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ok so I'm a 12 year old girl and I met this guy on facebook he said he's 13 and we never met but ya he started like talking to me sexualy but then he said he's 15 and I didn't mind and he got my number and asked for naked pix and I sent them well after a while he said he's 18 and stil I didn't mind and he started sending me pix and stuff and he said he's 20 then 25 and now he wants to meet up but I'm scared he's older and say now he's like a really old perve and rapes me ! Flip I'm scared must I go and trust his age? How do I know how old he really is? (link)
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You're young and you like to talk to people on the internet. There nothing wrong with that. But when somebody keeps changing their age, doesn't have a proper profile pic, and/or asks you for naked pics, then there is a huge problem. Sending naked pictures to anybody is called "Sexting" and is illegal for minors. It's worse when it's between a minor and an adult. You should be scared that this guy wants to meet you because chances are he is a pedophile. DO NOT TALK TO HIM ANYMORE! BLOCK HIS NUMBER! If he keeps finding ways to talk to you, then you need to tell an adult and call the police. You never give your age, name, location, and/or phone number to a complete stranger on the internet. And to answer your question, you'll never know how old he is because he changed his age five times and will probably keep changing it. He keeps changing his age because his goal was to get all the information he could about you without revealing a thing about himself. BE CAREFUL WHO YOU TALK TO ON THE INTERNET BECAUSE EVERYONE IS NOT WHO THEY SAY THEY ARE! If you meet someone at school and they give you their facebook page, then you know it's safe because you saw the person in real life. Next time be careful who you talk to.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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I am teenage girl turning .Before 3 days I left my only lovely place (my school)the school end and I will move 2 a new 1 I love my school ,my whole class and my teachers AND The most beautiful things is My family are horrible .My brother beats my mother every 3 or 5 mins .Because she was keep insulting him and said 2 him wish you die .When he was 8 ysold .Because he is walking strangly (disease) .I stand in front of her everytime 2 protect her So my brother beating me instead of my mom when I tey to stop him.So my whole body is hurting me now.And I cry all the day because of I will move 2 a new school.Plus I wake up in the morning everyday by my mother screams & crying out. Plus ain't go anywhere my family prevent me to go out even to the supermarket that's very close 2 my house.Also They never 4ever go out 2 having fun 2gother.I am feeling bad about my school I can't believe that I will leave it .I am considering them as my family .My class as my sisters.My teachers as my sisters and my mother.I was waiting every summer vocation 2 pass 2 go 2 my school again. When I mistake or argue with someone at my school .I was keeping blaming myself until I apologize 4 that person. This was my best one.I said 2 my dad I will go with my friends to the same school. He screamed at me said :I swear if you tell the principle to send and move you to another school that I want u to go .I'll kill ya( because it's far away from house).So I can't go with my friends .Also I tried and thought about fail to stay at my school.But I am nerd so I can't fail even I didn't study 4 the final exams.I love my school more than my awful family alot . Now all I do is lying on my bed crying and hearing squabbles outside but I keep ignoring.my body hurting me m brother every when he sees her in front of his face.I feel like death is the best choice 2 me help wt i have 2 do about this. Ain't stupid to do this but feeling like doing this
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Well let me just tell you, DEATH IS NOT AN ANSWER! What your family needs is to talk your problems out. If the child is hitting the mother, then there is a huge problem. You guys need to work out your problems now before somebody gets seriously hurt. Forgive me if I sound rude, but it seems like your the only one in your family with any sense left in your head. I admire you for reaching out online. If your family is unwilling to listen to you, then maybe you should find a counselor to help you. If the counselor thing doesn't work, hopefully there is another relative you can live with. Let them know what is going on and get yourself out of that house. You don't deserve to live in that kind of disfunction. PROTECT YOURSELF AND LEAVE! But make sure your family knows why you are leaving so that way, they aren't blaming eachother. I really believe in you. I believe that all this drama will pass over someday. You have a great future ahead of you. DON'T EVER THINK SUICIDE BRINGS PEACE BECAUSE IT DOESN'T.
I hope this helped.
P.S. Your not a nerd. The correct term is
well-educated.
