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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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I want to know how I can loose weight with out being hungry, what foods will keep me full for a longer period of time. I know water and salads are good but what else can I do to help me loose weight the proper way.

Eat healthy cereals, like Corn Flakes, Cheerios (They're my personal favorite), or Special K, rather than sugary cereals (like Lucky Charms, etc). I've noticed that the healthier, whole grain cereals keep you full longer than sugary ones.

I've heard it's also good to have a salad before you eat a meal. That way, even if you're having a not-so-healthy main dish, you'll still have something healthy.

This comes from personal experience, so I don't know if this varies from person to person, but I can't eat all-fruit meals. For instance, that Fruit and Walnut salad can't keep me full for very long; It's more of a snack kind of thing. I suggest that you eat whole grain foods; they keep you full longer. You should definitely eat fruits, too, but you'll probably need to have something else with it, like a sandwich.
For example: A healthy lunch could probably be a peanut butter sandwich on whole-wheat bread with a cut-up apple/banana, rather than potato chips. See what I'm saying?

I'm no expert on the subject, but those are some things I know that I think could help you. :oD

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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this question may be a little basic, but what are signs of flirting?

-If the person looks at you in the eyes when you talk.
-If the person touches your arm during conversation.
-If the person compliments you a lot.
-If they truly look interested in what you're saying.
-If they laugh at you jokes, even the stupid ones.
-If they try to spend time alone with you.
-If the person talks to you a lot.
-If the person stares at you, even when they're talking to someone else.

Those are some basic flirting signs, but some people will act mean to the person they like, and some people are too shy to flirt, so it depends on the person, really.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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hey
I was wondering, how come everyone all of a sudden hates preps?
Like my friends and I were at the movies tonight. And i hate labeling myself but im deffinetely in the prep catogory. And all these punk emo girls were mocking us and and following us saying " like omg im like such a prep like omg" And all this other stuff. MY friends thought they were jelous but i dont know. Does anyone know why everyone doesnt like preps? Like on myspace people are posting bulletins saying " Wow i hate preps" and all this other stuff. Im just being myself,and who i am.
Does anyone know? thanks

Basically, punk/emo/goth/etc. people don't like preps because they're "nonconformists" by shopping at different places and listening to different music and things like that. Preps are "conformists" by wearing American Eagle, Hollister, A&F, etc. Since so many people wear that kind of stuff and act "preppy," they think that none of them are being true to themselves, which makes them (I'll refer to punks/emos/etc. as "nonconformists" now) resent preps.

I wish people would see that "labels" are such a stupid thing to judge people by. It's unfair and immature, what these girls did to you.

Just be youself. :oD

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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ok i am an athiest i have read many things supportin the exsitence nad nonexstence of god. I was just curious as to why people believe so strongly in a religion or a single god.

I'm a Christian; Here's my opinion.

I think of all the beautiful things. Look up at a clear blue sky on a spring day. Look at a couple celebrating their 50th anniversary; Smiling just like they did on their wedding day. Look at your family and friends.
I just think that all of these things, so beautiful, had to come from someone somewhere. They couldn't just be there. Somebody much more powerful than we are must have created these wonderful things; a higher being... God. We can't create them. God does. God guides us and teaches us. He shows us how to love, and He loves us.

Religion or a belief in God isn't science. It's based on FAITH. You can't tell me that you're 100% positive that there is no God and I can't tell you that I'm 100% sure that there is. You either believe or you don't. Some people go, "There is no God because science says so." But, like I said, it's ALL FAITH. Not science.

That is what I think, anyway. A lot of people probably disagree, but it's just my opinion.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Can someone give me some songs i can think of for my wedding? thanks!

SLOW SONGS:
"I Need You" by LeAnn Rimes
"And I Love Her" by The Beatles
"You and Me" by Lifehouse
"A Moment Like This" by Kelly Clarkson

FASTER SONGS:
"Hanging by a Moment" by Lifehouse (This one could probably be used for a slow song, I think)
"All About Soul" by Billy Joel
"With You" by Jessica Simpson
"Wrapped Up in You" By Garth Brooks

I know that isn't much, but those are some good songs.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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OK so i really hate it when girls flirt with my boyfriend. But who doesn't. There is this girl who always seems to flirt with my boyfriend when im not around of course. She even tried holding my boyfriends hand!!! He was like what are you doing and pulled away. She just doesn't get the picture you know. She bothers me she tells me all the time that she doesn't like him only as a friend etc. But we haven't talked in about a week and then she started with all this. Then there is another girl who just flirts with him constantly. I hate it when other people flirt with my boyfriend when they know that he's going out with me!!! What do i do? Someone please help!!! ps. im not really good at telling people off either haha so please help!

