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i feel really down and alone
my boyfriend and i have been getting on really well.he was always telling me how sexy i am and stuff like that and i was saying it back to him because he is and its the truth.this week its like everything has gone done hill.i ring him and try to make conversation with him but he doesnt and it makes me feel really awkward then.he asks me personal stuff through text message but then when were talking he doesnt ask me anything.i know he might be just shy but he has asked me other stuff through text and to me if i was shy i wouldnt be asking stuff like that.i ask him how he is and gives me a one word anwser to everything.then i get nervous.i really really like but i dont know whats wrong.when he acts that way it makes me feel really down and alone.now, i feel like crying but at the same time i feel like shouting.
i dont mind him asking me personal stuff.i think its good to ask stuff.
help!im confused,upset,worried if i did something wrong.i just need some advice.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Males have a certain peculiarity that most of us don't even recognize within ourselves because it seems "normal". We go through cycles of intimacy and withdrawal. It's not a gradual thing, it can happen very fast - all at once, we just need alone time, and then just as suddenly, we're ready to get close again. He's probably in the alone zone right now. He can still send text messages and such because there's no actual contact there, but face-to-face is a little too close for comfort right now.
The thing is, if you give him some space, he'll eventually snap back. The most critical thing is not to continuously ask him what's wrong, because there IS nothing wrong; it's just a mood. Harping on it and drawing attention to his sulking will just make it last longer.
Now, this is all PROBABLY true. The thing is, it's also possible that there genuinely is something wrong that he's unwilling to share for some reason. Keep this possibility in the back of your mind, and if he doesn't "snap out of it" after a week or two, that is the time to sit him down and tell him that he's acting strangely and giving you the cold shoulder, and that's something that's very hard for you to deal with, so if there is something going on he needs to at least confirm that there is a problem. If he continues to insist that there IS nothing wrong, then you should tell him that if that's the case, he's giving you an attitude for no reason and you're not going to put up with it forever.
In other words, sometimes guys need a mental smack upside the head. Maybe he's just due for one.
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if you think he might be avoiding you, then ask him,"hey whats wrong? is something bothering you?"
and if he gives you one word answers then ask,"well if you ARE okay, than why are you only giving one word answers?" and wait for him to answer! if that dosn't work, give him one word answers back..sorry if this is bad advice
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you did nothing wrong but ask him whats wrong or I know ask him personal stuff on the phone and if he starts texting you then be like i cant text fingers hurt something like that or tell him about your day a joke and well sometimes your going to have a conversation like that with him but if its like everyday then hes probally feeling the same way its so awkard i hate it too but like be random its something rite!
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