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I am 13 and I havnt made out yet.
People make fun of me and I REALLY WANT TO but I cant get a boyfriend.
What should I do? (link)
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Listen to me, you have no reason to be made fun of. Do not rush your first kiss. Cause in the grand scheme of life its really not important.
For one thing you are only 13, you have so much time ahead of you. If you rush it by playing spin the bottle, it doesn't mean anything its not at all special. However, if you wait until your in the perfect place, it means everything, its a moment you will remember forever. There is no such thing as a perfect family, life or job, but there is a such thing as a perfect moment. Wait for it b/c when it comes along, itll take your breath away. Don't let your friends talk you into feeling guilty, b/c if you follow into this, you can get even way more in over your head, with peer pressure. Irregardless, its not worth it. Don't let them get to you about a first kiss, take your time, b/c trust me, it makes all the difference. :)
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Hi i am 13 years old and (i am a gurl) i cant find a decent guy, every one i dated just wants me to have sex of do stuff like that to/with him, and when i say i am not ready for that they just leave me or get really mad and act like a two year old, so tell me, why is it that all guys want is to getin your pants? cuz it is really pissing me off (link)
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I know what you mean, I am not popular with guys, because I won't "put out" Guys want whats easy for them, or most guys do. If you don't put out sooner or later youll get a good guy, who is worth it, b/c hes already had the sluts and your not them. Let me put it this way, I have been told that I'm the final girl, the girl they want to take home to meet their parents. There is absouletly nothing wrong with that. Be proud of yourself that you aren't a slut. It pisses me off too, but its the way they think. There hormones are raging, and so are their egos. Not all guys just want to get in your pants, there is a small percentage of the good guys, keep looking cause when he comes along you don't want to lose him.
And your only 13, you have got plenty of time. Don't rush it, it'll come along at just the right moment.
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so i'm on vacation, i have been for 2 weeks. my family is staying with our old neighbors who moved here, and we wanted to visit them. before they moved i had been fooling around with their son, but he only fingered me and we made out. i was pretty much guessing something else was going to happen between us when i slept in his house for two weeks, and it definitely did. he fingered me, ate me out, and i have him a handjob and blowjob. but my real question is that one of my other neighbors that still lives with me, shes one of my really good friends, and in their son's grade, told me he has herpes and gonnerhea and all these other STD's and i have one sore on the inside of my lip and i'm really really nervous that i got an STD from him even though before i gave him oral sex he told me that he gave blood 6 months ago, so theres no way he could have one, right? and to make it worse, he has a girlfriend, so who knows what he's been doing beind her back other than me, right? how do i know if i have an STD? or just any other advice on what to do? i cant drive to a doctor, and im not telling my mom. i'm only 14. (link)
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I know you don't want to tell your mom, but you need to see a doctor. YOu need to get yourself checked out. Listen, if you have any kind of STDs you can mess up your female organs, which will prevent you from having kids someday. It may not seem like a big deal right now, but I don't want you to mess up you life and health, because you took to long to see a doctor.
And just because he gave blood doesn't mean he's STD-free. A sore on your lip can be a sign of herpes, due to genital contact, so please see a doctor. Also, if you look under cosmogirl.com they have a thing on STDs b/c of their last issue, look at it, and please tell someone who can help you. You can be seriously damaging your health.
I'm sorry if I'm scaring you, I just want to make sure youll be okay, and you will be if you see a doctor.
Best of luck to you in the future and be careful!
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My brother is 19 and he smokes. He recently dropped out of college, does drugs, curses at everyone, has sex, cheats on his girlfriend, quit his job, and was kicked out of my house. I really miss him and I want the OLD brother I had that used to play with me and stuff. Now he doesn't write letters or emails or calls my family. And he doesn't keep in touch with his friends so no one knows where he is...what should I do!?!? (link)
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This is a really tough and delicate situation for you. I'm so sorry about the circumstances. If you get the chance to talk to him again, maybe you should tell him how you feel. How you love him more than anything and how much being an older brother has meant to you through out the years. I know he may not listen, not now, but soon he will realize the road he is on is bad. I was dating a guy and a long story short, his stepbrother was a guy I liked my whole middle school career. This kid, the stepbrother, is 17 and is into coccaine, pot, alcohol, sex and onter drugs. He dropped out of highschool at 15. I cried the whole rest of the night knowing he hasn't changed.The point to my story is, that even though I cry and want him to change, he needs to make his decision on his own. That may not be the answer you want, but the only things left for you to do, are offer him help and pray about it.
