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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

This guy likes my friend but she doesn't like him and really broke his heart. All I did was comfort him and now he likes me. Serves me right, huh? I think he will really break down if I break his heart too. But I don't want to wait too long or he will think that I like him. Please give some good advice.
P.S. He is a kind of depressed guy. Sometimes even suicidal.

Well, if you know FOR SURE that he likes you, then just wait it out until he says something to you.
by no means am i suggesting that you lead him on, but just keep on being friendly to him. you have to remember that you were there for him when no one else was and he was very vulnerable and probably still IS vulnerable, so be gentle.. especially if hes known as the "depressed suicidal kid."
And if he does say something about liking you, just tell him that he will find a great girl someday because hes a great guy, but that you just see him as a good friend. [usually, in these situations, you just have to feed their e-go]
and yeah, maybe he will be hurt, i mean.. rejection is NEVER fun, but its inevitable. theres just nice ways to go about it.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo :]

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Is it true that when you lose weight, your boobs become smaller?

Yes, it is true.
Your boobs are basically the first part of your body that begins to get smaller, and then your face, stomach, arms.. etc.

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i am 13 years old, i want to get my cartdilage peirced on both ears, my mom will let me. But does she legally have to be with me? Can if i wanted to go to the mall with my friends and get it peirced there, with just them there? Do i need parent consent? Because i know u need parent consent to get your tragus peirced.

Until your 18, anything you want to get pierced you'll need to be with a parent or guardian.

.. same thing goes for tattoos.

good luck ! xxo.

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i know it sounds so stupid, but the littlist things like facebook are different. he used to always comment on pictures of us or comment on my facebook, but now its like he only comments on his friend's stuff. i try so hard just to get him to leave one fricken comment. i know its ridiculous and everything but it just eats me up. i tag him in so many pictures and he never says a thing about them. but as soon as his friends tag him in a picture with them he'll say something. it just makes me feel like i just annoy him and he just cares about his friends. and yes i talked to him about it. nothing came out of it. just the same thing.

honestly, facebook is facebook.
unless hes flirting with girls and stuff on there, you have nothing to worry about.
look at it this way: he probably doesnt want to comment on your pictures because he doesnt want the entire world to be all like, "eww you guys are so lovey dovey" and stuff like that. a lot of boys dont really care so much about the whole commenting thing. I mean, he's already tagged in the pictures, and everyone can see them, so im pretty sure he thinks that his feelings for you show, WITHOUT him constantly writing comments on them.
and the fact that he comments on his friends stuff and not yours is just what guys do. as you guys get more serious, it gets past the stage where the guy tries to be all cute and comment on your stuff..
seriously, dont worry about it. its only facebook.. it doesnt mean he doesnt care about you when he doesnt comment on some of your stuff and youre not annoying him, but trying to get him to comment on your pictures and stuff WILL annoy him.
just let it be, and let him do what he wants. as long as hes faithful to you and shows that he cares about you in person, everythings fine. good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

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okay i love my girlfriend and im 14 and shes 12(bout to be 13) and we get all lovey dovey n all that but she took a pic of me while i was sleeping and when she was tlking to one of our friends and my friend made a joke bout raping me in my sleep (dont ask) and she said no she probably just watch me....is there anything bad that can come from this? or any side effects or something

.. side effects ? no. dont worry. youre fine.

what shes doing is normal since shes almost 13 years old. shes pretty young and im sure she doesnt know how to be "in a relationship"
to be honest, she probably thought you looked cute when you were sleeping, and thats probably why she took a picture of you.

also, the whole "raping" you in your sleep thing is just a joke.. she probably didnt know how to answer.. and just said shed watch you. in all seriousness, you have nothing to worry about. shes your girlfriend.. yeah, your very young girlfriend, but its all fine.

good luck, hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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Thank you so much; your advice is amazing. When riley first had mixed emotions; I didn't over-react. I was calm, and I let him speak how he feels. Communication has always been the number one thing to me in a relationship. I know exactly what he's going through because my ex before riley, I had mixed emotions with because I was still hung over my other ex from 5 years ago; (jus cuz he promised me when I turned 18 he would ask me back out; and I turned 18 in November) So the closer it got to my birthday, the stronger my mixed emotions where for my ex. So I know exactly what he's going through. He keeps saying his mixed emotions aren't becaue of Marissa. And he says he loved Marissa, but he wasn't in love with her. I told him I wanted to take things slow, just so when we get back together, his mixed emotions will be gone, adn won't come back, and it'll help us have the strong relatioship we BOTH want. And Im hoping during this process, it'll make him realize that he doesn't wnat to be without me, and his mixed emotions won't have a chance to compete with his love for me. Riley isn't the type to want to communicate about how he feels, because Marissa never cared enough to listen to him; but Im always tryin to get him to open up to me, and talk to me about whats on his mind, even if he thinks its something little, or it wont matter. I've told him anything he thinks about, or any negative or positive feelings he feels, MATTER to me, regardless.


