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Best Friend's boyfriend being too overprotective and clingy
Well, you see I'm posting this question for my best friend. Just so you know, she's 12 and is going to be 13 in another week or so. I wanna help her out, being best friends and all. So yeah, I'll just get to the point. Today she told me on myspace about how her boyfriend N told her to stop talking to one of her guy friends O. She asked him why and he was like 'cuz i'm your boyfriend, thats why.' i mean, that is being way too overprotective. she told me she was so happy when he left and about how he was being too clingy and calling her every minute of the day. ShesI just really want to help her out...wat should she do abt this? and please dont tell me about how she should deal with this by herself. i kmow!!! I just wanna help!!!
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She should dump him. She's only 12, she doesn't need to deal with that now! And she should be able to talk to whoever she wants; esp. if it's a friend. It's better she loses him then she loses any friend. Plus if he's like that now, I can only imagine how much more controlling he'll get in years to come...
Plus she was happy when he left, so her feelings for him must be dwindling. It's best she gets rid of him now, before things get worse.
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If I were your friend, I'd dump this guy. You're 12 for goodness sake's! You don't need a controlling guy when you're this young. All you can do is talk to her about it. I'm not telling you to tell her to dump him, that's just what I would do, but you might want to suggest it.
-Laura. (16-f)
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That is 100% contorlling. She needs to stay away from him. That may not be the answer you wanna hear, but its the truth. He will only get worse the more she continues to date him. She can get seriously hurt if she does not end this. And being the good friend that you sound to be, you need to help her get out of this relationship, b/c she maybe in too far to get out by herself. And if he really cared about her, he wouldn't care who she talks to, hes being very manipulative, and he will worsen, if she doesn't end this. So tell her exactly how you feel about him controlling, and let her make the final decision, but explain to her why she needs to stay away, she obviously is sick of it, and shes coming to you for help. If she decides to end this relationship she needs to let him down gently, and carefully, because manipulative people can turn out to be totally whacked, and I don't want you or her to get hurt in any way.
Please be safe, and help her, she really needs you!
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his answer is something to worry bout. idk the age of her bf.. but for him to say 'because im your boyfriend, thats why' is like a parent talking to their child. he has NO right whatsoever to talk to her like that. the least he couldve done is talked to her about how he feels uncomfortable about her guy friend O. does sound a bit controlling. she needs to make her own decisions. secrifices are part of relationship but not only if one person is doing them. good luck. and if it doesnt work out between them she needs to realize her friend O will probably still be there for her, so she shouldnt cut him off completely.. might lose a good friend..
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That's not overprotective, it's controlling.
Your friend isn't a robot to be programed.
Seriously, if he is going to treat her that way, she'd do better to be single.
At least then she can be who she is, have the friends she wants to have, and search for a guy who accepts that.
ygs-30/f
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