The kid I was just telling you about is facing up to 10 years in jail, no im not saying your brother is or needs to go to jail, but I know jail will pull my date's stepbrother away from the drugs, and then he can choose to turn his life around. The same may need to happen with your brother. I am so sorry though.
Please let me know if you need anything else. All the best!
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I have a serious problem with flirting. Everytime I flirt with a guy,they seem totally turned off. I don't say mean things to them or bore them with stupid one liners. What is the best way to get a guy's attention? (link)
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The best way to get a guys attention is to look and feel confident. When you look confident you look so approachable, and that can get any guy's attention. Also, don't wear a ton of makeup, less is more remember that!
And smile, when you smile you look confident and happy, and any guy will talk to you, you don't have to hardcore flirt to get a guys attention. Walk up and say hi, thats the best way, you look confident, now its his turn.
Confidence goes along way.
And don;t worry about flirting. You can be playful and laugh with out throwing yourself at him. When you look happy and comfortable in your own skin, that attracts any guy. Your attitude is contagious. Youll have a boyfriend sooner than you can say "look at me"
Best of luck, and be confident!!
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Hello my name is Kyrie i'm 12 years old and there is this boy that I really really like and we have been going out for a month but he just won't open up to me please tell me how I can get him to actually talk to me!!!! (link)
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Hey Kyrie, thanks for the question. My adivce to you is to give him time to open up to you, as you get older, youll learn that the shy guys are the easiest to talk to once they begin to open up. If you just ask him basic questions about himself, he'll begin to see your not there to hurt him and he'll begin to talk to you. What I usually do, is smile first, and make eye contact, believe it or not, that goes along way. He obviously likes you, as he is dating you, so just give him a little more time, and ask him if somethings bothering him. He may have trouble opening up to you, b/c of something that happened to him in his life before. I'm dating a guy like that, and he's kinda afraid to open up, b/c he hates his family life. He was abused growing up, and hes afraid to trust people. It may be that same with your guy. In all honesty, I don't know b/c I don't know him, but it could be. You never know. Just keep on getting to know him, and things will be great!
Email me if you need anything else. Best of luck! :)
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I'm looking for a new digital camera. Yesterday my brother and I went to best buy to look at the olympus (forgot which model) but the new one that happens to be waterproof. I explained earlier, that I want a camera that takes good flash pictures, because my current digital camera takes beautiful outdoor/ sport pictures, but as soon as you step indoors to take flash pictures (it honestly makes you look disgusting) adding to that, it also has many different setting features (like portrait, outdoors, fireworks, sport, etc) but it really doesn't make that big of a difference, cause you still look bad in flash pictures. Anyways, I took flash pictures with the waterproof olympus and they look terrible. So my question is what camera would you reccomend getting if you wanted good flash pictures (not to exceed over $350 in price) Thank You! ps, please don't tell me to ask someone who works there, because they really didnt help much haha
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Hey my digital camera is a nikon coolpix. with 6.0 megapixels
I really like it, b/c when I was in California, it took awesome pictures, like scenery,, mountains, and distance is awesome b/c you can zoom. Mine also has a video. I can't remember the price, but I also got a memory card, which was great. I got pictures of the Hollywood sign in the distance, which looks good cause of the zoom. I got mine at Sears Essentials. It's a really nice camera, you should go look at it, but the only thing is it is not waterproof.
Best of luck, Nikon does make a great product!