~Andrew~
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Ever since I started being abused I started chasing after guys and stuff and I don't know why I keep doing this.I feel like I can't live without a boyfriend! Even if I don't like someone I'll date them! I don't know why but I just love the attention you know? I used to do anything a guy asked me to but now a guy asked to have s*x with me!I'm 12 by the way ! (link)
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You need to talk to somebody. I'm sorry you've been hurt physically and emotionally, but now you're being self destructive. Certain men are not the gentlemen that they should be. They just want sex and once they get, they could care less about how you feel. Men will not respect you unless you start respecting yourself first. Put yourself first and get yourself right emotionally before you start looking for a boyfriend. And when you look for a boyfriend, make sure he respects you and loves you as much as you love yourself.
Stay strong.
~Andrew~
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i know life is short and i shouldnt but am considering it.
my life is horrible, but i have a bf, we have been going out for the past 6 months. its like he is the only person that loves me. i have cought my self fixing to commite suicide and stoped myself thinking of Devin. i feel cruel cause if my dad died i wouldnt cry as much as i did for my dog when she died. the only reason i dont is because of Devin. he makes me happy, we never fight, but if i tell him, this may be the first fight.
i know im to young to even think about it cause i havent even been introduced to the teen years.so please help me i dont know wht to do?
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Suicide doesn't help anybody. I think you need to deal with your problems and find a way to fix them. Since I don't know what they are, I can't tell you how. But I know suicide is never the answer because it hurts your family and it most definitly will hurt you. And also, talk to your boyfriend. Let him know whats going on and how you feel. If you plan on being together for a long time with this guy then you have to tell him the truth.
Don't give up on life.
~Andrew~
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I'm not sure if this is peer pressure but anyway.my boyfriend wants me to have sex with random guys infront of him but I don't want to. He says he will brake up with me if I don't and my friends say they won't be my friends anymore. I turned 12 a few days ago and he is 16. I don't want to be a little slut but what am I going to do without my friends? And I really love my boyfriend. My boyfriend always wanted to have sex with me and to finger me but I always said no and he didn't mind but now he does mind and I don't know what to do! (link)
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You were right to say no to him and your friends. Do not compromise your beliefs for some guy. Who cares what your friends say. LET THEM LEAVE! Those people you hang with are not your friends. And it is illegal to date someone way older than you are. And also, what you said in the very first sentence sounds familiar to prostitution which is also illegal. All I'm trying to say is get out of this relationship NOW! And if your friends are on the side of adultry, let them leave too. YOU BE AN INDIVIDUAL AND STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN, AND LET NOBODY TELL YOU WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE OR YOUR BODY!!
Stay strong.
~Andrew~
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So, my friend got mad at me the other day. I said I was sorry and she replied back along the terms saying that I wasn't a true friend, and I am. So I gave her a few days to cool off, and I called her today. She didn't answer, so I left her a message. I sent her a text through iMessage, and she didn't reply. I tried facetiming her, but that didn't work. So I called her house phone, and her mom said she didn't want to talk to me. I'm just upset and mad, and even wondering if I should be her friend. So any help here? (link)
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You've tried to reach out to her and she isn't responding. So maybe it just time to move on and leave the past in the past. If she gets over herself and decides to reach out to you, then it's your choice whether or not you want to remain friends. But as of right now, you shouldn't stay in all this drama.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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im a married 31 year old woman who is having problems in my marriage my husband wants to do everything for me not in a good way he wants to think for me tell me how to dress wear my hair what to say and everything your mother and father did when i was a child ive been sleeping on the floor for the last couple of days because i just dont want to be around him my choice he is always talking about he s the head and i understand but u just can t talk the talk u have ti walk the walk to i pay all the bills except the ones he wants to pay cable bill so i feel im the head of the house i need some advice on what to do about this situation because i do love him but i dont want to be doormat when im doing everything he is suppose to do if he wants to be respected by me ive been in controll my whole life my mother couldnt tell me what to do because i had to raise her kids for her i would give him more respect if he acted like a real man please help me i really love him too (link)
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This is just my opinion but I think you need to lay down the law. Let him know that you are your own person and that you speak for yourself. You have to be honest with him and let him know how you feel if you want to see any change.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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Two nights a go I screamed in horror as I watched my dad choke my mom and then chase her with a knife. I cant stand this anymore. Alcohol is killing him and he doesn't want to admit it
he needs help but if he doesn't want it I know he won't get better. Im holding on to the last thing I have,hope. So far it hasn't helped. What can I do?
