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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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how do you make yourself do something you dont want to do?

You tell yourself the consequences, and then you just do it. You notice you feel a lot better when you do it because then it's out of the way. :]

If you had to pick an activity, hobby, or interest that is important to you, what would it be and why is it important? I'm doing a survey of people I don't personally know with this question, and I need some people to answer it. You don't need to put your name or age or anything like that. Thanks in advance!

I personally like singing & writing. Singing can help you when you're feeling lonely & bored because the way you sing can get your feelings out.

Writing gets your feelings out because you're writing them down & you don't resort to other things that could harm you.

I've been active on Advicenators since like March, and I am a moderator, and I answer and ask and rate questions like crazy, but I am STILL not a featured user? What do I have to do???

Have you been banned? If so, that takes away your privelege of getting to be featured. Once you've been banned, you'll never be featured - ever.

It's better if you read the FAQ though. It's specifically made for questions like this.

when is daylight savings time???

November 4th.

My boobs KILLLLLL when i dont wear a bra its like throbbing pain. and its through out the day. what is wrong??

but once my bra is on everything is okay. kinda

You're probably used to wearing your bra. Either that, or you just have really sensitive boobs.

are diet soda's bad for you? because i've been hearing alot lately that they can cause memory loss over time and it burns like holes in your brain.

I've never heard of that, but they really are bad for you.

They only make diet soda so that you'll think it's better than regular soda & you drink more, so it basically has the same effects as normal soda.

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The caption for this pic on facebook says "innapropraite."
Why?

Lol, they look like people I know that go to my old school, but I doubt it.

They're referring to alcohol, so of course anything referring to something illegal if under the age of 21 can be viewed as innapropriate.

there's this movie called "the blair witch project" and i have it and i watched it, but i don't understand it.

was it real? what happened to that guy that was missing, did they find him dead when that guy was staring in the corner and she was screaming?
Also, is there a blair witch project 2?

thanks!

I seen that movie a while back and I wanted to shoot myself. I couldn't believe I had just waited an hour or so watching some rediculous movie about some stupid "Blair Witch" bitch.

Anyways, the legend's real but the movie is fiction. And yes, there's a second part but it looks just as shitty as the first one.

OK, my question is simple. is that song "crank dat soujla boy" really as dirty as the lyrics make it sound. especially with the superman thing. some people say everything is a dance move, yet at the same time they can all be taken as sexual. if it is, then i can't believe someone would actually write a song as trashy as that.

Yeah, it's a pretty dirty song, but I personally don't care. The dance is really fun. :]

ok how long do you think me and my bf should be together before we have sex. he's thinking 5 months but idk im ready whenever but idk how long do you think we should wait?

I think you should wait until you're both positive that you're ready. You didn't share your age, but making the decision to have sex with someone shouldn't be taken lightly considering it complicates things & you will end up regretting it if you're not completely ready.

If you're questioning having sex with someone, you're probably not ready.

Okay you know when people say that they will W4W, PC4PC, & C4C

ok i know what w4w & pc4pc means, but what does c4c mean? chat 4 chat?
i don't get it...

PC4PC means picture comment for picture comment.
W4W means whore for whore.
S4S can mean either support for support [same as whoring] or spam for spam.
& C4C means comment for comment.

I have seen trillions of myspace perfection groups going around lately.
Can anyone tell me about them?
I'm kinda confused.
What's whoring and trains etc.?
And what do you have to do?

And also please include any other information I may need.

Thankyou so much
x

Perfection groups are rediculously stupid, and I think they're disgusting.

Perfection groups are just groups for the rediculously conceited, stuck up & apparently "gorgeous." While I can admit, the guys on there are gorgeous & the girls on there are pretty, they have their heads so far up their ass you can tell if they're talking or if they're getting rid of waste. Most of the people I've met on those trains consider themselves to be like God, and if you're not even the slightest bit pretty to them, they will chew you up & tear you apart & rip down what's left of your confidence. So for your own health, I don't suggest joining. I'm not calling you ugly, but if they think you're not good-looking, they won't hesitate in telling you so.

Basically, to "whore" someone is to get a code from them & put it in a bulletin. When you do that, all you're doing is just displaying them [like an ad in the paper or on tv] to people that make people want to add them to their friend's list. Trains are the same thing, but with multiple people.

If you want to be whored, go to:

www.freecodesource.com

& get the code. Fill out what it needs you to do, and ask someone to W4W [whore for whore, you whore them, they whore you] & then just trade codes & post it in a bulletin & wait for the adds. It doesn't always work, so if you want friends, just add them yourself. :]

OK first Im f/14
I have a few questions,

1.ok my parents are 50 and 51, so they are old fashioned, well my bf and i have been going out for a year, and my parents always watch us like hawks to make sure we arent doing anything "inappropriate" well, so is there any way to escape them?!?!

2. My boyfriend and i kiss, just a little peck, how do i get him to start making out with me??? and i know he wants to make out with me!!!

3. Well so how do i get him to do more? not sex! but like more than just kissing, like idk what, but any ideas and advice?

4. ok, so like..im really confused with like EVERYTHING to do with guys, b/c he is my first bf, and my parents hide me from the world of anything like that, so explain to me EVERYTHING you can think of! ok?

please help me, and im sorry that im kind of out of the world of guys, sex, and relationships.
Thanks for the advice!!!