I just want to be safe than sorry. Heartbreak sucks, alot. I want to get into our relationship with him this time with NO mixed emotions on his end; Im just not too sure how to make them go away, or what to tell him to help him make them go away. I already do/have done everything you said for me to do, because that just wht type of girlfriend I am; I just wish there was something more..?

First of all, thank you, that means a lot to me :] im glad my advice helps you.
i know EXACTLY what you mean. and yeah, heartbreak hurts A LOT. i dont remember if i told you this or not, but me and my ex were on and off for 4 years until it finally ended and he refuses to speak to me for reasons i dont know why. I didn't have any closure and now im in a relationship with this really great guy, we've been going out for almost 2 months now and i have mixed emotions from time to time, but he really helps.
what i suggest you do is be as cute to riley as possible. try not to do anything that would remind him of marissa. and i know it sounds really corny but make him a mixed CD if songs that remind you of him and all of that. surprise him with it.. and just be like.. i thought you might like this :] .. it seems really REALLY corny, i know, but it will make him smile.. even if he seems like not the type of guy who would like that.. but everytime he listens to it, he'll know you care about him and those songs will always remind him of you.
You could also just hang out as more of like a "friend" relationship with him and do fun stuff.. like, cook something together. maybe cookies, an actual meal, girlled cheese.. just something where you can enjoy eachothers company without the hassle of "i wonder if he likes me." yuh know what i mean ?
all you have to do is start out simple.. be around eachother and get more comfortable with one another.
its all you can really do, even simply watching a movie together at one of your houses is a good start, but youve got to start somewhere.

good luck ! and youre dong good. just keep trying to trust him and vice versa. i hope everything works out for you and if you need anything else, im here :] xxo.

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Should I get in I fight over a girl (love) cause I really like her she likes me and him she will date who ever wins the fight but I dont know how 2 fight I know the blocks how 2 punch etc I just can't hit hard enough

So should i fight?


And how 2 increase punching power I know how to block this fight may be tomorrow so????

No, you should not get into a physical fight for this girl.. its not worth it and it wont be worth it in the end. if she really cared about either one of you, she wouldnt demand that you both fight eachother, with the potential of getting very injured, just so she can be with the person who wins.. thats ridiculous.
honestly, think about this ... if you lose, youre going to wish you had not fought over her. there are plenty of other girls in the world who will like you and ONLY you and not tell you to get hurt [physcially] for her.
so, again, no. you should NOT fight.

good luck, xxo.

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18/f

I have had my fair share of kissing guys but I'm really worried when I made out with this one guy I did something wrong. I haven't made out in awhile and I was really intimidated by him, and when we were kissing in the car I rubbed up and down his chest/stomach. I wrapped arms for a little and also grabbed/squeezed/rubbed his hips and pulled on his shirt where his hips were. He kissed my neck and put his arms around my neck, but I never kissed or touched his neck at all. Basically, I am scared he thinks I am a bad kisser or is annoyed that I didn't kiss or touch his neck at all. Is rubbing his stomach/chest and where I put my hands on his hips turn off? Is it a deal breaker where I put my hands and because I never kissed his neck/wrapped my arms around his neck?

No, dont think that ! guys enjoy when you do what you did to him [like where you placed your hands and stuff]
guys arent expecting you to just kissing and touching their necks all of the time.. switching it up isnt a bad thing.
and no, its not a deal breaker at all. its what you felt comfortable with doing and if he didnt say anything, it didnt even cross his mind. so dont worry about it, its totally fine.

good luck ! have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]

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Saturday night/ Sunday morning; I recieved a message from him on facebook. He likes to write to express how he feels, so he wrote me this little poem thing, saying how much he loves me and misses me and how he knows he made a mistake.
I took your advice, and talked to him later on Sunday night. We talked in person. The whole time he was with me, he felt bad. I took advantage of it. We sat in his room, and I told him how bad he hurt me, and I got very detailed with it. He started to cry. He said his intentions were to never hurt me, and all he wants is to be in a realtioship with me, and just be happy. He doesn't understand why he kept having mixed emotions, but they would only last a day, and than go away after he went to sleep.

