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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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So i saw this trailer online for a movie called perfume: the story of a murderer and it looks SO GOOD. but it's rated R and i've never seen an R movie before. i just want someone to tell me if its like a scary movie or why its rated R? thanks. :D

Rated R for aberrant behavior involving nudity, violence, sexuality, and disturbing images.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0396171/parentalguide

I would suggest taking a look at the link. It is provided by IMDB.com and it gives great information, and possible spoilers to the movie. If you want to know exactly what to expect when it comes to the rating system, this is the place to look. I hope I've helped. Good Luck!!

16/f

me and this guy broke up last summer because of long distance and about a month ago we both told eachother that we still cared. but we've been getting into fights lately and i jus don't know if everythings worth it. he's made me cry a few times. like th other night i asked him if we could get off a subject cause i wasn't comforatable. he didn't and kept talking about it so i got mad and hung up. he mad because i got mad and i think it was just stupid. we've fout over everything and he puts me down a lot like calling me stupid and worthless but when i point it out he says he was just playing. i care alot and that's why i continue to talk to him but my friend said he's not worth it. there's something about him though but i don't want to keep crying and feeling bad. i've done things in the past like almost cheating on him when we went out and i think he's still bitter about that but i don't think it gives him the right to act this way with me or does it?

please help i want to know what to do.
&& thank you =]

Well, in all honesty, you should do what makes you be happier. If ending the relationship and the bickering would make you happy, then I would suggest doing that. If you believe there's a chance to work things out and resume a normal relationship, and that makes you happy, then do that. You need to do what's best for you and keeps you from stressing out. With that being said, I would like to emphasize that a normal and healthy relationship moves on from the past and works towards the future, especially since you didn't actually cheat on him. Good Luck!!

okay so i bought a camera last month and its under warranty but i lost the receipt.. the camera doesnt work so i wanted to send it in to get it fixed.. for free. but now that i dont have the receipt what should i do? and i dont have the kind of money to get it fixed so i dont know what to do? i still have the box if that helps?

Also, going with ciao's message, a good way to make sure you keep your reciept is to put it in the box after you have taken the merchandise out of it. This way, if something were to go wrong, you will know where the reciept is.

I am a senior in high school and i find that i havnt gotten as much fun out of it as i should. Starting freshman year i hung out with the popular kids but i felt like i was the last person of the group i always came along with someone else. I think its because i have a hard time carrying on good conversation. Ill forget things instantly, like ill be having a conversation and most of the time i find my self saying "wait what was it called?" & "ummmm..." ill forget the dummest things like the name of a type of cell phone & it makes it hard to have a good conversation becasue ill know exactly what i want to say but it comes out totally wrong. In a group of people someone always has something interesting to say or something to keep the convo going, sometimes i will but people would rather talk to others since im not really fun to talk to most of the time. Its usually only when im at school ill think alot about one thing just incase it comes out stupid because i used ot say dumb things and people would tease me about it. Its hard, i live with my mom and sister but then dont talk to me or eachother. I just wish that making conversation could come naturally its a big deal for me so say the right things i try hard but i end up not saying anything at all becasue im scared people wont like what im saying. if its not social anxiety then what is it and how do I become better at this?

First of all, I don't think its a social anxiety disorder. It seems to be more of an absent mindedness, or extreme pressure on yourself to say and do the right thing. I would just start being yourself, don't rehearse what you want to say to others, just let it come out naturally. This way, you won't add to your stress level, or try and make sure you have said exactly what you were going to say, and forgetting the words. Loosen up, talk about things that interest you, if it doesn't interest you, don't worry about adding your two cents in every time. Just be yourself and let go of all the fears of not adding up to their expectations. Good Luck!!

ok . Well iv been going to soccer tryouts . Im not in the best shape , but i get by . im no where near fat ; I do cheerleading to but the work is nothing compaired to soccer . What i want to know if i will get use to all the running and everything , because we have to run AL0T & i mean a hell of a lot . and i get tired and feel like i have to throw up . So will i get use to it & not become tired ?

