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what does it mean when a guy blows in your ear?

He's horny and he's trying to turn you on and hopes that other sexual activities will follow.

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okay so i saw alot of pictures of people kissing in which the girl kisses the top lip of the guy's, is that what your suppose to do? im never really romantically kissed a guy before so im really unsure. please help, thanks.

There are lotss of ways to kiss. Just do whatever feels best to you. Once you find your comfort zone then you can go from there.

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So when I told my friend that I am bi and that I like her more than a friend. She said that she was fine with it but doesn’t feel the same way because unsure of her sexuality. I knew I had to move on. That was last year.
This year she seems close to me. Like flirting and close. When school started at college she asks me when I have class. I told her I have two English classes on Monday and Wednesday and Friday. She asks me to meet her at the front of the stairs at 2:00pm when the bus drops me off. I start class at 3:00pm. She been doing this lately and I ask her why she is here early because her classes starts at 5:30pm. She said “because I want to spend time with you we haven’t talk” which we do every other weekend with our friends. Then she been try to grab my attention. Like when we are talking just the two of us its fine till one of our friends come by to talk to us she seem to hit me playfully when I make a joke and then playfully argue with me. Last time I push her (light push) cause she hit me and she said “hey why you do that for? I been do nice to you” she crosses her arms and look away from me and I said sorry “you better be” she said and hits me again. When we were walking together she seems to walk close to me side by side. Our hands brush against one another twice. I pulled away but she got closer. Last time she asks me when I work and I said tomorrow. Then at work she text me “when are you off?” I reply soon at 8 why? She didn’t reply till next morning. I ask her “why do you want to know when I work?’ she reply “I am just curious” but she kept bugging me when I be off work and when I have work. I told her she is confusing and she reply “your confusing” I told her she was a stocker and she reply “your point?” when I ask her face to face why she wanted to know when I am off she looked away from me and said “because I was curious.”
She seems flirty and she closes to me. I mean she will lean on me and show body language. But her verbal language is different “when I get married” or “if I have a boy friend” or “I like you, as a friend”. Its just she seem her body is reading “I want you” but her voice is saying “you’re my friend”. last time in front of our friend she said out load “she’s my ducky” (ducky is my nickname.) it sounded like she was claming me.

I like her for 6 years and I ask her before do you like me more than a friend? She shook her head no. I ask her that last year because she got jealous that I met a guy at a party (nothing happen). She said she was jealous but last time I ask her to explain herself she ignore the question but answer “I was being over protective”


What am I to do?
She is confusing me.

F/21/bi

She seems like she doesn't know what she wants and is contemplating whether she wants to be with you or not. I think the best way is to make things crystal clear to her. You should say something like "You know i've like you for a while now, but i'm getting mixed signals from you. I need to know whether you want to be with me or not." If she says something like "I dont know" then let her know that you must move on. You should start dating other people and see what happens from there. Her jealousy may really start to kick in, and she may let you know and show her true feelings. If she doesn't, then its best to keep it on a strictly friends basis with her (preferably w/o the flirting)

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I want to speak to my girlfriend for about 15 minutes per day. Usually i will call her fairly early on in the night about 5pm. We have been going out about 6 months now. The problems only really arise when she is busy and says she will call me back later, usually in ten minutes to half an hour. When she doesnt call me back, i call her again, she will then usually say she is busy doing something else and will once again say that she will call me back in ten minutes to half an hour. Then she doesnt call so i call again, this happens a few times in the night until i get upset she doesnt want to talk to me, and she gets angry that i am calling her so often. Then we have a massive argument where she says im too clingy and i say she doesnt really care about me. We only really get to see each other once a week because she lives quite far away. She says she loves me and i say i love her, but she never really seems to want to talk to me unless she is bored. I'm really struggling for what to do because it is upsetting me a lot but i love her and dont want to break up with her. Any help would be much appreciated. thanks.

If a girl says she will call you back, then let her call you back unless you think its an emergency or something is wrong.
The more you constantly call her, the less she will want to talk and the more further you will be with her.
You two should work out a plan like "The both of you will try your best to talk to each other for 10-15 minutes a day, but if one is to busy to talk, the other will respect that." or something of that nature.
Good luck.

