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I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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Aww honey :(
I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this. Life can be so cruel at times. But in these times we have to be strong.
I really believe that things happen for a reason. At times life has been so unbearably difficult for me too, especially when it came to relationships. But judging from what you said near the beginning about the relationship being boring, maybe he just wasn't the RIGHT guy for you. You probably love him like crazy, but sometimes we fall in love with the wrong person. I'm not saying that you or him are bad people. From what I've read the two of you seem to be really good people, and were able to build a great bond while it lasted. However, sometimes we tend to idealize how the relationship was when we are no longer in that relationship. Right now you believe that this was an amazing relationship but before you thought that it wasn't exciting. I don't think that the lack of excitement is his fault nor is it your fault. This was your first love and you will of course feel really upset about it for a while. But I think that if someone doesn't want to be a part of your life anymore, you just have to let them go. A similar thing happened to me and a few months ago I still used to cry about it but I have finally realized that there is no going back in life, only forward. So please don't do any more harm to yourself. You and I are nearly the same age and we have a long long life ahead of us. I can assure you that one day you will meet a guy that you will never feel bored with and that will fit very perfectly into your life. And the two of you will have a healthy and beautiful relationship together, without all the drama attached. Right now the best thing for you to do is to release all the frustration, sadness, anger, and unanswered questions from your life. Find yourself again. You aren't the same person you were before the relationship, so you have to rediscover what it is you want for your life. You have a beautiful future waiting for you to live it. Please do not waste this opportunity to live a happy life. I feel that I really can relate to you. :) I hope you make a full recovery for you.
PS: Don't listen to all the haters below. They don't matter. Right now the most important thing is your happiness. Take care, okay?
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15/f
I'm usually pretty quiet. I have a small group of "closer" friends, maybe 8 or so. Then I don't really have any other people I would consider "friends". More like "acquantices"[sp?].
In school, I'm really shy and I probably just appear unapproachable because I'm not really social. At home, I LOVE it. My dad is amazing and he's really involved in my life. If I had to choose between him or my friends, it would definitely be him. Well, most of my friends are pretty social. They have a lot of friends and hang out with people every weekend. I'm always invited to stuff, but I always make up excuses not to go... but any time I DO end up going to the mall with my friends, I have fun. However, I'm always a bit reluctant to make plans with people. I just feel better staying at home and watching tv or reading or something then I do hanging out with my friends. I can't really understand why I'm so reluctant to have fun with my friends, but when my dad wants to take me some place, I really want to go. Isn't it usually the other way around with teenagers? You know, they want to spend as much time away from their parents? I don't know, I just feel really antisocial. Like, I don't have as many friends as some other people... I don't want to miss out on the highschool experience because I'm off spending time with dear old dad...but I just have more fun. Sorry, I got a little off track, but how can I become more social? Like make some new friends, hang out with them more and stuff?
Thanks! (link)
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I know how you feel. I'm kind of the same way because I have only a few close friends, but that's okay. I enjoy spending time at home too, and don't always want to go places. There is really no need to compare yourself to everyone else. You live your life the way it makes you the happiest. :) So, it's okay to not want to go out, you want some solo time. However, since you do like being at home maybe you can invite a friend over sometime and watch movies. Sleepovers are fun. Going to the mall is fun too, or bowling! (I did that last week) :)
It is hard to be really social at school sometimes but you don't have to be super talkative. Just make an effort to speak up and talk to kids around you in class. You can ask them what they did last weekend or maybe tell them a funny story or something. I'm sure that you are an interesting person who can carry a conversation. If you open up more people will naturally gravitate towards you and pretty soon you'll find that you are a lot more social. I hope I've helped. No worries, you'll have more friends in no time.
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me and my boyfriend (both 16) have tried having sex quite a few times with a few problems
first it didnt go in because we thought i was too tight
but now it doesnt seem to go in because it like bends?
i asked him if he wasnt hard enough and he just said idk kind of embarrassed so i didn't push the conversation
anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Yeah haha
This happened to me! :X
Well your theory is right. If it bends then it isn't hard enough. If you want it to be harder then you have to arouse him more. So you can kiss him or do other things that would do the trick. Hope I helped!
