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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Typical breakup syndrome. I was with this guy for 8 months, and he pops up at my house saying "I just need to know if there's something better." This was 2 months ago, and still i cry and sigh and love him. and i look his way and he's happy and bubbly and flirty. I'm not saying i'm depressed all the time, but at the end of the day, when i'm by myself, i can't help but think about him. We're still "friends" but i can't help but want more. Theres a part of me that says we're so perfect for each other and to hold on and another that says i should let him go. I just want him back. I want things to be good again.

Ask him if he's found what he's looking for in the past two months. If he hasn't, ask him if there's a chance of you guys getting back together.

If there isn't, let him go. You can't waste your time worrying about some guy & getting all depressed because he dumped you. Yeah, breakups are hard & so is getting over someone, but it's usually for the best.

first off i would like to say that i really only want the older teens to adults to answer this please.

I went out with this guy for about 2 months and i broke up with him the beginning of june because my parents never allowed me to see him because he was a "bad kid" he was on probation,dropped out of school and was in a detention center for like 3 weeks and did weed,but he said that was all in the past but my parents forbidded me to see him or even talk to him.But after i broke up with him for about 2 weeks he said how much he missed me and that he wished my parents would change their minds.(while we were going out btw he claimed he "loved" me)so after about 2 weeks of us being broken up he goes out with another girl (even though like 2 days before he was texting me he missed me and called me,it got me so p.o'd) so i havent talked to him since june so thats like 4 almost 5 months and out of the blue i get a text message 11:00 at night saying "hey its boys name long time no see" and i said hey how are you and he said "im good,guess what im... engaged!" and i was just shocked he's only 17 and has been with the girl for only 4 months! then i said "omg are you serious?" and he said "yeah i got the ring and got down on one knee and everything" i said um oh uh wow i dont know what to say" he said"you dont have to say anything..so you...seeing anyone....your parents approve of? lol" and i said no and he "said oh you have plenty of time" and i asked him what sparked him to text me? and he said" i just wanted to see how you were doing :)" and that was it.I thought i was dreaming because i was half asleep when he text me lol this happened last night,and i just want some advice on what this means like why after 5 months does he decide to talk to me? i asked some of my friends and they said that he probably got the girl pregnant, he tried to make me jealous,and he wants me back.But like i just really want to know what ya'll think of this why would he tell me? and did i say the right things to him?(i thought i shouldve said more but i was like asleeps and i didnt want to argue with him) i dont want to talk to him anymore so i deleted his phone numbers and i didnt really want to go into detail about the engagement.

16/f

thank you very much :)

I'm also 16 and my draw DROPPED when I read this. I can never imagine a 17 year old getting engaged after only 5 months of knowing someone. That's absolutely rediculous. It's like he woke up & said "Hmm, I'm not really sure if I love this person, but let's just make her day & propose, shall we?"

He probably texted you for help. He more than likely knows that he's making a huge mistake and he wants you to tell him so that he can pretend he doesn't know what you're saying, but then somehow agree with you. He's using his texting as a cry for help. Honestly though, you're 16. Do you really think you need someone like that in your life? No, you don't.

However though, you also need to take into consideration that maybe he does wanna check up on you & see how you're doing. I've had ex boyfriends that I haven't seen or heard from in a while randomly call or IM just to ask how I'm doing, and there's nothing wrong with that. I knew they weren't interested because if they were, the relationship wouldn't be over. So, he could be crying for help, or he could be telling the truth. You honestly never know unless you ask.

But in personal opinion, I think you need to call him up & ask him what the hell he's doing with himself. See what he says to you. He's only 17 & he's throwing his life away so young for a stupid girl. Not that you or any girl is stupid, but to get engaged at 17 to be married at 18, it's kinda dumb. Especially since he isn't an adult. But really, call him, ask him what the hell he's doing & if he can't answer you, then deleting his numbers is the best choice, but you already did that. Honestly though, good luck. Guys can be such asses sometimes.

i need help looking on the "brighter" side of things.
when something happens to me, i make a big deal out of it and worse things can happen.
for example i just got glasses and cried for days because i hate them, while some people are blind and will never see anything & i also could always just contacts.
BUT. i still get depressed.

im not exactly relating my glasses to my question but how could i look on the brighter side of things without feeling depressed on my own situation?

