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Don't hesitate to ask me about anything because I'm here to listen, understand, and give some sound advice.
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What are some signs that suggest that a guy might like you? Or if a guy REALLY likes you?
I have this friend who I just met a few days ago and he's been calling me nonstop. He kinda invited himself to my homecoming dance. He says stuff like he wishes that he could be my hero. I really like him and I kinda want to tell him, but what if he doesn't like me back? How can I be sure? (link)
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A guy MIGHT have a thing for you if:
One, he does almost ANYTHING just to be with or talk to you.
Two, he treats you like a princess. If he treats you differently from his other gal pals, then definitely there's 'something'.
Three, if he thinks everything you do is right. Four, (this is a cliche but this is the most obvious sign of hidden admiration) if he stares at you when you're not looking and when you catch him looking at you he suddenly averts his gaze away.
Five, it's all about body contact, baby!!!!
And Six, if he suddenly has that "change of attitude" towards you...Like, he stutters when he talks to you, he couldn't look at you straight in eye, you suddenly become the 'target' of his jokes(if he's a joker)....just anything unusual....;)
If these signs are present, then he really has some'n-some'n for you!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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this might be kind of long but here it goes...
im one of those people who think alot and over analyse things allllll the time and it drives me crazy! the worst is when someone says something to me and i just keep thinking about it in a what if what if what if way. like for example last year before homecoming i was talking to my friend and i was like gosh i need a date who's taller than me and isnt an idiot. so she says why dont you go with (insert name here)?" then i thought about it alot and i started to like him! it always happens, and the latest thing is in one of my classes i was talking to one of my guy friends and this girl says to me: dude you to need to go out already! now for the past 24 hours or so all ive been thinking about is what if we went out? do i like him? does he like me? and it wont stop! i cant just stop thinking, how do you tell yourself, "hey no more thinking!" that doesnt make any sense? it even happens when im sleeping, ill have like 4 different dreams in one night about whatever is bugging me and then when i wake up im exausted!i dont just think about like guys and stuff or anything its school too, im really good at math because i think so much like dont even bother me with the calculator or a formula, i just figure it out by myself. i dont know what to do! but my constant thinking is driving me crazy! please help!!!! (link)
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Hey!!! Same here!
My friends always tell me that I'm very analytical. Like, everything has to make sense to me and stuff... My mind works ALL THE TIME, 24/7.
Then I realized that I think waaay too much and I need to ease a lil' bit.
You need to go with the flow sometimes. Don't try to control everything because everyhting is not under your control. Let things happen the way they are meant to happen.
Don't analyze too much because you might miss the little things(which you think are not important) in life because of your critical mind.
Try out something where you can pour all your thoughts and work your mind off. I'm a writer so I pour my thoughts into my stories, articles and scripts. I also noticed that after writing, my mind gets exhausted that I'm too tired and too lazy to think!!!
Find something where you can tire, exhaust, and work your mind off! Trust me, it works. ;)
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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me and one of my guy friends have been friends for like, 4 years and everyone always says we should go out. we always laugh it off and say that we never would because were just friends but the more i think about it the more i kind of get what everyone is saying. we get along really well and our personalities to match up pretty good but i have that lame fear that if we go out that we wont be friends if it doesnt work. i dont have a thing for him, or much of one anyways but i could see myself with him. i want to try it out and date him but i dont know if hes thinking what i am and i dont know how to tell. were like best friends and everyone thinks we like each other or that were flirting or that were already going out. thanks soooo much (link)
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I hope you know that confessing your true feelings to a FRIEND can only bring two things: It's either you gain a boyfriend, or you lose a friend.(this is what I keep on telling people in the same boat as you....)
That's the truth.
What hurts even more is the 'fact' that things won't really go back to the way they used to be.
That's just the way it is.
If you want to take the risk, go on. But it's like gambling...you're uncertain of what the result will be...
So you better be wise in your decision....
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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iiN a couple of weeks, im goin in to high school for my first year. im excited but really nervous. any tips on the change? (link)
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Actually, there's not much to worry about. Really.
During my first day in high school, I thought I would get lost in the jungle of high school kids. I thought I wouldn't make any friends. I thought I wouldn't be able to deal with the lessons...Worst, I thought high school is all work and no play!