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how in the world do you dry hump? my friend keeps saying she dry humped the 69 and all that i dont get it. and do men still get erections while dry humping? (link)
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Hey, no worries.
Well in my experience dry humping is just wrapping your legs around the other person's and moving up and down. You keep all your clothes on (or be half naked if you want) and just get on top of the other person or have them on top. The good thing about it is that it is completely safe from unwanted pregnancy and STDs assuming you keep your pants on. I hope that makes sense. If you still need more help then you can ask more specifics, but it's like kissing because once you get into it, it comes natural. And from what I know, my boyfriend did get an erection while dry humping. Actually he gets one just from kissing a lot haha. But every guy is different. They can't control erections, they just happen. Feel free to ask me any questions! Good luck!
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Okay me and my boyfriend had sex about 4 days ago,and im spost 2 be on my period this month.my boyfriend came in me ALOT.and when i say alot i mean ALOT!.if i still get a little period does that mean i could still be pregnet??
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Okay, I understand why you are worried.
But it's only been 4 days so unless you have your period today, then you will not know if you are pregnant or not. You could try taking a pregnancy test in a few days to check that way. I have heard that pregnant women can get a little bit of red blood spotting so if your period seems to be abnormal then you could still be pregnant. Wait for your period and if you don't get it when you are supposed to then you should go check with a doctor. I don't know how young you are or how much having a baby would affect you, but for most people babies are a pretty big deal. I know your already know that it is always best to use a condom or be on a pill to prevent pregnancy but I'm just reminding you that if you don't plan on having kids now, please please always use protection. I hope everything works out for you.
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When did sex become so bad? I get that teenagers shouldn't just sleep around and pregnancy & STDs are a problem. But why do parents go to great lengths to make their teens feel guilty about wanting and/or having sex? If its so natural and if everyone feels the need at some point, shouldn't it be talked about more openly and embraced in a better manner?
I'm 16, thinking about having sex for the first time, but I keep finding notes from my parents saying, "Absolutely no sex. Wait until your married."
I'm not religious, but I'm not a bad person. (All A's, no drinking or drugs) So why do my parents make me feel awful for even thinking about it?
Ugh. Thanks.
I just want opinions and how other people's parents react. (link)
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As a fellow 16 year old girl, I have to completely agree with you. My parents are the same way. My mother was a virgin until she got married. I happen to know, however, that my dad cannot say the same of himself. But they both desperately want me to stay a virgin. I understand why they do it; they've seen many girls my age get pregnant and have heard of STDs so it makes sense that they want their own children to stay away from that.
I, however, do not side with them. I think that sex is a beautiful thing and if done with someone you care about, then it is most definitely not wrong. I remember growing up my whole life thinking that sex was something forbidden and intimidating. It even grossed me out at one point in time because people made it seem like it was something so horrible. But how can it be? IT is perfectly natural. WE were built to desire sex and why should we repress our desires?
In recent months my boyfriend and I have gotten really close in terms of our friendship and mutual trust for one another. I am still a virgin, but we have gotten close to having sex and all I can say is that I know that I am ready for it. I have struggled to separate myself from the guilt of opposing my parents, but have come to the conclusion that I am most definitely not a bad daughter. I am not a bad person, actually I would say that I try my best at everything I do and I respect all people and living things. I am Buddhist and have never heard anything that opposes sex in my religion. And I have all A's and no drugs/alcohol as well. So no matter what anyone says to me, I am completely pro individual thought and decision making. Just strap on a condom and make sure neither party has STDs and you'll be fine. But don't listen to me, listen to your own mind. No one can live your life so it is up to you to choose what will make you happy in life.
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Okay I've been wanting to do more with my boyfriend but I do not want to have sex yet. I want to try dry humping. But the problem is I have no idea how to do it. So what to do? Any advice would be helpful. (link)
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What a coincidence. My boyfriend and I dry humped today. I'm a virgin and he isn't so I guess he knew what he was doing. But anyways, it wasn't really that complicated. You kind of just wrap your legs around the other person's legs and well...hump. Haha. And well it was kind of cute actually. Aww I love that kid :). I hope I helped.
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13/F
Okay so here is the thing, I have had a crush on the same boy for over two YEARS... And well Im kind of thinking that is a little pathetic...
