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13/F

My best friend is a guy, (ryan). Latley he`s been waiting for me outside of my homeroom class and walking me to 1st period. Then we walk together to 2nd. I catch him looking at me alot and were always together in class. About a month ago he started hugging me goodbye, and latley the hugs are getting more romantic. He talks to me differently, calls me, and always wants to hang out. He has been complementing me on my outfit even when I`m wearing a t-shirt and boy`s bball shorts and his hoodie he loaned me. He says I look beautiful when I just wake up and my hairs a complete mess and I have no make up on. So, as you can see I really think he likes me more then a friend now, I`ve liked him before like this, but for some reason now, I`m enjoying all this attention and flirting he`s givin me, but I just can`t picture myself with him. What do I do ? I don't want to go out with him, we brake up, then lose our 5 years of being BFFs!

sorry for it being so long, i`ll appreciate any help.

hmm that's totally up to you. it seems like he really likes you a lot & cares for you, so i doubt if you guys broke up that'd it be weird because it probably wouldn't. if you trust him then go for it. it'll be worth it. my bf is my best friend & we've been together for awhile. it might be good trying it out, but if you really don't want to then talk to him about it & explain all of this to him. he'll understand it & then things will go back to the friendship level & stuff.

-hope that helped!♥

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My EX boyfriend flirts with me. I Think becuase he walks me to my bus (which is odd) and he talks to me more now. We play fight and stuff. And I still like him ALOT. I Dont know what to do or say to him. Please dont say "Talk To Him About it" Thanks Smarts Will Be Reported!

if you aren't going to talk to him about it then you have to wait for him to come around & ask you out er something. maybe you can get your friends to hint it on to him. that's about it.

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i just bought a shirt from a store but i supopse they forgot to take off big plastic squarish thing that says"Warning: Tampering will break glass and cause ink to leak out..please see sales associate for removal".. can i remove this myself some how or do i have to go back to the store tomorrow and have them remove it? I really dont wanna go back but i guess i will if i have to. thanks

definately don't take it off. plus it's really really difficult to. you have to actually go back to that store to take it off, because only they can. yeahhh that's the only thing you can do with that.

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last night i was talking to a guy i have a little crush on and he told me he liked me a little bit. i told him i liked him a little too.

well my friend asked him if he was going to ask me out last night and he said "i dont know..i might. i just dont think shes going to do anything with me. like talk or kiss." my friends was like "yea she will! i kno [my name] and she hates people like that so dont worry!" hes like "ok maybe..i might."

so then today..she asked him if he was going to and he said "um i dont think so"

the whole day and last night i was thinking about "us". i always get my hopes up and then the get SHOT DOWN. the only reason i believe he said he liked me was because i told my friend i dont have a chance in the world with him. but then once i start believing that well be together..we arent.

am i being crazy? should i give it time? should i talk to him? what should i do? thank you soooo much. ill rate good answers. :-D

uhh all of those lol. give him time & talk to him, but obviously talk to him first. explain to him how you feel & juss try to be completely honest with everything. it'll work better. if he doesn't seem interested er if he feels confused with his feelings, then give him time. you definately aren't crazy. it's a major girl thing haha. try not to get your hopes up though. it'll feel better for you if you don't. juss talk to him about it.

-hope that helps!♥

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Okay hi,
I`m a 16 yr old female..
Alright this has all been taken care of but i don`t know what to do bout somethings..
here i`ll start with what has happened.. I got raped three times by the same guy over the summer..Yes i`ve tooken care of him and he`s doin 21 yrs thank god plus he admitted to it..
But i`m havin diffculties with sleeping,Yea i thought that shit only happened in movies where you feel he`s by you and what not but No its happenin to me.. I talk to my boyfriend about it and he tries to talk to me at night as long as possible but that doesn`t change how i feel after i get off the phone with him.. This might sound stupid but the only time i sleep good is with my boyfriend on weekends its like i use him to put me to sleep i mean Yes i`ve tried sleeping pills,reading and i`ve counted sheep and everything else there is to count.. i don`t know what to do i`m so tired in school and my grades are goin down horribly.. i seen a doctor to talk to about it but i don`t think that helped.. i mean this guy already took my trust and everything else away.. i mean he don`t need my sleep too.. so if you can give me advice in anything or how to deal with it better ill rate high and give advice..

sorry to hear that. all you can really do is slowly but surely get that he is in jail, he's not roaming the streets & your bf must care for you a lot since he tries to talk to you. that's all you really need- people that care for you. it's over & done with though, so try not to keep going back & thinking about it over & over again. it's probably difficult for you, but you can't change it. the only thing that can really help you is people. you'll eventually be able to get back to sleep again & know that everythings okay now.