But of course I was wrong.
I learned that you shouldn't be nervous and shy at all especially in dealing with people and befriending others because for all you know, they are also dying to gain friends. For all you know, they are also nervous. For all you know, they also don't know what to do. So go ahead... make a lot of friends...
When it comes to schoolwork, of course there's more schoolwork in high school. If you don't want to be haggard, manage your time so you don't end up cramming... But if you like cramming because of the adrenaline rush you get(like me!), then fine... Just make sure it pays off...haha!
Terror teachers.... Oh dear, I don't have much to say about dealing with them.... I guess, just don't attract too much attention... Sit somewhere the teacher rarely notices.... I'm fine that way...haha!
If you have more questions don't hesitate to ask me....;)
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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I'm 14 and have never had a boyfriend. What are some ways to tell he likes you or how you tell him you like him? (link)
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At fourteen you shouldn't even be bothering about getting a boyfriend but hey, I'm NOT your mom so let's just move on....
A guy MIGHT have a thing for you if:
One, he does almost ANYTHING just to be with or talk to you.
Two, he treats you like a princess. If he treats you differently from his other gal pals, then definitely there's 'something'.
Three, if he thinks everything you do is right. Four, (this is a cliche but this is the most obvious sign of hidden admiration) if he stares at you when you're not looking and when you catch him looking at you he suddenly averts his gaze away.
Five, it's all about body contact, baby!!!!
And Six, if he suddenly has that "change of attitude" towards you...Like, he stutters when he talks to you, he couldn't look at you straight in eye, you suddenly become the 'target' of his jokes(if he's a joker)....just anything unusual....;)
As to how you can tell him you like him....
If you're comfortable telling him straight out that you like him, then go....
If you're not, then you can always copy his "style" (from what I have stated above)!!!!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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well, where to start. three years ago, i was in 8th grade, and i met this boy. of course 8th grade is still a young age to take love seriously, but this boy changed my perspective on that. we had dated from 8th grade to sophomore year where i broke it off due to rumors. the rumors got so out of hand it made us upset with one another. [the rumors were about him cheating on me, which turned out to be false] and so months later we found ourselves dating other people. when this summer we tried working on "us" again and well i thought for sure we were going to hit it off again. but he said that he was scared i would believe rumors and he didtn want me to hurt him again, blah. so then i find out a month later he is dating another girl. but yet he still tells me he loves me & that this is his way of trying to get over me. i am crazy about this kid, but i know i shouldnt be and i deserve better & what not. but i just cant seem to get past him. so i guess the point in trying to get across is should i wait for something to happen, obviously my heart is all for him, or what should i do so im not so miserable watching him with someone else. anything would help, thanks. (link)
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I think your ex is not being sincere to you at all.
If he really loves you, then he should've broken up with his current girlfriend. It's unfair to stay with that girl if he's inlove with you.
And do you realize that he cheated on her current gf by confessing his feelings for you? That makes him perfectly capable of being unfaithful to you when you're back togeher.
And if it's true that he's just using this girl to get over you, think: Do you really want to be with someone who treats other people that way?
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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hey im 15/f. Im going to a new school this year. And ive been in my soon to be old school for 5 years now. Im going to be a sophmore this year. And im so scared to start a new school, because i hate making friends and starting over. Im going to get lost because i have always been in a school with only one floor and this is two. Im just really nervous and scared because i have no friends and i dont know where any of my classes are because its a semi-big school. I've moved around alot when i was little from school to school and i dont want to go to another school. But i have to so can anybody please tell me ways to like calm down, and give me positive things to think about. And teach me how to make friends and approach them! Thanks a bunch any advice is appreciated! (link)
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First of All: SMILE. Smiling gives other people the impression that you are approachable.
Then strike up a conversation and remember to keep it CASUAL. And stay calm! Don't overwhelm yourself with fears that the other person will not like you. If they see you know what you're talking about, they'll think you're cool.
Also, use the right body language. Show eagerness when listening. Look straight into the eyes of the person you're talking to and nod every once in a while.
Of course, Look Neat and Presentable. Those well-practiced smiles won't get you aywhere if your hair is disheveled and your breath is skanky!