Well, be glad: Your boyfriend doesn't seem to be giving in to the advances that these girls are making. He seems pretty faithful to you. :o)

You don't need to tell these girls off. Yelling, making accusations, and calling them names won't solve anything. That kind of stuff is immature. Not only that, it will make the girls defensive ("I AM NOT FLIRTING WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND, SO SHUT UP!"), and won't solve anything.

You do, however, need to show them who's boss, but not in a violent way (no catfights!). Don't talk to them both at the same time, talk to them individually. Also, make sure they aren't in a bad mood when you talk to them. Talk when you're alone, also.

Make you voice firm, not loud.
Say something like: "Hey, ______(name), I've noticed that you've been flirting with my boyfriend, and I don't appreciate it. I can tell you like him, and not just as a friend. Stop." It may sound like it won't work, but it should. If it doesn't, you should get your boyfriend to talk to her.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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I've been going out with this kid for about a week and a half now. He has a very bad reputation for smoking alot, drug use, getting in fights and stealing things. Everyone is scared of him so they don't know his good side. Actually he is very nice, considerate, sweet and ready for commitment.

Sometimes he lies to impress me though. Just one example, he told me he is 100 percent Irish but when I said I was Italian, he said he was 50% Irish and 50% Italian. He also buys me lots of jewelry to impress me I guess, but he doesn't need to.

I guess I'm just kind of shocked. But if he really feels like he has to be like that to keep me, I'm not sure if I actually want to keep dating him. This happened with all my previous boyfriends because I figure out their flaws as I get to know them and I start to drift away.

So Is he worth my time? Is it just that I have really high expectations for a guy?

Please Help!

He might be scared that you will start to look at him in the same way that everyone else does, so he tries impressing you so you won't be scared of him. He just might be insecure because of the reputation he has.

Is he worth your time? That's up to you to decide. You can try talking to him about it, calmly. You can tell him that he doesn't need to try to impress you; That you like him for who he is.

The only thing I would be iffy about is the drug use and all of that.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Im a girl, and im 16 years old. okay, a few months ago, i did stuff with this guy called Bryan. We did stuff several times at different parties. Hed be nice to me on the night, but after that, like at school and stuff, hed just kinda ignore me. but it wasnt so bad, hed speak on msn. sometimes i wondered if he was using me, so i tried talking to him about it, and he told me it was fine and he wasnt using me. But i feel used. WE havent done anything in a while as hes starting being a dick to me, and more ignorant than ever. he also started trying it on with other girls. but it still really hurts. My friends say i was being used. It feels horrible, how he just dropped me like that. And now i think i like bryan, and cant stop thinking about him. even though i know its a waste of time, but i just wish he liked me, and i dont know what to do. ive tried talking to him but he either ignores me, or convinces me that IM wrong. He doesnt even seem to like me, even as just a friend, and always blanks me. Ive done nothing wrong...but basically he just doesnt care about my feelings and doesnt wanna know about anything to do with me.
i dont understand why im so different from anyone else. Im not jelous, im just hurt. He used to be so nice to me, and now hes evil to me. He talks to everyone else apart from me, and hes rude to my face and insulting, behind my back. Please help!

He was nice to you because you gave him what he wanted (sleeping with him). Now that he's gotten what he wanted, he dropped you like a bad habit. He's an idiot and it was horrible what he did.

Ignore him. Also, don't be mean to him or try to get revenge. You may think it will make you feel good at first, but that only shows him that you're still hung up on him.

Don't get a "rebound guy," either. Going out with a guy you have no feelings for just because of what Bryan did is disrespectful to the "rebound guy." It would lead him to think that you have feelings for him, and you don't. It would only break his heart and you don't want that to happen.

Don't sit around the house watching reruns of "Friends." That will only make you feel worse. Get support from friends. Do what you love. Take up a new hobby.

