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Confused on who to choose.
heyyya.
okay; i'm going to tell you about what i'm going through right now. i'm so confused on who to choose, so maybe you can help me. :( or give me a boost to the right direction.
there are 3 guys, and let me give you each story. [R; D; B;--is what they'll go by]
D;-i just started going out with D like 12 days ago. i honestly jumped into the relationship without getting to know him at all. i talked to him one night on the phone for like 20 minutes, then the next night he asked me out &i said yes. there was one mistake. then he told me he wouldn't break up w/ me..&i told him the same. [another mistake] i do honestly like D, but i just don't know much about him. he's really sweet, and i don't want to hurt him. i just don't know what i should do.
R;-it started out about 4 years ago, when i met him. i just knew there was something about him, and i've liked him ever since. well, he's never given me a chance because ''he doesn't date chicks more than 2 years younger than him'' [as of right now; i'm 15 &&he's 17. he'll be 18 in august] the other day, he came down to my house without me asking him to. [which is suprising, because he barely comes down anyway] and we were talking and stuff, and he mentioned something abut me oweing him something. [kisses from a few months before.] i told him i couldn't give him those kisses, then he knew i had a boyfriend. long story short; R told me that on wednesday we would talk about being together. [wed-my15bday] well, we talked and he told me not to break up with my boyfriend, just to go out with him. R even promised me that there would be another chance for us. :( but there are bad things about R. [drugs;use to be playa;quit school]
B;-i just met B at the beginning of the 2nd semester. after spending alot of time with him, i grew to like him. we had said during summer we were going to a concert/show together and hangout some. i would always flirt with him and stuff, and he would flirt back. i kinda thought that he might like me, but he kept talking about other girls. then i heard he was talking with a chick named amber. anyway; during the end of the school year, B started to talk to me less. i asked him what was wrong, and he told me he didn't want to intefer with me &my other guys. [i don't know what he meant by other guys] come to find out; B likes me. he told me he thought that he was going to end up being my boyfriend, and stuff. he told me that we wasn't going to hangout this summer or anything, because i had a bf. i told him he wasn't interfering &&i still wanted to hangout. now that school is out; i haven't talked to him since.
so there are the guys.
i like them all.
1st R; 2nd B; 3rd D.
i don't know who to choose to be with.
because i'm so confused about stuff.
i hope you can give me a little advice.
sorry this was so long.
thank you. <3
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Welll ok I know you really like R but i don't think it will work out at all because i think he is still just being a playa. D seems ok but if you guys don't seem right together right now then you shouldn't be and tell him that it is weird and you barely know him. I think B would be best because you guys connected and He is respecting you by leaving you be with your bf even though you told him that he wouldn't interfere. What it seems like is that He probably thinks alot of guys are after you and he would have no chance at all and is backing away slowly untill you both don't talk at all. you can change that is you tell him how you feel. If you really like him then you should not let him goo. and try to talk to him. but this is your choice and i hope you make the one that will make you happy for a long time.
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I think R is totally outta the question.Once a player always a player.Its obvious he didnt want you back then and that was his sorry ass excuse of i dont date younger gurls.Now obviously something happenes(he broke up with his gurl)and now hes desperate for anyone but the only one he found that he thout would say yes to him is YOU.And hes not honest,telling you to go out when you have a boyfreind.Who knows,mabey youll be his girlfreind and hell go out with other girls.
Now you have to chose between D and B.You have two choices here,either Give D a chance and get to know him while your together or apologize to him and tell him that your not ready for a relationship and that youd love to be just freinds.As for B,I think that he really did like you but he went away cuza all the guys youre caught up with,he didnt want drama and didnt want his heart broken.I hope you sort out your feelings and make the best choice.
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You don't sound like you like your boyfriend very much. At least not enough. I don't think it's fair for either of you to be in a relationship with each other right now. Your heart isnt completely in it, and sooner or later you are going to break up with him because of it. If you let it draw on too long, he will be even more hurt. Don't lead the poor kid on. It seems like you rushed wayyy too fast, which is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.
AND OH MY GOD I LIKE BAD BOYS TOO. =]
But R sounds too dangerous. He's trying to manipulate you, and if you let him all that is going to happen is that you will get hurt. I know this because it's happened to me before. I know that it's a turn on that he's into you because of what he said before about age differences... and because you've liked him for so long.. bad boys are hotties, yeah? But they don't make good boyfriends and they arent very trustworthy.
I THINK YOU SHOULD GO FOR B. He sounds like a gentleman that is honest and doesnt want to make a mistake and was trying not to confuse you. [while R was..] He doesnt want to get involved because he knows that there is a line when you have a boyfriend and he doesn't want to get close to you and either cross the line or get hurt as he watches you, the girl he likes, but cannot have.
the end.
go for B
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goodluck.
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Hey girl,
Most girls would die to have this dilemma at your age. You're obviously a cool chick or these dudes wouldn't be after you. And so honest and up front. Oh wait, that was only B. He's my pick for you. Why?
I'm annoyed at D. What guy tells you, "I'll never break up with you"?? This isn't Titanic and "I'll never let go...never!" What's with the drama? You don't need a soap opera, this guy totally sounds like one. Plus, there's no chase in that. AND he generally creeps me out from what you've said. What will he say next "I'll hurt/kill/maim myself if you leave me?" Annoying. (he must be hot, right? why else are you dealing with this?)
R. Oh R, you bad boy, you. You dabble in drugs, you play a hell of a mind game for four long years, and your idea of a good birthday gift is to tell a girl that "we'll talk about the possibility of maybe sort of being together". Excuse me, but wtf? Oh wait, he must be a saint, because this guy loves you so much he doesn't mind that you have another guy in the picture. Girl, this dude is trouble. The R must be for Risky, cause that's what you'd be doing to your heart if you chose this one. (Again, he must be smokin hot... all the more reason to love and let go)
Hence, my choice would be B. He is taking it slow, which means he think you're worth the chase. He also seems to care the most because he's not going to start something he can't do 100%, the right way, with no other dudes involved. I like that he wants you all to himself (yet won't involve drama or Kate/Leo antics to do it). He seems like the guy with the most dignity and sincerity, which means there's a good chance he's going to treat you like a princess. Yet there's still that chase there (other girls are figuring out he's a nice guy, hence Amber being in the picture). Respect this guy and quit the other 2. 86 the games and spend your time having fun with someone who won't mindfuck you for the next 3 months. Good luck!
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