****His ex Marissa, he was with for a year and 6 months. The broke up several times, becuase she iddn't wnat him anymore; she wanted matieral things, and riley isn't very lucky with money,(they are poor) and she left him three times; The third time, he decided it was time to move on and he knows it will not work between them. So 3 months later; me and him started talking again, and started dating in November. She went those three months with out talking to him, plus a month after me and him was together; and than she randomly called and said she's been thinkin about him lately, and wanted to talk. He let her come over; and they talked. I was hurt, we agrued about it; he apologized, and told her it was best if they never spoke again; ever since then, he's had mixed emotions. ****

Since we have been broken up; he called her Saturday morning, and found out she had a new boyfriend; he was pissed, but yeah.

I want to take him back. I can tell how sorry he is. But I want him to realize what he has in front of him; I want his mixed emotions to be completely gone before we try "us" again. I want to make him realize what he's done (even though he already says he has) I just want him to prove it. I told him I wanted to take it slow, and he said he was going to fight for me, and chase me because he wants more than anything to be with me again.


So whats the best way for me to do this? To make him realize what he has, and to make him NEVER want to leave me again? How do I make sure his mixed emotions are gone, as well?

the thing is.. you dont trust him.
and the only way you can have a good, healthy, relationship with Riley is to trust him. and you also have to realize that you can't MAKE him stay, if he ever wants to leave, hes going to.
and yeah, that SUCKS, but its life. you have to go into this again with an open mind, knowing that he was in a very long term relationship that ended badly.. for him. that takes some time to getover, and if you want him to realize what he has right in front of him.. then you need to be there for him and you have to understand what hes going through right now. if you cant do that, then hes not going to be as close to you as you want him to be.
you know hes sorry. you know he wants to be with you, but you also have to know that he obviously loved marissa.. and hes not just going to forget about her, but he WILL get over her.. with time and your help.
all you can do right now is talk to him about how you feel. you need to tell him that you're willing to take this slow because of what hes been through and what he STILL is going through. like, make sure that he knows youre not only going slow to ease your mind, but for him also. be as caring and as understanding as you possibly can. marissa doesnt want riley anymore, so dont think about her.. think about riley and put yourself in his shoes, wouldnt you want someone to care about you and show you how real love should be ? .. soon enough, his mixed emotions will be gone and he'll know that you are the right girl for him.. no second thoughts.
also, if you REALLY want to make him want you, id suggest talking to other guys. and i dont mean flirting, i just mean like.. talking, and making sure he knows that there are OTHER guys in your life and that hes not the only fish in the sea.
but always remember: COMMUNICATION IS KEY.

alright, good luck ! hope i helped, and im always here :] xxo.

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I always feel negative about people. I think im being selfish and crab mental. Im pretty much aware of what im thinking and it bothers me alot when its already not good. like, I dont like when someone has a higher grade than me. i dont like someone being praised. i always want everything to be me, the beautuful, the smart! what a i gonna do?

You just have to remember that there will always be someone in life thats going to be your competition or someone who can do something better than you.. its just life.
if you spend every waking moment you have on trying to accomplish the impossible [and when i say impossible, i mean being perfect] then you are going to be unhappy.
Just focus on being the best person you can be, without thinking about the negatives or what you can improve on.

good luck ! hope i helped, xxo :]

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How can I make my teeth whiter? Without whitening strips? Is there a paste I can make or something?

http://www.ehow.com/how_2054497_make-homemade-tooth-whitener.html

... that website shows 3 different easy homemade pastes that you can use to make your teeth whiter. at the very bottom it tells about tips and warnings, so I'm going to have to disagree with the previous advice you were given.. dont use the lemon juice because it doesnt make your teeth healthy at all.

hope i helped ! good luck, youll have whiter and brighter teeth in no time. xxo :]

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Is love worth fighting for. Its just things are really tense right now and I'm not sure if I should go through all the stress for this or if I should just give it time and let things settle down. Opinions???

