HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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difference between jealousy and envy? (link)
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envy is to admire yet have grudges for what a person has(can be an object or a trait) while jealousy is a feeling fealt when someone gets something that you want(Especially love or attention)theyre kinda the same in some way.
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Hi! I'm Kristina a.k.a Munchie! So yea I'm 14/f and I'm like 5'2 or 5'1! Idk really anyways that doesnt really matter. I would love to know how to make yourself happier. I dont know if its just the way you think or what. But I think it's a lil bit of both. Like your life plays a role on how you act. So how do I change my life so that I think happy and act happy as well? (link)
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Well there are many ways how to make yourself a happier person.First thing is you have to have confidence in yourself and your looks,you should have a nice circel of freinds that love you and you love them.You should love your family.Sometimes changing your look helps make a change in your life.Most of all you should understand that theres nothing in the world that worth you being sad about,and you should look at what youve got and see how many people dont have it,if there are things you need that you dont have,greiving over it wont make you have it.So might as well be happy for what youve got^_^
p.s. thanks for the advice bout shyness lool haha^_^
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Okay my friend is 16 years old and her boyfriend is like 21, I think. Anyways her boyfriend is really mean to her and he's so controlling. He even tells her what time she can go to parties and what time she has to be back. He beats her and alot of othere stuff. I dont know how I can help her because she's trapped in this relationship. How can I help her? (link)
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well as a freind,the only thing you can do is offer her advice.Tell her that she desserves better and that this guy is obviously using her and doesnt love her because if he did he wouldnt even think of hitting her.He just wants to act all manly by hitting her but what the hell,just because he got puberty a couple of years ago doesnt mean he can now rule the world!Adn let your friend tell him that if he hits her again shell go complain to the police,because this guys a total ass...or tell you what,dont let her tell him to cthat she gon complain,if he hits her again,let her go complain to the police without even tellin him
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Ok so i might be a little crazy sometimes just being myself.. but does that mean i don't deserve a boyfriend? I'm 16 years old and i've never kissed a guy, gone out w/ a guy or anything.. it's not that i don't want to ... it's just that i guess the right guy hasn't come along. I've had 2 major crushes and thought for sure the last one was the ONE but.. that's a long story.. In the end im still single. What's wrong w/ me? I mean im decent looking.. i have an awesome sense of humour and have ALOT in common w/ alot of my guy friends and stuff. I don't know if just feel like a reject... (link)
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i understand that its hard to stay single for that log seeing all your freinds with guys while you dont have one.But think of it this way,your like you said,beautiful,funny,with a great personality and alot of people like you.Being without a guy isnt gonna really make you any prettier,smarter or cooler.You WILL find your guy one day,cuz no girl stays single forever.Gods just saving you the right guy.Mabey your gonna end up having a guy better then all of your freinds,so gods not givin him to you now and testing your pateince!Stay strong man,your gonna have the best guy while everyone watches you in envy one day^_^
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would you go out with a guy whos hot, nice and cool but he has a F or D in his classes? (link)
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okay soo I'm 13, and I'm a girl.
and I have this best friend.
and I love her soo much.
she means the world to me.
and about a month ago..
she was at my house and
I was asleep and she overdosed.
and the amblence came and took her.
and ever since then I think about her every day.
I cry alll the time over it.
I love her soo much.
and I write stuff and I always
right blogs about her and stuff.
and Its soo hard to explain it
like how much I miss her and everything.
I haven't seen her since it happened.
well once for like 5 minutes.
and its kills me.
and shes grounded.
and today she is going to
get her haircut and I'm meeting
her up there just so I can see her.
and I'm going to camp with her.
and the past few months Iv'e thought
that I might be bi.
and I have done some stuff with her.
and me and my friend were talking
and she says it could be that I love her
like more than a friend.
like in love with her.
but I'm not sure if I am.
and I cant get it outta my head.
I mean come on I might be in love with
a girl..it sounds kinda dumb.
but can someone help?? (link)
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ok i dont think its possible that a 13 year old is bi.Look,you just love your freind,you think shes beautiful,you adore her thats normal but about doing things with her,i think you were confused and mistook yor love for her as soomething more.It was a mistake,you misunderstood your feelings for her.
