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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.
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Okay so I've been dating this guy for 9 months. Its been pretty bumpy && up && down. But, just last week we saw eachother everyday && it was great. Then I got supper busy recently so hes been hanging out with his friends alot, && thats all cool with me but that isnt my problem. He just started playing video games && I cant get him away from them. I've talked to him once in a week I call && text him but i only get short answers and conversations and we bicker alot. It frusrates me so I cant stand to stay on the phone && text(i dont like eithier in the first place) Last time we talked we got in a huge fight. He made me feel unimportant and said some things I think he should regret. But I cant help but think about it. What should i do?? He always goes through these stages until it comes down to breaking up then he changes for a week or two && goes straight back to it. I dont think I really deserve it. But Im lost && confused with what to do. Please help me
I personally feel that breaks in relationships aren't always the answer because it is very unlikely the problems you had in the first place wont return and affect your relationhip again.
If he can't act like an adult and be stable, make you feel unimportant and not a big deal, because everyone is a big deal, and if he doesn't see it or treat you like you are one, then he really isn't worth your time. There are guys out there that will treat you like you're a true diamond and that is what you should be heading to. Staying with this guy that has iregular emotions, don't bring you ANY closer to the one that will! Playing vidoe games shows how immature he is and not ready for a relationship, or any responsibility, which a relationship is!
If you can't talk to him and share your feelings then what is the point of having a relationship?! A relationship is where the 2 people can and will, with NO problems whatsoever, communicate and let each other know about how they feel. So if he can't talk then let him walk! Don't waste your time, a guy out there is waiting for you, as cheesy as it may sound, it is true!
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I need help with a discussion question.
-Discuss the scars of Hassan and Amir and their SYMBOLISM for each(the significance of each).
How Hassan keeps everything and then gets betrayed by someone he is very loyal to, Amir, all out of trust, loyalty, faith and love.
And the character Amir is, how he knows what happened that day of the Kite contest, and how he kept it a secret and pretended to NOT know about it.
Their relationship is significant because, Hassan is a loyal boy and he gets betrayed by someone he is very loyal to, who pretendes to not know things, which he knows he knows. This shows great friendhsip and loyalty, as these boys battle their secret awareness of each others knowledge.
Well we have been dating for almost a year [ march it will be ] . & I love him VERY much , with all my heart and he says the same . Although i dont see it how i want i guess its true . Anyways , today he totally passed the line with me ... He said i was 0BSESSED over him ! and i guess he calls me that because i care about him WAYYYYYYY lot , and do every single thing for him & show i care so much . But thats what i want to change , maybe i am to attacted ; i feel i put my EVERYTHING , heart and soul in this relationship and all he does is lift a pink , ya know ? I just want the feelings to be EVEN with us not me more than him . But just help me i want to SHOW that boy im not obsessed , no one can tell me that . I need to pull my self away from him a little bit .
Some guys don't like clingy girls, as they feel they have a greater responsibilty! If you know what I mean. So, just don't call him as often, if you do, text him once and if he doesn't reply... be patient! If you text him without waiting, and continue texting him, it does give the impression that you are insecure and clingy/obsessed.
I know you care about him and want to hekp him with everything and just treat him absolutely perfectly, but you also have to give him some space. Remember he is a person too, he has feelings and sometimes, he probably does want to be alone, or have sometime to himself, you know?!
My advice is, just take it easy... If he thinks you're obsessed with him then, talk to him about it, ask him what makes him think that and work it out TOGETHER!! Relationships fail due to lack of communication... so speak out, hun!
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask me, you didn't give me enough info for me to help you with, so if you want me to address this in more detail, let me know!
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Ive been going out with this guy for 4ish months now and i want to kiss him[i havent yet]
so i no this sound dumb but i need help im despreat]
1:how do i give him the hint i want to kiss him
2:where do my hands go
3:how long
theres more so give me more advivce pleasee
At random moments just stare at him, and when eyes meet, you're half way there. Stare at his lips, it is a very obvious hint but not desperate at all!
And then move closer, lean in only half way and he will lean in the other half.