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This is just my opinion but you and your mom should not be in that house anymore. The moment you are put into a situation where someone has put their hands on you or someone you love, then you need to get out and call the police. If you stay there thinking that your dad will change without help, it will only get worse. Protect yourself and your mom and GET OUT! CALL THE POLICE AND LEAVE! Live with another family member, but DO NOT STAY WITH YOUR DAD.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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my bf devin is starting to creep me out by saying abunch of sex things on the phone and i really like it but its starting to freak me out.what should i do?
any advise will be very thankful!!
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It's okay to ask him to tone it down a little bit. Tell him you don't like sex talk all the time.
Hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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Recently, me and a friend stopped talking. We're still civil though, but there is tension in the air. A mutual friend is very close to her and to me it looks like he has decided to take her side, despite that fact that 1. She told him that he shouldn't feel the need to, and 2. It simply didn't concern him.
Recently, another mutual friend of ours (who has managed to stay completely neutral in this) was talking to them on the phone. The fellow who decided to takes sides said "I need to know if I can trust you. I need to bitch about Matt" (matt being me).
He also stated that he wasn't planning to invite me to his birthday party, despite the fact that i've known him longer than anyone else.
I'm not sure what has bought this on. I know he's always been head over heels in love with the friend who I stopped talking to, and it's obvious that they talk about it, as he has decided to take sides.
I'm not sure what to do. I can't approach him, as the friend who told me, made me swear that I wouldn't say anything. I've asked him by text, what he is doing for his birthday, but he has just ignored me. He complains that I don't hang out with him often, but he's the one who ignored my messages, even if I message him a friendly "hello, how have you been?" .
I've even done the 'are we cool?' Thing and he just responds with the usual nonsense of 'yeah, sure, why?' . So it's pretty much impossible to do anything. Should I just give up, and be grateful that everything has ended on a civil note? Or approach him?
Any help would be appreciated.
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Life is too short for drama. Focus on yourself and your goals and don't let people like that slow you down with petty nonsense. So what if he chose the other friend. You shouldn't be suprised when friends turn out to be enemies because it happens all the time. All you can do is learn from this experience and move on with the rest of your amazing life.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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a guy called stacy asked me out he super creepy what do i do???? (link)
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Tell him you are not interested.
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You answered my question earlier and I think email will be easier? Thank you
BTW it's the one asking for someone to talk to... If you were wondering (link)
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Ok. My email is DrewHorton507@gmail.com
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What do you do when you're completely, utterly, blindingly, confusingly, mesmerizingly, and inexcusably in love with a man? Do you tell him? Is it a bad idea? What if it's the only person you have ever even had the smallest crush on? How would you get over it if they rudely rejected you? What about if they unexpectedly have admired you from afar forever and you never noticed because you were too busy thinking about when the perfect moment would be? How do you manage something like this? Someone please help, my heart hurts. He's too perfect for me. I want him to know but at the same time I can't get over it! This has been going on for the past 5 months. Please help my heart aches (link)
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GO UP AND TALK TO HIM!! You can't expect anything to happen if you don't say anything. I always tell people if you wait around, someone else is going to take the person you like and you'll be wondering how things could have been different. Let him know how you feel. Tell him you like him and see where it goes from there.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Hey there(: well I love writing stories in wattpad, in which I hardly get any readers. Well I got this really good idea for a story and well I posted it on wattpad the first chapter, and I only 3 reads! And I did what a lot of people said, I fanned a lot of people and subscribed to clubs and posted to the clubs about my story! But still only three reads so far! I know it's only one chapter but I see Tons of books that have millions am I don't see how!? Please help!!! And let me know ways how and why I'm not! Most importantly how too!(: and if you would Ike to read it just ask me too haha(: thanks!!(; (link)
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I would like to read it.