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okay so i have this friend,and we were really good friends in the beggining of the year, then she started being a bitch and talking about me for no effing reason!(i was hanging out with a different group that week) and so my point is,its like she thinks im stupid.like she thinks i steal like all my ideas from her,and like i cant think for myself. you know?ugh shes a bitchhh!what do i do??and no i do not want to talk to her about it,bc that will start another fight and it will be myyyy fault once again.omg please help.
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noo it wont be your fault if you confront her.Anyways dont confront her or even TRY to talk to her at any means.Shes not worth it,shes not true.And be happy that this happend so you can know her true colors.Now you know,shes jealous of you and hates you.Dont even bother.
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I'm 20 years old and I have a bf who's 21. My bf and I live in different city. Just this week, he went in our house to have his vacation. He's very much welcome in our house because my mum is a cool mum and my sister is so nice that they became close immediately. The problem is with my aunt. I already introduced my bf to my relatives and everyone likes him because he's a nice guy, except to my aunt. She was so angry because she said that it's not nice that a guy would come to a girl's house and sleep there.(we sleep in different room) My bf stayed with us in our house for 2 weeks. My aunt told us things that made me cry. She said that she's pretty sure that my bf and I already had sex and that maybe i wouldn't graduate from college because i maybe become pregnant, and many more. The rest of the family really didn't believe in this opinion of my aunt because they trust me a lot, especially my mum. The problem is that i'm GUILTY.. My bf and I already had sex but i told them that i wouldn't do it before our marriage and i assure my mum that nothing happened yet and that i really won't do it. She believed in me and she really trusts me. I really feel guilty. I don't want to tell the truth because first of all it would break their heart and i feel shame if they'll know it.. Please help me.. and should i stop having sex with my bf to make sure that i wouldn't become pregnant? Thanks a lot.. (link)
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I think you should explain this to your guy and not have sex with him till your married,not just because your gonna get pregnant,but because they all refused to beilive your aunt and they all have such deeeeeep trust for you,you shouldnt let them down,ok you kinda did but whats past is past,dont do it again.Stop before you get pregnant because if you are,therell be nothing that you can do to solve it.
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Is it appropriate to like the guy who's your mom's boyfriend's daughter's fiancee's cousin? Becasue I really do like him but I'm not sure if that's too close in the family or anything...your thoughts on this would be appreciated! :D (link)
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lmao!!!hahahhaahha!!i think thats far enough man:D lool^_^
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man look im a real playa an all rite so me n mah nigga nick always playen girls so he introduced me 2 dis one girl because he told me she got lots o money so now its not bout dat i realy like her alot an all like alot alot i dont know wat 2 do please sum one help me (link)
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ok i think you should stop trying to play her because you like her.This can actually get you somewhere good,like being in a real relationship and she probably likes you to.Dont try playing her cuz trust me,what goes around comes around and if you play or hurt someone itll come right back to you and itll happen to you when you one day actually think you found the one,shell stab you in the back.I think you should try to get with her,its not a shame.You had your time of playing around and now is the time to be a little serious.
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I've been with my boyfriend since October 23rd 2005, i'm 15 almost 16 and he turned 18 in March. [ if that helps ]. He started living with me about 6 months after we met. We fight sometimes , but when we do fight he sometimes gets abusive. We got in a fight like a week ago and he grabbed me by the back of my neck forcing my head down in the my bed. My first thought after he did it was " well i don't feel the pain now , but i know in a couple days my neck will hurt ". and so it did.... i really love him alot and i wish he would change. is there anything i can change about myself for him to stop this , because i know in the future if this keeps happening , we won't be together.
thank you so much.
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the hell?You didnt even do anything,theres nothing you gotta change.Unless you hit him too.You need to talk to him and tell him that he gotta show you some respect because if he doesnt change this then he isnt being dedicated to you by changing a small thing like this to make you happy.If he doesnt stop then threaten him to break up and hell freak!