The more you do an activity, the better you get at it and the better you tolerate it. Since you are not used to running a lot, it will take time to build up your tolerance level. It will get better though. One thing I would suggest, don't run on a full stomach of food or beverage. This causes your stomach to hurt worse. Good Luck!!

Bascially my friend is rele nice. But she gets what she wants alot of the time-spoiled. She gets away with alot of BS. She curses at her parents often, even when her friends are around. And I know she is jealous because I have invited my friend over who is one of her best friends, but not her b/c she acts like a jerk alot of the time. But I mean she is fun to hang around with. She is bossy. And recently my best friend told me that she called me a bitch behind my back and meant it. I like her and all, but shes always been like this and it's getting worse. I am 14 by the way and so are my friends. Gurls-USA

The best thing to do is call her on it. Let her know that she is being a total jerk from he** and she needs to calm down. Let her know that Earth does not revolve around her, and if she truly wants to keep you as a friend then she needs to knock it off. Stand up for yourself, how you feel, and what you feel is right.

hello, I saw your responce to someone else's question. And you said that sexual relations not invluding sex, can't break your hymen. and neither do tampons... Is that true? because I was wondering?

The hymen is not normally damaged by playing sports, using tampons, pelvic examinations or even straddle injuries.[21]

Once a girl reaches puberty, the hymen tends to become quite elastic. It is not possible to determine whether a woman uses tampons or not by examining her hymen. Sexual intercourse is one of the most common ways to damage the hymen, although only 43% of women report bleeding the first time they had sex; which means that in the other 57% of women the hymen likely stretched enough that it didn't tear.[21]

It is rare to damage the hymen through accidental injury, such as falling on the top tube of a bicycle. Although such an accident may cause bleeding, this is usually due to damage to surrounding tissues such as the labia.[22] It is unlikely that an accident would damage the hymen without injuring any other part of the vulva. Therefore, damage to the hymen alone, described as an accident, would be seen as a strong indicator of sexual assault.[21] However, a hymen can vary in size, and, as described above, be very hard to find, even if the person never had sex before.

This came straight from Wikipedia. I do believe this content to be true, however, there is questionable material on this site pertaining this article. However, the information that I provided here is from a study done at Oxford University, so I take it to be credible.

I want to speak to my girlfriend for about 15 minutes per day. Usually i will call her fairly early on in the night about 5pm. We have been going out about 6 months now. The problems only really arise when she is busy and says she will call me back later, usually in ten minutes to half an hour. When she doesnt call me back, i call her again, she will then usually say she is busy doing something else and will once again say that she will call me back in ten minutes to half an hour. Then she doesnt call so i call again, this happens a few times in the night until i get upset she doesnt want to talk to me, and she gets angry that i am calling her so often. Then we have a massive argument where she says im too clingy and i say she doesnt really care about me. We only really get to see each other once a week because she lives quite far away. She says she loves me and i say i love her, but she never really seems to want to talk to me unless she is bored. I'm really struggling for what to do because it is upsetting me a lot but i love her and dont want to break up with her. Any help would be much appreciated. thanks.

It isn't right that she won't call you back when she says she will. I would suggest giving her a dose of her own medicine. Don't call her, let her call you, and when she does, be too busy to talk to her. Tell her you'll call her back and don't. Even better, go do things that she doesn't know about and when you finally talk to her, tell her you were busy and give no other explanation. I warn you however, if you do this, it may make her leave you, but if she can't handle getting a dose of her own medicine, then she wasn't worth keeping to begin with. Also, I don't think it's clingy, it's cute that you actually want to talk to her, some guys don't even care. However, she's taking advantage of your niceness. Get even, I'd say. Good Luck!!

My bf and I have been together for a bit over 2 years. We are both 20 years old. We have had a really good and healthy sex drive up until about 6 months ago. He used to be able to have sex multiple times in one night, even after he orgasmed. Now he can go once, maybe, and then that is it. And when we do have sex, sometimes he has trouble keeping his erection.

