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How do I help my friend in a abusive relationship?
Okay my friend is 16 years old and her boyfriend is like 21, I think. Anyways her boyfriend is really mean to her and he's so controlling. He even tells her what time she can go to parties and what time she has to be back. He beats her and alot of othere stuff. I dont know how I can help her because she's trapped in this relationship. How can I help her?
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Hey, well the results from these types of relationships can be fatal. I dont agree with any of the advicenators below. I think that you can talk to her all day and night and she will still see something in him that she loves even if he abuses her. Shes never going to tell him off or tell anyone to get help. You will feel awful if something really bad happens to her. What if one day she gets beaten so badly, that she gets beaten to her death? Scary to think about huh? Just to think that you knew about it all along and never told anyone. You would feel responsible for her death. Sorry to make you think about that, but its a harsh reality. Yes, she will be upset that you told someone and got help, but once she realizes that the relationship wasnt good, she will thank you for it. Good luck =].
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she really needs to get out of the relationship. i've known three people that have died due to abusive husbands/boyfriends. she can go to the police, but whatever she does, she needs to get out as soon as possible.
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A couple of months ago, I went through helping a friend out of an abusive relationship.
Most importantly, keep being there. Even if she says she's not allowed to see you, make it happen. I lost contact with my friend for a few months, and thought she was just busy. Turns out her boyfriend wasn't letting her use the phone or internet.
Listen to her. Without trying to be too pushy, try to get her to see that this relationship is poison, and that she can do better. Often people will stay in the relationship because they think that it's all they'll ever get.
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well as a freind,the only thing you can do is offer her advice.Tell her that she desserves better and that this guy is obviously using her and doesnt love her because if he did he wouldnt even think of hitting her.He just wants to act all manly by hitting her but what the hell,just because he got puberty a couple of years ago doesnt mean he can now rule the world!Adn let your friend tell him that if he hits her again shell go complain to the police,because this guys a total ass...or tell you what,dont let her tell him to cthat she gon complain,if he hits her again,let her go complain to the police without even tellin him
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You need to sit down and have a talk with her. Since he is 21 and she is 16 he can be put away if there is proof. Tell her to go to the police and explain her problem to them. They will help her with the situation because she NEEDS to get out of the relationship it is not worth it for her.
Good Luck!
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