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At school I've liked this girl for a while, and some of my friends have found out that she might like me too. I was going to ask her out, but then I found out that she is getting married soon. It's not a lie because, I'm guessing that is what her family believes in. Although she might not be getting married for maybe a couple of years, should I still ask her out? (link)
tottaly if u never ask her out will regret it for the rest of your life wats to loose go for it


my bestfriends parents are mean to her..they dont hit her but they call her names and stuff..she called me crying hard and i know she cant take it! and i need to know how to help her..any ideas??


5S FOR ANYTHING SINCE THIS IS URGENT!! (link)
ok she needs to at least try and talk to her parents mabey her parents will undersatnd if not then ask a friend or close relative if she can live with her for like a week or so mabey they all just need time appart hope i helped


Just few weeks ago I suddenly remembered something important! About three years ago, my best friend since childhood, George, confessed his love to me and I promised him that someday I would tell him how I feel about him. Sadly, I forgot my promise. It's been three years, and he still remembers it!! How could I forget it myself I don't know... But one thing I know that I still like him until now. But since we are not going at the same school again, I have to wait until summer to meet him. What should I do when I meet him?? I feel so ashamed of myself that he still remembers my promise and I forgot it, and I was the one promising it!! >.< Help me!
--I rate no less than 5 (link)
ok when you meet him you should tell him how you feel do somethin romantic when you meet him to do not mension about forgetting your promise it mite screw things up but you should tottally tell him how you feel hope i helped if u wanna you can rite bac and tell me how it went


So, there's this boy..and he's perfect for me. I've had a crush on him for a while now, but I've always been kind of shy about flirting, and letting my intentions be known. And then there's my best friend, who is the complete opposite. She's outgoing, and loud, and cute, and flirty, and has the added advantage of having been friends with him for years. She's not that into him, but he's completely in love with her.
Now, you're probably thinking, 'well, she needs to talk to her best friend, and then she needs to talk to the boy.' That would be wonderful advice, if my best friend and I were still as close as we used to be, but she's going to Catholic school next year for Highschool, and so we've sort of drifted apart.
I really want to be with this guy, but I don't know how to make him see me, and not just my friend, without completely becoming her. Which I refuse to do. Help please?? (link)
ok i know ahat you are feeling i am going to a christian school to but my bff went to a plublic skool i liked this guy alot but he went to the public skool where my friend went he tottaly liked her and he asked her out she said yes of coarse it took me a while to think about this but i found out that if this guy doesn't notice me for me then why do i even like him we are still friends and all but i don't have a crush on him anymore .. i have 2 things for you either let him go or you can find out like when his b-day is or somthin and you can throw like a suprise party for him he would tottaly notice you then hope i helped.


hey, well on may 27th that will be a month for me and my boyfriend. we ALWAYS talk in school. together we are very romantic and flirtasious. but out of school i only talk to him online. we NEVER go out anywhere and weve only talked on the phone once and it was for 15 minutes. this weekend he is grounded so he cant go online. i havent talked to my boyfriend since friday. we didnt have school today where i am because we got this bad storm and everything was flooded. so if today is monday and i havent talked to him since friday that means thats 2 day without speaking to him. the floods are still pretty bad and we might not have school tommorow either. what should i do? p.s the fact that he is grounded isnt stopping us from speaking because even when hes not in toruble we dont speak either. cait♥ (link)
ok you guys need to set aside some time for just the two of you to do somthin or talk after the floods i know its hard to try and keep in touch after skool plan ahead mark your time on the calendar and try and figure out wat u guys want to do hope i helped


This girl who's my best friend recently broke up with her bf. I found out a few days later from another friend that she really likes me(i'm a guy btw). Well, I like her too, but I don't think I like her as much as she likes me. Now, her bf is kinda...how can I say this-madly crazy over her, and when they broke up he started doing some crazy things, like cutting. Well, she decided to get back together with him out of pity, but she admits that she doesn't love him like she used too, and she would much rather be with me. But, I'm really not that into her enough to be in a serious relationship. However, I really don't want to see my friend with her bf 'cause I don't think he's really the best guy for her, so I decided to take a chance and pretend to like her as much as she likes me. This totally complicates things even more, i know, but it was the only thing i could think of to keep her away from him. Now she doesn't know what to do, and I don't know what to do. I know this is just typical high-school drama for most of you, but I(we) really need your feedback on this. (link)
ok yur friend should tottaly not be goin out with that guy if he cutts himself after having someone brake up with him he is not safe. Tell your friend to just try and brake it of with him but have her still be friends so they are still talki and all that. for you you need to tell her the truth tell her you don't want to get involved because you guys are such good friends and you don't want to throw that away for like a few months of dating.if you do go out wit her then just say even if we brake up i still want to be as good as friends as we were before mabey you should go out wit her and give her a chance ??? hope i helped


