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I have a boyfriend, but I'm attracted to someone else.
I'm 22 and my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now. I love him very much, but it was a love which took me 2 years to finally accept. We have a lot of mutual friends, but there is one who I've always had an attraction to. I'm very successful in my career, and my boyfriend still has no clue what he'd like to pursue in life. Mind you he's 5 years older than me. Our mutual friend is 8 years older than me, and has 2 children which love me, and I them. He too has a career which he is successful in. We both have this attraction for each other, and always have since the day we met. We never pursued anything, I believe because of my age... Now that i'm seeing someone, he seems to be obviously interested. I still feel attracted to him, probably more so than my boyfriend. What should I do? Do I break up with my boyfriend? I wouldn't start seeing/dating the mutual friend right away. It wouldn't seem right. But I feel like i'm lying or cheating on my boyfriend.
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If you really do love your boyfriend then breaking up with him shouldn't even cross your mind. Obviously you are feeling this other guy so maybe try and talk to him on the down low. start having more conversations with him and see how it goes. but it seems that you really aren't feeling your boyfriend so maybe it would be less stressful on your part if you just broke up with him. but i think you should work things out with your boyfriend.
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Continuing to stay with your current boyfriend just because your scared of hurting ou or him. is not fair to you or him. It does sound like you want to be with this other guy more and he has two kids that adore you and that you adore. You are both attracted to eachother so why has it taken so long for anything to really happen? 8 years is not that bad. My parents are 8 years apart and just had their 25th anniversary in September. I also know a couple who is 12 years apart and have been married for longer than that. I say, listen to your heart, not your head! :o)
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Hey.
Well it sounds like you already know who you would rather be with. And in life you have to do what your heart is telling you. So if you care about this man and his children, why should age matter? Tons of couples are 8 or more years apart. My parents are about 9 years apart and they've been together for 20 happy years now. Your boyfriend will be alright. So do what is best for you and break up with him because you deserve to be with the person that you love more. The worst thing in the world is to lie to yourself. So don't do it. Good luck! :)
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