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Okay this is the deal I've been dating this guy for a month and a half now.. we've been really close. BTW I'm 14. I've been to his house he's been here.. I've met his family so and so. Last year we went out for 4 months but ended up breaking up beacause my friends were jerks. BUT ANWAYY....last night he called me like he usually does and asked me if we could take a break. I asked him why and he said because he has so much shit at the end of the year to do. He said because he has baseball, regions , tests, and doesnt want to deal with a girlfriend untill summer. Summer is 2 weeeks away and I like him a lot so I figured I would give him his space. But theres this girl down the road from him and once or twice while we were dating he would go hangout with her. I think he really wants to be with that girl and not me but when i asked him about it he got annoyed and told me of course he likes me and wants to go back out in 2 weeks when schools done. I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO. I like him a LOT. he has been the best boyfriend I've ever had.
I'm so confused . HELP (link)
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its ok if you give him space but its not like your gonna hold him down and strangle him or something.I think you should give him space so it doesnt seem like your obsesed with him and then see what happens in the summer.If he gets back with u then great!he was really stressed after all.If he doesnt then to HELL with him.And watch after that hell come crying back to you and youll dump him like he did if he does
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Ok well this year was perfect til thsi new student showed up and he hates my guts! Everytime he sees me he would whisper I'LL KILL YOU just for me to hear only and makes his hand into a imaginary gun and "shoots me"..
He keeps saying YOU BULLIED ME IN KINDERGARDEN! (I'm a girl) and I'm guessing that's the big reason he hates me?
Frankly i don't care very much cuz this guy is the weirdest one in my class and everyone thinks he's crazy or mental since he says the weirdest random things out of no where liek if noones talking.
I had an accident about 3 years ago so i wouldn't remember if i bullied him or not and so I'm not aploligizing to him even though maybe it'll stop it. But if I did it was a long time go, KINDERGARDEN! He should suck it up and forget about it! Even I got grudges and some have to do with a person in my class but everytime I see her I don't go YOU HURT MY FEELINGS or give her this hating sign with my hands!
I don't like him very much by the way he's acting to me. I just pretend I never remembered him at all when he mention's it and act normal.
He's so stupid! Like he's trying to make everyone hate me because one time he told that to the WHOLE class! "Oh she bullied me in kindergarden" "WHAT?! Man, but she's the nicest girl in class!" And he tells the whole story to the class while IM RIGHT THERE! i don't tell people my issues with this girl and she's in the classroom!
But i feel so sad that someone hates me SO MUCH for something a long time ago..I'm a nice girl..high grades..everyone likes me and bullies bully people in my class for fun but thye don't tease me or whack me and I'm the weakest girl in the class. I even tried to talk to him a few times nicely and randomly offered him things like this snack i didn't like but maybe he did.
But I can literally feel the hate coming out of him which is like hurting me. Like come on..if it was kindergarden and I did bully him, I'm pretty sure it wouldnt' be bad since it's kindergarden and I've been so skinney my whole life! You shouldn't be going crazy for one thing.
As far as I remember, it was grade one. One day we had activities center and there can be up to only 3 people in a station and after a certain time, we rotate or go to different stations. I was the third person to go into a group til he came in and I said "you know there can onyl be three people in a group?" he made this rude face and said "SO?!" and kept playing. So I just went to the teacher to just tell her nicely about it but I guess he thought i was going to her so she could yell at me so he started crying and they phoned hsi parents cuz he wouldn't shut up about it.
Man..what a baby.
But I feel so bad that someone hates me so much like he's making a big deal about it so I hate him too but I don't go aorund doign what he does and tell it to other people. Like if it's something going on with the both of us, he should be talking to me.
What should I do?
I know you would say get alone with him and tlak but remember that i said that he's mental, crazy and different? I can't even explain what he's do but yeah..=S (link)
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woooooow.But you didnt meantion what grade your in now.ANYWAYA i think you should talk to him and apologize(just to get him to stop hating you)tell him it was an accident and it was years ago and you were a kid and all kids make mistakes.If he dont forget still i think you should talk to the school nurse about it or to your parents.He might need a psycologist.
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I have two female students in my class. they like two baseball players but the two boys are immature yet the girls still like them and the girls still have hope that the two boys would ask them out..