Also, recently he tore his frenulum (the skin that goes from the shaft of the penis to the head - he is uncircumsized) during sex. So now it is even more difficult to have sex, if we have it at all because it is not fully healed yet.

I am a very sexual person and this is very frustrating. We have been doing other things but it is getting old and I don't know what to do. I want to bring it up but I can tell it bothers him a lot when I do. Our sex lives just aren't the same and I feel I am too young to be so bored in my sex life already. I have only had sex with him and am not interested in just breaking up with him and going out just for sex. Any advice on what we can do? I just don't know how long I can put up with this.

The other advice was dead on, except for one thing. You say you have a really good relationship, but are questioning whether you can handle this problem? If you truly love him, you would realize that there are ups and downs, no pun intended, in a relationship and needs support and respect. It seems as if you have neither for him. I would suggest above all else, to be there for him. He obviously needs help, but you don't want to see what is wrong with him, only what it is doing to you. Seems a bit selfish.

theres this guy who is like my big brother. he is one of my parents employees for the buisness they own. I was there the other night (my parents own a lazer tag arena) and he was being kinda mean. then i was there again a different night and he literally made me cry cause of him being so mean and sarcastic. i asked the other employees if hes being a jerk to them and they said just me. he says im annoying and that my personality is annoying and whenever i ask him what his problem is he says me. i tried to tell him this fight was stupid and to forget this and he flipped. i dont get it. everyone says hes taking his girl problems out on me but im not sure. i kinda think he really doesnt like me anymore. whats going on?

I would suggest two things, first either don't go there when he's working, or tell you parents about the way he's been treating you. It isn't fair to you to be treated badly. Another thing that you can do, completely ignore him. Then, maybe he'll be remorseful and talk to you like a normal human being. Good Luck!! *btw- this isn't professional, but if some guy was treating me like crap, and he worked for my parents, I'd get his butt fired.*

Okay, my best friend sister is prego. she i guess 6-7 months.who really gives a fuck!.my boyfriend used to go with her.he 21.she is 18.he stay over there house.thats how i met him anyway.basically being over there cause thats the chill spot or whatever.believe me it is complicated and shit.her mom.everybody calls moms.she knew binky(marcus-my boyfriend) went out with her daughter in the past and shit.her daughter the prego one walked around talking bout him and shit she'd be like Binky and RENEE(his best friend-ride or die)is still fucking.she was telling me this when me and binky was together and shit.I didnt get why she would say that shit.but she did.She be like the only reason RENee would mean mug her is cause binky would stop paying attention to her.and end up focusing on ericka,cici,and alix(all sisters-thats where everybody hang out at.there spot).Alix is my bestie.So is Cici.Ericka cool.i guess.until mother fuckin now.Cause she'd be like.Why would Binky and Renee be arguing if nothing is going on?.Obviously there is becuase they wouldnt be fighting like a couple.Truth be told.Binky dont fuck with renee.i guess.cause they had something at first but then that shit just ended.it aint work out.or so he says.anyway.my friend just told me.binky talked to her mom about moving in with them so he could take care of ericka's baby.im like.for what?.he aint fuck her and get her pregnnt.some other dude did.the other day binky even asked her...DID YOU TALK TO DUDE AND TELL HIM YOU PREGNANT?.she said YEAH,I CALLED HIM.HE SAID HE WILL CALL ME BACK AND HE NEVER DID.well my saying would be.go find that nigga.!
best belive.no nigga would ever run from me like that.so, he aint tell me what was up.But everybody down there knows except me.Just cause im not there doesn't mean i should not know man.it should have been said to me.maybe i'd have a different opinion.but now that it wasnt said to me first.i cant trust him or her.my best friend alix is like.well she think it is good that a guy is willing to step up for another guy that aint doin his job.i told her yeah.if they was together.which they aint.binky is supposed to be with me.she over there defending him.she say she not.but she is.cause she tryna cover up with the shit like.he almighty for trying to raise ericka baby.yeah okay.im lettin that nigga go!.i dont give a fuck if he doest know if it is over or not.cause like i said before.no one told me shit when i just went down there.and the shit just happened today.make it so bad.im down there and he actin like shit aint out place.he had me fooled on some other shit.he'd be like DAMN I LIKE YOUR BODY.DAMN YOUR SEXY.DAMN I THOUGHT I WOULDVE NEVER GOT WITH CAUSE I THOUGHT U WAS WITH ANOTHER NIGGA.he had me played.i thought he was the one.when i fucked him he was like trust me and shit.i dont trust him now.and now i regret ever fucking him.im glad i aint fuck him friday.then he woulve thought he was the shit.i dont get what type of game this nigga playing neither.it bothers me.and im sure bout to approach him bout it.ima wait that shit out.and see what happens.I WILL GET EVEN.
then i talked to him.and i get why he is helpin out with the baby.
but he wants to move with them.and i dont get why.i mean.pampers,diapers,baby food.yeah okay that is helping.BUT MOVING IN? for what?.obviously he wanna be with her.that bothers me.i told him.ITS OBVIOUS YALL STILL GOT FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER.EVERYTIME I WALK UP iN HERE.YALL ALL SITTIN CLOSE.TOO CLOSE!.and he made it seem like it was nothing.he laughed cause im possibly jealous.why wont i?.not of her.eww hell no!.but the fact that she got her head layed up on your chest.lap.feet all layed across you.that bothers me!
i cant stand that shit.he was like TRUST ME.I MEAN U ACT LIKE IM FUCKING HER OR SOMETHING.IM JUST TRYNA COMFORT HER.and im like.what the fuck!.yeah if you was her nigga.
but you mines.not hers.her boo/baby daddy need to step the fuck up and COMFORT HER.not u.
I MEAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME THEIR OPINION.AM I STUBBORN AND SHOULD REALLY TRUST THIS GUY.OR JUST DUMP HIS ASS!.