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Ok so I really am a slut. That sounds bad, but here's my deal. About a month ago I met this guy named Dave. We talked for a week, until he took me to this party and well...I got wasted. We woke up the next day together and we'd had sex. After that we have sex all the time. The only problem I'm seeing this guy named Carson. Carson and I have been together for four months. Bad I know. But Carson and I don't really hit it off in bed. Dave and I hit it off well, but Dave isn't someone I am REALLY attracted too. But Carson I really like his personality he just can't perform in bed well. I don't know what to do. Should I be with Carson or Dave? I really don't like cheating on Carson like this, but I'm so unsatisfied.

At least you can accept what you are even though it doesn't really sound like you're a sl**. It just seems like your having troubles figuring out what to do. But I also am one to accept what I am and I am basically a jerk. So believe me, when I say good guys are not easy to come by. Carson seems like he's a good guy. So I think you should let him know what you think he should do better. Go faster, slower, new things, etc? Tell him so he will know and stop have sex with Dave. I'm a guy so I know how most guys think and Dave probably thinks that you are easy to get with because he doesn't even have to be in a relationship with you. Let me know how it goes and I hope I helped.

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im ready so don't be like it's when you are ready caue i am (: but approximately how long in a realtionship do you think you have to be in to be felt up..like i like this boy soo much and he likes me a lot too...but like 2 months or what..cause i dont want to get a reputation like "wow they went out for this long and he got it and so if i go out with her for that long i can get it"...soo just give me an estimated amount of time (: thanksss a bunch.

if it helps. im 14/f

Everyone has a different timing for it.
I felt a girl up
-that I just met that night at a party
-when I was in a 2 year relationship
-and also when I wasn't even in a relationship with her but we were just good friends.
So as you can see the timing is never predictable.

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me and my Bf has like 4 years thogether ,From the first time I did sex I really didn't like it at all but I just did it because off him
But now is extra boring and I really never want to do it ,...he asked me what was going on and I couldn't answer him
It's not that I don't love him anymore ,but I don't want to have sex
I even sometimes cry because I don't want to do it and if I do it and did want to ,...I ussualy cry afterwards in the bathroom

Is this normal ?

I'm not a girl but I do know that you shouldn't be emotionally crying due to sex. It seems like sex is an uncomfortable activity for you. Since you two have been together for 4 years most likely yall are in love. So love can stand the test of time meaning that he should be okay with the fact that it may be best if you stop having sex for a while. Talk to him about it and let him know how you are feeling. Let me know what happens and I hope I helped.

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how do you get a guy to feel you up?
Thanks for your advice :)

Normally its extremely easy because most of us love doing it. But normally all you have to do is
-flirt
-stare in his eyes
-bite your lip (it will turn him on)
-feel on him (neck, chest, etc.)
-make out
Most likely he will take care of the rest. But if he doesn't then slide his hand under your shirt and then he should definitely get the hint.

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ok, so when i grind with guys, they put both their hands like right below my pelvis (like over my ovaries) and like hold on really tight and push in. and then they like dig into me (like their croch) as hard as they can while i dance. why do they do that? is that just the way guys dance, haha i never danced with a guy like that before. whats up with that? thankss :)

The answer is short & sweet and its: Because it feels really good to us.

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when you have sex & use a condom. is there any chance of being pregnant?

Yeah there is always a chance of you being pregnant when you have sex. The only way to be 100% sure that you won't get pregnant is not to do it. But since you may do it, its great that you are smart enough to use protection.

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Im 5'2 1/2 and I weigh 102 pounds! THATS NOT FAT RIGHT!?I relay dont know who to talk to.
I migt be anorexic or something because people tell me thats little, but I still feel big for some reason...