Here is some background info. It was a completely innocent crush for the first yearish part. He is super cute, he didnt know me at all, you know the deal... But then we really got to know eachother. I opened up to him more than I ever thought I could. That was in the summer. We continued to be close throughout the year but we have never been able to act on it. He says he likes me but he can't date until he is 16 (he is 14 now) and what do I do? I mean I really like him but I can't just wait around for ANOTHER two years, nor does he expect me to, but I just can't see myself liking anyone else. Boys will hit on me and ask for my number and stuff but I am just not interested.
My friends agree that this is pathetic, but what am I supposed to do? He likes me, I like him, I can't and frankly I don't want to move on but I know I need to... Ugh, any advice? (link)
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You are not pathetic. Honestly, I've liked guys for a year or more, in fact I was best friends with a boy that I liked for 2 years and he liked me as well. But we were young, like 7th grade, so it never became more than a friendship. You don't have to stop liking a person if you don't want to. Just make sure that you remember your goals in life. If you are getting good grades and being a good person meanwhile accomplishing your goals and living a happy life, then what harm does liking him do to you? But if you like him so much that you can't function properly, then maybe you do need to give yourself some time away from him or near some other guys. But having a crush on someone doesn't have to be harmful. It isn't like you are waiting around for him. You just like him now. Don't worry so much about what will happen someday. Just focus on how you feel now. Everything will be okay. Best of luck!.
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does it mean something when you dream about sex or doing dirty things? i have a boyfriend and i know im not ready for sex im only 16 but i still have those dreams...i want to tell him cause we always share our dreams about each other no matter how crazy they are but i dont know about this...advice? (link)
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Hey, well that's completely normal so no worries. :)
Heck, I'm not ready for sex either, I'm 16 too, but I've had my own share of dreams. It's clearly hormonal. Anyways, if you trust your boyfriend and explain to him that you aren't ready for sex but still had the dreams then I'm sure the two of you could laugh about it. I say that honesty is good so unless it makes you too completely uncomfortable to speak of it, then I say there's no harm in telling him.
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Hi,
I wanted t thank you. I find it great how a teenager like yourself seems to have a good head on their shoulders, and that's exactly how want my 3 daughters to be like when they're in their teens. Sometimes i think that because they are so young (8yrs, 3yrs n 1yrs old) and all girls by he way, that they might hold on to what they consider to be a bad moment or memory in their life. I would hate for them to grow up with any grudges for any reason. I guess my plans to become a reliable advice giver, a good listener and a great supporter is to continue our one on one talks with them. If i feel that i did something wrong I express myself, I'll apologize and allow them to express how they feel and try to show them that i can listen too. It would be great to also talk to u and other teens so that, not only can i place myself in my girls shoes but that i can also understand the difference between teens from now a days. Once again thank you for your advice and i guess your right, by me trying to make things better, at least i own up to my faults and at least i can admit that I'm not always right. And some parents can never admit that to their kids, even if they know they're wrong. So best of luck on your parenting guide, let me know if u need any tips for it. MsPhila (link)
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You're welcome. One to one communication is great and it'll definitely build trust and closeness. Have a great day. And thank you for offering to help; if I need anything I'll be sure to ask. Have a great day. :)
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Hi i am a mother of three, and just like many moms i fear that i might be making so many mistakes. Although my husband tells me that i am a good mother, sometimes i lose my temper or feel like i yell at them too much and im afraid that i may be verbally abusing them. I barley spank or punish my kids, but i feel like i give them attitudes when i should b a little more patient. i dont have many complants regarding my children becuz all and all my kids r really good kids. Im sure most parents make the same mistake from time to time but i dont want my kids to have any reason to become too distance and or feel like they have no trust in me when they become teenagers. How can i calm down and not take my frustration to a level that may hurt my kids emotionally. (link)
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Hey.
