My boyfriend (now ex) broke up with me on April 22nd. He told me he plans on getting back with me he just needs a break. He is really stressed because of home and school and he felt like he couldn't be a good boyfriend. But instead of working on our relationship, he lets his stress out by partying. We currently aren't talking but we occasionally have a conversation. He doesn't talk to me because I irritate him (along with a lot of his friends right now so it's not just me) and he doesn't want to be a dick and mess things up. How do I get him back, with out irritating him?
Please don't tell me to forget about him because that is not what I need to hear.
It's not what you need to hear because you don't want to accept the truth.
You're in a vicious cycle of emotional self harm. If you want to know how to end your addiction to him and pain, send me a message, because what I have to say, as truthful as it is, is porbably something that you don't want to hear.
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does it help you lose weight?
if you're asking the obvious, you've got to be retarded. Pooping helps you lose weight because you are removing mass from your body. Mass such as poop weighs something. So removing it from your body will take away some weight.
If you're asking how pooping will make you skinnier, it doesn't. The only way pooping could make you skinnier is if you take some very unhealthy laxatives that cause your intestine to not digest the food you eat. That way you will poop more and lose weight because you'll be crapping everything you eat out instead of absorbing some of it.
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this is a bit long but its very important. my mom has got to the point where im never home and i want to move out but im only 15. and i need help dealing with all of this. i know its long but i need the help. im crying everynight because of her.ok so heres the deal. i have posted questions like these before but htat was like last summerish to a year ago. and i always got the same answer saying oh talk to her and tell her how you feel. but thats not an option! ok so heres the problem...MY MOM! its liek the evil step mother and then the good daughter. except shes my mother. its horrible. so heres the deal i have 2 older sisters. ones a half sister because my dad was married before my mom and had a child and then they had me and my sister when my mom and dad got married. my dads daughter lived with us until she was like 18 i guess? then she ran away. and to be honest thats how im going to be. and im not even lying. the first chance i get to leave im going. ok so the first child my mom and dad had together was born premature. she was about 5 months early. she has Cerebral Palsy. a disability. i love my sister. i treat her as if there is nothing wrong with her. i treat her like a normal kid. but my mom doesnt. she favors my sister to the extreme. my sister is the little angel. if my sister does something wrong she never gets in trouble. but i f i do anything i get in so much trouble. even if its the right thing. all of my friends feel horrible for me like my sister doesnt need to be favored. my sister even tells my mom this. shes like mommy give my sister more attention. but my mom is liek i give her enough attention. well i hate my mom. i seriously do. if she tells me to do something..i do it. but i get in trouble for doing it. and if i do something wrong i get in trouble. so im never not in trouble. so im to the point where im never home. im constantly in fights with my mom. and my friends are over half the time. and the fights just randomly happen. like i will be helping my mom on the computer. and hten she would say carissa why do you have such an attitude? im like what? shes like your totally ignoring me i mean im asking you to help me nad your just doing it. and im like ok sorry. and sehs like whats that attitude for again? im liek what attitude? and shes liek that one! andi mlike forget it let me just show you. and she was asking how to copy and paste and i showed her and then she keeps saying like god i dont understand why you cna t just show me right away. and then im like what? and then it would get in this fight because then right there i would be like mom why do you always do this? like tell me to do things but then dont appreciate how im helping? then she gets pissed at me and we just start yelling and its just really annoying me.and she tells me to hang out with m ysister and include her in things and i do. but i get in trouble becuase my moms like i dont want you doing that stuff when your with your friends and you take joanna. and im liek well thats what we do. and then like i'll be like fine i wont hang out with m ysister with my friends. then liek my mom always yells at me for not hanging out with her but when i do