Learn from this. Make sure that you get to know a guy before you do anything with him.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Why do teenage girls with boyfriends feel to need to refer to their boyfriends' mothers as "mother-in-law"? ...Is that just the new "thing to do" now? Last time I checked, someone isn't your mother-in-law unless you were married to her son or daughter, not merely dating them in high school. To me it sounds really funny, "15/f like omg my mother-in-law blah blah blah"...ummm... no. So can someone explain this to me? It's really hard to take questions like that seriously. haha

Because they want to sound cool. Just like Razhie said before, it's like how they "fall in love" with their boyfriend of a week. They don't know the meaning of it, just like they don't know what love really is. It's kind of like them putting their first name with their boyfriends' last. They're just taking that fantasy to a whole new level. o.O

They think it looks cute, I guess. Just another trend.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Well, when someone comes up to me and asks me out, I always say no, whether I like them or not. And if some kid tells me that they like me, I make up some smart-ass comment. I usually do this automatically, giving me no time to think at all. It's just natural reflex. How can I fix this?

Are you someone who doesn't think before they say something, no matter what you may be talking about? That's probably what your problem is.

Just start thinking before you speak, no matter what you're doing. Let's say that you're shopping with a friend. She tries on this red top that looks hideous on her. Without thinking, you might say, "Ugh! That looks horrible on you!" But if you think before you speak and consider her feelings, you should say something like, "I think you'd look better in that yellow top we saw."

Just practice doing that. When someone says something to you, plan out in your head what you will say back, and think about how you would react if someone said that same thing to you. Like the example I just said; Your feelings would be hurt if your friend said, bluntly, that the top looked hideous on you, right?

Remember that if you constantly reject guys, it will scare other guys away. I mean, you can reject guys you don't like nicely, but if you like a guy, don't reject him. So, if you have a reputation for rejecting guys constantly, guys will be hesitant to ask you out. They'd be too scared of rejection to even pursue you. A time could come when you really like a guy who likes you as well, but he wouldn't ask you out, thinking you'd say no. See what I mean?

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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how do i edit the song name and album name and such on my iPod nano? i know it has somthing to do with itunes


thanks

Plug your Ipod into your computer and then go onto Itunes. Click "______ (Your name)'s Ipod." Then, right click the song you want and click "Get Info." A screen should come up that has some tabs on the top. Click the tab that says "Info." There is where you can change the song title, album title, etc. Once you're done, click "OK."

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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There's this kid that i think it super hott and he has an amazing vocie and a totally awesome personality. my friends think hes ugly though.
he has like jet black hair and see-through blue eyes.
how could you say that's not hott?
anyways.
what should i do?

That sounds cool to me, that he has blue eyes and black hair. It's pretty rare. :o)

Who cares what your friends think? If you want to pursue him, then go ahead. Your friends can't, and shouldn't, say who you can and cannot like. It's your life, not theirs. :o)
I mean, I would listen to your friends if she said she saw the guy doing drugs or something bad like that, but don't deny your feelings for this guy because your friends think he's ugly.
Everyone's got different tastes in guys and girls. What you think is hot is probably just different from what your friends think is hot.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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OK, so I like really like this guy. And he's like basicly in love with my best friend. And she doesn't like him at all like that and she's been trying to hook us up for a while, but I don't think it's going to happen. But that's besides the point. I'm like not "oh my gosh gorgeous pretty", but I'm not "eww she's ugly" either. But every guy I've ever liked, has either gone out with, broken up with me for, or has been head over heals for one of my best friends. And I mean I'm a happy person. Like happy all the time like 99.9% of the time. And then when they tell you all about them and how great they are, like it really upsets me. But I don't want them to know it. My last two boyfriends have broken up with me because they were in love with my best friend. But I mean how would you deal with always having your best friend get the guy that you want? Or like your best friend ALWAYS being prettier than you and getting the guys attention. How would you deal with this? Please, if you can let me know, because I don't know how long I can stand being around them anymore with all of the guys I like. (14/f) P.S. I'm not a self centered witch. I'm probably one of the nicest, friendliest people in the world. This issue just bothers me a whooooooole lot!!

I'm in your position! I know what you mean. I have a friend who gets ALL the guys. All of them. And a lot of the guys I've liked have liked her. Whenever I like someone and see him smiling at her, it makes me want to scream! Don't get me wrong, she is a wonderful friend whom I cherish. But that one little detail (the fact that she's a guy magnet) drives me nuts! Okay, enough about me. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. :o) Plus, it's always nice to vent, especially when it helps someone else. Haha.