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I'm kinda hating my life right now... Before, when I still had school, I would be depressed and mad a lottt. I think it's just cause of people. It's kinda hard to explain but I'll try my best. It seems as though each year (starting with 4th or 5th grade) I keep losing friends. You know, those really close bffl's. In elementary school, I was sad but I guess I didn't mind much and I moved on. Though now that I'm in middle school it's much worse. I'll be starting 8th grade soon. I always lose like my closest friend(s) I have. :[ It sucks! I don't know why! I don't know why they don't want to be best friends, or even friends with me anymore!!! ;[[[ They make it seem like they're bored of me, and think they're new friends are "better." I feel like I have no close friends, except maybe 1 or 2. Except one of those friends is annoying me right now. She has close friends on the computer. And she has one close friend too. She makes it seem she's her "bestest friend in the wholeee widee world" though I think it's ridiculous since they met on the computer. (I know you can have really good friends on the comp :]) But it seems like she's saying that CURRENTLY. I'm her best friend too. She invited me to play some game "Maplestory." I did, and she was "happy" She doesn't even talk to me on there. She kinda ignores me. All her friends that log on, she's like "wbbbbbbbbbbbb (welcome back) ________ (link)
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I honestly do understand how you feel. I did go through that a lot in middle school and my freshman year of highschool. I had to seperate myself from those people. I deleted my myspace and AIM. I'm not as popular as I was then, but now I'm happy. You may wanna try it too.
I read where you hate stuff about your past. Listen, if you are living with regrets, let it go. I know that is so much easier said then done, but say enough is enough, I am not who I was, I changed. I think you need to do some soul searching, and don't worry its a good thing, what you should do is make a list of your priorities, and delete the bad in your life, your "fake" friends, (anyone who treats you that way is not real they are fake, sorry if I hurt your feelings, but they will talk so much crap about you, and tear you down) your myspace, and go out & do something this summer, you have to support something, maybe the environment, join campaigns to help them. I don't know, if you get yourself out there, youll meet new people, who will make you feel so much better about yourself.
You should not hate who you are, which is why you need to do some soul searching, why don't you like yourself? when you figure it out, think of things you can do to reinvent yourself. Oh and 1 more thing, stay offline with them for a while, they are pulling you down, and making you depressed just to sign on. NO one needs that. Oh yeah, and if you exercise, it gets your heart rate up which leaves you in a much better mood.
I think you should try the things I listed, I think youll be better off, too.
Cheer up, it'll get better :)
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What are some good conversations to have with guys (on the phone, in person, or on the computer)? I am always at a loss for words and conversations with them. (link)
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hey there,
when I go on dates I always talk about stuff I'm into, then ask him. For instance, if you talk about the really awesome your-favorite-band- concert, see what he thinks of them. Then in turn ask him what he likes. As you move under the surface, into more deep in depth conversations, you can talk about their childhood, basically what made them who they are. ya know, its up to you, ask them what their plans are for college, or just the rest of their lives, you may be surprised what you find out. Also, you can talk to them about their favorite vacation, who there heros are, and what not.
Also, let them talk to, im a chatterbox, so thats something I had to learn.
All the best :)
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I recently heard on my local radio station about John Robert Powers auditions and my mom and I called to schedule one. I have been on one of them before and apparently there are classes that they would like you to take that range from 1,000-6,000 and after you take them, they will help find you work..but there is also a casting director from Disney Channel that will be there so it's kind of like a double thing..my question is, has anyone on here ever been on one of these auditions and gotten something? Or is it just a huge scam? Like a win-lose situation?
Help me out here please!
Thanks! (link)
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hey I've been to an audition like that before, only for Barbizon. They have you take the classes, but they do not gaurantee you work. The classes help with self confidence, but you aren't guaranteed any jobs. But if I were you I'd go and see what its all about, you never know. What town is it in anyway? They travel all over the country like Proscout. Don't give them any money to join thats a scam.
Go and see, you never know what could happen.
All the best!