Well I can tell you that based on everything you said, you must be a great mother. The fact that you are coming for help says something about how much you care about your children's well-being. Luckily, it's never to late too late to fix communication issues. I myself as a teenager have had some really rocky times with my parents, namely my dad, so I can really understand where you are coming from. And at the time that the misunderstanding was happening, I absolutely despised him. I thought he was too out of date and just didn't understand me. I know that he loves me and all, but sometimes I feel like age gaps between parents and children can create a huge barrier. I don't tell my parents everything that I wish I could because I know they would get freaked out and try to control my every action. And I respect them for caring about me. It's interesting that you asked this question because I was just thinking about how when I am older I want to be the best parent I can possibly be. And what I actually did was start writing a guide to parenting to have when I am older. That way I won't forget what it's like to be a kid. I want to have the type of relationship with my children where they can tell me absolutely anything and I would tell them all about my life and experiences. The best advice I can give you is to try to think back to your own childhood and how it was growing up with your parents. Try to remember how you felt and put yourself in their shoes. Also, just listen to what your children say and try to understand their perspective. The more you listen and the less you yell, the more they will believe that you are understanding and warm and capable of relating to them. I wish you the best. I know you'll do great. :)
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I'm 22 and my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now. I love him very much, but it was a love which took me 2 years to finally accept. We have a lot of mutual friends, but there is one who I've always had an attraction to. I'm very successful in my career, and my boyfriend still has no clue what he'd like to pursue in life. Mind you he's 5 years older than me. Our mutual friend is 8 years older than me, and has 2 children which love me, and I them. He too has a career which he is successful in. We both have this attraction for each other, and always have since the day we met. We never pursued anything, I believe because of my age... Now that i'm seeing someone, he seems to be obviously interested. I still feel attracted to him, probably more so than my boyfriend. What should I do? Do I break up with my boyfriend? I wouldn't start seeing/dating the mutual friend right away. It wouldn't seem right. But I feel like i'm lying or cheating on my boyfriend. (link)
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Hey.
Well it sounds like you already know who you would rather be with. And in life you have to do what your heart is telling you. So if you care about this man and his children, why should age matter? Tons of couples are 8 or more years apart. My parents are about 9 years apart and they've been together for 20 happy years now. Your boyfriend will be alright. So do what is best for you and break up with him because you deserve to be with the person that you love more. The worst thing in the world is to lie to yourself. So don't do it. Good luck! :)
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me and my boyfriend have been together 7months nearly + he sed hes dun stuff with other girls, i dont know if i should believe him or not. he also said hes had sex but hes told his best mate he wants to do things with me too but i dont think if hes had sex it will be the same as if he hadnt and i dont want him to finish with me because i wont have sex with him, also if we did have sex how long do u bleed for? if he fingered me what happens after :S?
help me please! no idea =[ x
fanks (link)
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Hey.
It sounds like you really like your boyfriend, but at the same time there is something wrong with what you just said. If you honestly think that he would break up with you because you don't have sex with him, then you really deserve better. Whatever you choose to do with him should be your decision because you will remember your first time for the rest of your life. Wouldn't you rather remember it being something that you really wanted to do because you were in love with a person? So if you decide that you do want to do this then you should definitely take it slow because otherwise it will hurt. And you might not bleed at all, some girls don't because they have already broken their hymen prior to their first time because of exercise or an injury. And of course use protection. But honestly, only do this if you are ready. This is your life and should therefore be your choice. Take care.
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Hello, me and my girlfriend have been dating for quite a long time and valentines day is coming up its our first and though i already got her her present and card i need some advice on what to write (on the card) we have a very good relationship and i love her lots so i don't wanna screw this up. please help.
Thanks in advance!
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Aww this is sweet.
I am sure that whatever you say to her in the card will put a smile on her face (well assuming it's something nice of course). But anyways, you love her and I'm sure she knows that by now, so you could write that. You could also say that you are so happy to have her in your life and to have her as your valentine. You can't go wrong by saying exactly how you feel. She'll love it.
Happy Valentine's Day.
