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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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What is your favorite outfit to wear to school? I'm looking for new ideas- I love almost anything :) Female-16.

Skinny jeans and a V neck T shirt, complete with my million bracelets :D


-Laura (17-f)

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there is this boy i really really like at my school and he knows i like him but every time i speek to him on msn he never reply's how can i get him to like me? lots of people have said to just tell him how you feel about him but i am scared he will just laugh at me. wot should i do ?

Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:


1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.


I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!


Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...


As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?



-Laura (17-f)

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I am traveling to Chicago this weekend, and I'm meeting a friend from the internet that I met on Advicenators [irony?] three years ago.

I know, you're thinking, "DON'T MEET SOMEONE YOU'VE MET ONLINE!" I know. It's dangerous. I've thought of this for the past three years. But, we've talked on the phone, we've texted back and forth, we're friends on Facebook, Myspace, and Twitter, I've seen videos of her and her friends hanging out, and so has she for me. I'm like 99.9% sure she is not a 45-year old molester that's held a 17 year old girl hostage for three years, just to continue a lie.

So, my question is, is it normal to be nervous? What kinds of things should we talk about? What should we do?

What other advice do you have?

Thanks you. And, don't worry. She's bringing her friend with her, and I'm bringing my dad along, so if by some chance she is a creeper, I'm safe.

Dear Mr. Dixon Jr,


It is ok to be nervous, because you have never met her before. But don't worry, she's not some 50 year old creep who still lives at home in her mother's basement working at some lame place like A Touch of Green. She's actually a pretty fly 17 year old GIRL who lives in her OWN room, but still works at this lame place called a Touch of Green. Regardless, you will be safe.


You should talk about pizza, and how good it is in Chicago. You should also talk to random strangers, asking them to take a picture with you, and then tagging them on Facebook as your other Advicenators friends.


Finally, you should visit the Shedd Aquarium. They have penguins 'Nuff said.


Have fun! ;)


-Laura (17-f)


p.s.
You're welc.


p.p.s.
Don't worry if other Advicenators follow in your footsteps, it is also normal XD

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Ok Well I had sex about a week ago and i think im pregnant! i got off my period the day before i had sex... and i have cramps now..could i be pregnant?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=538566


-Laura (17-f)

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I will soon be entering my freshman year and am looking for a cute canvas tote. I prefer one that's pink with a peace sign, but that may be too much. Can anyone give me specific links to cute college totes that are
1. under $30
2. not something that says make pink or any crap like that from VS
3. and are big enough to hold a laptop

I used to own an abercrombie one that was a pink canvas and 30 dollars but that one has a hole in it and the new abercrombie ones are way too expensive :/
Thanks

Try Target for sure. They have a ton of cute tote bags; I just got one for under 10 bucks! :)


-Laura (17-f)

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im 5'2 and 100 lbs, and i started my period last month, and i thought you were supposed to start developing them before your period. not only that, but im 15. ive never met a girl who still doesnt have them my age and im starting to worry if i will ever get them. all the other signs of puberty are there, but i dont have any boobs at all- and by that i dont mean they're small- i mean theres actually nothing there, i might as well be a ten year old boy. i just want to know if anyone is in the same position as me or was but eventually got them, but any answers at all will really help.

You're only 15. Girls' breasts stop growing around the age of 18, so you still have time :)


-Laura (17-f)

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okay well. i keep making excuses for a guy that wants to come over.
i think he has a girlfriend.
i dont think he should come over if he has a girlfriend.
but im nervous if he doesnt have one.
help!
i cant keep making up excuses.
its makin me feel really bad.

Ask him. It's that simple.


And if he has a girlfriend, leave him alone and back off. If he doesn't, go for it and have fun.


-Laura (17-f)

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I am a 17th year old female and I want to ask my dad for Birth control.
He has told me before that if I want it, don't hesitate to ask but when the time comes its going to be awkward and weird. So when should I bring it up and what should I say.
My dad is very understanding about everything, I just will feel awkward.
Thank you.

Just be open with him. You yourself just told us he is very understanding, so I'm going to guess he'll be totally cool with it.


Just sit down with him and tell him you think it's time you went on B.C. Don't feel awkward about it, he's your dad and he loves you. He's going to support you, and he sounds like an awesome father :)


-Laura (17-f)

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ok my boyfriend and i had sex and he never jizzed in me but i am scared i could still be pregnat?? am i?