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*sigh* ugh ok so I wasn't going to even ask this on here because I thought I had it figured out. Well at least sort of, or I thought I could do it on my own but now I'm not so sure. Ok soo here's the situation [i apologize in advance, it's gonna be long]:
This past Sunday I was supposed to go to this screenwriting seminar in the city. And if you know me, you'll know how much this would mean to me and how important it is to what I want to do in the future. Put that on top of the fact that it was FREE. But anyway I was pretty excited for this for a while. This was my chance to hone in on my craft and actually get the chance to at least do something meaningful this summer. The only problem is that I'm not the best when it comes to finding my away around the city, so I wasn't really willing to go alone. So I asked my friend, we'll call her L, if she wanted to do it too (she's into creative writing and we could make a fun day out of it) and she was totally down. So I made the reservations for myself AND for her. I had them sent to her e-mail address and all. Now it's the night before, and I realized I had to plan out what time we should go and whatnot. So I sent her a text at about 1 am (I realize that sounds late, however she got out of work at 12 am so it wouldn't have been) but she didn't respond so I just figured "oh well, she's asleep, I'll get in touch with her tomorrow." So tomorrow rolls along and I texted her first at 10 [to give her enough time to get ready - the seminar was at 1] and I got no response. Then I proceeded to call and text until 12 for nothing. By then it was too late. I wouldn't have made it down there in time and it was too late to get anyone else to go. I WAS SOOO UPSET. I spent the day in bed crying. Partially because I missed out on something important, and also because my friend had completely forgotten about me. Then I started to get nervous, because I couldn't reach her at all and she wasn't online or anything. So then on top of my anger I was worried about her. Needless to say, it was a bad day.
Then I get a text from her the next day. And what does it say? "Omg I'm sorry I forgot about Sunday and I left my phone in my locker @ work." Excuse me ? That's it? All I get is a half-assed apology - IN A TEXT ?! I was pissed. Then she texted another half-assed apology later and just sorta brushed it off with a joke. I just felt as if she didn't even care about what happened, esp. since she didn't even care enough to CALL.
Now this might not seem like the biggest deal in the world, but keep this in mind. This is some background on her and our friendship: She's one of my best friends in the whole world and I'd do anything for her, and have, but whenever she meets someone new, or she grows close to a certain friend, she pretty much forgets all about me and makes her life about that person. She's done this to me twice. She kinda makes me feel as if I'm second rate. And on more than one occasion she's messed up my plans or made me late or screwed up my schedule because of her other friend at the time. She'll change her personality and act like them, drop everything for them and go all these places w/o inviting me (or if she does, it's something so ridiculously expensive I could never go to it anyway), not forget about their plans and occasionally even be a bitch to me [that's what happened last time.] Then when something goes wrong with them, or they screw her over, who does she come back to? Me. And I'll drop everything and be there for her, just because that's my nature and I do still care. Until, of course, someone else comes around for her to cling on to. Then the cycle starts all over. And the last time she had a fight with her friend (the one she choose over me) one of her main reasons she was pissed at her was because the girl had a fight with her OVER TEXT MESSAGES, and because "she didn't even care enough to call" -- wtf ? And she texted me just now saying "I know that you're angry @ me, but do you wanna go to the beach tomorrow?" How the hell do I respond to that ?
I spoke to my other best friend "M" about this, and M said that I should just respond to her texts by calling her and letting her know how pissed I am. And I think she's right, but at the same time I'm really reluctant to be the first to call. I feel like she should be the one to make the first move and call me, to show that she actually cares. And obviously I know that she probably won't, so I guess I should just suck it up and do it right? So I guess I'm asking if I should just call her and get it over with, or maybe text her and let her know why I'm pissed and give her an incentive to call me? I'm not really sure. I'm fed up with being the "fall back friend" who she can easily forget about, but at the same time I don't want to lose her. As I said before, ugh. (link)
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WOW! I think you seriously need to call her and tell her how you feel. Now I'm not saying cuss her out and threaten her, but say something like:
"you know what? I think the audacity of you to not call me and make me miss something that you know was important to me is just amazing, and yet you can't even call me? Is that really what you think of our friendship. You know I'd love to go to the beach, oh but wait I have other friends, who actually care enough to be there and call me, too bad you can't"
I know that sounds lame, but you should absolutely let her know what going on, she hurt your feelings, and if you don't say anything, its just gonna keep on happening, my friend did that to me, so I stopped talking to her altogether, I had enough, finally she earned the trust back. We're good friends now but she needed to know to not do that anymore. I think "L" is going to need that too.