I'm 90 percent positive that my friend has feelings for me; but just needed someone elses opinion.
I'll let you be the judge. We were friends for about 2 years and then several months ago he had to move away for a job in another state. Before he moved he gave me his computer so we could stay in touch. I never asked for one or anything he just offered it to me which I thought was a really sweet gesture. We messenger each other whenever he's not at work and he always signs off by saying "chow bella" which means bye beautiful in italian. Just in the last two weeks he has done two really romantic things for me. The first was that he sang happy birthday to me on my voice mail for my birthday in a sweet voice and said he'd be mailing up a gift. The other thing was that when I told him that I caught the bridal bouqeut at my cousins wedding last week he said "hopefully you won't marry anyone from (the town I live in). Since he lives out of town I think he was hinting something. When we have our talks on the internet he flirts with me and says things like I'm funny and a great person to know and talk to. Sometimes we talk for more than a hour. He is pretty shy and likes to beat around the bush and hasnt actually said he loves me- but I think his actions show it.
What do you think? (link)
i tottaly thinks he likes you next time you talk to him ask if he has met any new(girlfriend) if not you should tottally ask him out wats to loose hope i helped


Ok well somedays ago i went to this party.....my best friend was there but his g/f wasnt......so he was flirting and doin all that shit with this other girl.....his g/f found out and they broke up.....so we started talkin and she said she was likin me more and more everyday and would consider goin out with me sometime.....well a minute later her "boyfriend" called and siad he wants to get back together with her and he lied to her just so they could get back together.....so she pretty much abandoned me. but she did say "I really do like you maybe as just a friend but you mean a lot to me" I need help!!! (will rate 5's for any) (link)
ok it really wasn't kool to just leave you if she breaks up wit her b/f and she comes bac to you just say that you don't want to get together cause you have to rememeber wat she did to you get some1 else


14/f...okay I really really like one of my better guy friends named Warren. But no one knows it except me. Anyways I he was talking with one of my other friends and he said that he thinks that I like him a little (I tend to make things obvious). I totally freaked out and avoided him for a while so now he doesn't think I *like like* him anymore. It's good for now but I have a feeling that he *might* feel the same way about me. I'm not sure though. Even if he does we both don't want to make a move probably because we don't want the other one acting weird. I have no idea what to do. As far as how to act. Eventually I want him to know that I like him. But I'm not sure about the timing, or even if I should tell him. Should I wait for him to make the first move? What if he doesn't? I'm really confused...PLEASE HELP ME!
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I RATE HIGH!!!^^ (link)
well you know the saying girls go first i have the same problem that you do i like my guy neighbor and i haven't told him well anyway you guys need to talk you will feel so much betta if you tell him if he is not into it then just say that is fine but me i wouldn't want to screw up a really good long friendship for like a few months of dating if you guys break up you will have that past and it will kind bother you but you really really should tell him hope i helped


