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Hi i am a mother of three, and just like many moms i fear that i might be making so many mistakes. Although my husband tells me that i am a good mother, sometimes i lose my temper or feel like i yell at them too much and im afraid that i may be verbally abusing them. I barley spank or punish my kids, but i feel like i give them attitudes when i should b a little more patient. i dont have many complants regarding my children becuz all and all my kids r really good kids. Im sure most parents make the same mistake from time to time but i dont want my kids to have any reason to become too distance and or feel like they have no trust in me when they become teenagers. How can i calm down and not take my frustration to a level that may hurt my kids emotionally.
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i do this often w/ my own chold as well. i feel like i yell a little too easily somedays...but what works for me is this....when you feel like your going to start yelling...stop....take a deep breath and cout slowly to 10....then start over.
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Ok. What you need is a teens opinion. It can't be an adults because they dont understand how kids feel at all, because they barely remember their childhood. I think you children just miss you. You should be yourself and give them time to understand that your just trying to be a mother and raise their kid right. Maybe you should give them a word before you yell at them. For all you know you could be mistaken. Just give them a chance first and dont yell at them like normally, because it can cause child trama. You can make it worse with verbal abuse. It can make their teenage lives difficult for them. Just be careful, bacause someday in the adulthood lives they will have kids and do they same things, because they grew up with you. Dont make it something that is passed down by family.
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Hey.
Well I can tell you that based on everything you said, you must be a great mother. The fact that you are coming for help says something about how much you care about your children's well-being. Luckily, it's never to late too late to fix communication issues. I myself as a teenager have had some really rocky times with my parents, namely my dad, so I can really understand where you are coming from. And at the time that the misunderstanding was happening, I absolutely despised him. I thought he was too out of date and just didn't understand me. I know that he loves me and all, but sometimes I feel like age gaps between parents and children can create a huge barrier. I don't tell my parents everything that I wish I could because I know they would get freaked out and try to control my every action. And I respect them for caring about me. It's interesting that you asked this question because I was just thinking about how when I am older I want to be the best parent I can possibly be. And what I actually did was start writing a guide to parenting to have when I am older. That way I won't forget what it's like to be a kid. I want to have the type of relationship with my children where they can tell me absolutely anything and I would tell them all about my life and experiences. The best advice I can give you is to try to think back to your own childhood and how it was growing up with your parents. Try to remember how you felt and put yourself in their shoes. Also, just listen to what your children say and try to understand their perspective. The more you listen and the less you yell, the more they will believe that you are understanding and warm and capable of relating to them. I wish you the best. I know you'll do great. :)
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