I'm sorry, I hope things get better for you, but you need to be honest.
A true friend wouldn't do that to you. Stand up for yourself, and say enough is enough. You'll be glad you did.
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ok see i babysitt my sister EVERYDAY for my mom while she goes to work. but see my mom gets very mad when the house is a mess. i try and try to get my 8 year old sister to clean with me so my mom will let us do more stuff. but everytime i suggest that she talks back to me and screams and says NO! can u help me. i need some creative ways to get her to clean. what should i say or what should i suggest. thanks (link)
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hey there!
are you fan of bribery? It may help if you promise her like candy to help you clean. Okay okay I'm just kidding.
Well, first of all, put yourself in her shoes. As an 8 year old she probably hates cleaning, most people do. And she doesnt want you to tell her what to do, even though you have aright to. When I was eight my mom usually would ask me to clean, and afterwards we would do something fun. SO if you get your sister just to take about a half hour to help you clean, maybe you guys can do something more fun afterwards. For instance, she takes the time to clean her room, it gets done so much faster with two people working then just one. If you help her clean her room, you can make a game into it. Okay, say she has a toy box. Play it like you do the game jacks, whoever gets the most stuff in their the fastest wins. And make a 1st place prize something fun and cheap. ya know?
maybe like whoever gets their room the cleanest fastest wins like a get of cleaning free card, like they do in Monopoly.
Is that helpful for you? If not, email me back and I'll think of some more creative ways for you. I know bribery doesn't always solve things, but it can be a lot easier.
And it wouldn't hurt if you sit her down, and explain that yelling is not a nice thing to do. ALso most 8 year olds like to say their big girls, and tell her big girls don't yell and scream and talk back. I don't know maybe something like that will help you.
Just let me know, how it goes. okay?
I am an only child, so I'm trying to think in a sister perspective. Its kinda hard actually. lol. :) Good luck!
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ive been trying to lose weight and its been the hardest thing ever.
i have to lose 15 pounds in 4 weeks, and trust me, losing that much will make me normal, not anorexic, so its okay.
ive been telling myself ill diet tomorrow, etc etc, but its so hard! like i keep eating and i have no self control. i used to look at pictures which would keep me determined but it doesnt work anymore.
what should i d0? what can keep me determined? (link)
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i have an idea for you, it works for me. Okay so you take your habit, for you eating. You take a postit note, you put it by the place where you are most likely ot continue your habit. Then you mark each time you go without a set back in your habit. So for me biting my nails. I put it by my nail polishes. Everytime I go to bite I look at my marks that I was able to go with out doing my habit. So you make a promise with yourself, for instance, every 5 marks I go, I but myself something small that I like. That way its motivation to get to number 10 and keep on going til I finally kick the habit.
I fthat was confusing, just email me I can explain it a little better.
Good luck, youll be fine, just keep yourself busy so your habit doesn't become your life. okay?
Let me know if you need anything else. :)
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Ok im going into the 8th grade and i have never had a boy friend. It's not like im realy lonley or anything. It's just at school and stuff I always see my friends with their boy friends and I feal left out. And when me and my friends go to the movies or mall they always bring their boy friends and I hate not having one. I'm not ugly or anything either but guys never ask me out and im way to afraid of being turned down. I know im only 13 but my friends have ben in many many relation ships and i dont mean like a week they always go out for a while and that makes me feal so inexperienced. What should I do? (link)
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hey hun, I do understand how you feel. I went a long time without having a boyfriend either. And let me tell you at first I felt left out and like there was something wrong with me, but you know what, there wasn't. I wasn't in a rush to date or have aboyfriend, and when I stopped worrying and rushing, he came along. I have anice guy I'm casual dating, but hadI been in a rush I would be like every other girl. What I notice people do is have boyfriends at 13 or w.e. then they give everything to that person and all for what? just to regret the 6 months their together. So it is okay to feel lonely, but please dont rush to be in a relationship because you will regret it, and you could end up with someone extremely controlling.