"my boyfriend and i had sex"


Yes, you can be pregnant.


-Laura (17-f)

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James/16

I want to get my girlfriend somthing special I don't have that much money and we live far apart.
I want to be able to surprise her but at the same time say I'll always be there for you.
Im at a loss here and don't have a clue of somthing that will say that.

Make her a mix cd.
Make her a photo collage.
Buy her a teddy bear.
Send her flowers.
Write her a poem/song.


-Laura (17-f)

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I know you can't tell me what's wrong over the computer, but 3 nights ago, I cut myself with a razor blade I found laying around my house.

I never thought to clean it, or anything. & I cut my stomach.

Well, ever since then, I'm exhausted, and I've barely done anything. I feel really sick, and I'm never hungry. & I'm really weak.

Am I slowly killing myself? Did I get an infection in my bloodstream?

Thanks for inboxing, but you're right, I can't help you.


You know who can? Your doctor. Go see him ASAP.


-Laura (17-f)

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I'm making a photo album for my boyfriend before he goes on holiday. I've decorated the front with our date on it and 'i love you' down the side. I also made a heart out of a post it note and wrote cute things on bits of paper and folded them up and tucked them inside. I've got some quotes that I can put around the pictures, but has anyone got any other ideas for it? :]

Write song lyrics! Here are some great love songs:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691


Then, use inside jokes, something only the two of you would understand. Put a picture of something, or write a quote that only you two get.


only search advicenators.com



-Laura (17-f)

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Okay well I have been dating this guy for about a year and six months. He used to pay attention to me but now it's basically all going to his friends. For examples, he went to the beach with this guy for a week, and I told him I didn't want him to go and he said (word for word) I don't care, I am going anyway. So then he goes to his friends house and when we talk it's like for two seconds. Even when he is not with his friends he will be like I have to go eat, and I will say will you call me after you eat, and he said I don't know, maybe. So then when we argue, he is always like WHATEVER I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING, YOU PICK AN ARGUMENT OUT OF NOTHING. And then he always says I keep him on lockdown and I said I do not, I let you go anywhere you want to go. And he said, if I got to go anywhere I wanted to go, I would be gone everyday. And I told him we would never get to talk if he did that. He just acts like he never cares about me anymore. And also, whenever we argue he never says sorry unless I say something like, wow thanks for your apology, or stuff like that. It seems like his friends are way more important to him than I will ever be, and its making me lose my feelings for him. What do I do? Is it my fault?

I think it's about equal on both sides here.


What YOU need to know, is that guys don't require nearly as much attention as girls. And as the relationship goes on longer, the need to talk to you every minute of every day disappears, but that's NOT a bad thing. But girls, we DO require a lot of attention and guys don't get that.


That being said, I think you should stop bothering him about spending time with his friends. You need to let him have his time and you can have yours. Sure, you should (obviously) also be spending time together, but don't freak out just because he goes out.


But it's also his fault because he SHOULD be giving you time and he SHOULD be sorry when he upsets you. This is something you need to talk to him about and that HE needs to change.


Long story short: Relationships are give and take. Talk to him, apologize for all the fighting, and just tell him how you're feeling. Just don't make it into some huge argument like it sounds like you two normally do.


-Laura (17-f)

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OK

So i am getting married in December and as you probably deduced from the title, I have a dilemma.

My Biological father has always been in my life from timt to time. I only saw him occasionally, (like every other weekend) but our relationship has always been a good one. He's never been my provider though...

My STEP DAD has been married to my mother for 16 years, pretty much my entire childhood, and he was the provider and took care of everything I ever needed...the catch? He and I have NEVER had a strong relationship, HOWEVER, he and my mom are divorced now, and since the divorce, he and I have formed somewhat a pretty good relationship, he is still in my life. And helps me when he can.

SO SEE MY PROBLEM? heres a few things I was thinking....let me know what you think.

option 1: They BOTH walk me down the aisle. (i dont really want to do this. It just doesnt appeal to me, but everyone suggests it.

option 2: My dad walks me half-way, step-dad meets in the middle, and walks me the rest of the way, and gives me away at the alter.

now I have thought of another idea, one I really LIKE but I want others opinion on. Its not exactly tradiotional and Im not sure if its ever been done...here it is:

My BEST FRIEND Corey has been with me through everything. What if HE walked me down the aisle, and my dads were both standing at the alter with my Groom, and then when Corey gets me to the alter, he would hand me over to my dads and they would give me away, and Corey would resume his post as the groomsmen. That way they could both give me away and there wouldnt be any drama or hurt feelings??

