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God help you if you trusted the advice I gave at 13.trisspoke (7:31:17 PM): make me your forum link!
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I have always liked short hair more than long hair, but I have never had short hair. My hair has been long for my whole life. I told my friend that i want to cut my hair really short, but she said not to because my hair is "really beautiful". I have always wanted to have short hair, but I dont feel like I would look good with it.
I have a big nose, and not very good bone structure (which is my problem), do you think I would still look ok with short hair? And I mean like very short hair. All the models I see with short hair have nice noses and bone structure.
I changed my yahoo avatar to have short hair, which is kinda my first step lol.
This is a bit like the style I want (but not the colour):
http://www.hji.co.uk/hjimages/images/qhs…
*What I look like*:
I have brown eyes, they are kinda small, but look big because of my make-up and eye colour, my nose is definately not my best feature (some people say it isn't big, but I know that it is), my skin isn't too good (but I wear make-up so that doesn't matter), and my mouth is small, but my lips are plump. I am very skinny (but not because I want to be), I don't have a chest, and I am a white 15 year old girl, and I am kinda tall.
*What my hair looks like currently*:
It runs down to the middle of my back, it is wavey (and usually frizzy). My natural colour is a dark blonde, but then I dyed it brown, then I washed the brown out, then it turned red, so I put blonde in it, and now it is a strawberry blone colour. And now I have regrowth but that doesn't matter because the colours are similar. My hair is parted in the middle but I am training my fringe to go to the side. I don't have a fringe (bangs), the front parts of my hair go past my ears.
Do you think someone that looks like this could pull off very short hair? But I want my hair to still be long enough that I can tie it into short piggy tails (the piggy tails will be messy, with alot of hair fallen out of them, so I will have layers in my hair, and basically people wont notice the piggy tails are there because they will be so small xD)
Anyways, please help me. And I need you to be HONEST. all my friends will say "No, don't wreck your hair" or "You do whatever you want with your hair". So please answer honestly!
If a picture of me or other hair styles is required, tell me, and I will put the pics.
Thank-you!
If you want to cut your hair, cut it. The other day my friend and I got in a huge argument over my hair. She told me I looked like a "pregnant woman who cannot take care of herself" when I had short hair. I LOVED my hair short. I think if you want to try it out, go for it. It's just hair- it grows back. Besides, what the hell do you friends care about what you look like? I often think it's ridiculous that friends find it OK to tell you how you should wear your hair, who you should date, etc.
So that kind of turned into a rant about how pissed off I am that people like to tell me how to wear my hair. What I'm trying to say is give it a shot. If it looks terrible, it'll grow back.
I am a girl and i am straight. but i happened to be atracted to this lesbian at my school and i have been with a girl b4. we didnt date we kinda just fooled around. i know i like guys and that im gonna marry one but why am i attractied to a girl? i know i could never like do shit sexually to a girl but i could be with one casue i like there personalitys. so would i label myself a bi?
Bisexual or bi-curious would probably be the best label. However, you have the right to lover whoever you want and cast labels aside.
what is s&m..? =&
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sadomasochism
Whips 'n pain.
I think that i might be a lesbian. I have had crushes on boys, I had a crush on a boy recently. but i still think i kind of like girls. Please dont tell me its ok to be lesbian because I know I would never EVER be happy with my self. Tell me how not be a lesbian any more! please please please!
As the person below me said, you could very well be bisexual. This isn't what you want to hear, but you really can't change your orientation. If you are straight, you're straight and if you're gay or bi, you're gay or bi. Yes, we can all agree that the easiest orientation to be is straight, and plenty of homosexuals do really wish they could be straight. The problem with attempting to cover up your sexuality, is that you will always have to suppress your emotions and desires.
All that being said, your user information states you are 13. At 13, you probably really don't have a great idea of your sexuality and you could probably even be straight. Give it a few more years before you set a true sexual identity for yourself.
i have noo idea what to put for my senior quotes. i want to put a quote from a song or something...so what are some good graduation quotes? doesn't have to be too deep, just nice ones :)
Color my life with the chaos of trouble.
-The Boy with the Arab Strap by Belle and Sebastian
All the way from San Francisco, as I chased the end of your road. Cause I've still got miles to go.
-Bixby Canyon Bridge by Death Cab For Cutie
And (in)to the caverns of tomorrow with just our flashlights and our love
We must plunge, we must plunge, we must plunge.
-At the Bottom of Everything by Bright Eyes
you came to take us
all things go, all things go
to recreate us
all things grow, all things grow
-Chicago by Sufjan Stevens
Forget regret or life is your to miss
-Another Day from the musical Rent
nd then i cum and she swallows and shit could she get pregnant from tht
No. Swallowing cum does not get your pregnant. Getting cum down below does though.
When I was growing up all I heard from my friends was about how they were so bored all of the time. They would be in the middle of a fun activity and start saying they were bored! It was like it was cool to say you were bored all the time or something.
Well, now I don't hear many people saying they're bored but I hear them talking about how depressed they are. Sometimes they will be in the middle of a fun, happy activity (just like before when I was growing up) and start talking about how depressing their life is and stuff. It's like the word "bored" became the word "depressed" or something! They're practically the same situations!