I may not be making any sense, if so I'm sorry. But I know you can't see it now, but just relax and enjoy your life, because someday you wont be single anymore and youll be glad you waited for the good nice guy to come along. Believe me, it makes all the difference.
And your not inexperienced, you're smart. You can watch what they go through, and learn from their mistakes, before you rush into getting hurt.
Just take your time, and everything will work out great!
Btw, I'm 17 I don't have a boyfriend either, but I'm happy, I casually date and I know Mr. Right is just around the corner, as you get older, youll learn that too. Just relax, you'll be fine :)
Best of luck! And no more feeling left out! You're the special one, guys will come along for you soon, promise. Don't lose hope! You got plenty of time.
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I dont know what to do with my life i want to be successful but i dont know where to start. I am going to a community college this year as a freshman and i want to do radiology but there is a 4 year waiting list and community college is only two years & radiology only requires 2 years of college would i wait and go back in 2 years? I want to go beyond that. i want to make sure i will have a job in radiology i want to make money I am poor and live with my mom with no job right now. I dont know how to become successful (link)
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my suggestion would be to either enlist in a different college near you or, take all your required classes now while your waiting. That way by the time your all done with those classes, they should be able to fit you in, and usually the waiting list goes by quickly, you should be fine, don't worry, just take your basic maths and sciences now. Itll be so much easier for you in the long run. I highly doubt you will have to wait 4 years. So many people will drop the program or change their mind anyway, youll be fine, don't panic!
Don't worry everything will work out for the best!
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I'm really into modeling and acting. Well, mostly modeling. It's something I would like to pursue. But my agency is no more and I'm looking for new ones. Every agency cost so much money and I know there has to be cheaper. Can anyone recommend an agency they're with that's really convienient and actually looks out for jobs for you?
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Hey first of all you should not be paying an agency to join, thats a scam. They get a percentage but only when you get a job. You should not be paying them at all just to join, then they are ripping you off.
I am currently with Osslin Agency, I just finished my compcards so I'm ready to work. I have friends with them who have already got jobs. Osslin is really good, you may want to check them out. But most agencies will make you get compcards so you can get work. Just call an osslin near you and ask about coming in to interview with them.
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I want to be famous, I love to act and sing. I'm not that great at singing. I would love to be on Broadway but I don't know if I would make it. I don't know what to do with my life. I'm 14, so I want to take high school classes that will help me in what I want to be. I love fashion and everything but I don't know what to do any ideas? (link)
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well for one thing, you're 14. You have plenty of time to decide. But I do understand how you feel, I'm 17 and I love acting and singing too. Being famous would be pretty cool. But here is what I did, I took as many arts classes as I could at my school, drama and musical theatre and dance. It really helps to broaden your interests and expand your talents. Since you want to do Broadway, see if you can sign up for a musical theatre class at your school. Also, if you want to make your singing voice stronger, you may want to get a singing coach. It helps especailly if you want to do Broadway, you have to be the best of the best, and youwill be if you really believe in yourself, and take every opportunity granted to you.
Best of luck with everything! And keep chasing those dreams, youll go far!!