If you know it's a not a big deal, then you need to look at that before you decide to be sulky.

When something happens to you, just take the time to remember "Wow, this isn't really a huge deal. Some people have it a lot worse than I do, so I'm pretty lucky, actually." It can actually help to make you feel better.

However, I think that without something big happening to you, this lesson will be harder to learn. When my boyfriend died two months ago, all the other things I used to worry about became petty & super small. They no longer mattered. When my friends cry to me & tell me that their boyfriend's dumped them, I'm still caring & sympathetic, but I often wanna bash myself in the skull with a hammer because they have their boyfriends & I don't.

I remind them of that, and then I tell them that things always get better & they realize that and then they eventually get over it. Honestly, when someone thing big happens, you realize the things you once worried about mean nothing. I think you're a "The grass is always greener on the other side" type. But you need to start thinking that the grass is just as green where you are.

I am trying to create a link to my myspace blog on my profile.
Instead of using words like "click here" I want to be able to use a picture as the link. Can anyone help me with the html??

Thanks so much

You mean like an actual picture, or a picture using the Webdings & Wingdings fonts?

I'm looking for the following types of songs:

-song that talks about life.

-song that talks about growing up.

-song that talks about not needing a person as a friend.

-song that talks about seeing a friend hurt themselves.

I really like any type of music. But I prefer acoustic, soft rock, indie. Thanks in advance!

Basically any song by any band has something about that.

I can tell you right now that the majority of those topics can be found in songs by The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus, Paramore, Saosin & Senses Fail.

okay i live in cleveland ohio and im really sick of not having a job so i saw a freakin mcdonalds sign and it said they were hiring so i just want to work there i guess money is money? i was just wondering how old you have to be and what stuff you need to work there? im 15 right now.

I live in New York, and the McDonald's I was applying at said that they do sometimes hire at 15. I was 16 though, so it didn't really effect me. But I guess it depends where you are. Try to put an application in & call them to get an interview.

I want to make my own disney show. I watched hannah montana once with my sister, and the acting was so bad that i could do it with my eyes closed, upside down, and in the arctic. it looks like the simplest thing possible. i could make millions of dollars because everybody would watch it no matter how bad it was. i would have my own concerts that would sell out in 2 minutes even if i had no talent. and i bet i could do it even though my dad is an engineer, not a famous country star. how do i get to disney studios and have them make a show for me without a famous father bribing them?

You're a little conceited, don't you think?

Okay this is so random and stuff but I was just wondering if guys like when girls moan. I was with my best friend and we had a 6 some. I guess you could say then she started having sex and she didn't moan at all and neither did the other girls there. I was like what? I thought guys loved moaning. None of them moaned. Why? thats so crazy i always moan. always. im confused. please explain.

From personal experience, guys seem to love it when you moan. It lets them know they're doing what they're doing right & that you like it.

Honestly, keep moaning, haha.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=261264144

the first one.
what's it called & who is it by?

It's by Thursday, and it's called "A Hole In The World."

does anyone know the exact price of dolce & gabbana cologne at belks?

what are the best dolce & gabbana colognes?

what are the best colognes?

I've never bought a Dolce&Gabbana cologne, but I really like the scent of Lucky You. It's a cologne/perfume for men & women. The blue box is for men, & the pink box is for women [obviously].

It smells REALLY, REALLY good. My boyfriend used to wear it, and I loved it. You can get it at Target & Wal*Mart. Depending on where you go though, it could get a little pricey. I checked it at Target cause I wanted to buy it [I miss the smell] & at Target it was around $22 a bottle. At Wal*Mart, however, I bought him a bottle for Christmas [because he was complaining he couldn't find it anywhere] and it was around $18 a bottle there. Wal*mart will sell it to you cheaper, but the quality is definitely the same.

I seem to hate it so much whenever people use msn slang, double letters like ''radd &&fabb'' and also &&.

I know I'm 14...but everyone else uses msn slang ALL the time.

Is there something wrong with me because I hate it so much? I find it easier to type normally.
I understand things like w.e lol stfu etc.
bt wen thy typ lik ths it pisses the sht out of m.