she yells at me. i mean im not going to sit down with my friends and play scrabble for 5 hours. and my sister can do what i do. but my mom treats her like a baby. and i cant count on my mom or anything. i mean she never buys me clothes. she never bought me a bra. so i have to buy my own and there really expensive and i dont have a job yet because im too young. so by the time i save up for one i get it. but then i only have one bra because i cant get another. liek its seriously annoying. and one time i was with m yfriend and i was buying them and my moms like why are you buying these? and im like i need them and hses like no you dont you have plenty. this is only the little stuff. i mean its so bad. i mean i end the day crying in my room because of her. andi go to tlak to her about it and she just yells at me saying thats not true. liek talking to her isnt an option. and im actually trying not to tlak to her. im sick of fighting everyday. and its really annoying. i mean i look at my friends and there like best friends with their moms and i wanna cry because i cant have that relationship with my mom. i mean i told my closest friend im like im turning out like my toher sister. im ready to leave. and my friends like i know how hard it is for you and she supports me and helps me. but i mean after college im out of here. my mom wont ever see me again. i dont want to talk to her. like my mom loves me but she doesnt show it. i hate my mom. its not a lie. shes horrible! and like i told her im liek if your not going to listen to what im trying to tell you i want to go to a counselor maybe she will help me and our family. and my dad does nothing because hes at work all day so he doesnt believe its htat bad. and when hes homee all day im not home. and im always getting in trouble. im crying as im writing this. and i have no idea what to do. help me please. i have no one but my friends and my half sister. there the only ones that know what im going through. my mom doesnt believe what im saying. and she wont take me to a couselor like a family one or whatever. i need help. please its so hard for a teenage girl to go through life without someone there who can help them with advice. i mean i have to deal with heartbreaks with only my friends to support me and everything i have to do so much. please help me.
Your mom is fucked up, chacnes are she suffers from some emotional problems. If you are that desperate to get away from her, I'd reocmmend talking to your school counselor. They will immediately contact child services and there is a good chance they'll pay your mom a visit.
They'll pretty much warn your mom and tell her to be better to you. If she doesn't listen, you can file another complaint and you might end up in a foster home, along with your sister. If you do end up in a foster home, chances are you'll be together with your sister. I don't think child services splits siblings apart too often.
One other thing, try to get your mom to seek therapy somehow, because she is one fucked up bitch.
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Hi,
I`m almost 18 years old.. and recently found out that i`m pregnant. I couldn't be more than a month.. Birth control obviously isn`t a hundred percent.. well, i've done way too much to stress out my family and i have way too much planned for me to have a baby right now.
I can`t let my mother know what's happenening.. and my father has always been out of the picture.
My boyfriend is almost 20; he's ready for this, i definately am not. He doesn't really respect my decision.. but i`m going to do what i need to do..
does anyone know what alternative i have since i`m not 18 and can't go and get an abortion on my own? is there anything else..
Please help.. as soon as you can..
I'm not going to recommend that you get an abortion, I'm also not going to recommend you keep the baby. Everyone has different morals, some people think a fetus is a fetus, some peopel think it's human. If your state requires that you get your parents permission to get an abortion, then getting an abortion in your state is obviously out the question. However, there are other states that you may consider.
http://www.coolnurse.com/abortion_laws.htm
Other than that, the only advice I can give you is to think about your future if you have the baby, or if you don't have the baby. Are you going to college? Are you ready to be a mom? Will you be a good mother?
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i heard you can't get high the first time you smaoke marijuana
is this true??
It's mostly because the first time you smoke marijuana you really don't know what the hell you're doing so you get a crappy high beacuse you take crappy hits.
Yes you can get high from smoking marijuana for the first time. Like a cigarette, don't try to suck the smoke in, breathe it in instead.