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Well, you see I'm posting this question for my best friend. Just so you know, she's 12 and is going to be 13 in another week or so. I wanna help her out, being best friends and all. So yeah, I'll just get to the point. Today she told me on myspace about how her boyfriend N told her to stop talking to one of her guy friends O. She asked him why and he was like 'cuz i'm your boyfriend, thats why.' i mean, that is being way too overprotective. she told me she was so happy when he left and about how he was being too clingy and calling her every minute of the day. ShesI just really want to help her out...wat should she do abt this? and please dont tell me about how she should deal with this by herself. i kmow!!! I just wanna help!!! (link)
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That is 100% contorlling. She needs to stay away from him. That may not be the answer you wanna hear, but its the truth. He will only get worse the more she continues to date him. She can get seriously hurt if she does not end this. And being the good friend that you sound to be, you need to help her get out of this relationship, b/c she maybe in too far to get out by herself. And if he really cared about her, he wouldn't care who she talks to, hes being very manipulative, and he will worsen, if she doesn't end this. So tell her exactly how you feel about him controlling, and let her make the final decision, but explain to her why she needs to stay away, she obviously is sick of it, and shes coming to you for help. If she decides to end this relationship she needs to let him down gently, and carefully, because manipulative people can turn out to be totally whacked, and I don't want you or her to get hurt in any way.
Please be safe, and help her, she really needs you!
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17/f. I'm an only child, and I don't have very many friends. I really have nothing to do....and I'm very, very bored. During the school year, I find my way around things to do, because I find out about parties, and then I go, and even if I don't have any friends, I still manage to talk to someone, or find a guy to dance with. So, it works out. It's summer, and I really don't find anything to do. I feel so alone. I know it seems like I'm exaggerating, but, maybe those of you who are an only child can sympathize with what I'm saying.
I've been going to the same school since second grade, and this is my last year. That's why it's not really like I'm going to make new friends this year. I've already met everyone that's going to graduate with me, and it's not that they're bad people. It's not like they hate me or anything, but it's just that we have all been together for so long... that they just figure that I'm doing my own thing, and they're doing theirs. It's not like someone can just "adopt" me into they're clique during our senior year. These are all cliques that were established in like first grade and they're not going to change. There was this one little group that I kind of got away w/ doing things sometimes, but they are really, really bad people, and they really, really do hate me.
I just feel like whenever I see people go out or whatever, like a little bit jealous, because I'm always at home or at the gym, or going somewhere with my mother. i ADORE her. But, it's just that it's not the same. My mother is my mother, and I'll always love her, like my mother. But, it's not the same. I need people do things with, young people.
Can someone please help me? Because before it was just bored... but now it's more than that. Now, I've just been so bored, that now it's turned into being sad... because i just feel so desperate i guess is the word.
thank you :)
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I know how you feel. I am an only child for one thing so I understand the lonelinest factor. also, I went to a parochial school for nine years, so by the time highschool came, we were allsick of each other. I understand the whole being together for too long. Thats how I felt too. When you get away from those people youll be able to grow and find your own group. I felt like I had no friends, we were all a little too tied together if that makes sense. I went to highschool and associated myself with a bunch of different people, and I learned that I have many different interests, like theatre and singing so I met people that are in theatre too and soccer so I was able to grow, thats what you really need to do also.
Good luck! All the best!
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18 years old.
I usually go on a date with someone "new" about once every two weeks. A few of the people I go on a date with really have a lot in common with me. But there's a good number of people that I just don't hit it off with, and when that happens, I get really depressed. I don't know why.
This guy on myspace added me and we talked online for a long time and finally went on an actual date today. We didn't hit it off like we thought we would, and since it ended, I've felt really bad. Like I didn't measure up to what he expected. I always feel like this after a date that doesn't go smoothly. I never feel like I'm good enough. :(
Is this normal and what do I do? (link)
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Don't say you aren't good enough, you absouletly are! Igo through the same thing everytime I date someone new too. Yeah, it is normal, because we are all humans, we make mistakes, and we can't get along with everyone, thats not humanly possible. What you need to do, is not think about it working out or not working out. Just hang out as friends, and let it go form there. Sometimes dating adds a little bit more pressure, like "what if Im not his type?" "what if he likes blondes better?" "Am I not pretty enough?" It goes through everyones head sometime or another. Just relax and be Miss Sociable. Don't be afraid to meet people and be friends. Don't think about dating someone right now. Just let go, relax and enjoy the ride. If you take abreak, it will take pressure off and youll feel more free, more like yourself. And then when you least expect it, youll meet him. He's just around the corner.
Good luck, itll all work out great I promise, just be yourself, and relax!
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