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heartbreak? advice to get over?
I was with my ex for two months tomorrow; and he broke up with me yesterday; he doesn't have a valid reason. All he says is he doesn't feel as strong for me, as I do for him, adn he doesn't think it will work out.
We are always happy around each other; he said when things are great, they are really great; but when there bad, they are really bad. We've had two major fights, about his ex Marissa, and thats cause he did stuff he shouldn't have.
It just hurts so bad; I try hangin with friends to get my mind off of it, but it doesn't work. Last night, I couldn't let my mom leave me, I didn't want ot be alone, so i slept with her; it just seems like its getting worse and worse. All I do is cry.
btw, 18 femalee.
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I'm really sorry and I feel your pain. But you guys just broke up yesterday your pain is going to feel the strongest now. You can't fight it because it's really powerful. You just lost someone you love. It's really tough to get over someone. I've been there and I'm sure many girls in the world have been where you are at. You need to cry for at least 3 days. You can't be over him in one day or even tomorrow. They say however many months you went out with someone it takes half of the months to get over someone. So if you went out for 6 months it should take 3 months to get over them. Your gonna cry for awhile and thats normal. Try getting out of the state to feel better. Maybe the normal things at home or the places you've been to make you feel sad and remind you of him. Going somewhere very different will give you new feelings. Maybe you'll meet someone new. But I suggest trying new things and forgetting about your misery but not as fast as possible. Because you need to miss him when you do. You need to accept that your missing him in your life. Then when you do you can act on it and try to let go of him. But remember all of this won't be done the next week or 2 it takes time. AND if you really loved him it's gonna take a long time to get over him and it will be much harder for you too. Don't give up though. Be with friends, family, guys, go to parties. Think of it as a celebration. Don't talk to him it will only hurt you more and make your pain come back. I have so much more to tell you about break ups. But the real thing you want to get out of this is what did you learn from this guy? Was there something that you won't forget about him or that has made you learn something in life? I'm sure there is. Hope you feel better girl and just remember no one's ever alone :)
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I know this is so cliche, but .. with time, you'll feel better.
and i know, because ive been there.
you just have to keep yourself busy. heres some things i did to help me:
- i wrote. i would write poems, journals .. anything about how i was feeling or just inspiration. i turned my pain into words and i got it out of my system.
- i cried. yeah, i cried like a baby and it actually helped after a while because i realized i didnt want to waste any more of my tears on him anymore. crying was so tiring that eventually, i just stopped.
- i listened to pump up music. my favorite: enrique iglesias [baby i like it] hahaa, yeah. that got me through a lot. and jason derulo [riding solo]. you dont want to listen to taylor swift and all of those sappy love songs because it makes you feel worse.. and alone.
- i vented. everyday i talked to my friends and just told them how i felt, and they just listened or gave me advice, but it felt good to have people who cared about me trying to help me.
- i tried talking to my ex.. but he ignored me, for who knows what reason. but sometimes, you need thast rejection or even the satisfactation of knowing that you did everything you could to get the person you had strong feeling for talk to you. maybe even ask him if he'll hear you out.
- watch movies. no, not anything about love or chick flicks, but hilarious comedies.
- eat. you know chocolate has chemicals in it that make you happier ? haha, seriously. its true. grab some chocloate and eat up. or even eat your favorite foods, comfort foods, anything like that to make you feel better. [induge in some ice cream ?] ;]
- get rid of anything he gave you or pictures of you guys together. you dont have to rip them up or anything like that, but put them away in a box somewhere you wont see it everyday.
youll be okay. time heals all wounds. im being honest :] good luck ! it'll all be okay, just keep your head up and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
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