Also I find people who use excessive emoticons for like words and so on.

I'm wondering whether I have a problem..?

sorry it was long.

There's nothing wrong with you, it's normal to hate that. I hate it too. I can bare with the lmfao's & whatnot, or stfu but when people go out of their way to type a word wrong, it drives me nuts.

It's really annoying when people do that, I know. You're not the only one who feels this way.

i ve been masterburting for 3yrs now does it ve any effect on my life, and what is the best way to stop ??

There's nothing wrong with it, and it's actually quite good for you. It's only bad if you rather masturbate than hang out with friends, eat or sleep. If it stops you from doing that, then you need to stop immeadiately.

what are the cutest breeds of dogs that aren't too hard to take care of? no poodles or chihuahuas or pitbulls or like.. pugs. like really CUTE dogs. my neighbor has this dog.. she went someplace for vacation and im lazy to wait for her to get back so i can ask her.. and its SOO adorable. i think it was kinda a mixed breed and it looked like a golden reciever but it WASNT. can you give me other cute dog breeds? i may want to get a dog.. but I dunno my parents think its a huge responsibility since we've never had a pet before. btw im 13/f. what are the good and bad parts of having an adorable lil doggie? lol (btw i dont particularly want a small one.. i just dont want a big one. i want one i could carry around and possibly put in a big purse haha to walk around with)

I think Terriers are absolutely adorable! My aunt has one, but I'm not sure what breed [there's a bunch of different kinds]. I'd suggest a Teacup Terrier [yeah, it's really called that], but thing is they're really expensive. Having only one to purchase would probably cost you anywhere from $600-800 & I'm not sure you want to spend that much. However, the dog is completely worth it because it fits in purses, it's so freaking cute, and they're don't really grow that much.

The downsides to this dog other than the price are that they're lots of responsibility. That's just about it. It's really worth the money.

does anyone know a really good brand of eyeliner? i usually wear alot of eyeliner and right now i use rimmel london kind, but it always seems to smear

I have good eyeliner, but the stick was getting small & I can't re-buy it because it was from a makeup kit my mom bought me for Christmas last year, and I really don't remember the brand.

However, maybe a week or two ago, I was at Walgreen's & decided to try Jordana. I like this brand a lot, and this is my first time using it. It doesn't smudge or smear, and it works pretty well. =) It's about a $1.99 at Walgreen's & it's definitely worth it.

is ti bad to microwave food? i dont know why i hear its bad... changes chem composition of food or w/ee??

No...

If it was bad, microwavable foods would've never been invented. Wherever you heard that should get their facts straight. That's preposterous.

would colleges be mad if you dont visit their school if their school is kind of far away from where you live? would they even know?

No, they shouldn't get mad. However, you should try to make it up there because going on campus could potentionally help you make the decision about going there. My Journalism teacher said she went to her college because she liked the environement & the feeling she got when she visited the campus.

how do you schedule a college interview? or if the college is far away?

Call the college & make an appointment.

Does anyone know how to find out what the age of legal dating is in your state? I live in pennsylvania and I want to know if the age when
dating a minor is illegal like 17 or 18 or what.I already searched for it but I didn't really know how to phrase it and didn't get anything helpful. Thanks!!!

Are PS2 games compatible with the PS3 system? if the answer is yes, are there any particular PS2 games that might not work on the PS3?
please&thanks

Yeah, but you probably won't be able to save them since the memory cards are different. That's how a PS2 worked. You could play PS1 games on it, but you couldn't save it.

Ok so I'm a 15 f and i'm 36 weeks, 1 day pregnant today. My due date isnt until novemeber 17th but I was wondering if there was any way I could schedule a C-section before hand so I won't have to go threw giving birth and I could have my baby home sooner. Please answer fast I need to know. Thanks.

Love, Amanda.

I honestly agree with YG. C-Sections are only available if there's a complication with giving birth the regular way. If there are no complications, you canno request something completely unncessary. Besides, that's a surgery they do NOT put you asleep for, so you see them open you open & whatever. It's gross.

You're better off giving birth the natural way. C-Sections are waste of money if not needed.

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