About the "I might get lost part", it's better to ask a TEACHER for directions so that you won't find yourself in the wrong place (believe me, during my first day of high school, I was looking for my class room...Stupid me, I asked the stupid seniors and they gave me directions going to the oddest place on earth---the comfort room!). Or, if you find yourself a kind and trustworthy buddy on the first day(like your seatmate), you might as well just stick with her.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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when im at school im kinda shy around people i dont know and when i do get along with some1 a while later they think im annoyin or they hate me or somethin and i don even know wat i did
can sum1 help (link)
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Why waste time befriending peole who don't like you?
There are a lot of guys and girls out there who'll like and accept you for WHO YOU REALLY ARE. People who won't hate you and people who won't get annoyed with you.
Anyway, I'll just give you some tips on how to gain friends:
The easiest way to get friends is through SMILING. A lot. When you smile at people, they'll think that you are approachable and friendly.
Then, strike up a conversation. Being a good conversationalist takes quite some time but you can definitely learn how to be one! I know it's a cliche but having self confidence really helps. Practice having a nice and sensible conversation with a close friend first, if you want. Then start doing this with other people. Being a good conversationalist also means being a good listener. Listen to what the other person has to say and avoid interrupting the person when he/she is speaking. The rule is to listen as much as you speak.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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well to start things off.. im 15/f
theres this guy that i absolutley adore!(16/m) hes funny, interesting, and down to earth.. well were pretty good friends and i talk to him alot online. the problem is that he just got out of a relationship and still misses that other girl (like ALOT) and i tell him things are gunna turn around and everything. but i really dont think that he thinks of me as anything more than a friend. how can i get him to notice me like that without straight out telling him i like him?
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Let me tell you one thing first: RESPECT if he still misses or perhaps if he still loves his ex.
It's natural-give him time to "grieve" a little. In no time, he will get over it, too.
Just show him that you're always there for him. Make him smile a lot. Make him laugh a lot. I know it's a bit cheesy but this IS effective, I'm telling you. Make him feel that even without her, he can still be happy--with you.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Ok, i have gone out with this guy I really like several times and everytime i am the one whos always getting hurt. He asked me back out and of course I said yes because I really like him. Everything is going good. But am i just setting myself back up to get hurt by going out with him? and what should i do if he askes me back out, i really like him but should i say yes? (link)
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Know what? I have a really good friend who's "suffering" from the same problem that you have. Whenever she and her bf breaks up, she ALWAYS gets back with him after a day or two beacause she says she can't stand the pain of not being with him. What she doesn't realize is that getting back with her guy only means that she's allowing herself to be hurt AGAIN.
The last time[and I hope this would REALLY be the last time] they broke up, I actually "banned" her from getting back with her guy because I'm tired of seeing her cry and get hurt over and over again.
Now I'm going to ask you a question: Do you want to get hurt over and over again like my friend?
You know, it's BETTER to experience the pain only ONCE(and get hurt so, so much because of the sudden heavy downpour) than to experience it over and over and over again(and then regret in the end because you allowed yourself to be treated the wrong way so many times).
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Hey! I'm not shure if this goes in this category but - does anyone know how to get good karma?
Thank yoU! (link)
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Hey! Firm believer of Karma here!
I believe that EVERYONE has already heard of the saying "Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you." This simply means that if you want to receive good karma, then be good. If you keep on doing bad things, be ready for bad karma.
Another way to attract good karma is to THINK POSSITIVE. This way, you'll attract possitive energy and block all the negative energy around you. If you keep thinking possitive, you'll get better and better everyday.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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i have a boyfriend and we've been on and off for the past 2 years.I found out he cheated on my 3 times.Stupidly i got back together with him 1 week ago and now he sais he didnt know we were dating and he got a different girlfriend.He also tried to kiss me afetr he told me this!What should i do?
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Player....player...player....
NO ONE ever wants to end up with a player and I know you don't want to end up with one, too.
Ditch him, forget about him, and get a life, girl. You'll just waste your precious time with a guy like him. And c'mon, did you Really believe that he's not aware that you were dating?! Lame...lame...lame....