So I told them to give up already because these two boys are not showing any interest...
they have tried to flirt
What else can I tell these two girls?
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well the problem here is that theyre not that open minded because theyre still young.The guys are immature and this makes the girls like them since the girls are not open minded,they like guys that act dumb,funny and foolish.Explain them your point of veiw and what you think and how liking them isnt going to get them anywhere.If they still dont listen then let them learn it the hard way,you cant follow them around everywhere telling them not to like these guys because theyre immature,because sadly,these girls like guys like that.Its not a bad thing,but theyre minds arent fully open yet.Good luck
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i have this new friend "mary" that ive just started hanging out with. she has a bf, but the other day she told one of her friends that she likes MY bf, and that she wished she'd met him before he started going out with me. so that girl told my bf about it, and my bf told me. (he said don't worry, he doesn't like her). but now, whenever mary invites me to do stuff, she says "why don't you bring your bf?" and my bf is like "why dont you hang out with mary more?" so i asked mary if it was true that she likes my bf, and she said "nooo! i have a bf!" i was really starting to like this girl, but now im wondering, is she just being my friend so she can get to my bf?
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i think she is.You need to talk to your boyfreind all sweet and tell him that you dont want to lose him and stuff.As for mary i think you shouldnt hang with her anymore,itll only bring drama.She likes your boyfreind and if you and your guy ever happen to fight i think shell go to him right away.Stop hanging out with her little by little and when she asks to hang out tell her "sorry im going out with MY guy"
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Ok my boyfriend and i are ready 2 have sex and neither of us are virgins but instead of plain sex he wants 2 have a threesome at first i was okay with it but then he went and asked my best friend if she wanted 2 be the third person and she said yes and i have always known that she had a crush on him but i never cared until now and i dont know if i should Go through with it now i have no problem with the threesome but having my bff in it i dont know and i dont know if this is her way of getting 2 have sex or give head 2 him but i just dont think i should Go through with it now can somebody pleez give me advice and thanks in advance(f/16) (link)
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omg!!what the hell!!i consider that cheating sweety!omg wow you know,him asking your BEST freind to be in it just gives him the right to have sex with her ALONE when the threesome is over.Youd agree for her to be in it three way before so why wouldnt they do it by themselves?Dont you feel jealous at all or love this guy?If you did,the idea of a threesome would be outta the question.And your freind dont seem so honest either,i would NEVER NEVER NEVER do anything with a bestfreinds guy!!anywayz i think that both of them have something between eachothere or eles why would he randomly come up and ask her for a threesome??
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My good friend and I were both expecting babies at the same time. Her baby was due in June and mine in September. Her doctor recommended that she get her labor induced because her baby was getting too big. So she got her labor induced and I kept calling the hospital room and no one ever answered, then I called her grandmother's house and I talked to her brother-in-law and he said she had the baby but he ( the baby) didn't make it. I have no idea what to do now. I want to talk to her but I know she going through something that I don't even want to imagaine, and she's the type that wants to be alone. I haven't talked to her at all yet, it just happened today. The baby was 39 weeks today so she was expecting to leave the hospital with a new child not empty handed. We have been so excited the whole time because we were both expecting boys and now I don't if her seeing me still pregnant would cause her more pain. I need advice!!! Should I go see her? And what do I say to her?? (link)
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yeah go see her and bring flowers and tell her that its ok and not to be sad and that when shes better that you two gotta chill somewhere and mention a good place or thing to do.And if she brings up her child tell her that shell get pregnant again and itlll be fine.DONT mention your baby AT ALL.
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thats like, i know i messed up, but im sorry and i just want you to forgive me and let it go/move on?
preferably a rock-ish song.
i love Linkin Park's new What I've Done, but its not quite what im looking for, although something along those lines would be great.