HOW DOES THAT SOUND?

all opnions and advice would be great. thanks in advance!

21/f

I like option 2. Don't let your best friend walk you down the aisle when you have 2 perfectly capable father figures.


-Laura (17-f)


EDIT: whatever.

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is there ANY easy way to tell your parents that you lost your virginity.. i mean its REALLY bothering me i cant tell them but i know i have to what do i do?? i cant have a relation ship with them based on lies.. you know?? cause we're starting out on better terms and were trying not 2 fight but i just dotn know what to do.. so yeah. thanks guys

I'm also on the fence with this one.


You sound like you really want to tell them (which is good), so I'm leaning more towards advising you to tell them. Like you said, you don't want the relationship with your parents to be based on lies.


I think you should sit down with them and tell them that you have something you need to tell them. Just be open and honest. Tell them you lost your virginity, you felt like you were ready (I'm assuming and really hoping that you did), etc.


Make sure to keep your cool- if they get mad, let them get mad, but it doesn't mean you have a right to get mad back. They're your parents, they care about you and only want what's best. Keep in mind that you have to stay calm, and you'll be fine :)


-Laura (17-f)

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okay im 18 years old and i weight 179. most of the weight is in my stomach & i hate it!!!! its flabby & i have love handles and it makes me feel so insecure. i tried the gym but it doesnt make me smaller jus make muscle where the fat is so its still jus as big. i even asked the pharmacist if any of the weight lost pills work and he basically told me no. idk wat to do please someone help me !!!!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=569112


That will help!


-Laura (17-f)

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hi!
im in grade 7 and there r these 2 guys from my skool who ive both gone out with then dumped both of them but they keep askin me out again and again its gettin really annoyin.ive told them to stop there not harrasing or anything i just want some advice.and plez dont tell me to talk to teachers or parents.i need some really good advice!

hannah

Tell them again that you don't want to date them. Let them know you DUMPED them and that they need to go on. Then just ignore them and they'll go away.


-Laura (17-f)

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okay so im not bad looking. a lot of people think im cute and hott in ways im nice and funny and i cant get a boyfriend any tips?

Wait it out and find somebody that you actually like. Don't go looking around for some guy to date just to date him.


The best way to impress somebody is to be yourself. I know that's it's so cliche, but it's honestly, the best tip I or anybody can give.

I mean, you don't want somebody to start liking you for the way you think THEY want you to act or talk or dress. Why would you want somebody to like you when you're not even being yourself?


Secondly, don't be shy! Just go up and talk a cute boy. Confidence is key. Strike up a conversation! Start it with something like, "I see you're wearing a Hit The Lights [or whatever band/sport's team, etc] shirt, are they your favorite?" Or, something like, "So I know we've never talked before, but you seem like a really cool person..."


So be yourself, and show that you're comfortable being just that. Be comfortable in your own skin, and chances are, you'll impress everybody.



-Laura (17-f)

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I'm 15, I'm a girl, I'm in love with a 28 year old man, he is in love with me, we have never done anything, not even kissed, but we go on dates and meet up about 3 or 4 times a week.

Is this wrong? And does he just want sex? Because that is what I'd normally think, but we've been dating a few months and he's never so much as suggested anything. And we were friends for ages before that too. I don't know what to do.

And I know I'm young, and people say I'm to young to be in love, but I've never felt like this before.

Yes it is wrong. He's almost old enough to be your dad! It doesn't matter if you've never done anything, because if you did, it would only make your situation 10 times worse.


A simple rule of thumb here: If you have to HIDE a relationship from everybody and meet in secret, then it's not safe and something is definetely wrong.


I suggest finding somebody your own age. It's dangerous to continue, because you're a minor and he's a legal adult. If you really "love" him, you'll stop seeing him so that he won't risk spending his life in PRISON.


-Laura (17-f)

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I am having these feelings about abnging any guy. I want sex but I am waaayyy too young(13)

You're right: you're way too young to be having sex. It's good that you realize that. It's totally normal to start having sexual feelings, because you're going through puberty and your hormones are going crazy.


Obviously, don't have sex. Wait it out.


-Laura (17-f)

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