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rileyy;
Thank you so much; your advice is amazing. When riley first had mixed emotions; I didn't over-react. I was calm, and I let him speak how he feels. Communication has always been the number one thing to me in a relationship. I know exactly what he's going through because my ex before riley, I had mixed emotions with because I was still hung over my other ex from 5 years ago; (jus cuz he promised me when I turned 18 he would ask me back out; and I turned 18 in November) So the closer it got to my birthday, the stronger my mixed emotions where for my ex. So I know exactly what he's going through. He keeps saying his mixed emotions aren't becaue of Marissa. And he says he loved Marissa, but he wasn't in love with her. I told him I wanted to take things slow, just so when we get back together, his mixed emotions will be gone, adn won't come back, and it'll help us have the strong relatioship we BOTH want. And Im hoping during this process, it'll make him realize that he doesn't wnat to be without me, and his mixed emotions won't have a chance to compete with his love for me. Riley isn't the type to want to communicate about how he feels, because Marissa never cared enough to listen to him; but Im always tryin to get him to open up to me, and talk to me about whats on his mind, even if he thinks its something little, or it wont matter. I've told him anything he thinks about, or any negative or positive feelings he feels, MATTER to me, regardless.
I just want to be safe than sorry. Heartbreak sucks, alot. I want to get into our relationship with him this time with NO mixed emotions on his end; Im just not too sure how to make them go away, or what to tell him to help him make them go away. I already do/have done everything you said for me to do, because that just wht type of girlfriend I am; I just wish there was something more..?
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First of all, thank you, that means a lot to me :] im glad my advice helps you.
i know EXACTLY what you mean. and yeah, heartbreak hurts A LOT. i dont remember if i told you this or not, but me and my ex were on and off for 4 years until it finally ended and he refuses to speak to me for reasons i dont know why. I didn't have any closure and now im in a relationship with this really great guy, we've been going out for almost 2 months now and i have mixed emotions from time to time, but he really helps.
what i suggest you do is be as cute to riley as possible. try not to do anything that would remind him of marissa. and i know it sounds really corny but make him a mixed CD if songs that remind you of him and all of that. surprise him with it.. and just be like.. i thought you might like this :] .. it seems really REALLY corny, i know, but it will make him smile.. even if he seems like not the type of guy who would like that.. but everytime he listens to it, he'll know you care about him and those songs will always remind him of you.
You could also just hang out as more of like a "friend" relationship with him and do fun stuff.. like, cook something together. maybe cookies, an actual meal, girlled cheese.. just something where you can enjoy eachothers company without the hassle of "i wonder if he likes me." yuh know what i mean ?
all you have to do is start out simple.. be around eachother and get more comfortable with one another.
its all you can really do, even simply watching a movie together at one of your houses is a good start, but youve got to start somewhere.
good luck ! and youre dong good. just keep trying to trust him and vice versa. i hope everything works out for you and if you need anything else, im here :] xxo.
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