[( btw, i know we all hate these kinds of questions, but im kinda desperate for this one =/ )] (link)
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yeah you gotta download im not a perfect person by hoobastank its the closest i can think of
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This is a question for teenage girls. My daughter and I have always been very close. She's always been very open with me and willing to share things about school, friends, boys, etc. Now that she's 13, though, things have changed some. Sometimes I can tell she's upset about something, but when I ask her what's wrong, she doesn't want to talk about it. I realize this is normal, that she wants some privacy and doesn't need her mom butting in on everything. But I also know it sometimes helps to talk about things instead of keeping them inside. I want her to know that I'm here for her and that she can tell me anything. Should I keep trying to get her to talk, or should I just leave her alone and hope she'll open up if she needs me? (link)
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I really think that your a great mom for always being there for her like this.I think you should continue to ask her whats wrong and be like her best freind and stuff.The problem on this site with most teen girls is that they all say,my parents hate me,they dont understand me and i cut myself cuz they dont get me.Dont let your daughter turn into that.Tell her that whatever problems she has she should tell you because noone understands as much as you and nomatter what freind she tells whats bothering her,they wont have as much expereince as much as you.If the mistake she made waas HUGE or her problem is BIG make sure you dont yell at her badly cuz shell totally stop telling you things.Good luck^_^
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heyyya.
okay; i'm going to tell you about what i'm going through right now. i'm so confused on who to choose, so maybe you can help me. :( or give me a boost to the right direction.
there are 3 guys, and let me give you each story. [R; D; B;--is what they'll go by]
D;-i just started going out with D like 12 days ago. i honestly jumped into the relationship without getting to know him at all. i talked to him one night on the phone for like 20 minutes, then the next night he asked me out &i said yes. there was one mistake. then he told me he wouldn't break up w/ me..&i told him the same. [another mistake] i do honestly like D, but i just don't know much about him. he's really sweet, and i don't want to hurt him. i just don't know what i should do.
R;-it started out about 4 years ago, when i met him. i just knew there was something about him, and i've liked him ever since. well, he's never given me a chance because ''he doesn't date chicks more than 2 years younger than him'' [as of right now; i'm 15 &&he's 17. he'll be 18 in august] the other day, he came down to my house without me asking him to. [which is suprising, because he barely comes down anyway] and we were talking and stuff, and he mentioned something abut me oweing him something. [kisses from a few months before.] i told him i couldn't give him those kisses, then he knew i had a boyfriend. long story short; R told me that on wednesday we would talk about being together. [wed-my15bday] well, we talked and he told me not to break up with my boyfriend, just to go out with him. R even promised me that there would be another chance for us. :( but there are bad things about R. [drugs;use to be playa;quit school]
B;-i just met B at the beginning of the 2nd semester. after spending alot of time with him, i grew to like him. we had said during summer we were going to a concert/show together and hangout some. i would always flirt with him and stuff, and he would flirt back. i kinda thought that he might like me, but he kept talking about other girls. then i heard he was talking with a chick named amber. anyway; during the end of the school year, B started to talk to me less. i asked him what was wrong, and he told me he didn't want to intefer with me &my other guys. [i don't know what he meant by other guys] come to find out; B likes me. he told me he thought that he was going to end up being my boyfriend, and stuff. he told me that we wasn't going to hangout this summer or anything, because i had a bf. i told him he wasn't interfering &&i still wanted to hangout. now that school is out; i haven't talked to him since.
so there are the guys.
i like them all.
1st R; 2nd B; 3rd D.
i don't know who to choose to be with.
because i'm so confused about stuff.
i hope you can give me a little advice.
sorry this was so long.
thank you. (link)
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I think R is totally outta the question.Once a player always a player.Its obvious he didnt want you back then and that was his sorry ass excuse of i dont date younger gurls.Now obviously something happenes(he broke up with his gurl)and now hes desperate for anyone but the only one he found that he thout would say yes to him is YOU.And hes not honest,telling you to go out when you have a boyfreind.Who knows,mabey youll be his girlfreind and hell go out with other girls.
Now you have to chose between D and B.You have two choices here,either Give D a chance and get to know him while your together or apologize to him and tell him that your not ready for a relationship and that youd love to be just freinds.As for B,I think that he really did like you but he went away cuza all the guys youre caught up with,he didnt want drama and didnt want his heart broken.I hope you sort out your feelings and make the best choice.
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