[1] There is no way to escape them, and I suggest you don't. Old-fashioned or not, your parents have your best interest in mind, and that's you not getting knocked-up at 14 years old. You might say "Oh, but I won't! I know better!" I say, "Shit happens." So honestly, obey your parents, they're doing this for you. :]

[2] Talk to him. If you know he wants to make out with you, & he hasn't yet, he's waiting for you to tell him you're ready, so I suggest you do so.

[3] Same deal. If you're absolutely positive you want to take your relationship to the next level [but not sex] then you need to talk to your boyfriend & see what he's willing to do.

[4] I don't exactly understand what you mean by this one. I can honestly tell you that there's not really anything I can do to rid you of your confusion seeing as how guys will always be confusing whether you're 14, 16, 20, 74, 9..who cares. They'll always be confusing. Maybe if you elaborate more or whatever, I can answer this question personally in my inbox or something.

ok well i think im ready to start doing sexual things..! like i dont really know how to explain it but....i am .. the only thing stopping me is i need 2 find a boyfriend..sooooo i guess my questions are: how can i let a boy no that i want to do things with him..??.. and like any comments..!! btw. 14/f

You don't need a boyfriend. You have better things to concentrate on at 14 years old.

If you're ready for sexual stuff, just masturbate. It's better for you to do that because it doesn't bring the complications of "love" & guys into the picture.

So a few hours my friend asked me out and I said yes.

Except he and my best friend have never gotten along. That's all fine and stuff, and even he doesn't care I'm friends with her.

But she's getting really pissed off. In those short few hours she's been getting a bit narky with me, and she actually said to me when he goes overseas she wants him to find another another girl to be 'her problem'

I think she also may be jealous I found a guy and she hasn't.

What the HELL do I say to her to get her to pull her head out of her ass?

All you can really tell her is that you like who you like & she has no control over it. Just because she doesn't like someone doesn't mean you have to drop them just to keep your friendship alive. Give her an ultimatum [harsh, but necessary] & tell her that if she doesn't get over the fact that you like this kid, then she needs to get out of your life for a bit until she can pull her head out of her ass.

so i started school this year at a big highschool, and i've been making a lot of new friends and stuff. and i usually add people on myspace that i've seen at school to extend the circle.
so i added this one guy kevin, because a few of my friends are friends with him and i figured "why not". but we've been talking a lot and now i think that i might like him. the only problem is we're both REALLY shy so we barely ever talk in person. we flirt alot and stuff, but just on myspace. i know, gay.
and if i ever told my friends who know him they'd automatically tell him and make it really awkward, even if they promise they won't.
so now, my friend katie added him and now she's flirting with him A TON and it's so annoying. but if i say anything to her i KNOW for a fact, even if i tell her not to, she's going to tell kevin that i told her to stop flirting with him and then he'll get freaked out.
i want to hurry up and become really good friends with him so i kind of have an advantage over katie, but since we're both really shy, i'm not sure how fast or easily that's going to happen.
i'm just afraid that katie is going to try to steal him from me, which some how she does REALLY easily with a ton of guys.
what do i do? :[

If you're already friends with Kevin, you sort of do have an advantage over her already. All she can do is flirt, you can talk to him more than she can.

Honestly, I know you're shy but you need to step outta your shell & get to know this kid better or she'll end up pushing you down, trampling over you & winning him over.

ok. 13/f.

i was at a party this weekend and i ended up having sex three time with three different guys. it was really good, but i wont go into details.
im only 13 though, like since im so young can something like that be bad?

thanks.

also, do you consider that as a slutty thing.
i did ALOT of things.

I don't even know what to say, like I'm honestly really shocked, but I'll try my best. I'll let you know now that by coming on this site, you were asking for the truth & I will give you what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear. So here goes:

Yeah, that is bad. You're 13 years old and you're sitting here partying, & not to mention having sex & doing so much more than with guys. It probably would've been a little better if it was with only one guy, but you went around the block & had sex with three guys.

And yes, I really, really, REALLY consider that slutty. You're sleeping with random guys you don't really know at a party. You're 13, and these guys are probably way older than you, not to mention nobody knows if it was unprotected sex or not...

What you're doing is slutty, and you need to keep your damn legs closed before you catch an STD. So here's what you do: get a HIV test, get a pregnancy test [if you had unprotected sex all three times] AND then you close your legs. You shouldn't even be having sex, let along going farther than kissing. You're too young for that..your mind is barely developed.

But only 3 times my boyfriend only had 3 condoms but then he wanted to have sex again he said that he'll pull out when hes about to cum and he did

...

It doesn't matter. Pulling out isn't an effective way. There is still pre-cum & there's still sperm in pre-cum.

If you didn't know this, then like I said before, you probably shouldn't be having sex.

Yeah but I'm 14 I can't take birth control and my mom CAN'T find out if she does....I'm dead

If you don't wanna wear condoms, and you don't wanna use birth control, then stop having sex.

Well I'm 14 and my boyfriend and I had sex the first 3 times he had a condom on but when we where going 2 go 2 sleep he wanted 2 have sex AGAIN the thing is we only had 3 condoms and we already used them all he was begging me so I let him do it 2 me but he didnt EVER cum only twice when he didn't have a condom on but when he would about 2 cum he would pull his penis out of me I wanted 2 know if that would still make me peragnate?and why did he only cum w/o a condom?

Condoms take away the feeling & most guys hate to wear them during sex. Even if your boyfriend doesn't cum in you [when unprotected sex is occuring], you can still get pregnant. There is such a thing as pre-cum, and it does contain sperm.

And, don't ever use a condom twice or two condoms at a time. It's REALLY stupid. It causes frictions & makes them break, so it's better if you just use one condom & a birth control pill.

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