Let lips touch and then see where they go on from there, kissing is very natural and it will just flow! Believe me and first kisses aren't always bad, mine wasn't!
About your hands, you can put them round his neck, round his waist... anywhere where you feel comfortable. I will recommend the around the nexk position, it is comfortable and it makes the kissing smoother, to me though.
Hope this helped!
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I have major feelings for a close friend I've had for about a little less than a year. We are very close but theres one problem - we've never spent any real time together. We met bc his brother goes to my school and my friend USED to like him [shes now dating my ex-boyfriend]. What are ways that I can bring the subject of going out somewhere together up?
Just be casual and ask him if he is free sometime, like "Hey, I'm planning a little get-together, and so I would like you to come along, it will just be me and... (whoever else, a friend)!" And wait for him to answer, waiting for him to answer doesn't make you look desperate. And inviting him out as a group get-together won't make the fact that you want to hang out with him too obvious. Ask a friend and her boyfriend to come along, and so it will look like a double-date, therefore you will definitely get some time with the guy you're interested in because your girlfriend will want to spend time with her boyfriend. tell your girlfriend you like this guy. This will allow you to spend time together without making it obvious you want time alont together and then, you can see if he's good potential of being more than friends, or just friends is where you want to keep it. Sometimes it is better to be friends, than more than friends because after being 'more than friends', the frienddhsip the two of you once had, might no longer exist. Just some extra advice... Hope this really helps you, if you ever have any more questions or anything, just let me know!
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ok so about three weeks ago i met this guy through a mutual friend,last friday we went out ( a group of 4 for us) my friend her boyfriend and this guy friend.. you kinda could say it was a double date sort of a thing... we went to a club so it was hard to keep a decent conversation cause of the music and all.. so we got speakin( watever we could hear of eachother) he told me he liked me and i felt that he genualy did seem very interesed in me. i didnt want to take things to the next level and kept holding back... as in i didnt wanna makeout with him the first time we went out and give a bad impression.. but somehow i regret it and feel that he might have thought that i wasnt that interesed or something
anyway ill get to the point me and my friend left the club and i recieved a msn from him saying that apart from being really preety that he thought i was a very nice girl and that he would like to get to know me a bit better. thats the only messgae i have recieved from him since last week(friday) and im a bit confused to why he hasnt called me back or anything yet? i mean if a guy says that, then he probably would right?
so i dont know if i should hold out and wait for him to call me or if i should go ahead and see if he is goin out tonight... although i really dont wanna look desperate... . but then i think well if he really was interesed then he would have called or texted me by now to meet :(
open to all opinions on the situation
thank you for takin the time to read it :d
I, personally feel he isn't so serious in you and so there isn't a valuable reason to waste your time on him. So move on, go out partying with your friend again and you'll probably find someone when you least expect it. There are lots of guys out there that I am sure will not let a chance like this go, and will definitely call you back.
If you have anymore queries, I am willing to help. ;)
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Me and my boyfriend have a good past together.
well, he moved and now he said it feels like we're not together.
it doesn't feel the same like it use to, since he's so busy now.
how do i make this work?
i can't lose him, i can't.
i love this guy so much..and it hurts to hear that, and i just hafe to try to fix this.
help me please..
Darling, firstly... some relationships don't work out when you are so far apart, so hear him out first, see what he has to say, and let him tell you how he feels and everything he wants to tell you, let him get whatever he has on his chest out. And then if you feel the same, if not differnetly, let him know... and remember relationships sometimes fade because of lack of communication between the partners, so speak your mind! You can't go wrong, and tell him you don't want to lose him, it's ok to be vulnerable at times, so tell him you can't lose him because you love him so much. You have to allow yourself to understand what he wants and if you can give it to him. He probably feels the distance is too much, like he can't be with you and he is missing your physical touch and relationship in that category.
Or the relationship could work by the two of you visiting each other, during the holidays or, the weekends and other ideas the both of you can come up with, and it would help if you made the little meeting you have with him special, like a box of chocolates or something he might like.
Hope this helps you... If you ever have more questions or anything, I'm more than willing to help!
