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stupid friend
I have a terrible friend who thinks shes cool and hates me and my friends. She always hangs out with us and then talks about us behind our backs to US! I got into a fight with her(because Im the only one who will stand up for myself) and I hate having people hate me so i appologized and she just forgave me like that! (She said "I forgive you, HUG!") It bothers me and now were back to her using me and my friends and she thinks shes popular. What should I do?
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This person is obviously not your friend, my advice would be to get away from her as fast as you can. Don't talk to her, don't let her use you, don't assoicate with her. She should eventually get the hint. If she is talking bad about you behind your back then she is not a good friend, or even a friend at all. Don't make the problem worse than it is; don't add to the fire. Give her nothing to use against you, so you don't want to tell her off or anything. Just avoid her.
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It was stupid of you to apologize to her in the first place. Tell her to piss off and leave you alone. If you don't like someone, you never have to pussyfoot around and be fake to them.
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Five words honey - SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND! Think about it, would you treat any of your friends like this? No, neither would I. She is simply using you for whatever reason she sees fit - you wouldn't let a guy treat you like this so don't let some girl push you around! Ditch this loser - if she bitches constantly about you and your friends she can't want to be friends with you at all!
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Quit hanging out with her.
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I'm going through a similar situation, and I know how you feel having a "friend" act like that.
Your friend probably has low self-esteem. That's one of the main reasons people make fun of others.
Talk to her. When you said that you had a fight, did it include yelling and making accusations? If so, that's why nothing was solved.
Make sure she isn't in a bad mood and that she's alone when you talk to her. Be very calm; she might say something to you that will make you angry, but keep your cool. Still, make your voice firm. If you don't, she probably won't take you seriously.
Say something like, "Hey, ____ (name), We don't appreciate the fact that you talk about us behind our backs. You have no right to do that. We don't deserve to be treated the way that you treat us; we deserve respect. If you don't stop, we can't stay friends."
Don't say something like, "You're such a b*tch!" Throwing accusations at her will make her defensive and there will be less of a chance that she will really listen to what you have to say.
If she doesn't stop... that's where you draw the line.
Remember: This isn't your fault. She's the one who backstabbed everyone. As long as you don't blow your top and say mean things, you have nothing to apologize for (That's why you should be careful to not yell, and choose your words wisely).
I hope I helped, and of you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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3 Words - DITCH THAT BITCH.
She's just using you to hang out & stuff.
She's clearly NOT your friend if she's talking about you behind your back to you and others. What kinda friend does that? Ditch her because you clearly have other friends who are cool. And btw, she's not popular - she's two faced.
&TiNA;
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Obviously, she's not really your friend. She's using you so just stop talking to her nd just stop hanging with her. You have other friends who have a cool towards you so just leave her alone.
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OMG this happend to me! I am always the one to stand up. Well it seems like shes a fare weather friend. Like when she needs a friend she will hang out with you but then when she has the other "popular" "friends" she just trys to fit in. You should tell her how you and your friend feel and tell her that if she isnt gonna be a true firned to you like you are to her then maybe this isnt gonna work. You shouldnt have friends who use you because then there not really friends.
Hope this Helps ♥
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I know its hard, but if you dislike her this much (and you have every right to) you need to ditch her. Stay strong and don't give into her this time. If your friends hate her as much as you do, they will stand by you, maybe even join in you not talking to her and soon you'll be free of her. If you ever start worrying about her hating you, just remember all the people who love you and think your a fab person!
Alternatively, you could just try having a big heart to heart with her and get all your issues out there. Be completely honest and try to work it out.
However, in my opinion, I think it would be a waste of time. Hope this has helped hunni
Sapphire Lily xxx
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she doesn't sound like she has any friends that truly like her. Sorry to sound like your mother, but how would you feel in her position.
She just wants to fit in somewhere. You don't have to be her friend, just don't be mean to her.
Don't confide in her about anything. When she talks about people just tell her that's not cool and change the subject. The more you feed into anything, even by fighting about it, the more she'll do it. She has nothing else to talk about with you guys, so she feels she must do that to fit in. There's really nothing else you can do. =/.
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i know just wat you mean. i think that you should rly talk to her about how you feel because you and your real friends don't deserve this shit from her. i say dump her and try to forget about it.
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You should definitly not hang out with her anymore. She sounds like a whore and she doesn't deserve any friends. Just stop being freinds with her, but don't be mean or she is gonna spread nasty rumors aobut you.
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ok i dono bout you but i don't think this girl is your friend at all there is this girl at my skool she is really nice to you until she finds out one of your secrets so then she blabs them all around the skool just tell your friend that if you don't stop talking about me and my other friends then you won't be my friend anymore but make sure she is talking about you beind your bac
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