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18 years old.
I usually go on a date with someone "new" about once every two weeks. A few of the people I go on a date with really have a lot in common with me. But there's a good number of people that I just don't hit it off with, and when that happens, I get really depressed. I don't know why.
This guy on myspace added me and we talked online for a long time and finally went on an actual date today. We didn't hit it off like we thought we would, and since it ended, I've felt really bad. Like I didn't measure up to what he expected. I always feel like this after a date that doesn't go smoothly. I never feel like I'm good enough. :(
Is this normal and what do I do?
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I am not going to same something corny as 'you are good enough', because firstly, I feel you should be strong enough and comfortable in your own skin when you start dating! So I suggest you take a break from this constant dating and just take some time to reflect. Give your body, soul and mind a rest, in other words, give some time to yourself, either go to the spa or whatever that will make you feel good. Do things that make you feel beautiful! You have to feel EXCEPTIONAL in your OWN skin and BY yourself, you shouldn't need anyone to make you feel that way. Once you have done that, then you can start dating! That way, you heal yourself internally, spiritually and all that, you feel BEAUTIFUL the way you are, which is what you should be feeling. Then only can you date comfortably and then only, you will be able to understand that you aren't compatible with eveyone, only some, and that some is who you should be focussing on. Not the try-outs! :D It isn't your fault you aren't compatible with a guy, who cares?! You most probably ARE to another, you most probably are the MOST beautiful to a couple of guys out there! So don't let a couple of rough dates get to you.
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Don't say you aren't good enough, you absouletly are! Igo through the same thing everytime I date someone new too. Yeah, it is normal, because we are all humans, we make mistakes, and we can't get along with everyone, thats not humanly possible. What you need to do, is not think about it working out or not working out. Just hang out as friends, and let it go form there. Sometimes dating adds a little bit more pressure, like "what if Im not his type?" "what if he likes blondes better?" "Am I not pretty enough?" It goes through everyones head sometime or another. Just relax and be Miss Sociable. Don't be afraid to meet people and be friends. Don't think about dating someone right now. Just let go, relax and enjoy the ride. If you take abreak, it will take pressure off and youll feel more free, more like yourself. And then when you least expect it, youll meet him. He's just around the corner.
Good luck, itll all work out great I promise, just be yourself, and relax!
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Aw! Do NOT say that because I'm sure you're a wonderful girl. Sometimes, meeting new people is a good thing. You can get to know a variety of people. Also, not everyone has chemistry. Sometimes it takes a while to meet someone that you just click with. No one is perfect for everyone else. Just keep looking & going on dates. Trust me, you'll find the right person where the feelings are mutual and you'll know their the one. Good luck! ♥
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