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14/f
I've been friends with this boy since I was in kindergarten and we were really best friends all the way up to 6th grade. Last year, naturally, we weren't as close but we remained good friends. Now, I understand that because I’m a girl he doesn't feel completely comfortable being "best" friends like in kindergarten due to horny 14 yr old boy issues, but I still believe we can be friends. He's into this blond (the hottest girl in school) and has ditched me to spend time with her. He knows he's not going to date her; he just hangs around her because she's hot. He knows she's a (in his own words) "a dumbass". She's also unpleasant and arrogant. Not to mention slightly narcissistic. So anyway, he’s ditched me. He doesn’t talk to me. He doesn’t even look at me when I say “hi”. He’s made me almost non-existent. I can understand him not wanting to spend time with another girl and ditching her for “the blond” but what about a friend? He barely ever even considered me a girl before anyway. He always thought I was a lesbo, and a total guy. (Ugh, I’m not getting to the point.) So here’s the question. He didn’t ditch his guy friends for the blond but he ditches me. I’m hurt and miss him. Why did he ditch me and not any of his other friends? Is it because I’m a girl? I can’t think of any other reason and I know for a fact it’s not because he’s tired of me as a friend. During our school trip to Monterey, he sat next to me constantly for hours on the bus, on the plane, during meals, ect. We talked, laughed, flirted, ect. For hours! So why does he choose to ditch me? I really don’t understand and feel very hurt by being pushed aside.
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Hey.
Well what he's doing is honestly kind of stupid and unnecessary. I would be hurt too if I were you. But you should also know that you are better than this. I'm sure you have other friends, possibly girls, that you can hang out with. If he wants to keep hanging out with that other girl and with his guy friends, then all the best to him. I know it's not easy to be given the cold shoulder like that, because I myself have been in a similar situation. I tried to keep being that person's friend, but they weren't putting in any effort. So, what I would do is simply let him live his life. He will most likely come to you eventually. So, in the meantime, try not to give it too much thought, because it'll just make you miserable. Try to make the best of this and not let it bring you down. Middle and high school is a time when people are confused and all over the place. A lot of us don't even know what we want. So just give him time to figure it out on his own. Good luck.
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Female.. ok here it is look im 12 and yes thats young to be sayin im in love but tha one i love is 17 my friends think im stuped or somithin but we have been goin out for 1 mounth and 7days and hes told me that he loves me and iv said i love him back and i do but wat i need advice in is i have no idea how to tell my mom to he age does matter how should i tell thanks for lisinin (link)
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Hey, what a coincidence, I have also been dating my boyfriend for a little over a month. I don't think that you are stupid by any means. You may be truly in love with him and him with you, but the age difference does complicate things. I don't want to stereotype people, but all I'm saying is that a 17 year old and a 12 year old probably have very different ideas on what a loving relationship should involve. But I think that as long as the two of you are happy and that you aren't doing anything that could get you to become a teenage mother, then it can still work. If he truly cares about you then he will not pressure you to do anything that you don't want to do. I think that love is when you can be exactly who you are and the other person can be themselves too. Love is just wanting to spend time with a person and get to know them more and more every new day. Unfortunately, I don't think that your mother would understand the situation becuase, like most mothers, she would try to protect you from what could happen. I know about this all too well. My father does not like my boyfriend for a ton of reasons, but mostly because he is just afraid that I will get my feelings hurt or end up pregnant. And as a daughter you have to understand that your parents are only trying to look out for you. So if I were you, I would not tell my mother. I know that you probably want her to know. When I started dating my boyfriend I wanted my parents to know about him and possibly meet him. I thought it would be great. But I've realized that sometimes parents just won't understand the situation. And in my case the guy is 17 and I am 16. So I'd say keep it a secret because otherwise the situation will most likely get out of hand. Anyways, I wish both you and your boyfriend the best of luck. If you need anything else feel free to leave me a message.
