walked away and i knew i had really hurt him. My other friend went over and asked him why he was being like this. He said " you want me to just say okay and dance with her?" and she goes "yea just please she feels like crap come on. And he just screamed a her saying "TOO BAD!" Then i felt it the pain he had felt. I was so sorry but he wouldn't let me tell him. He just ran back into the croud. I looked for him all over but couldn't find him. Then the last dance came and i started to cry. He saw me and sad "now you know how i feel" and went away. Now i feel like CRAP!! i am so sad, and mad and i should have said yes. I am so sorry i need to tell him that but i dont have him # or his e-mail or anyother thing i could reach him by. I feel bad but i dont know why. If it was just a regular guy i would have been okay but its not it was one of my friends and i am so sad. Do i like him? What can i do for him to forgive me? Will he forgive me? Should i ask him to dance at our new dance coming up? i have no idea! Please Help!!!! I'll rate high!!!!! Thanks alot! xoxoxoxo HunnieBuns (even the advice columnist needs help) Just like me!
I think he over reacted. You tried to tell him what went on but he wouldn't listen, so it's really his fault. If he really did like you then he wouldn't want to see you crying! I'd wait till monday and talk to him again, if he blows you off then try to forget about it! Hope I helped & good luck!
lyds..*
i've been kinda cutting myself...it was kinda stupid at first but now it's serious. my life is kinda like crap rite now. grades, family, friends, and love...all that jazz. sometimes i feel like i just randomly wann cutt myself. i hate it. i know there is other ways to work it put but i don't wanna talk to my family and i've already talked to my friends. please help me and don't just pick on or make fun of me...really answer this question.
signed,
confused and lost
Go to you're counselor, or talk to ur parents!! They might freak out, but it's important that they know and get help you.
What is the best way to break up with a boy if you are going to. Should I call him, write him a note, E-mail him, or IM him?! :-/
-Worried
Don't e-mail or Im bc you can't always get across what you want to say, oh and same with writing a note. It's probably better to do it face to face but if you're just to freaked about it calling isn't so bad. Good luck!
i was @ my friends house and i stole 40$ should i give it back, because she has no idea it was in her closet.
Uh..yeah? Stealing is bad. :-)