Am I on to something or am I just running into strange people? Does anybody else feel this way or is it just me? It's weird!
I am going to assume you around high school age. Many of your peers feel like their life sucks due to a lovely phenomenon known as teen angst. Teenagers like to rebel by being sad and thinking their life sucks. I don't know why.
Real depression is an extremely serious matter. If you notice a change in one of your friends behavior and are worried for their well being, talk to them about it. Just because a mild case of teen angst is more common than teenage depression, it does not mean that it doesn't exist at all.
Hello, I'm 17/F.
I'm a senior this year and the school has asked me to select a song to sing for graduation this May. There's always a farewell song. What are some good songs? I want something inspiring; something that will make people think, or even cry... in a good way. =]
It doesn't have to be an old song, it can be rock, pop, country, any genre really. Just something you can relate to graduation or growing up. Something like that. Thanks.
No Doubt- Running
The Beatles- I Get By With a Little Help From My Friends
John Mayer- No Such Thing
Sarah Mclachlan- I Will Remember You
Yael Naim- New Song
Lee Ann Wolmak-- I Hope You Dance
Smashing Pumpkins-- Today
if i put the lime in the coconut, then what will happen?
BABSINATOR.
Put the lime in the coconut, and mix it all together. Put the lime in the coconut; it makes you feel better.
Is sex really clapping and spinning in a circle?
I think I can handle the clapping, but the spinning I'm not so sure about...
kthanxbai
Yes. I only make love by clapping my hands and spinning in a circle.
The hand clapping is the easy part, the spinning is where the big decisions come in at the spinning part. You need to think long and hard before you do it.
Long and hard, lawl. If only this question was really about sex...
Ok so i'm 18 years old. And im there's something that's been bugging me for the last 4 years. I don't know and i'm confused. See, i was dating this boy and he wanted to have sex. I was a virgin so i was kinda nervous and kept talling him no. This persisted for about a month where i kept saying no and no. But eventually he convinced me that no harm would be done if i was naked. i was stupid and thought that if i gave in and just got undressed maybe he'd drop it and stop asking me for sex. Anyways, we started making out and u got uncomfortable because i felt his hand gtouching my thigh. Then his fingers went inside me. I didn't say anything because it felt good. Well then he got on top of me and said. "Let me put it in you" i got nervous and told him no no no. But he kept pushing. I started to get scared so i scratched his chest but he proceed to pin my thighs open and he just pushed himself inside me, all the while i was crying and asking him to stop. I mean i know i didn't want to have sex. But, i feel like it was my fault too. Maybe i shouldn't have been such a slut and taken my clothes off. I don't know. But now it's gotten to the point where i can't think. I feel used and dirty. And now, 4 years later, i still can't get intimate with any guy because i'm so scared to think that he won't stop when i say "no." so. i don't know. was i raped? Or was it all my own fault?
You were raped. It is not your fault. A women can walk down the streets in nothing but red high heels, but if she tells a man no, it means no all the same. The second you say no and he continues, it is rape. It is not in any way your fault.
As for not being able to become intimate with other men, seeing a therapist would certainly help. You were sexually assaulted; this can warp one's views on intimacy. A therapist would be able to help you feel comfortable around guys again.
Hey i read one of your anwers on a similar situation to mine.. and i was hopin you would give me some advice too. im a senior in high school and my boyfriend of one year is a year ahead of me and went to college about 2 and a half hours away. We thought we would stay together and try to make it work. but meanwhile, theres this other guy who is my age and goes to my school. Hes really cute and sweet and he has liked me ever since freshmen year but the timing has never been right. i really like my boyfriend but at the same time i dont want to spend my senior missing him and feeling tied down. and i dont want him to feel tied down either. I've thought about breaking up with him when he comes home this weekend... but i dont want him to be mad at me and think its for reasons its not. i also dont want to make the wrong decision and realize it when its too late. i dont know what to do or say to him... please help me.
Obviously, I do not know you, so I have no way of completely knowing what would be right for your situation. That being said, if it was me, I would want to break up with my boyfriend. You're young- you don't need to be in a serious long distance relationship. It would probably be in both of your best interests to break up.
Explain to him that you two are currently moving in different directions. He's just left home and is experiencing new things, while you're starting the process to branch out. You both are busy and need to focus things other than each other. The relationship is just too stressful at this point. He will probably understand. If he doesn't, such is life.
As for the other guy, if things work out that is great. Wait until AFTER you break up with your boyfriend to pursue him though!
Dear Erinn the bamf,
i'm a nerd. and i wanna be sexy. how do i get onto the tyra banks show? i love that gurl. or or or, maybe you can give me a make ova. or or or maybe you can turn me into flapjack. i really like him. he seems to turn people on. ALL I WANT IS B.FOLEY.