I fought on and off for a little over 4 years for my last ex. [fought for love.. not like, actual fighting, even though that did happen too]
but the thing was, sometimes he fought too, but for the majority of the time, i did.. for the both of us.
and things were really tense with us and i honestly wish i didnt fight for love with him. you shouldnt HAVE to fight for it.. the person who truly loves you or who you truly love wont put up a fight or make it harder for you both to fall in love.
My oppinion is if you have any doubts, dont fight. dont go through all the stess. and just move on. in the end, its just easier that way.
but if you feel like you want to go through it, and you want to stick around, then just follow your heart and go with your gut instincts.
in the relationship im in now, i would probably give it time and let things settle down .. because after the last relatinship i was in, going through all that stress was not worth it.

good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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do the i 'heart' boobies bracelets shrink with water. me and my friend promised each other to never take them of but i need to know how to care for it. will it slowly shrink in the shower or something?

Nope, they dont shrink.
the only thing that MIGHT happen overtime is that the letters could fade or start to chip off [the ink part]
but other than that, youre fine to wear it all the time.

hope i helped ! xxo.

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I am always afraid of what others would think of me.
I am restrained in doing things i want just because i might disappoint others and would break their expectation with me. what am i going to do?

You just have to think of you..
i know, i know, youre probably thinking, "easy for you to say." but its not. everyone goes through this, its human nature.. even if people dont admit it, everyone wants to please someone else, not themselves.
my boyfriend is actually sorta going through this right now. and you really have to just get your priorities straight. you have to think about what you want out of life. do you want to be that person who changes all of the time depending on who youre around ? do you want to waste all of your energy on trying to be what you think people want you to be ?
look at it this way: youre not being fair to you or anyone else when you restain yourself in doing things because you dont want to maybe dissapoint anyone with your actions.. its kind of like one big web of lies.. and at some point, that web is going to either get so big that you dont even know who you are, or its going to fall apart.
my advice is to just take some time alone right now, and get to know who you are. you need to know that yeah, people will judge you no matter what you do, so why not just be you ? and the people who want to stick around are awesome, and those who dont werent good for you in the first place.
this is all up to you. do you want to keep living the way you are ? .. its not going to change in a matter of days, its going to take time, but you can do it.
good luck, hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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I just gave my friend a bj (I'm a girl) it lasted about 5 minutes when I had to stop... he told me that I was good but I didn't believe him. ...he didn't *** but I told him I was sorry...we are both virgins and it was my first time so I as very nervous, he kept holding onto my hair and pushing my head down, it felt good so I didn't gag,so after I finishd we hugged and he left, WE DIDN'T EVEN KISS, AND WE AREN'T DATING!!!! was it a mistake (I'm 13)

honey, you are 13.
yes, it was a mistake.
but you dont have to make that mistake again.
you should be having fun with your friends and not giving bj's to boys. you are so young. this is stuff much, MUCH older people do, because they are prepared to and they know the consequences/risks. you could easily get an STD [sexually transmitted disease] or you could get a reputation or you could get used for this kind of stuff, and i know you dont want that for yourself.
everyone makes mistakes, so dont beat yourself up about it. you live and you learn. but 13 .. youre so young. youre too young for what you did.
my advice would be to cut ties with this boy.. and not talk to him. just be around people who wont want you to do sexual things to them.

good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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Everyone tells me to talk to Riley; But its like I have so much to say, I wouldn't know where to begin. i don't know if I should do it in person, or over the phone. I dont know what I should even say to him. I know he wouldn't ignore me. He would talk to me, but its just the fact that I feel like its going to make it worse. I feel as if there is so much left inside of me that I didn't let out to him. Like I need my closure. I still feel like we aren't even broken up. Like we are on break, and Im waiting for him to call me and tell me he's done with the break,and he wants me back. Even though thats not even possible. My heart isn't letting me believe we are done, and I don't know how to tell it we are.

look at it this way, at least you know he'll talk to you. my ex wouldn't, so i never got closure, and i had to find it by myself.
but you're lucky. and i think this is something that needs to be said in person because then your emotins can come out, sometimes you can't really tell whats going on over the phone.. and in person you can see his facial expressions and he can see yours; trust me, its just better that way. maybe ask him if he'll meet you at a park, and then sit in a car or some place where people wont be watching you.. and just talk.
now, the talking part, well.. you start at the beginning. you just start with how you feel. just ask him questions that you have.. like if you dont understand why this happened, ask him why he lost feeling for you.. dont yell, dont blame anyone or yourself.. just talk, civily. if you're calm, he'll be more open to willingly talk.
you need to let out whatever is inside of you and if you start to cry when you talk to him, then so-be-it. he did this to you. he needs to see what he has done and he needs to fix it and he NEEDS to give you closure, because you deserve it. you could always start of the conversation with him with just a simple, "i want to talk to you about us breaking up, because i dont feel like we are.. i need some kind of reason as to why you dont want to be with me anymore; i really need the closure so i can move on."
... its a simple as that, and then just let him talk. i know, it seems so scary and intimidating, and in the back of your mind you probably think that this could be the day you both get back together, but dont think that. you dont want to hurt yourself more than youre already hurting, so go in with an open mind and just hear him out, because he'll hear you out.

good luck ! im here if you ever need someone to talk to or some advice :] dont be afraid ! you got this. xxo.