-hope that helped!♥

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ok so theres this boy and i know he like me and i like him but when ever we tlak on the phone theres like never anythin to talk about can u give me some ideas.

talk about anything & everything. sports, relationships, friends, friendships, food, places you live, what you want to do, anything really. if you guys can talk about anything, then you'll know you'll have a good relationship together. if you can't keep a conversation then it probably won't work.

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most girls call guys pigs and cheaters....but i was just curious as to how many people know this is that girls actually cheat more than men do its just that they dont get caught as easily as guys do....so y would girls call cheaters and such when its actually proven that they cheat more than guys...but they are better at hiding it so im just curious as to why guys get labeled as being more of the cheating type??? thanks 4 the help

i think it's because guys are more likely to be outgoing & say oh hey i think she's hott right to her when he has a gf. idk i think it's juss the guy's personality that sets it off as they're the cheaters. plus guys always had a higher 'level' than girls since guys always seemed 'suprior' er w/e. i also noticed that if girls sleep with a guy they're a slut, but if a guy sleeps with a girl, he gets congradulated for it. it's weird how society works sometimes.

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Okay, here we go.I am 14 and I really like this boy. And he always flirts with me back and like puts his arm around me and stuff like that. but he flirts with everybody. I mean everybody. So, im not sure if he likes me, is just being friendly, is a natural flirt, or if he just wants to flirt with me. what to do what to do!

it could be all of those. i think you should talk to him & ask him about what's going on. you might want to look around because he flirts with everyone it seems like. if you feel weird approaching him about it, ask your friends to.

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i'm somewhat of a shy girl, and i like this guy but i don't know how to get his attention. we are friends and hang out with other people on the weekend and such. how can i find out if it's not just a crush and how can i get his attention without looking patheidic?

juss try to be closer friends with him. if he's shy, he probably doesn't like girls juss jumping at him & since you're shy too then it's a good thing you both are. to find out if it's not a crush er not, you guys need to become closer friends & get to know each other in any possible way you can. go out & hang out with friends, talk online er on the phone together..anything!! if he doesn't seem interested then you have to look around a bit. juss try it.

-hope that helped!♥

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is there a website that can help you make up a screeen name?

i don't think there is, but if you leave 1 in my inbox saying things you want it in, er things about you, i'll come up with some ideas.

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18/f

Ok I have a like dark brown color of hair but i have a little bit of blonde in it too. It is medium length. I was just wondering if anyone could tell me what color of highlights would look good in it? I rate high to all.

i think since your hair is dark brown, you should put light brown highlights, like a golden brown. it'd look cute =)

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this is more to add on the 2 questions i have bout my ex wantn to be friends..i dont understand what to do. last nite he called and said asked what we were going to do and i said i didnt care well we decide we would figure it oud later so i was getting ready and he txtd me and told me that he didnt want me to come over anymore cuz he had hmwk and it would be to wierd if i came over well i started crying and i calld him and asked him y he told me to come over and then change his mind. he said he didnt want to hurt my feelings by telling me so he did it in a txt. well i was balling b/c it hurt my feelings that he was going to do that and then he said that he would put hes hmwk aside and hang out so i went over there and we went to the college and playd basketball for about an hour or more then went to his house and watchd the texas game. he was falling asleep so i told him to go to bed and i went in his room with him and all my stuff is still on his walls and i tucked him in bed and gave him a hug and kissed his forehead. well i was driven home and i sent him a txt saying that i had a good time and he said he did to. i got home and i sent him another txt saying that i still cared about him and i wished that we could be together well this morning i told him want i wanted outta this relationship and he said sounds good. and i asked him to tell me what he wanted and he sent one back saying that he was doing his hmwk and that he couldnt talk now. i just dont understand him...HELP!

boys are so confusingggg!!!! i think you should leave it up to him. obviously he's going back & forth about it so there's nothing else you can really do. unless he truly does have hw to do idk. talk to him about how you feel & then let him decide.

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For a class in school, I have to do a debate against someone in front of the whole class. My topic is lowering the drinking age. I am AGAINST it..(con) I need to be able to talk for 2-5 minutes with GOOD facts, statistics, etc..about why I think that the drinking age should NOT be lowered. Then we are going to argue it out til one of us wins! I am doing this debate against my b/f! He is going to argue that it should be lowered. So I need some good facts that are reasons to be AGAINST lowering it! I am also afraid that I am not going to know what to say b/c I will get nervous and embarrassed! please help me out. If you need any more information please let me know!! I need help!!!!!!!! Any information you can give me will be great! (advice on how to not feel stupid/get embarrassed OR any facts about my topic..) thanx!

i found this website-

http://www.youthrights.org/dafaq.shtml

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what is the best kind of straightener?

ive had 2 different brands and both of them have at some point stopped heating up (the light goes on, so i know the power is on)
the first kind i had was a ceramic tools and the second was a vidal sassoon.

any ideas why they keep dying on me? and suggestions for a good ceramic straightener?

the best kind you can get would be ceramic. they juss make your hair the best texture & style and they're a lot easier to use. i have this-

http://www.thebuzzelectronics.com/item.asp?item_id=113858&refid=1015

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hey is it true that when you sleep you're supposed to take your bra off?

take it off!!!!!!!!