Sincerely, M.B ( NO ITS NOT MEN IN BLACK )
Uhm.... this question is a bit of a conflict of interest. You see I TOO want B. Foley. He is all the man I've ever wanted. But, uhm, I could take you on a sailor shopping spree Men in Black Fan 101! After we can get bagels
Okay so i should be a pro at this by now, but i'vee been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 3 months today. I love him very very much, but he recently found out that i find a guy at work extremely attractive. my boyfriend and i have disscussed marriage and about a life together. i don't plan on marrying him too soon, but what i really need help on is how do i just focus on him and turn away from this other guy? The other guy that i fine attractive is so sweet to me, but i don't know very much about him. I want to stay with my man, but another part of me is saying it's alright to think this other guy is cute. Is it alright for me to think someone's cute even though i'm dating someone else? I should know this, but i just want some people's opinions. thanks and godbless. oh and i'm 19 and not in school and my boyfriend's almost done with school and he's 20.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
It is completely OK and natural to find someone else cute even though you are already in a relationship. Getting into a relationship does not make you blind- you will always find other people you are attracted to. For the time being, pick your boyfriend. You've been a stable relationship for some time. Of course, if you no longer feel attracted to your boyfriend you should think things over before taking the relationship further.
I was fingering my girlfriend today, she orgasmed, I took my fingers out (two), and there was some blood on them, just a little. She said it didn't hurt and was actually surprised to see it. I figured it was because I was going a little rougher than usual. Her period isn't for a couple weeks.
Anyway, just wondering if that was normal/common/whatever.
Normal.
Hey everyone, if you go to google and look up "William Suh arrest". Im the victum in that change. I dont know what to do, i still love that man and the people dont even have the facts stright about any of it! they are making himout to be a horrible person and he is NOT. I love him and belive he did nothing wrong, i really want to talk to him, but i cant sit here and listen to the horrible things people are saying about him. They dont know him, I DO!
what do i do T_T
He fought the law and the law won. Such is life.
He may not be some horrible person, but the bottom line is he broke the law. Sure, you love him, sure, no one really ever know the emotional relationship that goes on between two people, but this is statutory rape, and it's illegal. He and you both should have known this going into the situation.
Your advicenators profile says you are 16, however, the victim in the case is 13, so I am naturally going to assume you are 13. You are not fully developed yet mentally or physically. A 24 year old man is. It doesn't matter if he loves you, he knows it is against the law to have sexual relations with a 13 year girl. The case also claims that he believed you were between the ages of 16 and 18. Ignorance of the law is no excuse. A 13 year old girl does not have the same body features of an 18 year old girl. I do not know him, so I have no right to claim he is a horrible person; however, he did use poor judgment.
You are going to have to get over this. Dating a man eleven year your senior when you are a minor is simply not acceptable. You may love him, but when you get older you will realize why this would not be a healthy relationship. Move on; there is not anything else you can do.
For halloween my friends and I don't want to use wigs because they arn't very realistic. We were deciding weather or not to use black hair dye. I have light brown hair. If I use black L'Oreal Colour Pulse will it actually wash out or will it become permanent?
I am unfamiliar with L'Oreal Colur Pulse, however, if it is a wash out it will not become permanent unless your hair is already color treated. It may take a few washes to come out, but it will. If you want the color to last for a while, get a demi-permanent dye.
I was just wondering were dragons ever real? Ha I was just thinking about that and I just wondered because I've never heard of scientists digging up dragon bones or something ha.
The two people below me are blatant nonbelievers! Shun the non-believers! The dragons are real in your heart and that's all that matters
I went out with this dude, last year. Stoner
I loved him, we broke up for the dumbest reason,
but we were mates after that. We hung out, shit
loads.
More than we ever did when we were going out, so
I thought it was a good decision to stay friends.
But every time I go out with someone else, I
always find myself wanting Stoner back. Even when
I'm not with someone I want to be with him.
I don't like that I have these feelings because
I'm constantly thinking about him. I can't get
him off my mind...
I love him.
But I don't want to.
I want to just fucking let go.
It's been too long to still want him.
How can I get over him?
xx
Is stoner his real name? Just curious love.
But instead of spending so much time with him, spend it with your friends. Start up some type of sport or find a good hobby. It'll get your mind off of him, and eventually get over him.
Hi I am 18. And I just got asked on a date first by my crush who is shy and conservative, but the nicest guy in the world. We have been friends for couple years now, and now we both are in different colleges, which means long distance relationship. Well the problem? Is I am socailly awkward, and i think he is too. I asked him once if we are bf/gf he said, idk and want to get to know eachother, which i really don't get (we know eachother for 4 years). We are moving on a really really slow pace, and I really want him as my bf, but I don't wanna screw up and break up our friendship as well as possible friendship. Right now, I have problem approach him, and if I don't talk to him, he won't even talk to me. I really don't know if he likes me or not or is it one of his friend's stupid dares. Simply put, I am just really confused on what to do right now. Should I end this whatever relationship we have? or let it go on?
You're 18, it's okay mess some things up. My brother is just like you in this situation.. only he's a guy.. but yeah. He's at college right now, and he and the girl are still fairly close. Just talk a lot, and since he's a guy I'm sure he'll make the first move. And if not he's missing out.