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Who do i stay faithful to?
Well one of my friends who i have been really close to since 5th grade has been having boy trouble but its complicated. She had a thing with one of our friends and then were cute together for awhile but then she broke it off with him and has been accusing him of things that she used to like. Like she is accusing her best friend of being all over him but really tey are just talking or something. And the first time she said it i believed her when she accused them of being all over eachother becuase someone else agree'd who was there, but now its just rediculous.And she is telling us not to talk to him pretty much because if we hang out she gets mad at us. I dont know what to do because i dont want to ruin either friendship but i feel like i might flip out on her at any second because she needs to get over it but i dont know how to tell ehr nicely because she is a very emotional person who lets her angry get the best of her way to fast.
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Tell her how you feel! Tell her she should get over it, the nicest way possible is probably... Lets say her name is Susan and the guy's name is Josh, 'Susan, I think its time to get over Josh! He is a friend ours and we would like to keep him as our friend! Don't take this too personally, I am just hoping for the best. Please understand! Please!' Tell your group of friends about this quote and ask them what they think and if they agree, so all of you could tell her, so it makes a big impression, but beware not to be bossy and act like you all are a gang! She IS emotional! :)
And about the lying bit, don't mention it to her yet, maybe when you catch her red-handed, lying!
Thankyou!
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tell her she needs to get over it. if she is making a big deal about who youre friends with she really isnt a good friend.
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You need to make it clear that you are friends with her AND this boy and she's going to have to accept that.
If you're into direct confrontation, ask her to come over and hang out at your house for a while. Tell her these things and make them clear:
-You are friends with both and you want to sustain the friendship but she's making it hard for you
-You love her but you have to still be able to make decisions by yourself as to who you'll be friends with
-She needs to move on from her ex. He's HER ex. That shouldn't affect other people's social life.
Just make sure you're nice about it. If you hate talking face to face, write it down on a piece of paper and give it to her at the end fo the school day on Friday so she can read, cool down, think about it and THEN come to school
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Hey,
I am so sorry for u. Being in between friends is something really hard to cope with and u have been really patient! I am not patient so i would have freaked out a long time ago.
Here is my advice to you:
If she was a real friend she wouldnt even consider you to choose. She should have left her personal life out of your choice of friends,but she didnt. Dont be afraid to talk to her,start the conversation by telling her that you want to have a talk about something and you hope she doesnt get mad at you but you need to tell her. Tell her its not fair for you to choose because of HER personal experience with that person. And hopefully it will have a happy ending, if it doesnt[knock on wood] then u should tell her that if she was a true friend she shouldnt make YOU choose. People like that are not really good friends, because they dont care about your interests, tey just want you to do what they want you to do.
Hope i helped a little
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just tell her to stop accusing people of doing things that they probably aren't, tell her its getting kind of old, she'll probably understand and if she gets mad she probably wasn;t your true friend in the first place.
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