Ok, I saw this on the main forum and was a little nervous about approaching it, but since you came to me personally, I will answer it.

Ok, first things first, I understand that you are upset, which it seems you have every right to be, however, nothing good can come out of this situation if you don't try and be calm and rational.

You need to take him aside, without all the other people around. Guys tend to get defensive when they are cornered by someone in front of other people. After you get him to come talk to you alone, remain calm and remember that you don't have to put up with someone that treats you like shit. At any time that you feel uncomfortable with him and the way the conversation is going, tell him that when he can calm down, then you will talk to him.

Be honest and forthcoming. If you give him the respect and room to explain, things could be solved peacefully. Let him know that if you two are going to be a couple then you need for him to respect you as well. Tell him that it hurts you to see him around this other girl in this manner, friends or otherwise. Tell him that even though you realize that he is allowed to have friends, there should be boundaries on the way he behaves with those friends. Also, let him know that if you two are a couple, then he should have had the balls to come to you and ask you how you would feel about this situation, instead of just bringing it up with her first and leaving you out in the dark. Let him know that the reason this is bothering you so much, is the fact that he is pretty much treating you like a f*ck buddy without considering your feelings at all. (I am assuming that this is a lot of what you are feeling)

If you talk to him and try to be calm and respectful, he may see you in a different light and actually appreciate that more than being a bitch about it. By all means, I agree that you have every right to be a bitch to him, but that old expression comes to mind, "you catch more flies with honey, than with vinegar". I'm pretty sure you understand what that means.

Just remember, stay calm, be respectful, if things get out of hand, walk away and take a breather. Above all else, remember that you are in control of your own destiny and should do what makes you happy and feel good about yourself.

Alright, I'm a bit depressed where I live now and I've tried to tell my parents about it but I didn't really tell them HOW upset I was because I don't want to worry them.

Anyway, I thought of going back to my birth country (I'm in Spain now, I'm from England) to finish school next year. If it goes to plan, I'll be moving out a few months after my 17th birthday (I'll have 2 years left of school, not 1)

So the idea is to get a little studio apartment or share a flat near a public school and live alone while I finish school (by the way, living alone in the UK is legal as long as you're 16).
My parents would be paying the rent but I'd get a part-time job and work as much as I could to pay for food and help out as much as I can.