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I am 19 years old and a college sophomore. I am 5'7" and extremely athletic. Because of sports and probably a naturally fast metabolism I get hungry for an incredible amount of food. I eat 6000 to 7000 calories a day. My friends often tease me about this. They don't mean anything by it but it sometimes bothers me when other people are around. It bothers me more when I hang around new people. How should I handle it when we eat lunch somewhere and everyone is full except me? I sometimes get hungry at unusual times and if I don't get enough to eat I can get extremely hungry when no one else is. Many people tell me to have a doctor check me for this or that. I have been to the doctor and I find this rather annoying. It is especially awkward if I get very hungry when I am at a friends house. No one will want to go out and my friend says "get whatever you want from the kitchen". I often find this awkward because no matter how understanding they are I feel funny cleaning out my friend's fridge. Last Saturday I met a friend for lunch after 4 hours of swim practice. We had a small lunch and went to her apartment. After a couple of hours I was very very hungry. I ate a cup-o-noodles and 2 sandwiches and a banana while she made me some falafels. I finished the falafels and started making another sandwich. My friend started raving "are you STILL HUNGRY!!?? - how can you eat so much? - where does it go!? - you have to tell me where it goes!!" I have no answer. I'm just hungry. I'm sorry. Actually I finished the sandwich, some chicken salad and 2 more bananas while my friend continued her questions. The fact that I had a 30 minute run before breakfast and 4 hours of swimming after that doesn't figure in to her thinking. This kind of thing makes me feel awkward and when it is in a group or with strangers I don't know how to handle it. I want to hear any advice on how to make things smooth and not feel awkward.
Are you a guy or girl?
Anyways, everybody's body is different. Some people need more calories than others. Although the average person doesn't eat 6k to 7k calories per day, that many calories isn't that crazy. I've met athletes who drink protein shakes with 1.5k calories+ in them. Being extremely athletic will cause you to eat a lot of calories, because you will have burned a lot of calories, especially after 4 hours of swim exercise. ALthough i'm no doctor, my guess is that you have a body type that requires more calories than the average person(which isn't something you should be ashamed of and it DOES NOT mean you are fat) and you happen to be hardcore when it comes to sports, hence the crazy calories. You sound healthy to me so don't worry about it. If your friends bother you, tell them to go screw themselves while you eat your food. :)
Another answer could possibly be that you have a tapeworm or another type of parasitic organism living in you that is taking a lot of your nutrients.(go to doctor to get checked)
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i think my bones probably are dense, that or else i have a lot of muscle. i dont know, but many people think i am anorexic because they say i am very thin. but i always want to lose weight b/c i used to be anorexic and have recently struggled with bulimia.
If you used to be anorexic, I highly doubt you have much muscle left unless if you were anorexic a long time ago. And by anorexic, I don't mean not eating, I mean as in you have had a physician diagnose you as anorexic.
What is your height and your weight? A lot of people who have struggled with eating disorders before suffer from something known as BDD(Body dismorphic disorder..or something like that) It basically causes the person to view his or her body as something it is not. In the case of many girls, they view their bodies of having more fat than they actually have. If your weight is underweight for your height, think logically. The last thing you want to do is to lose weight. Sincem ost people think you are anorexic because of the way you look, chances are you are too skinny so I'm not going to tell you how to lose weight.
eating disorders also come from emotional problems such as depression or insecurties. If you feel crappy about yourself, which I believe you do, then I'd recommend doing something productive such as a sport to make you feel better about yourself. If that doesn't work, try talking to a therapist.
If you want to become a healthy weight and have a nice, toned, body, I'd recommend running 2 or 3 miles every day(not walking, RUNNING) and eating six small meals per day. A small meal would be considered something as a sandwhich. Also drink a lot of water everyday. if you feel that eating a complete sandwhich is too much and you'll get fat, first of all, you won't get fat if you run everyday. If you still find it impossible to eat something such as a sandwhich, I'd recommend seeking therapy.
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hey, heard you knew how to make someones metabolism speed up. please tell
It's not easy to increase your metabolism. First, you have to cut all the unhealthy foods you eat. No chips, no sodas, no donuts, no lard, no friend foods, etc...
Drink plenty of water and eat a lot of vegetables and fruits. Eat six to eight small meals per day instead of three large meals.
Next, you want to put in about an hour of exercise per day. If you can spend about half an hour running(pace yourself) and another half an hour doing sit ups, your metabolism will increase. Every two weeks, try to increase your pace of running. It will hurt, but push yourself as hard as you can.
One way to slow down your metabolism is by dieting. Although dieting does help you lose weight, it pretty much destroys yous metabolism in the long run because your body is a lot more likely to store up fats from food you eat if you diet. The last thing you want to do is to cut calories.