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okay..me and my ex boyfriend who were together for 3 years..broke up because of the distance..he has a new girlfriend now who he's been with about 2 months or less and he calls me all the time..like 7 times a day about just to talk..his current girlfriend doesn't want me talking to him at all but he doesn't care what she says because he wants to keep talking to me and to stay friends with me and he says he still loves me and cares for me and that we'd be together if it wern't for the distance..because he lives about an hour or so away from where i live but when we were together we were together all the time..but we ended up breaking in January..but i dunno what to do..i still love him..i just dont know..he's confusing because sometimes he has his days where he says i don't love you i'm with her i really love her..but idk..what do you think??? please give advice..or at least what you think this all means or something.
Well, firstly, he doesn;t seem like he is over you, because calling you everyday and saying he doesn't care about what she thinks is a very obvious that he isn't over you! :P
And secondly, you may like him alot but still, try get over him. Besides the fact, you like him and the distance, he has a girlfriend!!! And he should learn to be faithgul, because he would be hurting her, and picture yourself in her shoes... not too pleasant!
So make it obvious to him that you don't want him and you don't want any trouble with his girlfriend and stuff!
When he calls, try and avoid them... Don't answer or answer and tell him that you don't want anything but distant friends, because you guys ARE distant! So get over him, and MOVE ON!!!
There are many guys out there... YOU WILL FIND THEM!!!
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19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?
Firstly, easy on the sexual side! Stop having sex, try and control the moment, and say NO! You said you usually have sex with Nate when you're vulnerable?! Well, that isn't so good, he might be using you as a 'sex-baby'! A very obvious point, that Nate uses you as a 'sex-baby', is that he leaves after sex! If someone really loves you, they would stay all night, all day, just to be with you! Big no-no from me about Nate! he ain't worth it! Us girls, gotta be treated well! Maybe you should try avoiding Nate when there is alcohol, and stuff that will make you lose control on what you are doing! That way, you can keep control and you won't regret things in the end! Nate seems like a total ***hole, he isn't worth anything, he is a total ***!!!
Blake - Hell yeah! Hunni, he is sooo rare, someone that keeps forgiving you like that! Stick to Blake, he is perfect (like you said) and he is understanding! An absolute sweetheart! :D Always pick the one you can be yourself with, and the one you feel the most comfortable and happy!
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OKAY. my hair is already wavy.. but i dont like the way it is
like i dont know i want it like flat kinda and wavy. but falt becasue when its really big waves it makes my hair look a whole lot shorter and poofyer.
i want it like i came from the beach!
help!
dont say anything about braids or scrunching because it doesnt work!! any advice
Hun... jst relax!!! What about straightening? Try it, it goes well, with round faces... or not so long faces! Especially if you have wavy hair, like me, try straightening, its gorgeous! Let me know!
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when someone says "do u want to go out with me?"
does that mean they are askin you out...
or they juss want to know if you like them
i feel really stupid asking this.
i think i know. but juss wondering from other opionions.
thanks in advance.
i will rate
Yes, when someone asks you that they are def asking you out. So say yes, you don't always get the chance.
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Okay, there's this guy named patrick and i like him a lot. and he sorta said he likes me (don't ask how he sorta said he likes me). Everyone is saying that he does and taht it's obvious...I'm just to blind and ignorant to see it. Anywhos my friend Matt somehow got patricks number out of a kid that knew him saying that it was for a girl who has a crush on him...duh. haha but the kid doesn't know its me and patrick never gave me his number. i have lunch with patrick everyday but no classes with him whatsoever.
Matt keeps on urging me to tell patrick that i like him before he loses interest in me and i really want to. the think is i am HORRIBLE at doing this. especially talking face to face or just telling it. so matt told me to write a note and i agreed. now the problem is that i don't know what to do. like i can't call him because he doesn't know i have his number and the explanation behind that is staklerish. i can give him a note but what should i write in there? i want to keep it playful and frivolous so that if he doesn't like me in that way i can get myself out of that situation. do you get what i'm saying? haha or sohuld i just ask him to join me and my friends for a movie and somehow tell him there or make it obiovus that i really like him? ah just how sohuld i tell him?