I only recently talked to them about going to boarding school but they said they couldn't afford it (it's 25k+ a year..the rent on a studio is nothing compared to this) so my plan is to leave it for about a month so they don't think I just thought of this in the heat of the moment.
I want to gather as much information as I can and be fully prepared when I tell them about it.

I'm close to my parents so I want to make sure they know I'm not trying to get away with them, I'm just really down and it's effecting my life hugely. Has anyone got any advice on how I can convince them, anything I could do or say? Just..advice in general as I'm really crapping myself about the whole situation.

I would let them know that you are unhappy with your surroundings and your school. Let them know it's not personal with them. You just don't feel the same about this place as you do your home town and you think you would be better off if you could go back. Now, I am not sure if they will agree to let you go, but if you act mature and handle the situation gracefully, and without indignation, it will help you out more. Good Luck!!

Hello. if you could identify this statue for me, I would greatly appreciate it! :] thanks. byebye

http://s251.photobucket.com/albums/gg289/ellissoj902/?action=view¤t=1201036673132.jpg

I'm not sure what statue it is. However, if it is a real statue, then you could always, if it's possible, to e-mail the person who has the pic downloaded, or wherever you got it from, and ask them. Good Luck!!

these boys in my school are so0o0 wierd ihave many nickanames i use to get called squints now its squinty j and it changes to squating dog and i got mad and kyle was like you know you like the attention. does this mean they like me

My exhusband used to nickname everyone he knew. This one girl, they were just friends, he called skid marquee. Now, I am not going into detail of why he named her this, but for now I will tell you one thing: boys nickname friends. Usually it doesn't mean anything other than they are comfortable with you enough to give you a nickname. I wouldn't take it as a crush thing.

i like this guy..he is a natural flirt but i never know if he is actually flirting with me or jsut being himself. How do i figure it out or not. i mean i really like and he is amazing. the only problem is that we don't really talk much in school, we talk more online. it just seems like he is flirting online if u knwo what i mean. he is really great but i don't know if it is real or not. i really like him and i want to tell him but i do'nt want to make a mistake...waht do i do?? thanks in advance!!

My thought is this, some people have an easier time opening up to the ones that they truly like on a computer. It may be that he is just really shy in person around you. If you want to find out how he truly feels, probe around when you are online and ask him questions. You could say something along the lines of do you have a g/f? Ask him why he never comes to talk to you in person? Get a feel for how he responds to you, if you feel comfortable with talking to him more openly, then ask him if he likes you. Good Luck!!

Okay, i know people will probably say things like oh but its healthy, or everyone does it. or something like that. Well anyways, i can literally get myself to orgasm ANY time i want. like it will only take about 10 seconds, and wherever i am i can do it. I don't even really have to think about anything either. Or use some weird vibrator or massager, it will just go when i say to. It feels good, but you know; am i overdoing it? i do this at least 2-4 times a day. is that bad? It might be a little normal maybe, but i don't know. It seems a little weird to me.

thanks.

Hey, if you can make your self orgasm by pure thought, then more power to you. You seriously cannot overdo orgasms. It is normal (I realize you stated that), but the abnormal thing about it, is you don't have to sexually stimulate yourself to accomplish it. It isn't a bad abnormal, if more people could focus enough energy on their body to achieve this, we would all be walking around sexually aroused and satisified all the time. So, for the time being, think of it as a gift. If you are too concerned about this, my suggestion would be to restrict the amount of times you allow yourself to do it. (if it was me personally, I would be doing it 100 times a day. ;)

14/f im not sexually active firstly. today i was sittin on my coach and i felt somethin weird so i went to the bathroom to check it out. i got some tissue paper and grabbed at the spot and pulled, what came up was a knot of my pubic hair and this small red bug, which was dead...i think. what is this red bug and is it dangerous to my health?