okay well i met this guy like .. 2 months ago .. well i had been VERY hurt before & to b perfectly honest.. i didnt have much interest in this kid i was mad & wanted to leev my house so i told em to come get me liddle did i kno wat was happening.. well we ended up hittin it off we were perfect for eachother.. weird eh? .. well we ended up kissing & it just all felt right.. well still i was worried of my image at school cuz it was liek a complete random hook up & wat not.. well we ended up gettin together.. & all was GREAT i loved being with him & he always said the right things & wat not well one night to much liquior & sweet talkin led to sex.. i was SO SO SO scared to open up like i HAD A HUGE TALK with him the night before & hes liek u gota trust me babe im different i promise.. & i bought it all well next day.. we broke up i culdnt figure it out he swore he stillw anted to b with me he juss needed to think i culdnt figure out wat i did that was oh so wrong but i dont kno.. well he invited me over that night nothin reallty changed we still kissed & stuff.. school eh okay i guess kinda embaressed but okay i guess well we spent the next month off & on till i got so fed up with i ignored him more & more then one random night he came back & told me he wanted to b together & he was really sorry bout it here we go again all up hill.. he called em everynight & called me baby & there i was fallen again.. & i was so ready to be his.. well i went to his house a few days later.. & he told me he was in love with me i didnt say anything i thought he was jokin but i juss sat there so he walked off then no lie 5 minutes later & he told em he didnt like me at all.. so there i was cryin hurt cunfused & it didnt get much better a few calls & kisses still back to the start,, well then it got good again sorta.. we were supposed to hang out & i was so totally happy all day a HUGE smile ! well then he text me & said dotn ever talk to me again... & supposevly one of my guy friends said i promised i wuldnt talkt o him & now he wont talk to me & he said "i want nothin between us juss friends i cant deal with you" so i spent the entire night cryin i didnt go to school i culdnt face him i cant let go im stuck i have no idea wat im doing so wrong && i love him alot .. i really do it sounds dumb but i do & he was juss in a long relationship & the girl broke his heart so i feel terrible liek i cant amount to her i wana juss show him i love him & i wana b okay.. but i cant.. & i kno he'll coem back but i cant do it again & he leaves at the end of the year .. so im screwed i just wish i never met him.. im sorry this is long but i need someone out there to help me.. & sayin "get ocver it" wont work ive tried so so so hard.. i love him i need something better.. thanx....... (link)
ok you do need somthin betta i really think he mite have been using you but i donno if you want to get over him you first get rid of evrything that reminds you of him then call him tell him that it is over and say it like you mean it then spend a day shopping or pampering yourself you deserve it then talk to your friend you mite want to ask there advice then find a really hot guy and go on a date wit him i promise you you will forget all about the other guy BUT one thing you CAN'T do you cannot compare your other guys that you date to the one you THINK you LOVE wait on the rite guy he will come this happend for a reason it mite just be a good situation in disguise hope i helped


The Boy i like likes me and another girl...and he says he likes me more. And the friends he hangs out with are kinda differant and i realli realli realli like him but i dont no how to get him to ask me out...i need help (link)
well if you now he likes you then ask him out i mean girls go first rite so if he likes you then he wil gefanetly say yes to going out


I am almost 15 years old.My boyfriend is 16 turning 17.I dont get along with either of my parents. Is it normal to want to have a child at this age? I talked to my boyfriend about it he doesnt help to much. He has told me he would do anything i want because he loves me so much. I told him i think i would want to wait till i am 16 at least. At the moment i dont no i feel like i want to take hold of the responsibilty now.Ill Rate High. Please help me extra ideas etc would be help full thank you. (link)
OMG you so do not want to have a kid yet i mean what about highskool or college your man has to support you i hoe he has a job cause after this kid you both will not be able to go to skool inless your parents are goin to support you what i am sayin at least finish highskool cause if you have this kid your whole life will get screwed up get a kid when you are 18 BUT make sre your man has a job cause if he doesn't where is all the $$ goin to come from and you have to send the kid to school THINK ABOUT WAT YOU ARE DOING


Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 months now and I really like him...but the other day we had a really big argument and he broke up with me and we spent 2 hours on the phone and by the end of that we were back together. The day after that he tells me he'll be home early to talk to me and he his but he says he has to run to the store and get something so I wait for him to call back. When he finally calls back he's with his friend (who i hate and is the biggest jerk I've met) and I kinda get upset because I haven't had a good day and I just want to talk to him and his friend starts insulting me and my boyfriend starts laughing at me and then he gives the phone to his friend. They start drinking and they're insulting me to the point I'm crying. I really love my boyfriend and when he's not around his friend he's the nicest guy I know but I dont know what I should do about it.

Please answer! I'll rate you high! (link)
ok first of all you do not want a guy who is mean to you and laughs at you now when he is around his friends he shouldn't act any differently around you so i know it would be hard but first try talking to him then if that doesn't work break up with him
Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot,
who calls you back when you hang up on him,

who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.

Wait for the boy who kisses your forhead,

who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats,

who holds your hand in front of his friends,

who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on.

Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.

Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."