Well, writing a note is a great idea, lets say he is tall, shaggy hair, brown eyes and loves to play basket ball and is in your math class, tell him something like this, 'I don't know if you could help me but I have a tiny problem, I like this guy who is in my math class and he has brown eyes, shaggy hair and loves to play basket ball, he is tall! And I know you know him really well! You guys are like twins, and so I don't know if he likes me or still does?' Basically, make it obvious that he is the guy you like, that way, you are flirty, playful and making it obvious to him that you like him.
About the number, ask him for it when you two have lunch, and give him yours, if he asks why you're giving him your number just say, 'You will need it some day!' and walk off! Its def flirty!
When everything starts coming together, he may ask you out! Remember, love grows... If he has lost a little bit of interest in you, it will definately grow after sometime and especially after you tell him through the note, that you like him!
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so im 14 and i met this guy that makes my heart melt. weve only see each other in person once at a party. but we have been talking and he invites me to ahngout with his friends. but my parents dont know his friends and i dont know his friends so i know for a fact my parents wont let me go. so i ahve been saying im sick. or i have other things to do. i dont want to tell him that but i feel embaressed when i have to say oh well my parents dont trust my judgement enough to make the right friends. no besides the fact his friends arent the perfect crowd i would never get under hte influnce of perpressuer. i am very responsiable. but my parents dont see that. they see me as some slut. so its aggervateing but. i just told him all of this and he seemed totaly cool i guess with meeting my mom but now i feel if he thinks im so child. we are the same age and in the same grade. but still do you think he would possible think less of me or think im some kind of child?
Firstly, be honest. Tell him the truth! A realtionship based on honesty lasts longer! So tell him about your parents not completely trusting you going out with him and his friends because they don't really know them. Why don't you ask him if you can bring a bunch of YOUR friends, I am sure it will be cool with him, unless he has something up! Something not so good. And tell your parents where you are going and with who, highlight and underline the point that you are going out with a bunch of YOUR friends, so they don't get too worried. Mainly, the friends they know and admire, the friends that they can trust and trust you going out with them.
Remember girls mature faster than guys, so if he thinks your a child than what could he possibly be? A toodler?! LOL! Don't worry about what he thinks, its your life hun! Remember that, and no one can force you to do anything you don't want to do!
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What animals are the smartest, easiest to train and are loyal? I'm talking about pets, but no animals that would be to dangerous to keep.
This is a definate fact, smarter animals are easier to train. Loyal? Dogs! Labradors are the best, good with the family and very easy to train! Labradors are alot smarter than German Shepherds (Alsations) and great with kids!
I am very sure about this!
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What are some things that make your zits go away quicker? Besides going & buying abuncha stuff from the store, I dont really have anyy. But, i'm gonna hang out with some boys next weeks & i'm hoping i can get them to shrink/go away by then. What are home rememdies? I have oily skin.. if that matterS?
To tell the truth, I am a teen and I seriously don't use anything on my face, not even a face wash! And I am looking fine, well there is the occassional zits but they are small and hard to see. Besides if its a guy you like, I think he should like you even when you don't look your best! I am serious!
Wash your face often, as often as possible and drink lots of water! Keep your face dry, as in wash the oil away every time you take a visit to the toilet! Eat greens and loads of salads, mainly light, cool and refreshening! Drink atleast 6ltrs of water a day! It will keep you zit-free for a few days or maybe weeks!
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Well one of my friends who i have been really close to since 5th grade has been having boy trouble but its complicated. She had a thing with one of our friends and then were cute together for awhile but then she broke it off with him and has been accusing him of things that she used to like. Like she is accusing her best friend of being all over him but really tey are just talking or something. And the first time she said it i believed her when she accused them of being all over eachother becuase someone else agree'd who was there, but now its just rediculous.And she is telling us not to talk to him pretty much because if we hang out she gets mad at us. I dont know what to do because i dont want to ruin either friendship but i feel like i might flip out on her at any second because she needs to get over it but i dont know how to tell ehr nicely because she is a very emotional person who lets her angry get the best of her way to fast.
