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im a freshamn in highschool im fifteen, and i was at my boyfriends friends house it was me and like his four guy friends. there all football players and everything so there built. there really nice and respectful and all but we were ust sitting on the couch and they were asking me really inapropriate questions like when ill get my next period and how old i was when i first got it, and what size bra i wear. it was really uncomfortable so i got up to go to the bathroom and i heard someone behind me so i turned around and it was my boyfriend he started kissing me and he asked me if i felt uncomfortable. we have been going out for a year since eighth gtrade so i could trust him and he was nice to me and everything so i said yeah a little and he started kissing me and apoligized and then in his friends house there was a guestroom right next to the bathroom and he started pushing me into the room and i went along with it since i mean we werent going to do anything. keep in mind hes a football player and weighs like 190 which is all muscle and i weigh 91 pounds. so he threw me (liturally) on the bed and started taking his shirt off and he locked the door. i sat up because i didnt want to do this. and he pushed me back down and started taking my shirt off and he started kissing me again and it hurt since he was ontop of me. i was trying to get him off and kept telling him no i dont want to do this and he always respected my opinion before when we were doing stuff and i didnt want to anymore so i thought he would this time. all he did was start to punch me and tell me i was a slut and a whore. and he started taking my pants off and he started fingering me and it hurt really bad. i just froze i was in shocke he would be doing this. i tried to fight him off which i knew wouldnt work sincehe was much mcuch bigger than me but he took his pants off and went in me and then i started screaming and his friends came but since the door was locked they just asked if i was okay and i said no and then they broke the lock and got him off of me and asked me if i was okay. meanwhile my boyfriend kept telling them i was a slut and he thought thats what i wanted because thats what sluts do and they kept telling him i wasnt a slut then he got all mad and left. the next day he kept calling me and tellling me how sorry he was and he wasnt thinking that night and he loves me and will wait till i ready to do it again. he bought me flower and he wrote me apoligy notes and all. i forgave him and its been like five months im just afraid hell do it again. i need help. what should i do?
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He punched you and raped you. That is horrible! He took your virginity before you were ready..rape is a horrible crime..very degrading..and he can get in serious trouble for that. He has issssues. If he loved you and respected you he wouldnt have RAPED you and PUNCHED you. You need to understand you do not desserve this...this guy is a jerk..annd you can do so much better than him! DUMP him..! please follow my advice..any more questions? definately go to my page ..and write me a question,..im here for you.
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I'd say if you aren't comfortable with him, you should dump him.
A guy who is capable of doing smething like that is probably capable of donig it again. Don't take the risk. He also sounds like the generic football player which means he's an asshole. His friends sound like good people though.
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So basically, your boyfriend raped you & five months later, you're still with him? I'm not here to put you down, but are you kidding me? LEAVE HIM. By staying with him, you're giving him power over you & the chance to take control of you again. It does not matter how many flowers or how nice the apology letter was, you do NOT continue to date some who was violent, held you down, called you a slut, & raped you. That is completely disgusting. Like I suggested to another girl - get a restraining order on him and LEAVE. No one deserves to be treated like that & you are only playing a desperate idiot by staying. I'm sorry my advice is not what you WANT to hear, but it's certainly something you NEED to hear.
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yeah that is rape... you two could be naked and kissing and if you say no its rape..he could go to jail for it...I say dump him and get a guy who could treat you with respect
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I'm sorry this probably isn't what you want to hear, but the person under me is correct. No matter what, if you say no and he does no listen, it is considered rape. Since you have been going out with him for a year and your trust for him was really strong, I could understand how you think he will not do it again because it was just one time. Keep in mind, though, that after one time, it will usually get more common. It is odvious now that the trust between you two is not as strong since you think he could possibly do it again. Keeping things like this a secret is not the smartest thing to do. His friends know about what happened since they helped you, it's possible they are more trustworthy than your boyfriend. Talk to one of them privately on what to do. In my opinion? If you are worried about if he will do it again or not, he most likely will. I say you should let him go, no matter how hard it could be. You are a freshman in high school. High school is time to have fun and experiment with other guys. He may get mad and you may feel hurt, but time will heal. Remember, put your safety before anything else.
Hopefully you will make the right choice, and be safe.
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well, you shouldn;t have forgiven him.thats RAPE. i dont care how many flowers he bought that is R-A-P-E and he punched you which is violent. he will do it again, because he got inside you so my advice is leave him.
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