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hi (:
im 13/f.
this kid i know that asked me out, i said no, started spreading rumors about me at school.
he told two girls that i kept trying to get him into bed and that i was a hoe.
and he told practically EVERYONE at school.
most people didnt believe it because they know me, but some did, and they spread it and well, you know middle school is.
so im a cristian, and i DEF. did not do any of this.
do you think that i should be the mature person and just blow it over. eventually making him look even more stupid.
or should i get mad and have my brother beat his acee. or my friend says i should spread a rumor about him?
hm. tough decision? i think so.
thanks so much in advance. (:
It's not a tough decision at all.
Be the better person, walk away and ignore him. Doing anything such as spreading a rumor about him will pretty much make you no better than he is.
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what fast food, mcdonalds, subway, taco bell, any other one there is.. is the healthiest? i haven't eaten fast food in a long time since i eat healthy now but which one is best? is subway really healty or is tehre some kind of trick
subway is the healthiest depending on how you look at it.
yes their sandwhiches are healthy, but there cookies, chips, sodas are not.
Mcdonalds, taco bell, jack n the box, carls jr, all have die from heart disease written all over them.
Not even In N out is healthy, and they're considered the healthiest of all fast food resturaunts.
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i just started drinking A LOT of water and cut down on my diet a lot. the thing is i've gained weight? is that normal?
If it's just a couple of pounds then it's all water weight. It'll all go away once you go to the bathroom. Overall, it should help your metabolism though.
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im 5'9" 14/f and i weigh like 140. i have NEVER weighed this much. no matter what i do, i cant seem to lose weight. ive even ate less than 1200 calories in a day and excercise, but no luck. i hate it!! what shoud i do? i cant stand weighing this much!
A lot of it is genetics. Do you have weight to lose? What's your body fat percentage? For girls it should be about 18%. I really would not recommend going below 14. Maybe your bones are denser and that accounts for a lot of your weight. You could look very thin and still weigh a bit more than average.
if your body fat is above 20%, I'd recommend continuing exercising but I would not recommmend eating 1.2k calories per day. I'd say you need to get at least 1800 in. I'd say running two miles everyday should help you lose all the weight you could lose in a healthy manner within a month. If you still don't lose any weight, it's because you shouldn't lose weight.
If you feel like you must absolutely lose weight regardless of how you look, then send a message
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my boyfriend and i were doing it one ngiht and i didnt know he taped it. and he showed it to all his friends they write whore on my locker and my desks and they always stare at me. i yelled at my boyfriend for it but he said i have a nice body and should show it some more. what should i do?
Dump him and press charges
Destroy the tape
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and i dont know, we're sorta growing apart cuz this ordeal. We've been friends for not even a year, but we're really close friends already. what do i do to keep our friendship? Do i act like i agree with her?
thx.
kp:)
I can tell you one thing. If a political issue splits up friends, then guys probably wern't that great of friends to begin with.
Something along the lines of "I understand your political views differ from mine but I want you to know that I respect you as a friend and I don't want some silly political issue to affect our friendship" should do it.
Also avoid talking about abortion from then on.
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im a freshamn in highschool im fifteen, and i was at my boyfriends friends house it was me and like his four guy friends. there all football players and everything so there built. there really nice and respectful and all but we were ust sitting on the couch and they were asking me really inapropriate questions like when ill get my next period and how old i was when i first got it, and what size bra i wear. it was really uncomfortable so i got up to go to the bathroom and i heard someone behind me so i turned around and it was my boyfriend he started kissing me and he asked me if i felt uncomfortable. we have been going out for a year since eighth gtrade so i could trust him and he was nice to me and everything so i said yeah a little and he started kissing me and apoligized and then in his friends house there was a guestroom right next to the bathroom and he started pushing me into the room and i went along with it since i mean we werent going to do anything. keep in mind hes a football player and weighs like 190 which is all muscle and i weigh 91 pounds. so he threw me (liturally) on the bed and started taking his shirt off and he locked the door. i sat up because i didnt want to do this. and he pushed me back down and started taking my shirt off and he started kissing me again and it hurt since he was ontop of me. i was trying to get him off and kept telling him no i dont want to do this and he always respected my opinion before when we were doing stuff and i didnt want to anymore so i thought he would this time. all he did was start to punch me and tell me i was a slut and a whore. and he started taking my pants off and he started fingering me and it hurt really bad. i just froze i was in shocke he would be doing this. i tried to fight him off which i knew wouldnt work sincehe was much mcuch bigger than me but he took his pants off and went in me and then i started screaming and his friends came but since the door was locked they just asked if i was okay and i said no and then they broke the lock and got him off of me and asked me if i was okay. meanwhile my boyfriend kept telling them i was a slut and he thought thats what i wanted because thats what sluts do and they kept telling him i wasnt a slut then he got all mad and left. the next day he kept calling me and tellling me how sorry he was and he wasnt thinking that night and he loves me and will wait till i ready to do it again. he bought me flower and he wrote me apoligy notes and all. i forgave him and its been like five months im just afraid hell do it again. i need help. what should i do?