The fact that your friend is trying to hook you and this guy up is great; It shows that she's really a good friend and that she wouldn't go behind your back and go out with him.
Another thing I'm saying is not to blame it on her. The feelings are his, not hers. Everyone has free will; she couldn't have made him like her. She can't make this guy not like her, either. So don't yell at her, accusing her of things like, "You ALWAYS get the guy!" This will probably make her feel guilty, and she doesn't need to have those feelings. You could even lose a great friend doing that.

Here's how I deal.
I just try not to let it bother me, as much as it does. There's no point in losing a friend for a guy. It isn't her fault; I don't blame her. I just know that one day, there will be a guy for me that loves me for me, and doesn't have those kind of feelings for my friend.
I don't dwell on it. That will only make you feel bad, and you'll lose confidence. If you get negative, you'll be living your life being envious and compare yourself to her constantly.
Don't lose confidence because of this.

If you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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In the song "Across the Universe", a Beatles song that was covered by Rufus Wainwright a couple years ago, there's a line in the chorus that goes, "Jai guru de va om".

Would anyone be able to translate that for me? I don't know what language it's in. I thought it might have been in french but I put it into a translator on the internet and it didn't come up with anything.

Thank you.

It's in Sanskrit, meaning, "I give thanks to Guru Dev, om."

"Om" is supposed to be the vibrating of the universe. Guru Dev was the actual name of the one who taught the Maharishi's teacher, but his name can be translated into "heavenly one."

I got the info here: http://www.geocities.com/clevebeat/JaiGuruDeva.html

I'm a Beatles fan as well. :o)

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Last night, I went out clubbing with my best friend and some other people, including a guy friend of mine, I'll call him "Brian". Brian has always told me that he's bisexual and I'm cool with that and we get along great. He's always treated me like one of the guys, but last night, he got pretty drunk and he started touching me inappropriately. It wasn't anything particularly sexual, just holding my hand and putting his hands on my waist, but I was really confused. I'm not attracted to him or anything, but it's got me really confused. It was just the alcohol talking wasn't it? My best friend also said he held her hand as well.

It probably was just the alcohol, since he held your friend's hand as well.
There is the possibility of him having secret feelings for you and unkowingly letting them show while he was drunk, but I think it was the alcohol, since he treats you like one of the guys (and he held your best friend's hand, like I mentioned before).

You could ask him. Tell him calmly what he did and ask if it was really him or the alcohol.
Say something like this: "Hey, Brian. You know when we went clubbing last night? Well, you put your hands around my waist and held my hand, and _____ (your friend's name) said that you held her hand. That was just because you were drunk, right?".

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Ok well valentines day is coming up and i hate it. Cause it's always the time you find out nobody likes me and well i'm not ugly like i can show u a pic but i feel soo freakin ugly and unwanted when i don't get asked out or even asked to dance. So my friend told me to ask them. Do guys like it when girls ask them to dance? Or do they thinks is weird and depret? (sorry if i spelled that wrong lol)

It depends on the guy. Some guys are jerks, some aren't.
Personally, all the guys I've ever asked have been mature and said yes, and all went well. I know a lot of girls who have asked guys to dance before. I can't speak for all guys when I say this, because all of them are different, but based on my experience, guys don't think it's weird at all, and they don't think you're desperate if you ask.

Guys are shy, too. Sometimes they want to dance with a girl but are too shy to ask.

Dancing isn't as big of a deal as you may think. Not just couples dance: guys dance with girls who are just friends.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders

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HEy yall in a few days im getin a ipod nano and i have some question

DO you think its worth the money??
Ill rate high

I think it's worth the money! But be warned: Songs from CDs take up quite a bit of space, so if you are planning on burning a lot of songs from CDs onto your Ipod, get the one with 4 GB.

Ipod Nanos also tend to scratch. Get an Ipod skin. They're made of a silicone kind of material and come in many different colors. I put one on my Ipod, and it hasn't been scratched since then.
They're also pretty fragile, so don't put it anywhere it can break.

It's not all bad like some people say it is. It's very convenient and small; it doesn't take up a lot of space in your purse.

If you aren't good at keeping up with things and tend to break things easily, you might want to think twice about getting one. Otherwise, you should be fine!

