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baby or not? ..not
Hi,
I`m almost 18 years old.. and recently found out that i`m pregnant. I couldn't be more than a month.. Birth control obviously isn`t a hundred percent.. well, i've done way too much to stress out my family and i have way too much planned for me to have a baby right now.
I can`t let my mother know what's happenening.. and my father has always been out of the picture.
My boyfriend is almost 20; he's ready for this, i definately am not. He doesn't really respect my decision.. but i`m going to do what i need to do..
does anyone know what alternative i have since i`m not 18 and can't go and get an abortion on my own? is there anything else..
Please help.. as soon as you can..
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I'm not going to recommend that you get an abortion, I'm also not going to recommend you keep the baby. Everyone has different morals, some people think a fetus is a fetus, some peopel think it's human. If your state requires that you get your parents permission to get an abortion, then getting an abortion in your state is obviously out the question. However, there are other states that you may consider.
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Other than that, the only advice I can give you is to think about your future if you have the baby, or if you don't have the baby. Are you going to college? Are you ready to be a mom? Will you be a good mother?
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Hi.
Please don't get an abortion.
Talk to your boyfriend, see what he wants for the baby. If he wants to keep it, then have the baby and see if he wants to take care of it and keep it. Then when you get older, and ready, you can take over with him. That's what I would do anyways.
Or, Have the baby and put it up for adoption.
Just make sure whatever decision you make, your boyfriend agrees with it.
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omg plz dont kill the baby!!!! if you cant have the baby and raise it then have an OPEN adoption that means you can see the baby when ever and see it grow up and you can pick the family so that your baby doesnt have an "awful" life if you so think it would. i think thats the best way to go so your not left out of the picture thats what im going to do if i get pregnate early! tell your mom what your going to do so that way shes not as mad and you still have a great future ahead of you.
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Tough decision. You have two choices. Your first one is to have the baby, and put it up for adoption. I personally do not like this option because I look at it this way : Two people wanted to have sexual encounters with eachother, but the poor innocent baby that was made is rejected and not wanted, but then it is shipped off for someone else to take care of. If I were adopted, which i wasnt, then i would go through a life not knowing who i was, where i was from, or who my parents are. Adoption is one choice. The other choice is to take responsibility for your actions. You and your boyfriend took a risk, even with birth control, and this is the consequence. It is YOUR baby, not anyone elses. You can do whatever you want with it, keep it, or put it up for adoption. Just think about the baby, and the different ways that it can grow up- with parents whole ARE the parents, or with parents who are the people that adopted. It is your choice from here...
hope i helped,and good luck.
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