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Should I change dorms?
I am currently a first-year at a UC who is living in one of the newest dorms on campus. The facilities are nice, and there are four people to a bathroom/shower. The dorm is close to class, but my current gripe is that it is extremely isolating and anti-social; practically no one comes out of their rooms, the halls are extremely quiet, and no one tries to say hi to each other. My current roommate has isolated herself from the rest of the people in the hall; she has a boyfriend who also goes here, so she hasn't felt the need to go out and meet new people.
I actually moved at the beginning of the school year from a dorm that was 15 minutes off campus (this was because I originally wanted to be on campus) which had an extremely welcoming and social atmosphere. Although I didn't enjoy the long bike ride to class everyday, people there seemed friendlier and much more open; it was easy to strike up a conversation with a random student from another floor.
Needless to say, the change hasn't been as great as I thought; after the move to my current dorm (it happens to be the scholars dorm, which might explain quite a bit), I felt that I changed from being a sunny and outgoing person to an isolated, anti-social, and unhappy student. People at the current dorm stay in their rooms all day and never leave their doors open. The hall is extremely quiet 24/7; one of my friends from my previous dorm commented that it seemed almost "like a mental asylum."
I'd like to know if I should change dorms. I'd either go back to my old one and deal with the 15-minute bike ride or go to one of the other older dorms on campus. I've heard that every single one of the other dorms is extremely social; it's only my current dorm that seems to be unusually quiet and anti-social. The RA of my current dorm is never there, so it's difficult to actually go to him and ask for advice.
Basically, my only reason for staying in my current dorm is because of the nice facilities and close proximity to classes. I'm 100% sure that I would have a much better social experience if I switched dorms. My studies would not be impacted if I switched because I go to the library to study anyway.
I'm worried that I might seem like a flake if I switch dorms again after having switched to this current dorm at the beginning of the school year, but I honestly don't feel that the anti-social and isolating environment here is contributing to my freshman dorm experience in anyway. Frankly, it seems to be detracting greatly from it.
Any advice on this would be appreciated very much.
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Well, If it doesn't hurt your grades, you sound very very unhappy where you are at now. How much time is left? Oh, you have til may, right. It's all how you feel. It doesn't matter what people think, do what makes you happy. Just do it. If you read your letter, you want out, your unhappy, so, do it. As long as it doesn't hurt your grades, money, and you can handle biking...15 min. The only other suggestion is talk to your parents and see what they think. They know you the best, and they would think about everything, they know you the best. Good luck. take care.
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This is tricky because you don't want to appear as if your social life is more important than the academic. I wouldn't request a transfer to a new dorm, but there could be some sort of logical reason to go back to the old one. Maybe you can say you had a really great study partner in that dorm, or whatever. Just try to think up a logical reason that doesn't make you come off as a social butterfly. Tell them you have a job, or volunteer, or some other activity that puts you in the area of your first dorm at night time, and you don't want to have to travel back to your new dorm at night.
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