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Why do I always say "no"?
Well, when someone comes up to me and asks me out, I always say no, whether I like them or not. And if some kid tells me that they like me, I make up some smart-ass comment. I usually do this automatically, giving me no time to think at all. It's just natural reflex. How can I fix this?
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Think about it before you immediately respond. You have to train yourself to do this. I'm sure it won't be easy for you since you say it just natural for you, but hey, its worth a try. I wish you the best of luck.
--Stephanie
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Are you someone who doesn't think before they say something, no matter what you may be talking about? That's probably what your problem is.
Just start thinking before you speak, no matter what you're doing. Let's say that you're shopping with a friend. She tries on this red top that looks hideous on her. Without thinking, you might say, "Ugh! That looks horrible on you!" But if you think before you speak and consider her feelings, you should say something like, "I think you'd look better in that yellow top we saw."
Just practice doing that. When someone says something to you, plan out in your head what you will say back, and think about how you would react if someone said that same thing to you. Like the example I just said; Your feelings would be hurt if your friend said, bluntly, that the top looked hideous on you, right?
Remember that if you constantly reject guys, it will scare other guys away. I mean, you can reject guys you don't like nicely, but if you like a guy, don't reject him. So, if you have a reputation for rejecting guys constantly, guys will be hesitant to ask you out. They'd be too scared of rejection to even pursue you. A time could come when you really like a guy who likes you as well, but he wouldn't ask you out, thinking you'd say no. See what I mean?
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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This is a complete no brainer.
If you like the person say yes. You know? The three letter word that sounds like this, Y-E-S!!!
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you're either young, immature, or shy when it comes to stuff like that.. or a combination of all three..
just dont do it
x3
kali
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