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I'm from Canada. Anyways there's this guy in one of my classes and I really like him and I don't know how to act around him and make it not so obvious that I like him... So how do I act around him so it's not that obvious that I like him? (link)
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Just stop hiding and let him know the truth. I think that you might be afraid of rejection, which is why you don't want him to know how you feel. But let me be the first to tell you from personal experience, that it is the worst thing you could ever do because some other girl is going to take him and you'll be on the sidelines wondering how things could have been different. You need to let him know that you like him and give any hope of a relationship with this guy a chance.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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My boyfriend and I have been together for over six years. We are high school sweethearts as well as each others' first true loves. I cannot explain in this thread how much I love and care for my boyfriend. He is an amazing indiviual and i am convinced i will always love him. We have always made each other happy. Now, I am wondering if it's right to stay with him but to explain why I need to explain A LOT about our past. I sorry for the length but I am really lost and am seeking real guidance.. That being said here we go. After our first two blissful and quite perfect years, he cheated on me. Then two years later he did it again. (we were long distance the second through forth year and both got very very lonely) Once was minor (only a kiss) and the next was more involved (no sex). He claims he honesty has no recollection of either because he was blacked out both times (I know his doesn't make it okay, but I trust him that he had zero feelings for either) This ruined me especially the second time after I had put so much trust back to him that he'd never do it again.I thought I wouldn't be able to trust him again- "once, shame on you. Twice, shame on me." it killed us both but be broke up for a few months and then got back together quickly because we just could take it anymore. Sadly, the second cheat hurt me so much that I felt didn't love him in the same - head over heels way. After a year together, it still wasn't the same on my end but I trusted the disappointment would fade with time. We signed on an apartment for the following year. That summer, he stayed in our college town for his lease and I went home to work and began crushing on a guy that I worked with. Turns out he was crushing on me too- Which I discovered at a work party... Where we all had a bit too much fun and I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with him. I felt AWFUL. I am honestly not the cheating type. It is not in my nature and my guilt was inexplainable. But at the same time... I was ashamed to admit it but I was excited because there was something really special about this other guy. I was lost. I ended up breaking up with boyfriend because I believe there is a problem any time someone cheats and unlike before- I tried to fix it. I was freaked out about being 20 and only having been with one guy seriously... I knew that when we moved in together it was only a matter of time before there would be to rings involved. My family, friends, and even he understood that I needed time to decide what I wanted. Meanwhile, me and this other guy began hanging out constantly. I told him I wanted nothing serious and that I was NOT ready for a relationship. He treated me SO well. (better than my boyfriend ever did), he made me laugh and smile constantly, he was so adventurous, successful, and romantic.. He was kind of my "dream guy." We had serious chemistry and as much as I resisted we ended up developing some strong feelings for each other. It freaked me out and made me feel like I there was something wrong with me... I had just broken up with my bf of SIX years?!
So- then I we said goodbye :( and each went back to school. I lived alone and my ex got off the lease. I thought about he new guy constantly but after a few months, couldn't help but fall back into the arms of the one I truly love. I was hesitant to do this because I knew I had lingering feelings for this other guy (which he knew about) But finally I talked to my "fling" and we decided it just wasn't feasible to be together because of college and our locations. (but we both obviously missed each other) That made the decision to go back to my ex easy because we both are so much happier together. So- promise I'm almost done- Now ive decided to do what I was afraid to do last summer and move back in with my boyfriend and really try to take the next step in our relationship. Things are a bit weird because we both changed so much when we were apart. Again, I trust this will change If we both stay honest and really work on it. We are both excited we are back together, after all. TWIST: I went home to visit friends and unexpectedly saw the other guy out... He obviously still likes me and even though I haven't seen him for 9 months... I really do still like him. When i asked if he had found a gf he smiled and said "No. Im waiting out on someone really special." i just about melted. And that was after i told him i was back with my bf! Now that I'm back in me and my boyfriends apartment I dont know what to do. Do I ignore these feelings? Do I tell him I like this other guy- the same one I cheated on him with? Do I break up with him for good due to other feelings even though me and this other guy will be apart for another year or two until we're done with school? OR do I commit to trying this out for good with the guy I already know and love and whom loves me endlessly back? I am honesty scared with all of the options and don't want to spend my life thinking "what if what if." I am so sorry it's so long... But I am seeking honest advice which I can only really accept having explained my full situation. Thank you for reading. What do you think is best? (link)
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I think you need to have a serious conversation with yourself on what you want. You can't keep dragging these men along. PICK ONE AND STICK WITH HIM! You can not have it both ways. You got to see what it was like with both men, now you must make a decision and spare all this drama. And just to let you know, EVERYBODY CHEATS. The minute you start thinking about another guy is when you start cheating. Look in your heart for your answer. Why do you love your bf? Why do you love the other guy? Which one can provide for you?Which guy is more devoted to you? Ask yourself alot of questions until you find your answer. But I can not tell who you must pick because it must be your decision with no one else's input because it is your heart, and not anyone else's.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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I really need to talk to somebody about my life. More about my love life though, obviously. I'm not really keen about 'professional' help though. I just want someone like me, going through the same stuff as I am. My friends aren't listening, they're too busy going off with their boyfriends. (14/f) Please?? (link)
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I'm 16/m. You can talk to me anytime on here or on my email. Just ask and I'll send you my email address.
