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ex engaged.
first off i would like to say that i really only want the older teens to adults to answer this please.
I went out with this guy for about 2 months and i broke up with him the beginning of june because my parents never allowed me to see him because he was a "bad kid" he was on probation,dropped out of school and was in a detention center for like 3 weeks and did weed,but he said that was all in the past but my parents forbidded me to see him or even talk to him.But after i broke up with him for about 2 weeks he said how much he missed me and that he wished my parents would change their minds.(while we were going out btw he claimed he "loved" me)so after about 2 weeks of us being broken up he goes out with another girl (even though like 2 days before he was texting me he missed me and called me,it got me so p.o'd) so i havent talked to him since june so thats like 4 almost 5 months and out of the blue i get a text message 11:00 at night saying "hey its boys name long time no see" and i said hey how are you and he said "im good,guess what im... engaged!" and i was just shocked he's only 17 and has been with the girl for only 4 months! then i said "omg are you serious?" and he said "yeah i got the ring and got down on one knee and everything" i said um oh uh wow i dont know what to say" he said"you dont have to say anything..so you...seeing anyone....your parents approve of? lol" and i said no and he "said oh you have plenty of time" and i asked him what sparked him to text me? and he said" i just wanted to see how you were doing :)" and that was it.I thought i was dreaming because i was half asleep when he text me lol this happened last night,and i just want some advice on what this means like why after 5 months does he decide to talk to me? i asked some of my friends and they said that he probably got the girl pregnant, he tried to make me jealous,and he wants me back.But like i just really want to know what ya'll think of this why would he tell me? and did i say the right things to him?(i thought i shouldve said more but i was like asleeps and i didnt want to argue with him) i dont want to talk to him anymore so i deleted his phone numbers and i didnt really want to go into detail about the engagement.
16/f
thank you very much :)
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He is an idiot?
We can't read minds, and don't know exactly what has happened, but I'm reasonably confident to say a guy who gets engaged at 17 to a girl he has known for less then 1/2 a year, is just an idiot.
So why did he tell you? You will never know for sure, but it's a safe bet that he wanted to get rise out of you, get a reaction, make you feel angry, or upset or hurt, or make you say something about how much you want him or miss him.
Which is a stupid, mean and childish thing to do.
Don't talk to him anymore. Try not to think about him anymore. In this case, it looks like your parents were right, he isn't a very good guy, and they were trying to protect you from an idiot boy. Try to be thankful he's out of your life. You'll meet far better.
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I'm also 16 and my draw DROPPED when I read this. I can never imagine a 17 year old getting engaged after only 5 months of knowing someone. That's absolutely rediculous. It's like he woke up & said "Hmm, I'm not really sure if I love this person, but let's just make her day & propose, shall we?"
He probably texted you for help. He more than likely knows that he's making a huge mistake and he wants you to tell him so that he can pretend he doesn't know what you're saying, but then somehow agree with you. He's using his texting as a cry for help. Honestly though, you're 16. Do you really think you need someone like that in your life? No, you don't.
However though, you also need to take into consideration that maybe he does wanna check up on you & see how you're doing. I've had ex boyfriends that I haven't seen or heard from in a while randomly call or IM just to ask how I'm doing, and there's nothing wrong with that. I knew they weren't interested because if they were, the relationship wouldn't be over. So, he could be crying for help, or he could be telling the truth. You honestly never know unless you ask.
But in personal opinion, I think you need to call him up & ask him what the hell he's doing with himself. See what he says to you. He's only 17 & he's throwing his life away so young for a stupid girl. Not that you or any girl is stupid, but to get engaged at 17 to be married at 18, it's kinda dumb. Especially since he isn't an adult. But really, call him, ask him what the hell he's doing & if he can't answer you, then deleting his numbers is the best choice, but you already did that. Honestly though, good luck. Guys can be such asses sometimes.
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Your parents have your best interest in mind. It is always hard for a teenager to be told they can or cannot do something. Your not a kid anymore! But, believe it or not… your brain doesn’t actually hit maturity until 25 for girls… closer to 30 for boys!!!
So did you do the right thing? I think deleting his phone number and not wanting to be involved is the best thing you could have done. He may very well have been trying to make you jealous. He may have even been crying out to get someone sensible to tell him he is doing the wrong thing and he wanted someone he could lean on to get out of a mess. What ever his situation, you are only 16 and he is not your responsibility. That is a lot to take on; a troubled 17 year old who has a history of incarceration and drug abuse. He has a lot of growing up and maturing to do. Hopefully he will come across someone who can handle his situation and can get some sense into him.
He needs professional help. Anyone who feels they need to break the rules and drown themselves in chemicals is hurting. But they can also be dangerous. He may need someone to “be there for him” but that is not your responsibility and without knowing more of the situation… HIS situation… I can say good for you to want to stay away and avoid contact. After all, you could be the 16 year old girl pregnant with a baby who will have potential birth defects from a drug abusing father! No one deserves that.
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