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.entm.purdue.edu/pittendrigh_lab/images/pittendrigh-lice.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.entm.purdue.edu/pittendrigh_lab/news/051207.html&h=420&w=958&sz=512&hl=en&start=1&um=1&tbnid=tkhxsZ7Nge3Z2M:&tbnh=65&tbnw=148&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dbody%2Blice%26svnum%3D10%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DX
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/lice/article_em.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_lice

Are there more than one that is on you? Or, have you noticed anymore? Crabs do not have to be sexually transmitted. It could be that someone you knew had lice, and inadvertently transferred it to you.

Since I don't know what the bug in question looks like, here is a few web sites about body lice. If it is this, I would suggest going to see your doctor for two reasons. #1- you need a prescription lice shampoo to help cure it. #2- lice live off bacteria in your skin and sometimes, you need an antibiotic to clear that bacteria up, thus killing the lice since they have no food to live off of. Lice do not suck blood like tics and fleas do. In any case, I would have the doctor check it out. If it is to embarassing, or your afraid that your parents won't understand that you didn't get this by sexual intercourse, my suggestion would be to get an over the counter lice shampoo and follow the directions on it. Also, and this may sound weird, but you could shave off all your pubic hair, they wouldn't have anything to attach to. If you are going to do the latter, I would still suggest you get a shampoo first, because then you could inadvertently give it to someone else too. Lice can live off of a person's body, for a short while, and could get transferred to someone else, or even in your own hair. Good Luck!!

ok me and my bf have been together for 5 months now and it will be 6 months on valentines day and idk what to get him and i dont have much money please help!

This depends on the type of person he is. If he isn't the mushy type, or romantic, some things will not be up his alley as other things will be. I would suggest to find out what type of person he is (hopefully you already know) and go from there. If he is an outdoorsy type person, maybe going on a picnic in a park or something together would be something he would enjoy. If he is the sporty type, take him to the skating rink and have fun. (When I was growing up, we used to go to our local skating rink on V day and they would perform "skating marriages", it was cute) If he is the very romantic person, then a suggestion would be to get the necklaces that say best friends and are divided, give him one and you keep the other, of course he may not want to wear it, but at least he can have it. If he is the crazy/goofy type of person, the sky is the limit. With your imagination, you can come up with the best gift for him. Good Luck!!

i go tanning in a tanning bed and i put lotion on before i tan, not lotion that helps me tan but just regular lotion. so i was wondering if i did this everytime, would i get darker faster?

What you truly need is a tanning lotion with an accelerator in it. This opens up your pores and allows your skin to absorb the UV rays better. Also, remember when you are in a tanning bed, to continually turn so you get an even tan. If you are in the bed for 8 mins, you would lay on your stomach for 2, your back for 2, and each side for 2 mins each. My suggestion would be to get a good tanning lotion from the tanning salon. They are very well informed about the products they sale because it is a speciality item. Most people that go in there have a unique way that need to tan, because not everyone's skin type is the same. They may have sample sizes that you can try and it will cost very little. Good Luck!!

A great favour actually.

We are building this new forum named www.bikerspirit.net afterall (not up yet).

And looking for a cool logo.
The logo needs a bike and thats where you come in.

I want you to draw a bike...but an abstract concept of a bike.

Cause it is a forum for all people and all kinds of bikers.Not just enduro bikers, or easyriders or Supersport riders?

So I want you to paint me a picture of a bike, that kind of looks like all bikes and is really easy to draw.Something that only takes...2 minutes to draw.Not too much detail.Something cool and easy.

Avoid pink and yellow colours please.

If that helps, sheep could be a mascot.

This column is about advice. I don't see any advice asking questions in your post. For future references, I would suggest going to a forum where people are wanting to draw. This may come in handy for you.
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First of all, I would like to thank you for not rating my answer a 1, which some people tend to do when they don't get the feedback that they want to hear. Secondly, I had figured you were just some random person on this site trying to get free work from someone, however, since you are a frequent user, I apologize for my statement. Good Luck in finding the right drawing for your site. I can't even draw a straight line, or else I would try and help you!!

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