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The guy of my dreams is in love with my best friend...
So, there's this boy..and he's perfect for me. I've had a crush on him for a while now, but I've always been kind of shy about flirting, and letting my intentions be known. And then there's my best friend, who is the complete opposite. She's outgoing, and loud, and cute, and flirty, and has the added advantage of having been friends with him for years. She's not that into him, but he's completely in love with her.
Now, you're probably thinking, 'well, she needs to talk to her best friend, and then she needs to talk to the boy.' That would be wonderful advice, if my best friend and I were still as close as we used to be, but she's going to Catholic school next year for Highschool, and so we've sort of drifted apart.
I really want to be with this guy, but I don't know how to make him see me, and not just my friend, without completely becoming her. Which I refuse to do. Help please??
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ok i know ahat you are feeling i am going to a christian school to but my bff went to a plublic skool i liked this guy alot but he went to the public skool where my friend went he tottaly liked her and he asked her out she said yes of coarse it took me a while to think about this but i found out that if this guy doesn't notice me for me then why do i even like him we are still friends and all but i don't have a crush on him anymore .. i have 2 things for you either let him go or you can find out like when his b-day is or somthin and you can throw like a suprise party for him he would tottaly notice you then hope i helped.
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You can still be outgoing and flirty without becoming your best friend. You aren't just the quiet girl, you have a loud volume too, you just have to learn to use it better.
You should try firing up a good conversation first. Try remembering or thinking of something he's into and talk about it. You might be comfortable with starting a conversation about your best friend, and you can until you feel better about saying anything to him. So when you want to be noticed by him, tell him how much you'll miss your best friend and get a conversation going. I know you might be thinking, 'ok, the last subject I want this conversation to be on is the girl of his dreams' but this is so you can have a conversation that's easy and doesn't have too many ackward moments.
Then when you feel better about talking about other things, you can start talking about your intersts.
What you really should do is talk to him every opportunity you get. If you see him daily, talk to him daily. That way, it will be like a daily routine the both of you have. Before you can truly show someone you're interested in them, you have to be in your comfort zone. You have to feel comfortable around them.
The most important part is to really be the person you are around this guy. If you are cheesy and dorky, don't hide it. Let it come out. Don't be afraid to say what you want or say what you feel on certain topics you both talk about. You'll be really surprised how good you'll feel when you have a guy who truly adores you the way you are.
-TheTeenGirl
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well i think you should tlk to him more. not about how you liek him just baout anything. try to becume closer in friends, adn see wat happens from there. while your becumin friends with him you need to kinda show that you liek him n that you have intrest in him((by flirting)) you might be shy buyt your goin to have to have the gut to do it bc i dont think you want oyur best friend n your crush to go out. aslo you sed you dont want to tlk to your bff about it bc your driftin and all taht but you have to. tell her that you rele liek him n that he lieks her. tell her that it would devistate you to see them go out. if she was your best friend shell understand
hoped that helped
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First off, don't be shy. How is he supposed to know if you're quiet? Second, don't be afraid to flirt. Most guys I know like outgoing girls. But don't be over flirtatious. Give him hints & be mysterious. & for the friend, talk to her. I know you said that wouldn't be the greatest advice but you should grow closer. Take my advice & you never know what could happen;)
x0x-Sarah
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