You aren't anorexic. Anorexia is an eating disorder with a person that has an intense fear of gaining weight. But since you are already worried about if you are to small then you are fine. There are healthy ways to gain a little weight. Here are some websites to help.

http://diet.ivillage.com/measure/mweight/0,,2f9l,00.html
http://www.uihealthcare.com/topics/weightcontrol/weig5280.html
http://www.healself.org/weightgain.html

And here is a website to help you understand what Anorexia is.
http://www.4women.gov/faq/easyread/anorexia-etr.htm#a

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i wish i could just not worry about what people think.
be normal,be myself, and nothing more.
i wish i could accept myself, prove that who i am, is enough.
and nothing really matters but my happiness.
not worry about the trends,clothes,popularity.
why can't i let that go? and be real? how do i find myself? is it even possible? or will
i always be the scared,shy,little person? i've come accustomed
to me tht way,as much as i hate it.
please help.
thanks

Everyone isn't going to like you. It sucks but we have to face the facts and realize reality. You should always stay true to yourself because if you won't then who will??? Be yourself especially since the PEOPLE THAT MATTER, DON'T MIND AND THE PEOPLE THAT MIND DOESN'T MATTER. I'm sure you have at least one person in your life that accepts you for you whether it be your parent, sibling, or friend. I hoped I helped but if not then feel free to write me back.

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what does it mean when you have an ego?

-Stuck up
-Cocky
-Full of yourself
-Conceited

Normally if you have an ego, you have a lot of confidence in yourself.

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kk. im going out with a girl who is nice but im beginiing to lose interest in her. and theres another girl who i loved before and every since i went out with the girl my feelings for the other one have just become stronger

so do i let the relationship dye down so she dumps me, or do i tell her the truth

Wow, I've been in the exact same situation before. But instead of doing the smart thing, I stayed with the girl that I really didnt like and continued to fall in love all over again with my ex. This is exactly what you SHOULDNT do. I learned from my mistake and I hope it will help you to.
You really should let the girl your going out with that you think its time that you'll stopped dating because of PERSONAL REASONS DO NOT SAY ITS BECAUSE OF ANOTHER GIRL. That will definitely get you smacked in the face if you tell her about the other girl.

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14 f

Does anyone have good flirting tips? what do boys like? What are some things I could do to show this boy I like him without saying it ?

The main thing that I look for in a girl is CONFIDENCE. You have to have enough confidence to smile at him and just walk up to him and start a little conversation. If he is interested in you then he will try to talk with you also. Don't worry about rejection and just live for the moment. Confidence is key to flirting.

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14/f

OK...so i'll try and make this short...me && this guy named jonathan have liked eachother for about 1 month now. we would talk on myspace and call eachother sometimes. then two days ago we got into a stupid argument that was pointless but, it was VERYY minor. WE GOT OVER IT...so he was suppose to ask me out but, he didn't. and he posted a bulletin on myspace saying that he was taken and loving it. i thought he meant me,,but I found out yesterday he's back with his ex. He didn't even tell me..my best friend did.. and when i found out, i was CRUSHED.. i was in tears and i couldn't believe that i was actually going through this again.[this happened w/ another guy].. and my friend told me that even though he's back with his ex,,he still has feelings for me. AND I'M HIS #1 ON MYSPACE..if that even matters...

so my questions are:

should i still talk to him??!! ..what's the point he has a girlfriend now..right??!!..i'm not even sure if i still like him because it hurt me soo much..should i move on to someone else??!!..what should i do overall..??!!

THNX IN ADVANCE

You should move on to someone else. Because if you continue to like him, he will think that its easy to get you. You seem like you deserve much better than a guy like him.

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what is a "hot" thing I could wear that would get guy's attention, without being too over the top?

A mini skirt with some tights. I think that looks hot on girls because its not slutty or to old fashion.

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What are some suggetions for getting rid of a bad habit?

Occupy your time with something else to do. Because if you spend that time doing something fun, hopefully more and more you'll get used to not doing it.

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I'm 14/f and i used to like a guy in my english class (16/m) since the first day of school. the crush ended around the beginning of march, but now him and his friends think i like him, and now he likes me and won't stop trying to talk to me and saying hi. it's so annoying and embarassing

how can i get him to stop?

Take him to the side and let him know that he is a good friend but nothing more. Don't say it in a rude way but let him know how you feel. And make sure there is no one around because you don't want either of you to get embarrased.

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i had a dream last night that my best friend betrayed me and we weren't friends anymore, what does this mean?

In my opinion dreams are a way for the mind to exercise your imagination. Most of them are just for entertainment while sleeping, some may scare you, and others may inform you. But the point is, we have no control of our dreams. So if I were you I wouldnt worry about anything.

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