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Ok sp this nerd at my school likes me his friend told me and hes in every class of mine, and he stares at me all the time! he is wierd I don't mean to sound me but fat and red cheeks little wierd round glasses and he crossed his legs in his chair like a girl also he crys all the time! well he just gets on my nerves staring litteraly all the time and I can't help it I know its mean but I always look at him and roll my eyes then tell my friends that he likes me and stuff and I am always huffing and rolling my eyes at him what do I do he is such a wierdo!!:( I hate saying that but I can't help it! a lot of times to he smiles at me when I am not looking and my friends tell me when he does! but gosh he is so annoyingggg please help! Thanks! :D

i know it's probably frustrating, but just ignore him. if you don't talk to him or acknowledge him, he'll eventually go away and stop.
and if THAT approach doesnt work, tell his friend to tell him that you dont like him and that you want to be left alone.. or you could just go up to the "nerd" yourself and tell him how you feel.
either way, just try to not to give him any of your attention.

good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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I was with my ex for two months tomorrow; and he broke up with me yesterday; he doesn't have a valid reason. All he says is he doesn't feel as strong for me, as I do for him, adn he doesn't think it will work out.

We are always happy around each other; he said when things are great, they are really great; but when there bad, they are really bad. We've had two major fights, about his ex Marissa, and thats cause he did stuff he shouldn't have.

It just hurts so bad; I try hangin with friends to get my mind off of it, but it doesn't work. Last night, I couldn't let my mom leave me, I didn't want ot be alone, so i slept with her; it just seems like its getting worse and worse. All I do is cry.

btw, 18 femalee.

I know this is so cliche, but .. with time, you'll feel better.
and i know, because ive been there.
you just have to keep yourself busy. heres some things i did to help me:

- i wrote. i would write poems, journals .. anything about how i was feeling or just inspiration. i turned my pain into words and i got it out of my system.
- i cried. yeah, i cried like a baby and it actually helped after a while because i realized i didnt want to waste any more of my tears on him anymore. crying was so tiring that eventually, i just stopped.
- i listened to pump up music. my favorite: enrique iglesias [baby i like it] hahaa, yeah. that got me through a lot. and jason derulo [riding solo]. you dont want to listen to taylor swift and all of those sappy love songs because it makes you feel worse.. and alone.
- i vented. everyday i talked to my friends and just told them how i felt, and they just listened or gave me advice, but it felt good to have people who cared about me trying to help me.
- i tried talking to my ex.. but he ignored me, for who knows what reason. but sometimes, you need thast rejection or even the satisfactation of knowing that you did everything you could to get the person you had strong feeling for talk to you. maybe even ask him if he'll hear you out.
- watch movies. no, not anything about love or chick flicks, but hilarious comedies.
- eat. you know chocolate has chemicals in it that make you happier ? haha, seriously. its true. grab some chocloate and eat up. or even eat your favorite foods, comfort foods, anything like that to make you feel better. [induge in some ice cream ?] ;]
- get rid of anything he gave you or pictures of you guys together. you dont have to rip them up or anything like that, but put them away in a box somewhere you wont see it everyday.

youll be okay. time heals all wounds. im being honest :] good luck ! it'll all be okay, just keep your head up and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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How can I make a black eye go away faster?

ouch :/ okay well, theres a few things you can do:

1. ice pack
2. raw piece of meat
3. ice pack/warm compress [keep switching back and fort every day or so]
4. keep your head propped up while you sleep and dont sleep on the side where your black eye is.
5. gently massage the tissue in circles where your black eye has formed.
6. put a wet herbal tea pack on your eye.
7. Drink a lot of orange juice or just get a lot of vitamin C into your system.
8. Aspirin.

well, i hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! good luck. :] xxo.

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what to do

go enjoy life.

xxo.

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