Tell her how you feel! Tell her she should get over it, the nicest way possible is probably... Lets say her name is Susan and the guy's name is Josh, 'Susan, I think its time to get over Josh! He is a friend ours and we would like to keep him as our friend! Don't take this too personally, I am just hoping for the best. Please understand! Please!' Tell your group of friends about this quote and ask them what they think and if they agree, so all of you could tell her, so it makes a big impression, but beware not to be bossy and act like you all are a gang! She IS emotional! :)
And about the lying bit, don't mention it to her yet, maybe when you catch her red-handed, lying!
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Ok so im a 14/f and im going out w/ a 16/m. He doesnt go to my school. Its really hard for me. He says he loves me alot that he'd do anything for me. Well he always thinks im cheating on him cause i have a lot of guy friends. but i tell him i would never do anything like that to him. He means everything to me. He doesnt like any of my guy friends and he doesnt wanna lose me to anyone. He doesnt wanna share me with anyone. What am i supppose to do??
Is he controlling me? Or is it just how much he loves me?? Advice plz!!!
Well, he is a little insecure and caring. But when trust is lost in a relationship - its like the source that holds you 2 together is sorta breaking. If he can't trust you then maybe its time... to move on. Sorry.
If you love him dearly and wouldn't mind him not trusting you at the moment, then make it very clear that thise guys are JUST your friends and you would never in your life do anything a friend wouldn't do!
When he brings the topic up, take about it. Tell him how you feel and spill your feelings and mainly tell him you love him! Guys can't resist those lines! It should do the trick!
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Me and my brother don't get along but that's becasue he is an ass around his friends.. But normally he is OK after a while. There is this one friend, that I think is really sweet, nie and we really get along. He asked if I was going to this party, that he wanted me to go and stuff.. Well me brother was going and He didn't want me to go because he isn't comfortable with me around him whne he is with friends (But I get along with his friends better than he does and they want me hanging around...) Well.. I asked him if it would be ok if i dated him if i dated his friend. And he said he doesn't care.. But then someone was sayign abotu how his friend was gonna fuck me and shit... And I mentioned somethign abotu i would if he made the mood, and ever sicne then my brother was totally being an ass to me and his friend because of that and ui just dont know.. I told my brother I wont becasue he doesnt want me to and all, I wont even flirt with him anymore...
Just what do you think of the whole situation..?
Your brother is jelous because you get along with HIS friends. YOu shouldn't have told your brother that you won't because he doesnt want YOU to, you should have said YOU WON'T because you don't want to! Brothers are always protective over their sisters no matter how old they are!
If you still like your brother's friend then try continue flirt with him and work something out! Communicate with him, tell him how you feel and it should help!
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15/f me and my boyfriend of went on a break as of yesterday because i keep breaking promises to him. I need some way to prove to him that im not going to do that anymore.. someway to get him back. please help im desperate
Now that you realise how keeping promises is very important to people and especially your boyfriend, you should learn to keep them! Make a promise with him and this time try your best, your hardest to keep it and not break it! Its the best for your relationship! Try it, it definatley works! Don't be too desperate. And tell him how you feel, you still love him and he should love you enough to give you another chance and you shouldn't mess this one up!!! Try your best not to!
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16/f
okay well me and my bf have been going out for 8 months and day before yesterday i spent the night with my friend but he thought i was going to cheat on him or lie to him about something well, later on that nite i told my bf that i was gonna get ymy phone charger from him then go back to her house well instead me and my friends went to a party. my bf found out this was around 2 in the morning well my bf found out but played it off like he had no idea but there was a couple guys there that knew him and called him but after the party i went over to his house and spent the nite over there and talked well we're still together but he is still a little wierd around and i understand he cant trust me anymore but someone help how should i get things to the way they were before.. i rate high!!
Communicate! Tell him how you feel, you still love him, don't hide anything and just be upfront and spill your feelings! Tell him, you feel like he is acting weird around you and ask him why? Tell him you understand you have lost his trust but you want him and you want to go back to the way you both were!
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