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My boyfriends birthday's coming up soon and I don't know what to buy him! He doesn't like concerts or going to watch football,any idea's? (link)
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Buy his gift according to his personality. He he likes reading, get him some really great books that would interest him. If he likes clothes, then get him some really nice outfits from his favorite clothing store(s). I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Ok so this is kinda long so I'm apologizing ahead. I dated this guy a few years ago and I randomly broke up with him and probably hurt his feelings but anyway he went to a different school than me. We've hung out since and have always acted like friends. I enven slept in the same bed with him with our mutual best friend. So the problem comes in 3 months ago when I moved to his school. I hadn't realized that I still liked him until then, and I would see him all the time at school. He was always flirty and talk about hanging out but it would always fall through. I knew he was in a serious relationship so I tried not to flirt back. The past month or so, they had been on and off. I went to prom and while I was there he called over all of my friends individually to say hi to his date(his ex gf) and did not even try to say hi to me. The whole entire night though I'd find him staring at me. I brushed it off and decided to extract him from my life since I liked him too much and didn't want any temptations. 2 weeks ago I finally deleted his number from my phone and defriended him on fb. The day after I did that I ended up having to text him and going to his graduation. I kept seeing him EVERYWHERE. Then 3 days ago I went to a party he showed up at. My friend had talked to him and told him I was going to be there.She told him not to try anything with me and he said "I don't care. She hates me anyways." The whole time I was there he was trying to talk to me and be around me and at one point I think he tried to kiss me. He also mentioned very loudly that his ex and him had been over for a while to my friend...Now i'm just completely confused and don't know what to do! Help! (link)
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If you want to go out with him again, then by all means go for it. But I think your relationship with him is going to need some work. Ask yourselves if you guys want to go out again or if you guys just want to stay friends.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Ok so this is kinda long so I'm apologizing ahead. I dated this guy a few years ago and I randomly broke up with him and probably hurt his feelings but anyway he went to a different school than me. We've hung out since and have always acted like friends. I enven slept in the same bed with him with our mutual best friend. So the problem comes in 3 months ago when I moved to his school. I hadn't realized that I still liked him until then, and I would see him all the time at school. He was always flirty and talk about hanging out but it would always fall through. I knew he was in a serious relationship so I tried not to flirt back. The past month or so, they had been on and off. I went to prom and while I was there he called over all of my friends individually to say hi to his date(his ex gf) and did not even try to say hi to me. The whole entire night though I'd find him staring at me. I brushed it off and decided to extract him from my life since I liked him too much and didn't want any temptations. 2 weeks ago I finally deleted his number from my phone and defriended him on fb. The day after I did that I ended up having to text him and going to his graduation. I kept seeing him EVERYWHERE. Then 3 days ago I went to a party he showed up at. My friend had talked to him and told him I was going to be there.She told him not to try anything with me and he said "I don't care. She hates me anyways." The whole time I was there he was trying to talk to me and be around me and at one point I think he tried to kiss me. He also mentioned very loudly that his ex and him had been over for a while to my friend...Now i'm just completely confused and don't know what to do! Help! (link)
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I think if you want to go out with him, you guys should slowly build your relationship up. Both of you need to find out where you guys stand. Ask yourselves if you still want to be friends or if you want to get back together.
Hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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