And always remember: ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Hey all. Well, I'm 14/f and I'm going to an all-girl Physics camp this Monday. I was wondering how to introduce myself, start up a conversation, and make friends with other people because I don't know them and I don't want it to seem weird and creepy. I'm known as being friendly, and I want to keep that title. Also, I'm about to enter high school next month, and I would like to use these tips for that as well. I would also really appreciate it if you guys could give me topics to talk about because I don't like awkward silence. Thanks a bunch! (link)
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First of All: SMILE. Smiling gives other people the impression that you are approachable.
Then strike up a conversation and remember to keep it CASUAL. And stay calm! Don't overwhelm yourself with fears that the other person will not like you. If they see you know what you're talking about, they'll think you're cool.
Also, use the right body language. Show eagerness when listening. Look straight into the eyes of the person you're talking to and nod every once in a while.
Of course, Look Neat and Presentable. Those well-practiced smiles won't get you aywhere if your hair is disheveled and your breath is skanky!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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ive always thought dat my life was messed up. y live a life dat i hate? dat changed after my boyfren came along. i felt special. i felt LOVED. now his paents are moving to NY. real far away from me. im really sad. i hate myself. i hate everything. i wanna kill myself. im nothing without him.is life really worth living for? how can i get over the person that changed my life? how am i gonna live without him? please some1 tell me wat to do? i feel so hated by god. y is he treating me like this? y is he takin away the love of my life? please help! :( (link)
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Dearie....
There really are points in our lives that we undergo those kinda stuff.... We think that life's no longer worth living because of *insert situation here*... We think that nobody loves us... We feel like life's throwing so much problems in our way.... We think that God doesn't love us.... But you know what? These things are Natural. We All feel and think of these things at some point. They're [shall I say] Essential,though. Why? Because without them, we wouldn't learn our lessons.
Remember that everything has a reason....and I mean EVERYTHING. God is the main author of our lives that's why things are meant to be the way they sould be. There's always a reason why things happen.... Even the most unfortunate events in our lives have a reason why they happen....
Remember that if something's not for you, it's NOT for you. If the guy you love isn't "the one" for you, then he's not. Now you don't know why God is parting the two of you, but sooner or later, you'll find out why. Maybe God is parting the two of you because he wants you to have room for the person that he Really wants you to be with.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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hey im 15/f Im sorry if this is long, but i appreciate your answers! Ok so here it goes. My ex boyfriend and I were talking about hooking up again, we hung out on Thursday of last week and he put his arm around me and all that "love" stuff. But today i come to find out that he has a girlfriend already but he tells me that he doesn't. He made plans to go to the fireworks with me but he went with his girlfriend instead. But he keeps on lying to me. I guess they've been going out for about 2 months now. And i asked him if he was going out with lets call her Amy. And he said no that was just a rumor but come to find out that he is. And hes just not telling me how can i get him to tell me the truth? Hes just breaking my heart.. and i have no idea what hes doing... Please someone give me advice on how to "get him" or make him tell me that hes going out with her.. Also are there any songs that fit this situation as in hes lying when he has another girlfriend? If not thats okay i appreciate it thanks a bunch!!! (link)
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Dearie.... You Know the truth-- the truth that he's lying. I (or we) don't have to tell you that he's lying because it's sooo obvious that you know he is.
I think the best thing you can do is to STOP SEEING HIM. If you know he already has a girlfriend, don't push it. Have some respect for the girl also because she's the "legal" one. You know, he's probably just playing with your feelings.
I'd just give you a piece of (possibly) useful advice: if you want him to learn his lesson so that he'd stop being a player, quick! Tell his current girlfriend to be aware of him because he's a player and he's cheating on her. If she doesn't believe you, you can tell her "I respect if you don't want to believe what I'm saying. It's just that I don't want you to be another 'victim' of his stupid playing games."
That should put a doubt in her mind.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Ok so I'm 16/f, and I feel really weird because most of my friends have done something, and I've barely even kissed.
Everyone I meet is always like 'how can you still be a virgin?' and it feels a bit uncomfortable.
The things is that I always hear older people say to keep it, that they regret doing it in the first place, but why? My friends dont seem to regret it. And almost no guy would go out with someone who's not sexually active. At least no guy I've come across thinks differently.