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Hello... ( this will be long... sorry ... )
Well... I have been liking this guy for a VERY long time. I told him that I did like him and if he minded it. He said no. I have been talking to him back a forth a while. He was very nice. I asked him maybe if we can go to the v- day dance together (AS friends ONLY) He said he doesn't know... he doesn't like dances and he doesn't dance. lol He's a popular 8th grader...I am a 7th grader...and I am sorta ... popular. Well ... what I REALLY need help with is... I put a v-day note in his locker... with a poem that really explained how I feel for him. I asked him on my space... if he liked it... but he never replied. So... it really hurt my feelings. I gave my heart in that poem . I can't ask him myself if he liked it ...because...I don't see him that much... and I am shy. That's the other issue...I REALLY need to talk to him.. but I don't know how!! So... can someone help me.. anything would help really. :)
Thank you! :) (link)
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Oh yeah, I did that once too. I sent a valentine gram to this guy I liked. Well, he definitely now knows how you feel about him in detail. I think it's a really sweet thing to do and it does take a lot of guts. So you should be proud of yourself for having the courage to put your feelings out there. If you do see him again, you should ask him what he thought. If he for whatever reason doesn't respond well, then I'm sorry, but at least you know you've tried. The way I see it is that when you want something you should go for it and see where it takes you. And no matter if the result is good or bad, you'll never have to wonder "what if" because you did it. So, if it doesn't work out, try not to let it bring you down. Instead you could go to the dance with your friends as a group. That's always lots of fun. :) Good luck.
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Okay well I finally got over my ex,because of this new kid that came to my bus stop. He is totally my type and im totally crushing on him. So i started to flirt and after school i invited him to hang out with me and some of the neighborhood kids at the bus stop. he agreed and then it ended up that they all were going to be late. So it was just me and him. Of course i was excited and he looked pretty happy too. But i was in shorts and a tanktop and he looks at me and says "Dress code again?" and he was flirting so i said "Duh, I would wear this to school if possible" and he stopped and so i stopped to and he looks me up and down and say "Well i don't know why im complaining kuz i like those shorts a lot" and so i smiled and was like "thanks" so we stopped and sat down and we were talking about stuff we liked and didn't like and then my friend best girlfriend came and we were all talking and then my other guyfriend came and i ran towards him to give him a hug and all of the sudden i hear my crush going "Dayum look at her shes so hot" and he said that to my bff and i was like "THANKS" And he started laughing too. So then we were flirting again and joking around and all of the sudden i started talking about my otherguyfriend who has a 6 pack and my crush looks at me with this like flirty look and goes "I have a 6 pack" and im like "no you dont" and he goes "feel it " and im like "okayyy" and i felt his stomach..and he had a 6 pack... so i lifted my hand up.
Then the next day i wrote "i heart (and then my crushes name)" on my hand and when i got off the bus he saw it and was like "(his name) what ?" and i pulled my hand away and was like "Nothing," and then he let it drop but like at the bus stop later on i got rlly embaressed and i was like ignoring him and he saw that so he was like tickling me and stuff and trying to get my attention. But like...idk does he like me ? what should i do to flirt more?
SORRY FOR THE LENGTH.... (link)
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Yes he likes you.
You should try to hang out with him more often and alone if possible.
You should keep flirting because it obviously seems to be working. :)
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When i was in fourth grade i got introduced rock music. My sister still listened to rap. In fifth grade i started to listen to it. Not until sixth grade she started to copy me. She looks at my stuff and does what i do. She is slso dressing like me too. She ahd a guitar and now she starts to use it. Im so tired of it. Now she is even stealing my friends. How can i stop having her copy me? (link)
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When people are growing up, they go through a process of trying to figure out who they are. And during that process most people find some kind of idol or person to look up to. It's really unfortunate a lot of people are called "posers" or "wannabes" or maybe even "fake". After trying a lot of different things, people start to figure out who they really are. And the funny thing about that is that the only way to find yourself is to like what you want to like and act how you want to act regardless of how other people react to that. So, in this case, your sister is probably not sure what she really likes yet and that's why she is borrowing ideas from you. But someday, she will start to express herself in her own unique way and until then you have to be patient. I also don't think you should tell not to copy you, because it will make her feel bad about herself and you don't want that. Anyways, just keep doing your thing and let her do hers and if she is hanging out with your friends, then just try your best to share and be kind to her.
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1. How can you tell if a guy likes you in that way
2. How can you tell if he doesn't (link)
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Well,
If he's nice to you,
he talks to you often,
hugs/touches you often,
always wants to talk to you,
compliments you often,
or
stares at you often, then you probably have an admirer.
Where as if he talks to you but doesn't necessarily pay any extra attention to you, then he might just see you as a friend. Usually if someone likes another person, they just naturally want to spend a bunch of time with that person. It's not like they try to be obvious about their feelings, they just can't help it. So if it seems obvious, then he probably does.
Hope I helped.
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