I'd say if you aren't comfortable with him, you should dump him.
A guy who is capable of doing smething like that is probably capable of donig it again. Don't take the risk. He also sounds like the generic football player which means he's an asshole. His friends sound like good people though.
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Everyone is saying that i cant like daniel radcliffe because i never met him! ive read everything about him that i could find and they keep saying that i need to find someone else who dosent ride horses naked...its making me really mad. im about to cry right now. everyone at school is all like " how do you know that your really in love with him if you have never met him?" everyone is making me mad. please dont say that this is just a teenage crush because it isnt. and please dont say that i cant because ive never meet him, im sure you love someone that youve never met. and if i sound mean in this letter, its not your fault, im just really mad right now. please give me some help!
Shelby
Maybe you love him, maybe you don't
Maybe you don't get enough love at home or don't have a dominant male figure in your life.
Maybe it's just an obsession. Maybe in a few months you'll get over him.
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OK, everywhere I go people always want to give me their programs on gaining weight. So I sit there and read through all that stuff come to fin dout that it cost money. Now I really don't mind paying but I don't have a credit card because I am to young and I hate credit cards. So can anyone tell me a few websites that offer detaled program for weigyt gain and are free?
Weight gaining...
If you want to put on weight for the sake of putting on weight, sit around, do nothing but eat fatty foods.
If you want to put on muscle, work out and drink protein shakes with at least 500 calories per serving.
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alright by boyfriend always grabbs me and puts his hand up my skirt and everything. like during school when were watching a movie and the lights our off, he starts grabbing me and tries to finger me. three of his friends laugh when they see and call me a whore and that hes their hero. and i told him to stop and all he does is laugh and says shutup whore. i dont wanna break up with him and im not going too but i need help like what do i say to get him to stop? thanks.
Because your self dignity is less important that a high school or middle school boyfriend.
He's an asshole, I recommend buying some RAPEX
http://www.rapestop.net/
Then laugh at him.
Or if you don't want to be a terrible person, just dump him.
Whatever the case, you have to break up with him. You shouldn't allow yourself to be treated like that.
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14/f. I happen to drink about 3 glasses of orange juice everyday. How is this good for me?
You will not suffer from scurvy.
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Not to sound goofy or anything
but are myspace bullitens real?
like ones that are like
you you will loose the one you love most and stuff.
?
Contrary to popular belief, myspace bulletins are very real.
Take Timmy for example, he didn't repost a bulletin once and he lost his genitals in a fruit fly experiment in biology class.
Or Ashley, who was smart, popular, and pretty. She didn't repost a bulletin and she was in a severe traffic accident going out her driveway and recieved third degree burns.
However, take Joey for example. He once had acne, male pattern baldness, crooked teeth, and glasses. He was the average high school loser. He reposted a myspace bulletin once and the next day, his crooked teeth became white and stright, his acne went away, his hair became thick and wild, and his eyesight became better. In addition, he developed a six pack over night and his dream crush asked him out and they made love in a movie theater the week after that.
Myspace bulletins affect the very core events in your life, repost them as if your life depends on it, because it does.
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