What should I do? (link)
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Dearie....Just because your friends have done "it" doesn't mean that you have to do 'it', too.
I have really close friends that have done it, too, but they Never pressured me to do that kind of stuff. They Never told me things like "How come you're still a virgin at fifteen?"......
Don't do it if you know you're NOT ready.
Besides, would you want to do 'it' soon with just some pervert out there instead of doing it with the right person?
Think.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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So, I was talking with this guy and I'm 15 and he's 16. We were planning on doing it because, I thought, we were basiclly dating. Today, I found out he had a myspace and apparently he has a girlfriend he never told me about or mentioned. I saw the comments she left him saying how much she loves him and then his replys and they were from today. I know this means he's basiclly an ass and I shouldn't be with him or care for him anymore but I really hurt. Should I just not answer his calls and have nothing to do with him anymore or should I confront him or what should I do? Should I tell his girlfriend that he was planning on having sex with me? (I've never talked to her before) Someone please help me before I lose my mind. (link)
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I say you break up with him.....
BUT...
Give him a REALLY hard time first...!!!!;)
It's up to you how you wanna do it but just make sure you give him a REALLY HARD time before you break up with him. I know taking revenge is kinda bad, but don't you think that revenge is sweet sometimes?!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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I like this boy he always stares and smiles at me. I was in flag football and i was on his team and then this girl joined after me and later at lunch he walked up to me and said im training you for football alone then the girl said what about me and he said no way!! I have heard lots of rumors that he likes me and im starting to not like him but i still don't know if he likes me. i'm so confused does he seem to like me??? (link)
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I think he likes you because he wouldn't give you the "special treatment" if he doesn't, right?
And the fact that he keeps on staring at you.... dearie, he's into you!!!!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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I am really confused what to do. Long time ago when I was 13, I met a guy who had a crush on me. It developed until I felt the same way. that guy was 3 years older than me and he felt I was too young so he decided not to pursue anything beyond friends.
Now I am 19. I've moved on with the other though it really hurt because i love him so much until now. I have accepted the facts that we are not meant to be. I met this awesome guy. He really loves me more than anything else in the world. Because of this love from him, I want to be with him because i know he will make me happy. So, I am with him right now. Not long ago, the guy I met 6 years ago and I started chatting online. then, he told me that he loves me and he is willing to wait for me. I am in overseas studying so we only communicate through email/chatting. I know i love him more than the guy I am with right now. But I know for sure that the guy I am with right now loves me more than the guy i met 6 years ago. What should I do? Should I stay with the guy I am with right now? or should I go with the guy I've been waiting for all my teenage years? I'm not even sure if the guy i met 6 years ago is serious or just playing around. I dont want to get hurt from him anymore because it's so hard to move on. I have never loved anyone as much as I love him. please help.
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I say you continue your relationship with your Current guy.
Why?
First, I believe that long distance relationships rarely work.
Second, you and the guy you met 6 years ago don't REALLY know each other--the two of you have of course changed a lot through the years. And to be able to make a long distance realtionship work, you need to have a lot of knowledge about each other, full Trust, and the willingness to make the relationship work. If one of these is lacking, then the relationship is not worth it.
Third, you need to use your mind instead of your heart from time to time.
Don't be so selfish.
Because there's this other guy who loves you, too--the one you are with right now.
Now, who would you choose-- the guy you're pretty much sure of Or the guy you don't even know that much?
Be wise in your decision.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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okay, so i'm 14/m, and she's 14/f, and i've known her for a really long time as a friend, and i've had a secret crush on her forever now.
so i said to her the other day, "hey, do you wanna go see a movie or something on friday" and she looks at me like i'm crazy. i've never really had a girlfriend before, and i think i totally f*cked up our relationship. she won't even talk to me anymore. anyone got some advice that could help? (link)
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I hope you know that confessing your true feelings to a FRIEND can only bring two things: It's either you gain a girlfreind, or you lose a friend.(this is what I keep on telling people in the same boat as you....)
That's the truth.
What hurts even more is the 'fact' that things won't really go back to the way they used to be.
That's just the way it is.
So right now, my advice is for you to just accept the 'fact' that it's almost impossible for things to go back to normal AND for you to just move on.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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