OK so on saturday is a semi at my school (all girls school) so i asked my best guy friend to go with me, he said yes. We both dont like dancing, and like dancing to the fast songs, i dont really care about. But like, slow dancing, i mean all my other friends & their dates r gonna be slow dancing, and i would really want to slow dance. Im not gonna ask him cus that would be too weird. But what do yu think i should do?

and PS- how do yu slow dance? haha like where to yur arms go, how do you move? (link)
well your arms go around his shoulders and then his arms go around your waist you can either rock back and forth or you can make it a comedy moment and go completely oppisite and just start dancin regularly that would be hilarious
hope i helped


my mom and i have a very close relationship. she is my best friend. i thought i could talk to her about anything. she knows almost everything about me. she isn't one of those moms that let me do anything. she is very protective. i get to stay out late but i have to get good grades. so she is the perfect level of protective. i love it. but me and my bf are now sexually intimate. but this is where things get tough, she doesnt knwo we are dating, adn she adn i decided i would tell her when i get active. now my bf wants me to talk to her about it, and to get b/c. what can i do adn say. ill rate high (link)
your mom sounds awsome anyway you do need to talk to your mom say to her wel mom i know we tak alot and you wanted me to tell you when i get sexually intimate well i have and it is with a really kind guy ask your boy if he wants to meat your mom before you talk to your mom so you can add that to your conversation
hope i helped


ok my friend, riley, is really in like with this guy marion. she doesnt really no him very well, and she doesnt evn no if he nos her name, but anyways, she just found out today that he is being moved to third session [our school has a wierd system, but we both have 1st session, basicly this means she would nevr see him]. shes really depressed, and i dont no wat i should tell her 2 do. she really needs advice, plz help, will rate high. (link)
ok i think she should introduce herself to him and then they can get to know eachother if your friend still likes him after that she should ask him if he wants to get together but if she doesn't like him anymore then at least she will have a new friend hope i helped tell me wat you think


Do you think 5ft 4in and 140lbs is large (fat) for a 13 almost 14 year old? Especially one who is a dancer? So many different websites say so many different things I do not know who is right! Plus, my instuctor at my dance studio is stressing how in shape we need to be for the preformance and how we all need to be at slim weights so we will look "fabulous" on stage and in our costumes. So far I am the biggest girl in my 2 classes, whoop de do! (link)
ok you sound fine you sound healthy i mean your in a dance club my advice to you don't stress out about your wieght i mean i am 5ft and 8in and i am 13 i am like the tallest one in my school so but i don't care what people think and you shouldn't either i mean if it really really bothers you than you can run plus running really helps with stress and emotions who cares what other people think i hoped i helped oh and kick a** at your recital you will be the best lookin one there


ok, so there is a guy that i no, (im a girl by the way) and he likes me, and i really like him too. and i gave him a note that said that i liked him and gave it to him and he replied with a note asking me out, and so i gave him another note that said i dont now becuz i mean i really like him a lot, but hes a really GOOD friend of mine and i dont want to ruin it by dating him
nd everyday i like him more and more and we talk on the fone forever and hang at school and stuff and hes so funny and hes way shprter than e, but i dont even care cuz hes so sweet and funny....
and so my question is
what should i do??? (link)
well i know exactly wat your goin thru you don't want to loose a best bud well wat i would do is i would talk to this guy and say if we eva break up promise me we will still be best buds you should go out wit him just make sure that he promises i know the friendship wouldn't be as good as before but hey i mean you took a risk and you neva know hope i helped


OK so I have ben flirting with this guy forever. And it was like we were going out. I loved it more then anything> i just want to have fun this year and that what happened. Untill yesterday when I told him I don't want a b/f right now. I really like him though. Well, we got in this big fight yesterday and now he doesn't like me as much. On friday my friend is getting alot of people to go to the movies to see when a stranger calls and I want to invite him. I know I could get him to like me more. If we go, should I kiss him? Or just lay on his sholder? This will be my first date and I don't know what to do. I don'tknow if I should make out with him or what. Just please help me! (link)
ok first of all i so want to go see that movie second you should totaly invite him but when you guys get there don't makeout wit him its a little to fast and you mite scare him away you could lay on his shoulder or grab his hand when a scary part comes around and a little good nite kiss but that is onlt if everything is going well on your date hope i helped


ok. for v-day i have no idea of what to get my bf. i wrote him a cute lil thingy that tells him the 50 top reasons i love him so much. we have been dating for a really long time. 3 yrs. adn i still dotn knwo what to get him. for x-mas i got him a nice hat and my fav. cologn. but i dont wanna get him the same thing. so along with the 50 reasons i love him, what else should i get him. ill rate high. thanks
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well get him somthin he will treasure forever nothing like food or somthn like that somthin that won't run out just some ideas but yourself in his shoes see i would get my man a teddy bear a heart and mabey even some choclates inside to tell him you u love him and that he is sweet or you can get him a camera for like a side gift and tell him it is for to capture all our memories that we spent wit eachother hope i helped




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