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Heartbreak with Riley; more information*
Saturday night/ Sunday morning; I recieved a message from him on facebook. He likes to write to express how he feels, so he wrote me this little poem thing, saying how much he loves me and misses me and how he knows he made a mistake.
I took your advice, and talked to him later on Sunday night. We talked in person. The whole time he was with me, he felt bad. I took advantage of it. We sat in his room, and I told him how bad he hurt me, and I got very detailed with it. He started to cry. He said his intentions were to never hurt me, and all he wants is to be in a realtioship with me, and just be happy. He doesn't understand why he kept having mixed emotions, but they would only last a day, and than go away after he went to sleep.
****His ex Marissa, he was with for a year and 6 months. The broke up several times, becuase she iddn't wnat him anymore; she wanted matieral things, and riley isn't very lucky with money,(they are poor) and she left him three times; The third time, he decided it was time to move on and he knows it will not work between them. So 3 months later; me and him started talking again, and started dating in November. She went those three months with out talking to him, plus a month after me and him was together; and than she randomly called and said she's been thinkin about him lately, and wanted to talk. He let her come over; and they talked. I was hurt, we agrued about it; he apologized, and told her it was best if they never spoke again; ever since then, he's had mixed emotions. ****
Since we have been broken up; he called her Saturday morning, and found out she had a new boyfriend; he was pissed, but yeah.
I want to take him back. I can tell how sorry he is. But I want him to realize what he has in front of him; I want his mixed emotions to be completely gone before we try "us" again. I want to make him realize what he's done (even though he already says he has) I just want him to prove it. I told him I wanted to take it slow, and he said he was going to fight for me, and chase me because he wants more than anything to be with me again.
So whats the best way for me to do this? To make him realize what he has, and to make him NEVER want to leave me again? How do I make sure his mixed emotions are gone, as well?
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the thing is.. you dont trust him.
and the only way you can have a good, healthy, relationship with Riley is to trust him. and you also have to realize that you can't MAKE him stay, if he ever wants to leave, hes going to.
and yeah, that SUCKS, but its life. you have to go into this again with an open mind, knowing that he was in a very long term relationship that ended badly.. for him. that takes some time to getover, and if you want him to realize what he has right in front of him.. then you need to be there for him and you have to understand what hes going through right now. if you cant do that, then hes not going to be as close to you as you want him to be.
you know hes sorry. you know he wants to be with you, but you also have to know that he obviously loved marissa.. and hes not just going to forget about her, but he WILL get over her.. with time and your help.
all you can do right now is talk to him about how you feel. you need to tell him that you're willing to take this slow because of what hes been through and what he STILL is going through. like, make sure that he knows youre not only going slow to ease your mind, but for him also. be as caring and as understanding as you possibly can. marissa doesnt want riley anymore, so dont think about her.. think about riley and put yourself in his shoes, wouldnt you want someone to care about you and show you how real love should be ? .. soon enough, his mixed emotions will be gone and he'll know that you are the right girl for him.. no second thoughts.
also, if you REALLY want to make him want you, id suggest talking to other guys. and i dont mean flirting, i just mean like.. talking, and making sure he knows that there are OTHER guys in your life and that hes not the only fish in the sea.
but always remember: COMMUNICATION IS KEY.
alright, good luck ! hope i helped, and im always here :] xxo.
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