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders

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So I know this guy likes me and I like him but he doesn't know I like him. Anyways, this one friend of mine who's friends with both of us is telling me to ask out the kid who likes me because he knows he's going to say yes. Anyways the problem is, I don't ask people out anymore because of really bad experiances with it, and apparently he wont ask me out because he's to shy and thinks I'll say no. Even when the middle friend tells him I will say yes he wont do it. Should I give it time or forget the whole thing?

PS please dont say ask him out because im not going to

Like the person before me said, you gotta let him know you like him if you don't want to ask him out. You can tell him, or you can flirt with him. Laugh at his joke (no matter how stupid they may be), maintain eye contact while you talk to him, compliment him (but don't overdo it), or smile at him. Be genuinely interested in what he has to say. Don't overdo the flirting; for most guys, that's a turnoff. Hopefully, he'll get the idea.

Unless this middle friend finally convinces the guy to ask you out, nothing will happen. I'm not saying to ask him out, I'm just letting you know what will probably happen.
If you did ask him out, what would you have to lose? He likes you and you know that. Just because you've had bad experiences with asking people out doesn't mean that you should never ask anyone out again. If you do that, you could miss out on so many good relationships. Again, I'm not telling you to ask him out, I'm just telling you that you wouldn't really have anything to lose if you did.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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I have a terrible friend who thinks shes cool and hates me and my friends. She always hangs out with us and then talks about us behind our backs to US! I got into a fight with her(because Im the only one who will stand up for myself) and I hate having people hate me so i appologized and she just forgave me like that! (She said "I forgive you, HUG!") It bothers me and now were back to her using me and my friends and she thinks shes popular. What should I do?

I'm going through a similar situation, and I know how you feel having a "friend" act like that.

Your friend probably has low self-esteem. That's one of the main reasons people make fun of others.

Talk to her. When you said that you had a fight, did it include yelling and making accusations? If so, that's why nothing was solved.

Make sure she isn't in a bad mood and that she's alone when you talk to her. Be very calm; she might say something to you that will make you angry, but keep your cool. Still, make your voice firm. If you don't, she probably won't take you seriously.
Say something like, "Hey, ____ (name), We don't appreciate the fact that you talk about us behind our backs. You have no right to do that. We don't deserve to be treated the way that you treat us; we deserve respect. If you don't stop, we can't stay friends."
Don't say something like, "You're such a b*tch!" Throwing accusations at her will make her defensive and there will be less of a chance that she will really listen to what you have to say.

If she doesn't stop... that's where you draw the line.

Remember: This isn't your fault. She's the one who backstabbed everyone. As long as you don't blow your top and say mean things, you have nothing to apologize for (That's why you should be careful to not yell, and choose your words wisely).

I hope I helped, and of you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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I have a great girlfriend, one I've been going out for nearly three years now. We have never really fought or argued or been mad at each other or anything. We both have problems here and there with school and home, but small ones with each other. I do need advice on that though...See, my teacher once told me two years ago that most if not all guys will hear a girl tell her problem and then go to try and solve it, when really the girl just wanted him to listen and hear her out. Is that true? Sometimes I find myself doing that, even after thinking about what my teacher said. So my question is...does being a listener and just talking about a problem count just as much as trying to come up with a solution. For these kinds of problems I mean things like: yeah my friends did this to me; I'm not sure what to do about this sport; I feel a certain way when ___; etc. It does seem that half the time she tells me something, I right away try to come up with a solution or tell her what to do about it. It usually ends up falling right back in my face, or making her feel upset. Would you (girls) appreciate it more if the guy that was there...helped out with a solution, just listened to you about it and talked to you about it, or a little of each. Thanks, I would really appreciate it.

Sometimes, people will come to you just wanting someone to listen to their situation, and to have a shoulder to cry on. Not all people need advice; some just need some support.

You should be both a listener and you should come up with solutions.
If you can't solve a problem, for instance, if it isn't something you're familiar with, or if it just simply can't be solved, that's when you should be the listener and supporter. That's when you let her know that you care for her and if she needs anyone to talk to, you will always be there for her.

If you know what to do to solve a problem, then there's nothing wrong with coming up with a solution.

So yes, your teacher was somewhat right. Most people would prefer guys that helped solve problems and listened.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders

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