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how do i put music onto my xanga site?

ok go to www.xanga.com & then at the top there should be tabs. it's a search bar & some say blogs, metros, blogrings, users, web. go to the user tab & click on that & type in music codes. then you can pick whatever code you want. sooo lets say you went here-

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=MusicCodes__Duhh

then you found a song you like, you right click & go to preferences & copy & paste the link on the preference box. then go to your xanga look & feel part of your site & scroll down. there's a music box & you erase whatevers in there & insert that code & save it. that's about it.

if you want an actual music playlist go here-

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=darkplayer_helper

you can figure it out from the code at the bottom of that page.

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ok. im 14/f. still a virgin and ive been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. like when he hugs me from behind he'll just start humping me. and i know i tell him to stop but i like it. l.o.l. and he always puts his hands up my shirt. and i like it. but im ashamed of my body. i know im not fat...but i just think i am. i think my legs are at least. but... i dont know what to do. and i dont think thats all he wants from me. but i dont know....i masterbate alot and it feels good. and i want the real thing now but i dont know about it tho.
please help me.

you don't want to regret anything. you need to have sex when you're 100% ready & since you're asking this question, you aren't 100% ready yet. talk to him about this & explain how you feel. you can't regret anything. i know a lot of people in my school that had sex & regret it totally & wished they would've waited until they got married. i'm catholic so i wouldn't want to have sex before marriage. it depends on your religion or your values too. plus if you guys don't get married, you'll have sex with your bf now, & then he wouldn't be your husband..that'd be kind've weird. what if he breaks up with you after er something. you might even get a reputation for it. think about all those things, & of course one of the biggest ones..STD's & pregnancy. you don't want to risk those. they're major & a lot of people has STD's & a lot of teenage girls are getting pregnant. you have to be 100% sure before you have sex. juss talk to him about it & sort everything out.

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what are love handles?

haha love handlessssss i have em =) its like extra skin er something on your hips that juss makes a shape. here's a website-

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&oi=defmore&defl=en&q=define:Love+handles

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ok well i really really really like this guy and i dont know if he likes me. i would love if you could give me some advice. ok well im really shy around guys i mean i have been rejected before and im not that kind of girl who will go up to a guy and be like hey want to go out sometime and that will just be like your really hot. i mean we kinda sorta talk on the bus and in between classes but were not bff's and so i really want to know what he thinks of me without having a friend tell and im scared im going to rejected again and i dont want that to happen ps im 13 and i also wont be like hey can i get your # type of thing i just really like him and i want him to like me i mean i flirt with him but i dunno i think hes shy too i dunno if he has an sn becuase i havent asked but im going to ask on monday so dont tell me to do that. anything will help just please help me!

there's only one thing you can really do. be his friend. friendships before relationships always work out better, because you know what?? if it doesn't work out as planned, you guys can still be friends =) juss try it. start talking to him more & then ask him if him & his friends want to hang out w/ you & your friends. totally innocent. that'd really be the best thing to do. if your friendship grows, maybe you'll see if you really like him er not, er if he really likes you er not. try whatever you can. don't be shy, because if you don't let him know, you'll be curious.

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Well there is this girl me and her used to be the closest of friends. Well say back in august we boom just like that stopped talking hardly cause of some B.S with this other person. She wanted to be friends with him and i didnt. I used to go over there every weekend and help them til this boy came back into the picture then i didnt go over there or nothing. Well i ran into her at walmart and then turns out we was going to kmart and sure enough they was to. Well she said that this boy that was the problem of our friendship she finally got rid of. And i was reading her profile and it seems she is losing all her friends cause of this boy and not counting how she WAS acting. Well i really want to be friends with her again and hope that everything goes right. Since she sort of brought it on herself on all this due to that boy and considering she dont have much friends; My question is should i be the one to give her another chance?

yes. because if you don't, who will?? plus if you were in her situation you'd want her to give you another chance. idk if you're religious er not, but i'm catholic & you should always forgive someone because that's what God does to us. see how it goes. even if you guys aren't the best of friends, juss be there for her anyway. you'll feel better about it. =)

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